Kierkegaard (surname) Puns

She could take him to the court. She had.... concrete evidence

"People commonly travel around the world to see rivers and mountains, new stars, birds of rare plumage, queerly deformed fishes, ridiculous breeds of men – they abandon themselves to the bestial stupor which gapes at existence, and they think they have seen something."

Kierkegaard has been the hardest philosopher to comprehend for me. He is quite a unique man. There is one thing I need to clarify about him.

Thing is the exact meaning of "leap of faith." At some places in the internet Kierkegaard's "leap of faith" is seen as madness and a complete suspension of reason and logic. Once I read in Cambridge companion about him that, he was one of most misunderstood philosophers of all time maybe the most. I think this is because how people understands leap of faith wrong way. From my understanding this is leap of faith:

After realizing incompatibility of the ethical and religious stages' requirements, individual shouldn't regress to ethical stage because it erases individuality and uniqueness which Kierkegaard values most, but also he shouldn't go all the way down of religious unethical demands because it would be lunatic. İndividual should hold the two in tension as a non-contradictory paradox. For Kierkegaard, living in this paradoxical absurdity is the highest form of human experience and expression. This is the leap of faith.

And this makes total sense. It tries protect ethical responsibilities and also tries to pursue unethical, unreasonable demands of individuality. And this is really the highest form a people can reach when you think about it. As an atheist, I can totally agree with this.

Am I understanding Kierkegaard the right way?

So a pal (f/34) had a second date with a guy that was supposed to be dinner at his flat. Beforehand, she mentions to him our girl code and that she'd get shit from me if she went without at least his second name and address. So she asks for it, and instant radio silence. She says, if that's not OK, they can get dinner at a place nearby. He eventually replies that they can meet up and have a coffee and chat. Alarm bells are ringing and she mentions something along the lines of being downgraded from dinner to coffee because she asked for his address, where she would be going anyway. He thinks it's really weird and insulting that she would ask for this beforehand. She tries to explain that's its just a very basic safety precaution and no judgement on him but at this point his reluctance is giving her alarm bells so they'll just leave it. Best of luck in his future endeavours etc. His retort is that 'someone must have seriously hurt her in the past' and he's not looking for that. He actually warns her how off-putting it is and that she probably shouldn't do it again in the future. She tells him she always asks and no one has ever had a problem with it in the past. She could tell he was gearing up to war and peace in response after that so just deleted and blocked.

Very proud of her but kinda gobsmacked that someone in this day and age could get soo uppity about this. I have literally taken a photo of a guys number plate before getting in his car to go on a date and they have laughed it off. They could be a serial killer or a mad rapist. I've said this to them in my experience most guys get it. This guy did not. Just wondering if anyone else has experienced this or something like it?

Edit: the plan was to meet her off the train and take her to his place.

I have found that a lot of men and their families (particularly if they are religious) are very insistent on women and step children changing their last names after marriage. In today's world, I feel this is completely unnecessary and robs people of their established identity. Those who wish to can do it, but it's not something that should be forced/expected. It is by NO MEANS a measure of how much someone loves another person and shouldn't be treated as such.

Edit: It seems like people don't understand the post at all. It's not about changing names after marriage being removed as a practice, it's about changing names after marriage not being forced/expected if the woman/child in question doesn't want to. People losing the plot all over.

Edit 2: A lot of people claiming people have a choice, this is reddit. Not reddit USA or reddit UK. Just because your country allows it doesn't mean there's tens upon tens of them that don't.

Edit 3: It's really shocking that the first world minority comprising of maybe 400 million in a population of 8 billion believe that if this is popular among them it's popular opinion. Well I shouldn't really be surprised tho.

I'm extremely uneducated when it comes to religion. I'm trying to make up for this by reading Kierkegaard. I've already read The Concept of Anxiety and The Sickness Unto Death, and I just ordered a few more Kierkegaard books yesterday along with a book explaining the Bible for beginners. I also have these two books that analyze Kierkegaard based on the Bible, and after reading the first chapter of the first one, I realized that I would have to actually read the Bible in order to understand it.

To my knowledge, the type of Christianity that existed in that part of the world was evangelical Lutheranism, right? I tried finding a bible of that and I simply could not find one. Of course, Kierkegaard probably read many different bibles, so even if I read just one it would probably not be enough, right?

The point is, which bible is the most relevant for understanding Kierkegaard? Obviously getting a super old one from the 1800s doesn't make any sense. I just need one that is closest to what Kierkegaard was inspired by in his works.

