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Despite JK Rowling's rather colourful disparaging of this new policy from Scottish Police, I think it is overall a step forward. I don't see how in any way letting anyone who comes into contact with the police (defendant or victim) self-declare their gender 'erodes' women's rights; everyone has certain rights when being charged by the state, including having the dignity of being referred to as their correct gender. Similarly, it's dehumanising to suggest that trans victims shouldn't be able to self-identity, given that being a victim to crime (particularly the ones trans people are disproportionately vulnerable to) is traumatising enough. To deny one negates the other - I've seen people be completely fine with victims self-declaring, but not defendants? I know we live in a boot-liking nation, but the attitude that simply being accused of a crime gives the state the right to strip you of your gender identity and how you a referred to in court...just a little bit disturbing?

Everyone deserves respect in the courtroom and we can help transpeople achieve that through this policy. I also find it quite telling that the conversation has focused on 'rapists', despite it being the policy for anyone who comes in contact with the police to be able to self-id, even for the most insignificant of crimes. Furthermore, any terf claiming that this policy will make the number of 'woman-rapists' sky rocket doesn't understand the law, as cis women can't be charged with rape under English law. Ironically, it actually sounds like a terf fantasy that any women charged with rape would have to be a transwomen under our archaic statute....

However, I have read some people say that their only issue with the policy is that by recording trans people as only their identified gender (as if they were cis) we miss the nuances of who is committing crime and who is a victim of it, given that we known crime is entwined with the socio-economic circumstances of certain groups of people. I actually (at this point) agree with this; I entered the conversation assuming that trans people would be recognised statistically under the umbrella of the gender they identify as, just with the prefix of 'trans'. Surely if we want to help trans victims, and understand why trans people commit certain crimes, we need to know if any particular crimes are disproportionate in their community, and the outcomes of criminal proceedings for trans people compared to cis people?

However, I am concerned maybe I a

I see people online all the time struggling with the flesh in so many ways, and the Bible (in certain aspects) leaves the practical approaches to us in terms of how to do spiritual battle against our own flesh.

I used to be a very judgemental person, and the way I cast it off was to imagine every rude or crude or aggravating or sinful person I saw was me. When I realized I've done almost everything I encountered, that confession of myself to myself (and to the Lord) released me from my prison of outward judgement.

What are some of the ways you've overcome the flesh and enlivened your walk in the Spirit? And if you're having trouble with something, can I offer any biblical advice?

God bless you all, I hope to encourage you in Christ, and for us to lift each other up in the Holy Spirit.

Hey dudes and dads...

So I've been separated for well over two years and the divorce will be going to trial this summer. I'm completely over the relationship, and quite frankly I'm tired of being lonely. Hell, I've accepted that I was lonely throughout the whole marriage and probably a bit longer.

I would like to start dating and maybe even start a relationship, but I really feel that I don't offer much. The divorce has wreaked havoc on my finances, I live with my parents, and I'm still technically married. I feel worthless. I mean, I know I'm not. I have a decent job and do well professionally. I'm a great dad. I'm adequately handsome and take care of myself (think Seth Rogen or Jason Segel when they're in shape). I'm pretty funny. I spend my non-parent time keeping busy, but I just feel so lonely.

When I see a chick on Bumble or FB dating whose profile looks like someone I would want to meet , I just get instantly depressed and feel that I shouldn't even bother to attempt.

I know not to settle. That's how I wound up with the woman I married.

Anyone else deal with feeling this way?

Hello All!

I want to start off by saying that I have always comfortably identified as male, as well as have proudly established my sexuality as gay. However, throughout this period of intense retrospection, I find that I've always hated my body hair. (As a side note, I will say that I'm healing that negative distortion towards my body bc it is a sacred vessel which houses pure awareness & I don't want to send that toxicity into my spiritual/physical/emotional bodies) To top it all off, I find that I have definitely always felt a female, not feminine, but actual female presence w/in me & it has always resonated w/ my perception of myself for as long as I can remember (being that my preferred character of choice when playing Mystery Gang was Daphne 💋💅🏾). ANYWAYS, my body hair I feel has created lots of insecurities, dysmorphia & dysphoria & I honestly feel once I am able to remove it in a healthy & respectful way to my physical body, I'll be at peace. Just wondering if yall have any advice/tips on hair removal & also how yall deal w/ approaching cis-men 🙈

I appreciate all of the help, sending love to all my fellow queer sibs 💚🌈⭐

Edit: *straight cis-men 😓 I honestly am now left wondering what my options are in terms of who to approach, I understand straight cis-men are dangerous territory, COMPLETELY. I guess I just wanna know if it's even worth trying. I feel like my worth in the gay community is dependent on how muscular & masc I look, that's why guys even talk to me it seems

I have always attempted to turn my life around but i have health issues ( std, addiction , trauma, back pain)

Lets say i am one month in in my recovery journey , then a thoughts comes to mind about my past and how i caused problems to my life

I become anxious stressed shameful then i indulged in my addictions (several)

How can i change that?

