This happened two years ago, when I went to Ibiza with a friend for a week during the summer holidays.
First of all, the trip began quite weirdly with out luggage being flown to another country by mistake... It was quite interesting not to have any change of clothes in such a heat.
Also, I know a lot of people love Ibiza and consider it a great place to party - my experience was quite different.
My friend and I bought tickets to a few shows in advance to see DJs we like (like Steve Aoki for ex.), but we ended up never seeing their performance. We always arrived a bit in advance, the DJs were very late (or the time of the show was wrong on our tickets) and the music at the clubs wasn't to our liking and especially loud. We ended up having headaches quite rapidly and going home before even witnessing the opening songs of our liked artists.
Anyway, apart from those pre-booked shows, we had some free nights left. Basically, we failed our arrangements because we picked a nice hotel on the South coast of the island... which was mostly occupied by older people. The atmosphere was calm and quite nice for a family holiday, but not for 23 year-olds thirsting for a week of partying.
To meet new people, we were basically forced during the day to go online and we chose the app Tinder to provide us with multiple types of opportunities.
The story I'm about to tell is one that still makes me flinch when I think about it.
That night, my friend got a date on Tinder with a rich Russian girl who invited him to her 5-star hotel. I was very happy for him, but I was left alone and didn't quite know what to do with myself.
I come from Geneva and during my teenage years, I spent a lot of time with a very good gay friend of mine. Knowing the time of ambiance gay bars and clubs usually have, I decided to search for one in Ibiza and to go there to simply meet open people and have a good chat.
I found a bar not to far away, like 30 minutes on foot, and went there. I must admit I wasn't really reassured walking alone in the dark streets of the city, but staying in the light of the lampposts was enough to comfort me.
When I finally arrived at the bar, I was greeted by an atmosphere quite different from what I'm used to. The main activity was on the terrace, were there were a lot of high tables around which people talked standing. No great laughs, no dancing, no mixing between groups.
To get in the mood for initiating conversation with people not as open as I expected, I
I've been very vocal about this recently because two gaming Discords I am in have venting channels, and the content within them are deeply disturbing.
There is a reason it takes 4+ years of University to deliver counseling services. These spaces end up being a place where the blind lead the blind, and inexperienced and unprofessional people give well-meaning but unhelpful advice.
Server owners: you are not mental health professionals. You cannot moderate these kinds of conversations, due to the sensitivity of the subject. If you are having people vent about suicidal thoughts or actions, you need to delete that content and message that person directly with life saving resources (there are links available for suicide hotlines for every country). Leaving the content there for other people to read is dangerous, as reading about suicidal behaviour and actions (especially if is explicit and mentions a plan or method) can increase suicidal thoughts or behaviour for people who are already struggling.
Stop letting your members try counseling eachother.
Stop triggering content from reaching vulnerable people.
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Am I projecting previous unresolved trauma because im triggered, or enabling more unhealthy behaviour because I'm submissive and used to relationship trauma? Desperate to learn and handle this situation in the healthiest way for both parties... has anyone ever found themselves in such a mess?
Ive been seeing my bf for 8 months (new sub, first DS dynamic) a few months in I asked to discuss rules and some of our kinks/desires with eo, but he felt it would kill the fun. After a few attempts to gauge interest, I asked him to raise the convo when he's comfortable and suggested we could make a hot game out of it... No conversation surfaced, but after a while he suggested moving closer by me if I needed to relocate - I knew I needed to raise my concern if we were to move forward.
Apparently he's always had a big presence with other girls online, and this is his longest relationship. All his social media platforms are saturated with following nsfw, onlyfans, cosplay, and a lot a lot of random girls. Since this content is often cropping up when I'm round, I explained that I felt hurt and insecure that we aren't working on our kinky sexual life, yet he's engaged with so much of it virtually in private. That he doesn't ask me for nudes but still has old girls nudes saved on his comp. That he claimed to not flirt with other girls online, yet he spam likes and comments on random local girls pics with heart, fire, prayer emojis - apparently he likes boosting other girls confidence, he gets compliments back so he sees it as harmless. I don't receive this kind of attention from him so it hurts to see him complimenting some recently followed random local girls with 0 mutual friends. (If they were models or paid workers or friends I could let the comments go, but Im not even sure how he's continuing to find local girls during our relationship)
Because of my 'doubting him' he keeps removing his feelings, he's often cold and quickly frustrated and impatient to fault me daily, I think he's lost respect for me and I feel like im being punished. I feel stuck because trying to open conversation about my feelings/experience in this relationship are something to be argued, or quickly shut down with an 'I understand, sorry you feel that way, i'll work on it' with little avail... instead of engaging and learning about each other.
Aside from the heartbreak, and confused feeling unwanted, im not only losing sense of who I in this relationship but who I am as a sexual individual.
I'm confused about how much awareness is involved, or do they just act "naturally" and it happens to turn out this way?
Luckily the unions aren't falling for this scam.
*Workers, not works
I've been thinking about this for the past few days.
There's a lot more hate on Reddit than I realized. This is the ugly side of making it easy to be anonymous online.
On the flip side, online anonymity — particularly how it's manifested on Reddit — undoubtedly fulfills some mostly or wholly positive things:
- Whistleblowing
- People can discuss health / mental health concerns without fear of publicizing their identity
- Ditto for say career issues
The current mechanism for facilitating "white hat" anonymity (above) while avoiding "black hat" uses (abuse etc) is moderation. But, in Reddit's case, that seems to be constrained by both human factors and the quality of human moderators.
