Cllickbait title, maybe. This really concerns Edinburgh specifically, but I'd be interested in similar examples.
I've read that the development of Edinburgh's New Town in the late 18th Century was designed for higher income people - mostly in preparation for the impending boom of the industrial revolution, but also the due to the affordances that came with the ideals of enlightened living. Architecturally, they wanted to break away from the traditional, "uncivilised", weaving clusters of buildings, and designed a strict grid-like arrangement which would better represent the values of the British Empire's Enlightenment - Reason, Liberty, Happiness and Order.
Determined spaciousness allowed for future urban development, sizable public buildings, and less spreading of disease or mould. New Town was not only aesthetically unfamiliar, but migration was also too expensive for Edinburgh's many existing working-class city inhabitants, who stayed in the slowly dilapidating Old Town. Intentionally or not, city planners created a clear residential divide of classes.
As an aside here, England were obviously very concerned with "naturalising" the Scottish people to industrial sensibilities using Economic and Political motions (maybe too many examples to mention, but this was around the same time as the Jacobite rebellion).
Were there any ways in-particular that British city planners managed to use architecture to alienate the Edinburgh working classes, or dissuade Scottish identity at this time? If they did so deliberately, how did they benefit from this? Were any "tricks" employed, such as with Robert Moses notorious bridges (disputed, I know.), or were class divisions purely coincidental? Are there other ways that architecture or urban development was used to the same effect around other parts of the British Empire?
We’ve been friends since before kindergarten and we’ve never had any major conflicts that lasted more than a few days, but he hasn’t talked to me for almost a month and he keeps trying to cut me off of our friend groups. Obviously it hasn’t worked and they still hang out with me but it has affected the way they look at me.
For context, he has liked this girl for a ridiculously long time, probably 5-6 years, and she has already rejected him multiple times, so I figured it’s ok to try something with her, since it’s clear he doesn’t have any chance whatsoever. And it worked, she likes me and we’ve been dating for 5 months. I tried to keep it a secret to avoid hurting him but I guess she told him. This was a month ago.
He still hangs out with her all the time like he used to, and he tells everyone I “stole his girl” which is kind of sad since she was never his girl to begin with.
I understand his position (to a certain extent) and I know it hurts but he’s being extremely childish and petty. It’s not my fault he hasn’t moved on and still idolises her like she’s an omni-benevolent god.
I don’t want our friendship to go to shit because of such a small thing but I also don’t want to leave her. What should I do? He doesn’t answer my calls or texts.
Edit: Wow. There are so many people in this thread who feel personally attacked. Do you really relate to my friend this hard? Nevertheless, I appreciate the actual advice. Goodbye.
So I've been playing games with a group of guys who I know irl most evenings of the week for the last 6 months, and while playing games, in an effort to be funny I try to play the part of an arrogant gamer bro asshole to play it for laughs. Anyway last night I was tipped off by one of them saying: "Hey so you're a complete asshole online, we were thinking of ditching you, but because we quite like you in real life we're giving you a warning to phone it in." And I just sat here realising that they never got the joke, and just thought that thats how I genuinely am while playing games.
Bro what even the fuck. Its not like I don't make jokes in a similar vein irl, and they laugh along with me there. Its fucked with me because often I err on the side of playing an asshole to make jokes and I'm wondering how many people think I'm a complete dick without realising its a joke.
Bruh moment
Society has had a long history of implementing eugenical measures to prevent what people would consider ‘mutations in evolution’ that take people too far off from the social construct of what it defines as ‘normal’.
In the past this was more severe in the form of even forced sterilisations but some of that genocidal attitude still remains against any who deviate from the norm. Especially if they are seen as not conforming and ‘benefitting’ capitalism.
We need to eliminate these practices and enable not only different people but people who follow different ways of life that do not conform to the status quo to exist freely. There is no such thing as ‘abnormal’ or ‘mutant’, everybody that doesn’t conform to this ‘pure race’ notion of ‘normal’ or doesn’t benefit capitalism should have rights and not be ostracised whatsoever.
As I grow older, I find myself more often utilising social pressure as a weapon against people who simply cannot be bothered.
I also believe (from personal experience and online anecdotes) that being friendly towards deadweights at work is an implicit encouragement for them to continue being unmotivated; although I understand diplomatic or non-confrontational folks who just want to get through work with minimum troubles.
