I have a group of friends with whom I generally do a potluck or two annually for the past 4 years, hosted by me. The idea is usually that you bring something homemade, maybe a handle of something. I make a few dishes and pull out the bar cart. There's no set rules, but most of my buddies have been pretty good about bringing something - except for one guy, Kevin(not actual name).
Kevin has brought either nothing, or a half finished tall boy and a single sealed one (Miller High Life and Twisted Tea seem to be his go-tos). He's stated in the past that he'd bring more "next time" but that's never occurred.
Kevin also has the habit of somehow clearing out at least one handle of liquor from my bar cart every time through a combination of drinking and putting it in one of several flasks when he thinks no one sees him. This would be less noticeable if he did not consistently do this to the more expensive items on the cart. I'm certain it's not the others as we usually make mixed drinks together and have them while gaming.
As speaking to him has had no effect on this, I've implemented a new rule for everyone - bring a dish or a handle of non-garbage tier liquor, and you'll have access to the cart. Otherwise, I have a fine selection of Miller High Life and Twisted Tea. You're still welcome to any food that's been made or brought.
This new rule was extremely unpopular with Kevin and his significant other, who decided to lambast me in the group chat for being classist. He says this rule feels like a personal attack and that he can't afford to bring more than he normally does. I don't know his financial situation in full, but I do believe he makes a fair bit more than I do. I offered to teach him how to make a smashed potato dish that comes out to about $5, if money is the concern - this offer has not been taken up.
Some of the others are texting me in private saying that it would be easier for all parties involved if I just dropped the rule - the damage is already done and he'll probably be more mindful since I've made it publicly clear I've noticed. I've given everyone the option of hosting if they feel my rule is unjust - I'll follow their lead if we're using their place. No one has volunteered their home (and by proxy, I suppose their liquor cabinet). A few have also texted privately that they agree with my take.
AITA? I don't feel I've done anything wrong here, but I also know I'm a fairly spiteful person.
Edit - Kevin has since been cordially uninvited to
... keep reading on reddit ➡"No, she said. First of all, guests usually make a side dish. To make a main course might be seen as an imposition. Plus, chicken is a cliche, everyone makes chicken. Come to a potluck, everyone expects to see chicken. It's boring."
I said, "What about beef?"
"No, that would definitely impose on the host's prerogative to choose the entree," she said. "That's too much of an imposition. Also, beef is everywhere these days, so people will naturally expect a beef dish."
"Okay, then, how about we make something with a popular brand of canned spiced ham?"
"Perfect!," she said.
Because no one expects the Spam dish imposition.
Potluck Dinners For Single Professionals
There are many people in Greenville that have been seeking a community to join, to be a member of and an active participant in. In our 40’s, 50’s and 60’s, many of us are single, divorced, widowed or empty nesters, and because of the pandemic and lockdowns of the past few years, many of us have been feeling more isolated than ever before. We seek communities to join but are unable to find them.
So, what I want to do is form our own group. Potluck dinners for single professionals
I am looking for single men and women in the Greenville area in their 40s to 60’s, professional and educated, that would like to get together for monthly (or 2x per month) community potluck dinners. We are seeking people that are interested in the arts, business, sports, international travel, different cultures, music, philosophy and are strong advocates for diversity and inclusion.
I don’t have all the specifics yet. Right now, I am trying to gauge levels of interest . These dinners will take place on a rotating basis in different members home
I think this this could be a really great group that many of us have been seeking
Please comment below or send me a DM and let me know your levels of interest. More to follow
In the US a pot-luck is a meal where everyone is invited to bring a dish to share, in an amount to feed the group. At a meal with more participants you might bring not enough for everyone, but more than just you--like a full sized 10x14 inch baking pan. The host might even provide the main dish, and assign categories--bring a salad or bring a dessert.
In my experience--basically middle class American--large summer backyard barbecues are often like this, with the host buying burgers and hot dogs for everyone, but families all contribute food and maybe byob as well. That way you can invite 50 people. Churches and other civic groups have potlucks too.
I was researching a recipe, and noticed it referenced "places where potlucks are usual, like the upper midwest". Does the potluck picnic/lunch/dinner not exist elsewhere?
What is the feeling about asking people to contribute food to a family gathering? Ive never had a double oven, so Im not certain how Id do Thanksgiving for a big group with no contributions. I visited my boyfriend's family this year, and we were asked (voluntold) to bring the green bean casserole. Do families do that for celebrations there?