What alternative mechanisms might exist to help make Reddit a safe online place that supports its users' privacy while also doing a more effective job at stamping out abuse?
Introduced: Sponsor: Rep. Joseph Kennedy [D-MA4]
This bill was referred to the House Committee on Energy and Commerce which will consider it before sending it to the House floor for consideration.
Rep. Joseph Kennedy [D-MA4] is a member of the committee.
My mother has always kept me right under her and tries to control everything I do since I was at least 6 from what I can remember she’s always acted this way. when I graduated elementary school she said I was gonna be homeschooled she signed me up and I never took any classes so I have a 5th grade education at 21 years old I have no friends irl the social skills I’ve gained have been from mimicking others and I’ve learned half the things I know about being an adult etc from the internet and everyone around me knows how she is but just try to pass it off as her being over protective cause they rather not help me cause “well she’s your mom”(you know the regular bullshit) she still constantly lies even now about me being in college and all this other stuff to try and make me look good so she can be praised she even regularly tells people that I’m a virgin and how it’s because she’s been such a great parent she’s created a fake life and persona of me and uses that for attention and praise it’s very odd. I’ve never been taught to drive I don’t have the proper education needed for most jobs she refuses to let me get my GED she keeps tabs on all the money I get and spends it and doesn’t give me freedom I learned how to use an atm when I was 17 she love bombs and plays the smothering over caring mother role but at the same time she takes any chance she can to embarrass me in front of others and tries to control what I wear how I do my hair and everything else, I recently started working with her because that’s the only way I could get a job and it’s been so difficult it seems like she’s trying to live through me or mold me to be the version of her that didn’t do the shit she did growing up but then she act like she’s above me she constantly compares her trauma to mines and talks about how her mother was worse and I have nothing to complain about cause she’s a good parent etc i don’t ever see myself getting away from her and being able to live comfortably on my own especially because I’m poor and I live in LA it’s no way for me to just leave or anything and people just treat me like a lazy crybaby or something it’s discouraging. This really isn’t the half of it it’s just what I could explain as of now but I don’t know where my life is heading and I’m so tired of living like this
"A new study links Covid lockdowns and mask mandates to lowering intelligence in children.
According to clinical psychiatrists at Brown University forced isolation and face masks will create a generation of children with lower IQ’s and deficient social skills.
Doctors found children developing during Covid-lockdowns are showing deficient verbal and motor skills as well as reduced cognitive performance. This compared to childhood development before the lockdowns were in place.
Scientists say forced masking and social deprivation of children are showing effects similar to those of child-abuse."
https://www.oann.com/study-forced-masking-isolation-causes-lower-iq-in-children/
I moved here in 2013 for uni. Graduated in 2016 and have never really made any friends.
From 2014 to 2017 I was in a very violent and controlling abusive relationship. What I didn't realise was while they were preventing me from speaking to anyone about the relationship, they were telling everyone I was the abuser to set me up. After I finally broke up with them they made sure I'd never have anyone in my life.
I can't leave my house without someone making a comment about me being an abuser. It'll be 5 years in February since the relationship ended and I'm still unable to leave the house without something happening. The last flat I lived in, turned out a uni acquaintance of my ex lived next door. I had nasty letters and at one point a lit firework posted through my door with a warning to leave. I've had people I recognise as my ex's friends follow me home, try and hit me with their cars, climbing into my garden at night to knock on the windows and scare me... they always run away before the police arrive. I've been on work nights out (mostly outside of Hull) nd had my drinks spiked by people there who knew my ex or knew someone that knew my ex. They post about it on social media the next day that they are punishing abusers and having my drink spiked is the least they can do. Again, the police don't care.
My ex doesn't live here, they moved to Scotland before we broke up but the damage is still so bad. I've contacted the police multiple times but my ex works for the police and has put several anonymous reports about me abusing them so any time I go to the police they say they've already got it on record I was the abuser so they won't do anything. My ex put a link to crimestoppers on Facebook and asked people to report me and the police have at least 13 individual reports me of supposedly abusing people. My ex sexually and physically abused me and I can't rebuild my life at all and it's really affecting me.
I've lost 4 jobs through my ex making reports, pretending to be a customer or client and saying I harassed them. I can never be friends or even get along with coworkers because they always know someone who knows my ex. I don't have social media anymore. When I did have it, I had a pseudonym and no photos of me, yet people were still able to figure out it was me.
I briefly left Hull for a job last year, but my ex still found out where I went and made it hell for me there too. I feel like it doesn't matter where I live. That was the second time I
... keep reading on reddit ➡I've been thinking about this for the past few days.
There's a lot more hate on Reddit than I realized. This is the ugly side of making it easy to be anonymous online.
On the flip side, online anonymity — particularly how it's manifested on Reddit — undoubtedly fulfills some mostly or wholly positive things:
- Whistleblowing
- People can discuss health / mental health concerns without fear of publicizing their identity
- Ditto for say career issues
The current mechanism for facilitating "white hat" anonymity (above) while avoiding "black hat" uses (abuse etc) is moderation. But, in Reddit's case, that seems to be constrained by both human factors and the quality of human moderators.
What alternative mechanisms might exist to help make Reddit a safe online place that supports its users' privacy while also doing a more effective job at stamping out abuse?
