Is it possible to be evicted when served two forms by fellow roommates? "Notice of Termination of Tenancy" and "Proof of Service" My boyfriend is on the lease agreement, so I understand how that would be possible It's just signed by the two roommates, it's not court ordered papers.
I don't like the sound of it
Heโs now high on the list of people I never want to see again.
And homophobia.
Posting in this sub because she goes to church two times a week and I know that her discomfort with homosexuality roots in her religious believes.
She gets so akward when this subject comes up. Doesn't agree with gay marriage (reason in the title) and simply ignores that her argument is wrong. Doesn't seem to know how to chat with a gay friend of mine, while being a talkative person otherwise. Doesn't understand why I even am friends with him and his boyfriend. Asks me if it doesn't bother me when we hang out and they are together. Doesn't want to believe Dumbledore is gay and convinced herself it's just something people made up. Stands there open-mothed and almost in shock when I tell her it's true (childhood ruined, because eww).
It somehow bugs me even more that she's progressive and liberal in almost every matter her religion does not have an official opinion on. She's social, friendly and uncomplicated (and at least doesn't treat anyone bad herself) for the most part.
I wish she would stop for just a moment to elaborate if this mindset matches her otherwise open-minded personality in the slightest. Because in my opinion it absolutely doesn't. She's a young, intelligent woman and she could do better than that.
But no, she heard it in church, so it doesn't get questioned. Religions really aren't made to make people think.
* Edit: I wrote this post yesterday, lying in my bed and unable to sleep. I never expected it to get hundreds of comments in a day, so please excuse if I won't be able to answer them.
Something I wanted to add is that I agree with everyone saying that humans are part of nature, therefore our behaviour is natural (including religions). I used my roommates logic in the title, because it's hypocritical. I obviously also know that homosexuality is common among animals, which is why I said she's wrong.
Have a nice day and thank you for sharing your thoughts :)
TW: Suicide mention
TLDR My partner was living with a gross dude who didn't know how to take care of himself, and dragged me into it
Update: I broke up with them! This was honestly only one of many reasons why but they just kept dragging me in to their fights, pitting me against their roommate, and causing him to get even angrier and feel cornered. They wouldn't listen to anything I had to say on this or anything else, and belittled and berated me about my flaws even when I called them out and asked them to stop. We were together 6 years and I don't regret it but as I grew as a person I realized they weren't and they're mental and physical health kept getting worse and worse despite my multiple interventions and even trying to physically get them into therapy. I didn't mention it in the original post but my ex had attempted suicide multiple times during our 6 years together, and even implied they were going to kill themselves because I was "the only thing in [their] life worth anything" when I broke up with them. This last attempt coupled with that statement broke me, and I just couldn't do it anymore.
I'm happy now.
Edit: Thank you all so much for the support, it really means a lot to me. And to clarify, I made every effort to ensure my ex's safety up until and even after our relationship ended, because even if we're not together I don't want them to die!!! I still care about their well being!!! And to use a commenters own words, no it will not be my fault if they "go bye bye" I cannot even express how hurtful and harmful that statement is.
He just got into NFL in the last few years, he is from Minnesota, and is enjoying the hell out of being a Vikings fan. I want to strike while the iron is hot.
Also, "SKOL VIKES, FTP!!"
Edit: I forgot to ask which player would be the best to get for him lmao
Edit 2: I forgot because we are in quarantine together and I'm drunk
Edit 3: just so we are clear, FTP means fuck the Packers
Hi, guys. Finn here. Long time no update. Itโs been a few months, but I really hadnโt had much to update you guys on ever since Hector left for his trial. I havenโt heard from him, and to my surprise, I havenโt really been hearing from anyone- or anything, for that matter, either. It was almost as if all the supernatural things that had been going on around me disappeared along with our time together, and to this day I still wonder if everything that happened was truly real, or if it was all a weird fever dream.
With Hectorโs departure came my newfound independence. With no stalker to threaten my life and no roommate to share the two-bedroom apartment with, I was able to move into a smaller, more affordable studio near my school. Living alone has been pretty great. Iโve always liked my privacy, and finally being able to live in my own space gave me a clearer peace of mind. Itโs been quiet, but I canโt say that Iโm happier because it has been. There were days where I woke up and expected there to be a box fried chicken on the kitchen table, only to be disappointed that there wasnโt. It seemed like having Hector as a roommate affected me a lot more than I thought it did. Adjusting back to a life of normalcy wasnโt as difficult as I thought it would be, but I would be lying if I said I didnโt miss Hector. It just sucked because I had literally no one I could confide in about everything that had happened. Realistically, no one would believe me if I told them my roommate had to move out because he had to go back to Hell to go on trial for crimes dictated by a higher order of the universe.