A potluck is a communal gathering where each guest or group contributes a different, often homemade, dish of food to be shared.
i mean imagine. medicated pizza, medicated tacos, medicated lemonade n sodas anything u can think of you could infuse it and bring it. along with the occasional joint/blunt and or bong being passed around.
I'm going to bring an entire 48 pack of frozen garlic bread (cooked) and pumpkin tomato soup. What about you? What are your bringing?
Edit: I'm sorry if I don't get to you. I'll try my best. Left for an hour and 104 replies.
Edit 2: ok I give up. I'll read all your replies tho I won't reply. So much. Thankyou again!
Edit 3: pretty sure this post has broken reddit for me
You can have food ordered in if needed. Nothing is off limits here.
I'll bring:
Plain pasta with smooth marinara and alfredo sauce on the side
Plain hamburgers (with a topping bar à la Fuddruckers)
EDIT: Thanks for playing along with this silly game, everyone. This hypothetical potluck actually sounds good and I can actually eat most of the food. [That's a first!]
When everyone brings enough of their dish for everyone (which seems to be the convention), there is inevitably going to be way too much food. If everyone brings only a small amount (so that the total amount of food is enough for everybody) than some people will be mad that they didn't get to taste a dish. I feel like it would be best if a group of people (which can potentially rotate if this potluck happens regularly) bring enough food for everyone.
I’m attending a holiday party this weekend which is a potluck! Im surprised to say I haven’t attended a potluck in my 4 years of being vegan and I’m not sure what to bring. Im assuming all the other foods won’t be vegan since I don’t know any other vegans or vegetarians attending. So, what have you brought to potlucks before? What’s good to introduce to a whole big group of non-vegans?
My first thought was Christmas cookies since those are very easily disguised. Also, if your unfamiliar with what a potluck is, everyone invited to the party brings a food to share!
It was really nice! How about that?
Hey everyone, just wondering if there are any type of workplace activities that night shift staff seem to enjoy? I work 3rd shift at a hospital so I realize that we may have more staff members than other night shift positions have. We are never offered the food and employee appreciation perks that 1st and 2nd shifts are offered. We get invited to activities for staff members, but those activities are of course usually only offered around 2pm. Just looking for some stuff that would be an option for night shift staff here. Thanks!
The food would be gone in a flash...
I’m showing up with an OC casserole
Hi everyone! My NYC meetup group is hosting a Central Park picnic tomorrow starting at 2PM! I will share exact location tomorrow, but trying to get a spot in Sheep Meadow near the bathrooms. You can bring anything you want, but ideally try to bring a dish or drink from your native country. Feel free to cook or bring something from your favorite restaurant!
This will be an awesome way to learn about and show pride for our diverse, interesting backgrounds. And eat delicious foods!!
Comment or message me if you are interested in being added to a group chat
I was thinking slow cooked chili, after 8 hours of cooking hopefully there's enough residual heat to keep it warm throughout the drive. It's not exactly the most festive dish, though.
Slow cooker is also nice because I just need a plug to reheat, I'm sure the ovens will be busy.
Yesterday we went to a wedding. The couple had been engaged for about a year, but no one knew when the wedding was happening until a month ago (including my fiancé, who had been asked to be a groomsman when they initially got engaged).
There was a Facebook event that served as the RSVP site, and 4 days before the event the bride posted that due to unforeseen events, they would be doing more of a potluck dinner, and to please bring your favorite dish to the reception.
None of the groomsmen knew what they were wearing. All they were told was, “you’ll see.” All of their outfits ended up being the wrong size.
My fiancé was told to be there at 10:00, even though the wedding started in the late afternoon. He ended up needing to decorate the entire outdoor space and hang things from trees. He was never asked to do this. He would have been happy to help if he had simply been asked.
The tables at the reception were actually pallets with sheets on top, and guests had to sit on the grass over a small sheet square (no one was told this beforehand). If I had known, I definitely would have worn a longer dress.
Oh and the ceremony started an hour later than it was supposed to.
Please drop your favorite vegan finger food/potluck dishes/appetizers/dinner ideas!
I’m hosting a small NYE dinner and want to make everything vegan for my friends to enjoy! But am a little bored of Buffalo dips and charcuterie.. (though not totally crossing those off yet)!
Any ideas are appreciated :) xx
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