I got married nearly 10 years ago and changed my surname to my husband's but I just can't get used to my new surname. I didn't realise how much of my original surname was part of my identity. I'm thinking of changing it back (hubby and family would be okay with this, so no issues there) but wasn't sure if it would make filling out forms in the future annoying or if there are any practical considerations to think about? Thanks!

Population data from South Korean 2015 census.

Edit: I forgot about eun jiwon, so I added him and now there's 11 names. Also added ok joohyun.

Hello fellow Existentialists,

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Used to go to school with a Bossman, which was pretty cool. And recently there was a boxing match between Wilder vs Fury, which together sounds like something from Clash of the Titans.

The first of which is Stefon Diggs, drafted by Minnesota in the 5th round of the 2015 draft. He quickly proved to be a draft steal for the Vikings, providing a 1-2 punch alongside Adam Thielen and became a franchise legend due to the Minneapolis Miracle. After being traded to Buffalo, he has earned back-to-back Pro Bowls in both years with the Bills.

The second active player is Quandre Diggs, drafted one round after Stefon by the Lions (Surprisingly though, they aren't related). Stuck in the perpetual quagmire of Detroit, in wasn't until he was traded to Seattle that he truly flourished. Providing an excellent replacement after the Earl Thomas flameout. While he hasn't been as good as Thomas was, he's still a very good player that the Seahawks defense sorely needs. He's even carved out a little niche as a ballhawk. Intercepting 13 passes over the past two-and-a-half seasons.

Finally, we have the most recent entry into the Diggs Echelon of Eliteness, Trevon Diggs. Trevon's burst onto the scene in a big way this year. If Quandre Diggs could be considered a ball hawk, than Trevon Diggs is a BALL EAGLE. Dude's brought back interceptions like it's the 80's all over again. Tying the Cowboys franchise record in interceptions and shattering all recent interception trends. Dude's on an absolute tear and you can't help but be impressed

So in summary, while Diggs may be a pretty rare last name for NFL players, the ones that do have that name have a pretty good track record

I asked him why, and he said because the customer is always right.

I have been looking to change jobs but no matter what I apply to it seems I keep getting rejected.

I have an ethnic sounding name as I am an immigrant, and I've heard about people changing their names to something more white sounding in order to secure more interviews. Now I don't know if this works but I've looked it up and seems I can easily legally change my surname.

I'm thinking something like Johansson or Smith or something really basic and western sounding. Once I get the job I can just change it back right? They can't fire me for that.

I'm so close to applying for a name change but I wanted to hear some opinions first. Has this worked for anyone else? At this point I'm willing to try anything so what's in a name?

The more I think about this stupid norm, the more irritated I become. It’s so normalised and embedded into society, to the point where people will look at you sideways if you choose to keep your own name. I also hate that keeping your own name is regarded as a radical act of feminism when in reality, it’s the most neutral thing you can do.

Not to mention, I like my name! It’s been my name my whole life, it’s part of my identity and it feels right. The thought of waking up one day and just being called something else doesn’t sit right with me at all.

On a sidenote, the practice of children taking their father’s name is beyond infuriating. So you’re telling me, a woman carries a living thing inside her body for NINE months, undergoes untold damage to her body during that period, suffers the most horrifying pain to bring the child into the world and somehow this is all surpassed by a man‘s task of * checks notes * having an orgasm?! Ridiculous.

I’m just so sick of it all tbh

Edit: to all the men lurking this sub so they can whinge about men’s rights and the evil nasty feminists: go outside and touch grass lol

“The self is a relation that relates itself to itself or is the relation’s relating itself to itself in the relation. The self is not the relation but is the relation’s relating itself to itself.”

I’d like to think he’s just fucking with us at this point but if I’m wrong, can someone explain what it means (or what you think it means) because my brain hurts and “relation” has lost its meaning in my head

My daughter (17) came out as transgender a few years ago, and for her birthday this year we legally changed her first name to a feminine name of her choosing. My wife and I have always supported her and her transition, but my daughter seemed disappointed that her surname wasn’t also changed.

I am Icelandic-American, if if you don’t know, surnames are quite different than in other countries. One’s surname is their father’s first name + a suffix related to their gender. The son of Jökull would be Jökullson, and the daughter of Jökull would be Jökulldottir. When my American wife and I married, she took my last name, per American customs, and gave that same masculine surname to our daughter when she was born. All of us have the same masculine last name.

My daughter wishes to change her surname to “Jökull”dottir in order to align with her gender expression, as well as Icelandic naming customs. I hadn’t considered this for her, as we live in the United States and used the local customs. My wife and I are on the fence about changing her legal name again, as processes like this are very expensive and time-consuming in our state. I told her that her mother and I would be more than happy to help with the paperwork if she paid for the processing. Our daughter doesn’t accept our reasoning and claims we are only contributing to her existing dysphoria by not going through the process again.