To keep my mind off things, I focused a lot more time on school. That masterโs in CS was calling my name and it was so close to my reach. Recently though, I had a week-long break from classes. I was originally going to use this time to study for midterms, but I got a call from back home about my dad. He had hurt his back while cutting down some trees, and although his life wasnโt in any immediate danger, he was placed under house arrest by his doctor and my overprotective mom. My parents live a few states away in a relatively rural area, and theyโre getting old; my dad shouldnโt have been chopping trees in his age in the first place, but he retired early and now sells firewood mostly for fun because he couldnโt stand doing nothing at home. Naturally, I was worried when I heard my dad was bedridden, so I bought the 7-hour bus ticket back to my parentsโ house.
But I hadnโt ha
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And weโve been married more than 27 years!
tl;dr our downstairs neighbor aggressively bangs on the ceiling for any noise that we make, even at perfectly normal hours of the day. What would be the best way to approach them and reach an acceptable solution?
I live in a 2-bedroom condo with my boyfriend, our two dogs, and a roommate. The unit below mine was also for sale when I initially moved in, and new people moved in about a month ago. We haven't met them / don't know who they are.
The issue: whenever we make any sort of noise at any hour of the day, the downstairs neighbor aggressively bangs on the ceiling. Now, I have had to deal with noisy upstairs neighbors so I totally can understand how frustrating it must be. However, I also think that when you move into an apartment/condo with upstairs neighbors, it is just a fact of life that you will hear the people above you. Also, I honestly do not feel that we are being excessively loud or making noise at odd hours of the day. In fact, most of their banging happens between the hours of 2-8 PM... which I feel like is a normal time for people to be moving around their apartment.
Just today (Saturday) I started keeping a log, and here were the things that incited this banging:
- 3:30 PM - scooted my chair forward while sitting at my desk
- 4:13 PM - slightly adjusted chair position at my desk
- 5:15 PM: dog jumped down from couch
- 5:30 PM: boyfriend got up from couch, walked to kitchen
- 5:35 PM: me making dinner in the kitchen
- 5:45 PM: we pulled out the chairs to seat ourselves at the dining room table
I feel like I've already done everything within my power to minimize the noise we make. I have kitchen floor mats, a giant area rug in the living room, and felt furniture pads on the bottom of my chairs to minimize scraping across the floor. My dogs go to the dog park every day and get multiple long walks so they're pretty chill whenever they are home, the most they'll do is jump on the couch or chew their toys on the carpeted floor. I am a 107lb woman, I don't wear shoes in the house, and I've been extra cognizant of my walking since the banging has been going on, so I just can't imagine that I make that much noise walking around. I never play music out loud, I don't throw parties, and am in bed by 10:30-11 every night.
How can I approach this in a way that will be acceptable to both parties? I bought this place and I'm assuming they did too, so I don't want to create a hostile / adversarial relationship right off the bat. I consi
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I was practically running on borrowed time at this point. Hector and I knew we had to act quickly if we wanted to catch Peter before he caught us. Mrs. Morris explained that she immediately knew Peter wasnโt a human ever since he showed up on her doorstep with Elaine, offering a casserole for the newest additions to town. She sensed something was off about Peter and knew he wasn't a real person, but didnโt have any reason to believe he was malicious at the time. Also, no one would believe her except for Sam either way, and she did not have a habit of sticking her nose into other peoplesโ businesses. Just to be safe, however, she ordered Sam to throw out the casserole entirely.
Sam also brought up the fact that when Peter and Elaine initially came over, she noticed Elaine looked very sickly and pale- a stark contrast from when we saw her at the welcoming party.
โIโm telling you, her cheekbones stuck out like a sore thumb, and she looked like she hadnโt slept in days. Worse than Hector! No offense, friend.โ
โNone taken.โ
โAnyway, Peter looked completely fine, almost like he was bursting with energy. When I asked Elaine about it, she said she hadnโt gotten enough sleep because she was so busy with unpacking and her job, and also that she had anemia and she hadnโt brought along her medication. I donโt know if thatโs relevant in any way, but maybe it is?โ Sam recalled. She then offered to help us out in any way she could, but I adamantly refused. I didnโt want to drag any unnecessary people into this, and I certainly didnโt want to be the reason she was targeted by Peter. The sentiment was nice enough.
