Hi witches. I really need to get his off my chest and this feels like the right place to do it. I should also maybe preface that I am a chronically ill person who has already experienced medical gaslighting by a shitty, you guessed it, male doctor. I do not feel comfortable speaking to men on my medical issues because I don't feel like they can truly understand. Anyway, I currently do not have a family doctor (that's another story) so I went to walk in clinic near my home last week. When I got there, there was a sign at the front desk that said the dr needs a chaperone when seeing female patients. I probably should have left them, but with my history, it had already taken me a week to gain the courage to go see a doctor. So I stayed. I saw the dr, there was a female chaperone, he cheerfully said "to make sure you're comfortable". He didn't really listen to me. Obviously. He didn't understand that I was on a hormonal treatment that wasn't actually a birth control and I didn't have the energy to explain. The only "good" thing he did was send me for blood work. When I got home I looked up this doctor and read an article that he needs a chaperone because he sexually assaulted a co worker (I'm assuming a nurse). I felt sick. I truly hope to never see this doctor again. Absolutely disgusted that he is allowed to keep working and I absolutely do not want to support this. Not worth it at all. But I feel sick to my stomach that these are the kind of people...the kind of men that get to keep their jobs, the patriarchy keeps them safe. I'm just pissed.
If anyone has any other stories they want to share about medical gaslighting or shitty medical experiences, I would like to hold space for that here.
The last male dr I saw told me to "have a baby" and that it was my fault that treatment wasn't working...so I left and never went back to them. I feel like I lose all my power in this situation. I can't speak up for myself. I shut down. When all I want is help, I feel helpless and I don't trust doctors because of it.
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Enduring along side such meta options as DRB, Mindbenders, Astral and Felwinters. Chaperone was until recently seen as the more “skillful” option.
You’d often people say “at least when I die to a Chaperone user I know they at least have skill”.
But now that pellets have been toned down, it’s actually funny seeing the 180 the community has done.
Now Chaperone is “OP” and it “takes zero skill”. It’s amazing to see how nerfs to other things have made people realize how strong another option has ALWAYS been.
Anyway it’s getting nerfed, but it’s just another reminder that maybe there is something out there worth using, you just have to put the meta down to find it.
This is a bit of a confusing situation so I'll do my best to keep it concise and brief.
I (M, 24) have been living with a friend, (Ex-coworker, F, 50~) for just under half a year now. So far it's been great, we get along really well, and there's been very few clashes between us. They own the house outright, and it works well as it gives them some extra cash and gives me a great place to stay which simply would not be possible for this area and within this price range. It isn't my ideal situation, but I can't really complain.
However, the issue that's presented itself is her daughter (F, 18). She left for Uni in Autumn, and I moved in just after she left, so we don't really see much of each other at all. She's a really nice person, but I can feel the age gap quite a bit when I hang out with her.
Today, my landlady told me that her daughter is coming back from Uni next weekend, and asked if I'd want to go with her daughter to an event (live music) she's going to. Normally I wouldn't mind going, and probably would've said yes, but said that I couldn't, as I'm already going to something this weekend which I've had planned for a while (and already spent money on).
She looked upset at first, and said that she was hoping that I could be there to "keep her out of trouble". I think this comes from a month or two ago when her daughter went out and didn't come back until really late. She was fine, but it gave her Mum a bit of a scare. Anyway, the comment kinda got my back up a little bit, as it felt like I was more being asked to babysit her than actually go out and have a good time myself. I said sorry but I wouldn't be going and left it at that.
She then went a bit cold on me and got a little bit hostile, and I felt bad, as I don't want her to have to worry about her daughter, but at the same time, I don't want to cancel my plans and then be responsible for someone else all evening. It feels a bit manipulative. AITA?
What does chaperoning do anyway 😂😂?? I think it makes sex more fun in my opinion,
Hi all,
I have a friend who is going back to St Louis to retrieve the rest of her belongings, after having fled from their partner (also a woman) a month ago. Unfortunately their partner knows and has taken off work (can't imagine for any good intent) and will be at home all week.
Are there any organizations/charities/police etc who can provide someone an escort/chaperone/third party presence during a move out from an abusive household?
Thanks!