She is very proud of her Icelandic heritage, and picked an Icelandic first name for her initial name change. While I understand her desire for the name change, I think that she is too focused on how her name would come across in Iceland, where we rarely visit, and should consider how it comes across in the United States if she goes through with this change.

Am I the asshole for making my transgender daughter pay for her own surname change?

I recently finished The Sickness Unto Death, written under Anti-Climacus. Google seems quite ambivalent about whether Anti-Climacus does or does not represent Kierkegaard’s true beliefs, as is the case with many of his pseudonymous works. Do we know which, if any, are his own beliefs? Does it even matter if they are his own?

For context I’ve been reading Kierkegaard for about a month now. I have never struggled so much with a philosopher or any piece of writing as I have with his. I’ve read Nietzsche Aristotle and more modern texts as well and they could be hard for sure but never to the point where my reading went from a book a week to I haven’t read a single book entirely in a month. I really want to read and understand Kierkegaard but I read maybe 10 pages a day at most and most flies over my head especially in the immediate erotic stages of either/or it’s awful. I do mind reading slow but it’s not the end of the world. However, I can’t understand what I’m reading entirely and I don’t know if I should give up. Does anyone have any ideas? Thank you.

I understand that Kierkegaard’s authenticity was heavily informed by his faith, and Sartre’s his lack of faith, but what are some of the other similarities and differences between the way the two mean to live life authentically?

Hi everyone. I’m from Turkey and when I was living there it bothered me that we ‘have to’ take our husbands surname. You have to sue your husband if you don’t want his surname. So many women have two surnames at the end.

I already have super Turkish and super long surname that no one ever can pronounce in the country I live in now. I’m getting married next month. My fiancée’s surname is a typical Dutch surname.

I just want to take his surname and make my life easier at one point, but I also feel hypocrite now, because I was never on board with it before.

I wonder what fellow women think about that.

Hei! Dere får beklage at jeg skriver på norsk.

Jeg planlegger å dykke ned i Kierkegaards forfatterskap igjen. Jeg har lest flere av bøkene hans for noen år siden.

Etter å ikke ha lest ham på noen år: Hvilken bok burde jeg starte med?

So I've been dabbling in Existentialism here and there for the last 3 or 4 years. Big fan of Nietzsche, and have read a bit of Sartre. I'm now looking into Kierkegaard and wanted to get some opinions before REALLY diving in. I don't want to spend a lot of time reading an author of I ultimately wont agree with them, so can anyone give me an interpretation of his "leap of faith" that doesnt boil down to "because God"?

If im misunderstanding his leap then feel free to correct my assumption. Im here for intellectual growth

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So this is a situation I never knew I'd end up in.

I (44) was living my happy suburban life, wife and two kids until it got upended a year ago. Turns out I have a 16 (then 15) year old daughter Athena from my ex-girlfriend, who never told me because she had major pre-natal depression and post-natal and then just never did until she got sick because she continued to struggle with guilt and depression. It was hard and took convincing from my wife but I forgave her.

The last year has been tough for my family and it breaks my heart that Athena had to see her mom like that in her last year. I was a momma's boy myself and seeing how much love and reverence that Athena has for her mom's memory makes me so proud and so happy she got such a fantastic mom that made up for me not being in her life. Thing is, Athena has my last name, her mom gave it to her and she wants to change it to her mom's surname.

Nearly three weeks ago she asked me if I'd pay for it (it's a little expensive), I gave her a hug and the money right away. I didn't think twice I just felt happy she trusted me enough to ask. My wife says I did the right thing and it'll let Athena and I grow closer. I think it has cause she's been FaceTiming me every night instead of once a week, she has been playing video games with her brothers and has gone shopping with my wife a few times.

Her grandparents phoned me this morning livid that I gave it to her cause she's filled the forms and made the payment. Her grandfather straight up called me an unthinking asshole. Apparently Athena had been wanting to change it before she ever even met me but her mom was saying no. Her grandparents told me of a discussion I had with her mom when we were dating on how moms do everything in a pregnancy so the kid should get the dad's surname since it's the least they give. Yeah, it was a weird way of thinking but I guess that it stuck with her? Apparently her mom made her promise not to change her surname because she didn't want to take any more away from me.

Now I'm feeling really torn, because on one hand, she just misses her mom and I just want to help her feel better but I violated a dying woman's wishes and I see why her grandparents are so upset about that because it was their daughter that died.

I hope she takes him to court. She has concrete evidence.