UPDATE: I asked her more questions today and I learned that she didnβt really report the case to the right authority in the university. She reached out to some random person who posted about sexual assault and they are no help. I might try to persuade her to report it to school/police properly later, but I need to first make sure she gets better and doesnβt further hurt herself.
My problem now is that, she told me that she is over this rape issue already. She said that she doesnβt care about sex and she doesnβt think it is a stigma, the rape happened but it is not a big deal for her, and that she is not traumatized. She just needs to adapt to the world better. It wonβt make her feel better if she put the rapist in jail. She told me she doesnβt want any help from those sexual assault help organizations, because it doesnβt apply to her. She does agree to see a psychologist to work on her other issues.
From my perspective, she is obviously traumatized by the rape, she just doesnβt want to admit it. She had mental issues before (and the rapist took advantage of it), but she has never been in such bad shape mentally before. But if I push her to reach out to sexual assault counsellors, I think she will just roll her eyes and refuse to talk. Can someone give me advice on how to navigate this situation? I think I am the only person who knows that she was raped, she doesnβt want to me to tell her parents or her friends in Australia. If you know any particular psychologist that is good on both trauma and other issues like depression, message me.
Also, thank you all for the good advices, I am getting a lot of useful info from your comments and they gave me a direction on getting her help.
Original Post: My friend is a bright and creative girl who went to Monash University as a international student. I am her high school friend and I donβt live in Australia. In the past three weeks, she sometimes call me randomly and her sentences were not coherent, and she will cry in the middle. I was worried but she wonβt tell me what was going on. She had depression before so I thought that she might be having another episode. But today she finally told me that she was raped at school. She reported to the school, but they are not going to do anything about it. She couldnβt remember the face of the rapist, as she is face blind. There was no security camera that might capture where they went. It is hard to find evidence and she gave up on trying to catch the rapist.
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