The NYA signers who're still supporting S2X wo replay protection shouldn't be able to get away with this so easily - they must go down for what theyve done.
Any pardoning would only embolden future attacks.
Let's call her Q. We were friends from the same sports club in college 10 years ago. Not BFFs level but the bond of being in the same team is strong and our squad has kept in contact till now and would meet up once a year or something. Q was working with a company that my company has working relations with so I would sometimes meet her up for work reasons as well. But otherwise, we are considered close as we would talk about life whenever we met up.
I later found out Q quitted without a job offer as she was unhappy in her previous company, stating reasons that her incapable management is always trying to put her ideas down, not letting her prove herself at work. My company was looking for a someone to fill a junior role and I thought it's a good fit for her. Got her an interview and she then successfully joined the company. When I told my dad that I was excited to have a friend working in the same company, he actually cautioned me into thinking twice as he has been back-stabbed by a friend in his ex company before to the extent he quit his job, but during then i thought oh wells, it won't happen to us- we wont be working directly with each other anyway.
A few weeks later, her department head confided in me that Q is giving problems to their team of 3 where she would be stubbornly outspoken and disrespectful, unhappy to do the work she was hired for, be sloppy and careless in her work, and then become very passive aggressive to them. The department head didn't say these in an accusing manner, but wanted to understand if this what I am familiar with and if there are things that can be done to improve the situation. I tried to back up Q in an objective POV and explain that she was probably very eager to prove herself at this new job after what she endured in her previous job. On the other hand, Q would also confide in me the problems she was experiencing from her POV- her ideas and opinions were not heard, felt it was unfair that she had to do her manager's duties just because the manager had other meetings to attend. The whole time I tried to be tactful and objective when mediating the situation between her and her dept head. To me at that point, both sides have their own merits as it all boils down to the working style and dynamics of the team.
Aside from our own duties, our company sometimes have adhoc projects that we need to do and I was tasked to head the project. My boss only gave me 10 seconds to propose who I wanted as my assistant and I blurted Q
... keep reading on reddit ➡So, im often yelled at for playing Primaris Space Marines. "Play a real army" and similar, that im not a real 40k fan and such. It just confuses me, and i want to know why. Every time i ask, people say things like "space marines are over powered" and "they are too fucking perfect" amd that they arent fun to play against or whatever. I just want to know why we cant co-exist, and why i cant be a real fan for playing primaris.
Edit: i also have only ever won 1 match, and ive played 8.
And I make no apologies when I say this. Think about it. Parenting, the bringing up of a child that is of your flesh and blood is one of the most core elements of being a sentient mammal, more importantly of being a human being. Yet many Muslim parents through their disgusting religion (which shows nothing but contempt for apostates as well as non Muslims in general) will often put their faith first over the happiness and wellbeing of their child. It is repulsive.
I've never understood this wishy washy attitude that ex-Muslims should somehow try and 'forgive' their Muslim parents for their crappy upbringing or that they should try and 'understand' that their parents were under pressure from their faith and community. Why should ex-Muslims show love to a parent that cannot love them in the first place. That can often to lead to the most extreme cases such as kicking children out for leaving Islam or even worse, killing them.
Apparently being a working mother means I don’t have time for the important things like the ‘get to know each other brunch’ and my tattoos ‘send the wrong message about the other mums’.
I’m sorry, did I accidentally step into the 19-fucking-50’s?
Update: just found out that the main Karen’s husband works for a company that I hire as a third party, and he doesn’t like her either.
Update 2: WOW! I left my phone to the side whilst I attended some meetings and came back to this! Thank you to everyone who gave an award (Gold - are you kidding me?! Thank you!)
Update 3: Upon collecting my son I made sure to have more tattoos on show because, quite frankly, discrimination of any kind infuriates me (and I’ve been known to be petty!). Once in the playground I was greeted by the headteacher who was a huge fan, and we had a great chat about body art and modification. Karen did some staring but didn’t rear her head again!
Update 4: Thank you everyone for your words, your input and the ridiculous amount of awards! I’m going to have to head offline now and won’t be able to respond so quickly - but I just wanted to extend my thanks!
Also - to the guy who keeps sending me pics of his junk from different accounts - I can tell it’s the same dong every time and no I’m not impressed, but thanks for your concern!