Shitty title, but oh well.

As someone who attended Dynamite tonight, I'm seeing a lot of comments about Cody not being self-aware. Definitely not to say I liked the finish (I basically lost my voice from booing so hard), but I disagree. After the show, the Sammy vlog crew came down to the ring and everyone chanted for Fuego. Cody proceeded to joke that if we kept that up that he would actually turn heel and we obviously continued to cheer louder. Thought it was worth sharing that he's not as oblivious as some tend to think in the post-match thread.

Over some time of self discovery and general awareness while playing, I’ve come to realize that my winrate is paired with my emotional state during that game.

Either I have confidence and positive emotions before I queue and I am in so much control of the game that I win almost every game I enter with that mindset (like pretty much all). Or I am queuing with an inner desire to have opinions towards other people’s gameplay and usually this blame mentality makes me lose games. There’s no in between and my winrate directly correlates to whatever I am feeling before I hit queue. So I’ve come to realize that I may be somewhat bipolar. Does anyone actually have experience being like this and if you have tips you’d like to share?

It was a horrible time I know but I miss it so much. Cutting in my zoom classes and every night with whatever tools I wanted completely unchecked. Now I have the responsibility and pressure of trying to be clean and my house has nothing to use and I’m so desperate I just keep making abrasions on my skin cause I can’t cut. I keep having to tell my parents every time I do something.

I truly believe the solution to most of life's challenges is looking inward and identifying what you need to work on and improve to become a better person. There are bad women, bad men, and bad people in general. Focusing on them is not going to make your life better. Learning how to become a better Man across all categories, improving your weak areas, developing your strength, and strengthening your mind to the point that it is unshakeable are the keys to attracting what you want.

There has been a big movement talking about how women are bad, superficial, gold diggers, hoes, etc. Has there been massive social change that has led to these types of women becoming more prevalent? Absolutely. But whose at fault? It's the weak males who spend all their time liking, dming, and commenting while also financially supporting these women and then whining about them afterwards.

The real solution to this issue is developing yourself. When you are completely different from these weak minded pushovers they are no longer your competition because you're on a completely different playing field. Gold diggers and other low quality women will no longer be an issue because you can identify them form a mile away and easily know the difference between a quality woman and a woman who isn't worth a cup of coffee.

I dive into this a bit deeper in a reaction video I made to a guy whose message to other men is to simply give up on life if you are not good looking. Please don't fall for this toxic nonsense that I see sprouting everywhere and being perpetuated by clown channels like fit n fresh. These are weak males who know nothing about being a man trying to ruin other impressionable men just because they had a bad experience. The female equivalent is the mid 40's single woman with multiple kids trying to tell a woman in her 20's with a good relationship or marriage to get divorced because she can do better and life is better being single and who needs a man etc etc.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VBOlXTqdvRQ

I've been following his Twitter, Youtube & twitch and I've not seen any update from Zack about his mum or him self.

Do we know how is he doing? I really hope nothing seriously bad has happened. He' got all my positive energy right now!

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Hey guys, I’m just about to hit my thirties and I feel like I’m having a mid life crisis every second day. I know this is how you’re meant to feel at this age, but I’m struggling. I’ve always struggled with my masculinity and practicing a positive form of it. I’ve always been far to effeminate or emasculated or the complete other end - just chauvinistic and arrogant. I’m 29 and I still feel like such an utter boy. I still feel like I have absolutely no fucking clue how to be a proper man, especially in modern times where what it means to be a positive male has evolved so much. I also just generally struggle with my sense of self, belonging in the world and my social output. I feel alone, isolated, depressed and out of place more often than not. Does anyone have some books to suggest getting me out of this funk, and helping me successfully transition from being a scared little boy to a man who knows who he is and what he wants? I’d honestly appreciate any help at this point, I have a preference for fiction tbh but definitely open to any non fiction self help books too if they really did change things for you. TiA

Basically the title. Self checkouts have the ability to read and take change and cash, so why haven’t ATMs picked up that technology? It would be so much more convenient to people to deposit change in the ATM with your cash/checks instead of going inside or just collecting it in your cup holder. Especially for people who make cash tips at their jobs.

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For people who have played astral self bugbear monks, are the 15 ft attacks significant or overrated?

Also, for those who used the grapple attack, does the bugbear pin targets with a 5 ft buffer so they can't get hit by melee attacks without reach? Is it worth it to get the grappler feat to pin targets and whale on them since you can use your Wis modifier?

In a high-stress situation (in this instance verbal or physical confrontation) the amount of adrenaline released inhibits normal brain function. A great example of this is in horror movies, when the main character is running from the villain and they can’t seem to be able to put their keys in the door. Your motor functions go from a ‘high brain’ mode to a ‘low brain’ mode. When in a physical situation, it is extremely common to accidentally hold your breath, or have erratic breathing. So, an important principle that is taught in self-defense is to shout your physical actions to not only cause attention, but to assist in breathing, and even increase power in self-defense techniques.