All the information led to us deciding this was our absolute last chance at saving me before the deadline. We had to kill two birds with one stone. Elaine was clearly being influenced by Peter in some way- Hector hypothesized that Peter had hypnotized her or something because apparently demons had the capacity to do so- and we needed to help her out, as well. By getting Elaine away from Peter, we could get some information about him and end this before he ended me. And this would prove to be difficult. Hector explained that if Peter could conceal himself so well to the point where even Hector couldn't detect his demonic presence, he must have been a more sophisticated and powerful demon. In fact, Hector was confused as to why Mrs. Morris was able to figure o
... keep reading on reddit โกOur roommate moved in this past February. She said she was only going to have her 6 year old son staying over every other weekend. I was already extremely hesitant of this as I know the rest of us are not a good fit for a child and neither is the house in general.... we have a shady pit bull (who has never bitten a human but heโs old and you just never know), we have unlocked firearms, we drink and smoke pot and cigs and generally live the quiet but fun life of late 20s adults.
We signed her onto the lease (she led us on about many things and has been a complete nightmare the whole time), but her child was not listed as another occupant. I would have never signed onto it if he was, because I donโt want to be legally obligated to live with a child.
Fast forward to a couple weeks ago, she decides the child is moving in and that the opposite schedule will be the new normal - heโs here all the time except every other weekend.
I immediately told her this is not okay, and that we donโt want to live with her anymore. We canโt force her out but we respectfully said it wasnโt a good fit and that we would like if she left willingly. She has gotten super petty and retaliated and made our lives a living hell.
In our lease it states no person can stay here more than 10 consecutive days, and no more than 20 days a year total. I was certain this extends to children or any โpersonโ.
I asked our property management company if they could ask her to stop violating the lease by moving her kid in. They said they would look into it.
They came back with, โshe is allowed to put her child as an occupant on the lease without anyone elseโs signature required.โ No where in my lease does it state that a child can be added as another occupant without the permission of other tenants. I was under the full impression that the people listed on the lease I signed were the only people I legally bound myself to.
Please help me - am I legally obligated to have to live with this personโs child? Shouldnโt I be able to say no considering I never signed anything that states Iโm okay with anyone else living here, or that I would be subjected to anyone else without authorizing it? Shouldnโt an adjustment to the lease require everyoneโs signature?
Thank you.
WHAT THE HELL is wrong with this system. Why is not working at all a more viable option than me working my ass off (working OVERTIME) for (just over) minimum f*cking wage. ANd no, its not just the pandemic situation this would be a problem regardless bc we need people like me working these food jobs. Small restaurants like the one I work at (the owners are great and poured their lives into this place) are going out of business left and right and i understand theres no way they could afford to pay more. Ive seen the invoices and done the numbers. Can I get Employment checks as incentive to keep the economy working? Its just so frustrating and I dont know what to do because my heart really is in my job (unlike a lot of ppl) and I dont want to just stop working but I'm LITERALLY making LESS money by working my entire week away
I live in an apartment on-campus. I have had a runny nose since a week. It actually happens every Spring. Yesterday, I went for a run, came back and ate dinner. While eating dinner, I got a piece of bread stuck in my throat. Naturally, I began vigorously clearing my throat. In a matter of minutes, I was asked to go to my room and check my temperature. It was 96.4. Today, I woke up to a bunch of texts from my roommate asking me to not go out for my daily runs (only exercise I get now a days), since having a cold (a runny nose?) increases the chances of a COVID-19 infection.
I want to ask this: How much is too much? I know that each and every one of us is trying to manage this crisis in our own way, but when did clearing my throat became such an alarming thing to do? Why does having a runny nose warrant me not going out at all?
Edit: Folks, we talked things through. I will go for my runs early in the morning when there are fewer people. I will also wear a mask everytime I go out for grocery shopping or picking up my mail. If this makes them feel safer, then be it.
I live in Montreal and my old roommate left in a hurry at the beginning of the month. And I already found a new roommate. When I notified my landlord that we will be adding the new roommate in the next lease, he told me that he would increase the rent from 955$ to 1100$. When I asked him to justify the rent increase, he told me that he doesn't have to, and that this would be considered a new lease and not a renewal.
My question is, can it be a new lease if the same tenant (Me) that signed the previous lease will also be signing the new lease?
What are my options ?
Any advice would be much appreciated.
Edit:
So I called the regie and they told me that this doesn't count as a new lease, it's called "Tenure security", since I'm already living in the apartment. They told me that the rent increase was abusive, that he's not going by the guidelines and that they will send me a letter that I can transfer to the tenant to protect myself.
Thank you all for the advice and for sharing your experiences.
Stay safe !
What are rights in this situation? What can I do to not be evicted (even if I pay November heโs going to evict me anyways right after he gets my cheque bc heโs a dirty bastard). Iโve found the tenant help lines in Portland to be pretty useless. Is there anything I can do, besides pack?
My roommate dog sits 99% of the time to avoid him.