This story actually takes place over multiple years. So here goes. Also, English isn't my first language, so I apologise for my poor language skills in advance.
A little background, I work in corporate HR. My company has a very generous maternity leave policy. It gives you 26 paid weeks off plus gives you the option of taking a month or so more if you have extra sick or personal leaves left. Or else you can take unpaid leave for the same time.
So part of my responsibilities is to make recommendations for selecting employees for specific projects. So a couple of years ago, there was a huge project that needed a team to be created for. Being part of a project like this would normally establish your career in this industry. You could basically decide your own career path on the back of the reputation you get based on a project like this. It would be hectic and difficult, but worth it in the end.
We interviewed prospective people within the company and selected a core team that would take it up. Among this team was M, a recently married female who is generally thought to be a hard worker and quite knowledgeable. Like with everyone else. We interviewed her for the spot and asked her if she wanted to be part of this project.
However, a month or so, M announces that she was pregnant and that she would be taking her maternity leave in a month's time. She would be completely unavailable for around 7 months or so and basically leave the team short-staffed for the major part of the project. We had to quickly select a replacement, get them uptospeed, and have them take over. It meant more work for everyone, minor delays, etc.
What pissed off the top management was that M knew she was pregnant when she joined the team. She never mentioned it during the interview. By not telling anyone in advance, everyone felt that she couldn't be trusted in the future. She basically became a pariah and no team lead wanted her in any critical projects.
Within a year, M realised she progress much in her career in this particular company and left for another job. Fast forward a little while and I was talking with the HR guy from the company M had joined and he asked me about her. And I told him the truth. Both that she was a good worker and is dedicated, but that is not really honest or trustworthy. I told him the story in detail.
Now this has basically meant that M gets a similar treatment in the new company, she is considered a good employee and team player, but no-on
... keep reading on reddit ➡This is more a collection of views rather than just one, but I believe is nicely summarised in the above point.
From an outsiders perspective, it seems to me that some Islamic nations essentially practice slavery when it comes to the treatment of women. I should not think this view too radical; the restrictions placed upon women, restrictions that some countries have codified into law, are absolutely the definition of slavery. These slaves may be kept well, but they are kept nonetheless.
We have fought wars over slavery. We excluded South Africa from the community of nations for arranging its laws so that blacks could never live as well as whites, but some Islamic countries do exactly that all the time.
If any men in the world were treated like these nations treat women, the UN would ostracise that nation.
It's precisely because it's happening to women that people (men) in power look away. It becomes a cultural matter, a religious matter, something not to be interfered with.
It is not called slavery because it is only an exaggeration of how women are treated elsewhere; this is as much an issue of introspection as it is anything else. Our relative silence on this issue undermines all our talk of gender equality when examined in the light of the global effort to eradicate international racial prejudice.
Change my view.
Been fighting with my family regarding vaccine efficacy (me being on the defensive side) recently to the point where I am no longer welcome at the family dinner table. Won’t be welcome to Christmas etc for simply standing up for what I believe in.
Recently I attended a freedom rally in Melbourne. For once I felt like I had a voice and I wasn’t so alone. But after posting coverage of this on various socials I was called out by old “friends” and family. Being labeled “anti-vax” and an “extremist”. Ironic when my own family has been slandering me and enforcing this segregation. I argue that’s the true extremism.
It seems there is no convincing those on the other side of the fence, even to read the peer reviewed reports coming out of Israel and South Africa. I’m beyond the point of trying to convince, and I’m nearly beyond the point of defending my stance when criticised.
I feel depressed when I wake up, and depressed when I go to sleep. I’m finding it really hard to live in this “democratic” nation we call Australia, but it’s groups like this that I feel at home.
A bit of a rant, I know. But a big to everyone in this group who has been active in covering their own personal experiences/government corruption as it makes me feel not so alone.
Hi, fellow robots. I'm in need of advice!
Naturally, I'm an INTJ: Analytical, not the most enthusiastic, and not much patience for BS. However, I've found that whenever I act like myself I get ostracised and distanced from. So, to avoid this I adopted a more "socially friendly" and admittedly fake persona.
I hate having to act this way, but whenever I try to be myself I instantly get figuratively smacked in the face by whoever I'm talking to.
Can you guys relate to this? How have you addressed this in your lives? Do I just need to man up, be myself and face the ostracisation, or am I just being clumsy and untactful in how I express myself?