Reading this story made me chuckle. The same people who bemoaned how Salem Mall was dealt a death blow because of out-of-control black teens now has the same problem in their own backyard (with, I'm guessing, overwhelmingly white teens). Doubtful they'll admit it's a teen thing and not a race thing.
bear attacks in bathroom “Nooo not like this!!”
Please go into detail if you can remember it well.
I'm trying to recall an m/f regency HR, but I only vaguely remember one scene.
The only thing I remember is a scene where mc's are discussing the appropriateness of them being alone with each other. What I remember is quite vague, but I recall the mmc mentioning that it's not appropriate for them to be alone together or something like that because single women can't be alone with single men. I think the fmc, being someone who's circumstances changed recently on her being a lady or not, mentions very pointedly that an unmarried lady can't be alone with him, but female servants/commoners can be alone with him and no one would blink an eye.
Sorry that's all I recall, but I really want to figure out what book this scene is from! Thanks!
If it helps most of the HR authors I've read are: Lisa Kleypas, Julia Quinn, Elizabeth Hoyt, Mary Balogh, Lorraine Heath, Madeline Hunter, Sarah MacLean, Evie Dunmore, Tessa Dare, Kerrigan Byrne, Lenora Bell, and Johanna Lindsey.
Sheriff Craig Rowland aimed a gun at the group of girls, dragged their adult chaperone from the car by her hair, and threatened to execute her.
BLACKFOOT, Idaho — The sheriff of Bingham County is facing felony charges after investigators say he pulled a gun on a group of girls, dragged their youth group leader out of her car by her hair, and threatened to shoot her while holding a gun to her head.
The Idaho Attorney General's Office on Tuesday charged Sheriff Craig Rowland with aggravated battery, aggravated assault, and exhibition of a deadly weapon.
"I had all of my facilities with me, I was clear as a freakin bell," he told investigators.Rowland told investigators that the recent time change had "really messed me up" and said he was on edge because of interactions he and his wife previously had with members of the community.
"I have been doing this job for 36 years. I've had drunk Indians drive down my cul-de-sac. I've had drunk Indians come to my door," he said. "I live just off the reservation, we have a lot of reservation people around us who are not good people."
Besides a few photos, what evidence has there been that Jana and Steven actually were/are an item? Is it possible any sightings of her with the Wissmann family are only because she was chaperoning for Jeremiah?
My 8th grade class had a two day trip to six flags that I thought about recently. May seem like an odd question, but with how teachers get shafted every which way to Sunday, it popped into my head and I didn’t have an answer for it.
Oh yeah I’m also not a teacher (yet!)
I wouldn’t send my daughter. Out of state with no adult women.
For context, we are all in our late 20’s.
I’ve been friends with a girl I’ll call Steph since we were teens and we are as close as siblings. Her family is very conservative, she is used to a sheltered life and is kind to a fault if not naïve and easily taken advantage of. She tried online dating only this year, and the first time she was meeting a guy from online I offered to go with her in case things didn’t go well because I didn’t like the guy from the stories that she told me. She thanked me and took up my offer.
She continued seeing the guy for a few months even though I repeatedly told her that he has a lot of red flags (complains about poor people being given hand outs, thinks he’s better than others because he has a postgrad, told Steph off the bat that he won’t get along with Steph’s sister because she’s gay), and the relationship ended with Steph in a bad place needing therapy and antidepressants.
Steph is returning to the dating scene now but her confidence isn’t back to normal and she always asks me what I think about the guys she’s talking to. I’ve continued to offer to go with her when meeting guys she met online for the first time and she hasn’t said no. When we do this, Steph and the guy usually eat at a restaurant while I and another friend sit at another table in the same restaurant, pretending like I don't know her.
My girlfriend finds it weird that I have to ‘screen’ Steph’s online matches and accompany a 27 year old to her dates. She insists that like her family, I’m baby-ing Steph and this is the reason why she continues to be naïve. She says that Steph needs to learn how to be independent and think and look out for herself. She asked me at what point I was going to stop overseeing Steph’s romantic life, because she thinks that Steph just says yes when I offer to accompany Steph because she’s too timid to say no.
I get her point, but I also think there’s nothing wrong with offering to be there for Steph because she is like a sister to me, and if she says yes then I take that at face value. She can say no or not tell me about going to dates at all and I won’t mind.
AITA?
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