He timed the eviction on purpose; the day before a holiday weekend, so that I canโt find a lawyer or get help.
Also if it helps with finding resources.my situation, Iโm on disability with chronic pain.
Hi all,
I promised a January update, and I'm delivering on it... I'll give an update in February when she moves out, as promised.
...Except she's decided she's not moving out till March! She told the guy moving in that she 'has family medical needs and needs to be home. So moving isn't in the cards for Feb.'
She hasn't gone home.
Anyways, I left for most of December and it was pure bliss, aside from my grandfather's funeral, who passed early December. I felt more confident, my IBS calmed down, I wasn't anxious or walking on egg-shells constantly. She had spent the first two weeks of December threatening to call the police over any perceived slight or infraction.
She also sent out a rather horrifying e-mail to our building staff and management accusing me of emotional abuse, medical abuse and general neglect. The housing staff even came up to me and told me about it, I had no idea it was sent out. Building management stepped in and explained that I'm not responsible for her medical needs. Thank god... The accusations were all half-truths, not my problem, or complete lies.
Apparently calling her out on lying about her endless medical issues is 'gaslighting and emotional abuse.' Refusing to take her to the ER after she lied (around 5-7 times) about needing to go makes me abusive... Remember, she wanted me to schedule time 'in case' she 'decided' to go to the ER.
That I threatened to 'leave her dead in the streets'. This is from about a year ago... after I called her out on calling me 5 times in a couple months because she went 'hypo' and needed me to come rescue her (or she'll die!). I started refusing and told her I'm not dropping what I'm doing to rescue you anymore if she can't practice self care she's gonna die in the streets.
Well, would you believe it? She never went hypo after that. Oh, but it's because she takes a spoonful of coconut oil every morning, now. Either way, I'm the monster.
Oh, and my personal, favourite accusation is that I 'molested her personal belongings'- She works in marketing, so you have to admire the wording - Truthfully, I moved some of her boots that were blocking the closet door. The closet door's handle was gouging the front door because it wouldn't close.
And how could I forget this - she's upset that I've recorded her. She's phrasing it like I'm recording her, personally. I'm not, I'm recording myself when I'm asleep in case she tries something stupid. She's actually upset that I've recorded her lashing out
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What a wonderful show this is - funny, heartwarming, a little sadness and very wholesome. It seems to have had a lot of praise, so is a season 2 a possibility? Isn't the manga still ongoing?
For those who haven't seen it, it's on Crunchyroll and Funimation.
Here's the opening:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HoQfJjaoGLk
Context: I'm 21, he's 30 and we're both in the Navy, living in barracks. Our room is fucking tiny. We both live in the same room and share a shower. We don't even have a kitchen - all we have is a fridge and a sink. I've been here since this barracks first opened up and been in the Navy for far longer than he has, whereas he's still in schooling.
I really fucking hate this guy. He does a lot that annoys the fuck out of me - talks on the phone arguing or phone-sexing his girlfriend, wakes up at random times in the night and eats loud food and then goes back to sleep, sprawls his shit everywhere whereas I've tried to keep my shit to a minimum, has completely taken over the fridge with food that he doesn't even touch... the most egregious of things he's done to me is steal my food and then laugh about it.
A few months ago, I had ordered Domino's since it was a shit night out and I didn't feel like doing anything. Got my usual of a medium pan and those spinach and feta cheese bread thingies. Only ate the bread things and one slice of the pizza, threw the pizza in the fridge, went to bed, went to work, and came home to find the rest of my food missing. I ask him what he did with it and he gives me this shit-eating chuckle and says he was sleep-eating and promised he'd pay me back.
First off, that's a fucking terrible excuse. Secondly, it took him racking up more debt from me, then me badgering him into paying me back what he owed to get that.
So, last Thursday, I ordered Dominos again. Same order. I did the same thing, but I knew I was going out of town for the weekend, so I left the pizza in the fridge with a note INSIDE THE BOX that said:
"Don't touch this. I'm sick of your shit."
I come back Sunday night and this waste of potential is sleeping, I check the fridge, and I see a note HE'S left me inside the box:
"Don't leave notes, if you have a problem express yourself, leaving notes is immature" as well as a picture of a penis with an arrow with "You" next to it. He didn't touch the pizza at all.
First off, I'm mostly mad that you even thought to open the FUCKING BOX. Do you have any fucking idea of personal property? Can I start going through your shit and pulling out whatever I want? I show you respect as much as I can and you won't repay me that, but I'M the immature one?
Am I at fault here? I feel like I'm going crazy with this fucking guy. How is he 30 years old and doesn't understand not to fuck with other people's shit?!
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