I’m so confused. There are so many legal problems with importing sister wives...like, dastardly plan ruining problems—explaining one’s fraud on video on national television? From whence comes this confidence (and ignorance of basic legal principles)?

Awe inspiring.

So that's it. After sharing our lives for 23years, this is all it amounts to. He is my only relationship. The second boy I kissed. My first and only everything else. I'm 36 and can't shake this schoolgirl notion where the deepest part of me screams out that I was made to be his, and he was made to be mine. Fate. Destiny. Forever. Nothing.

My mental health has taken such a pounding after literally being driven to a mental institution due to the gaslighting, that I have been off work longer than FMLA's protection. I will likely lose my job this week. I've been the breadwinner our entire relationship. By a considerable amount. I have some emergency savings, but he's eaten into half of it to fund his pretend bachelor apartment and lifestyle this past year while living his double life.

He has changed all passwords to everything. He broke his phone to eliminate the possibility of recovering anything. He's very clearly still entangled with his girlfriend (or something else he is desperate to keep secret). He hasn't blocked her contact. He's returning to work on the 21st this month. Thejr relationship started and flourished at work. Oh, and in case it wasn't abundantly clear, he wants to divorce. From his attitude, it appears he arrived at this decision several months ago and has fully moved on from the pain and hurt and loss of what I thought we had. What we were supposed to be.

I've been staying at an Airbnb for a few weeks. It was so hard to leave him in our marital home. But he was being so verbally abusive and hostile.

We can't afford to continue living apart. I'm returning home later this morning.

Why can't I stop being in love with this man? I don't want to start over. Everything that is happening now is literally every worst nightmare I've had. It's everything I always knew would happen.

And now, more traumatized and damaged than ever, with zero luck trying to detach from him, how am I ever going to move on from this? I feel so severely fucked up and broken with an overwhelming amount of complex baggage and emotional trauma. I already had that stuff in spades before his long term affair. But I was working on it. Too little too late, I suppose.

But I've been aggressively treating my hang ups for over a decade. I tried so hard to be different from what felt natural to me so I could be healthy and available for him. I wanted to be a good wife for him. I changed who I was for him.

And now? He'd rather leave me than love me; or help fix what he br

I was just doing something and stressing about a task I didn't do for school. I reflected that at this rate, I'll get myself kicked out again and it's going to absolutely wreck my relationship because of what we've invested into this opportunity. I wasn't particularly stressing or anxious, it was mostly just an idle thought while I was vacuuming.

And then a rouge idea that absolutely filled me with joy and happiness said with a sense of triumph: "And then I won't have any excuse not to kill myself"

And I'm just sitting here, trying to process what this means with regards to my tendency to self-sabotage. I have struggled with suicidal impulses in the past and sometimes still do, but I always had that reasonable part of me that knew I don't want to and that I'm just being stupid. I wonder if the self-destructive impulses weren't as much banished as just went underground and led a guerrilla campaign secretly sabotaging me from within my subconscious or something. I mean, I knew that the things I do sometimes are rather self-destructive. But this is a new connection.

I have no real revelation with regards to that. I'm mostly just really taken aback. But if it's true, it means I can do something about it. I wonder if someone here worked with something similar.

Given the below points, can people please suggest the best services/courses/tutors for me and my circumstances. Point 6 highlights my learning goals save the life story if you wish to skip it.

1. The grant isn't super flexible, it has to be reputable (so no PMs about your private tutoring please, nor referral links, etc. I simply cannot accept them even though I'm sure some of you are excellent). And work related, which ML barely qualifies as for me.

2. Going by the criteria on this page (Code, Maths, ML Theory, and Projects) https://www.tensorflow.org/resources/learn-ml I can safely say code nor maths are my bottlenecks. I think my theory and project skills are where my training should be focused.

3. I'd like to progress using tensorflow because I have the most experience with it, but if you know something great that doesn't use it I won't snub my nose at it that's for sure.

4. I'm only really concerned about DL, not all ML, I'm well aware that DL isn't the optimal solution for many problems, but I'm not trying to spend this budget optimally, and DL is far more interesting imo, both the learn and to use.

5. I've done everyone's favourite: standford's machine learning course on coursera, as well as what feels like every ML (including but no limited to DL) related course on pluralsight, as well as a couple modules on ML (no DL) as part of my CS degree, and the tutorial on Kaggle.

6. My goal is to understand why an architecture has been used and to make my own for my own unique problems. I know how to mess around with existing projects, have some experience dealing with issues like overfitting. But then I look at a research paper for something like DAIN or any video framerate booster and I get the input and output, but nothing in-between, at least not past a superficial level of knowing what all the layers do individually. So yes, anything to get me closer to being able to really understand research papers from my beginner level would be great.

7. I know money isn't required for this, but it has to be spent or I lose it.

8. Even though it's not my money, I'd rather not spend it than spend it on a scam/ripoff.

9. If you have any questions I am happy to answer, I doubt I actively remembered all relevant info but I should be fine with passive recall!