(Not just me right? At least I’m pretty sure)
So we recently took in a new cat (1yo male shorthair) who was kept in a small apartment (basically a room) all his life. His owner was physically challenged but managed to raise him (and essentially be the only human he knows) from a kitten until they recently passed away.
The trouble is, this cat isn't trained at all and hasn't learned any of the usual human-cat social cues. For example, he doesn't understand the old Michaelangelo finger greeting and will try to bite or swipe at you thinking something's coming at him. And the worst part is his nails haven't been trimmed in a long long time and have become extremely sharp, making him a danger to both humans and other cats.
So I can't do anything until I cut his nails. But I just don't know how to approach it. All the videos on youtube suggest the burrito method of wrapping him up with a towel/blanket. But how the heck do I manage to do that? He's super fidgety and will try to bite any time you grab him to pick him up.
All the cats in the videos are perfectly obedient role models who will stay completely still and let you wrap them up. Not at all like the scared bitey mess that I've got who will try to run even at the sight of a towel!
I'd really appreciate any tips and advice.
For those of you who've had "difficult" cats and had to trim their nails, how did you manage to do it?
UPDATE: Thank you so much everyone for all the helpful advice. We went with the burrito method and finally managed to do it. Took three people just to restrain him though, he's a feisty boy lol. Everything went smoothly except for one bite casualty (which was me). My finger will hurt for a while but all his nails are trimmed and he's safe and content so I'll take that as a win! Thanks again to everyone who commented!
I am for sure. It’s mostly skin picking but I’ve been gradually trying to redirect myself to fidget toys over the years. It seems to get worse when i am in a busy environment or if I. Am talking to someone unexpectedly
When i have a nasty hypo i always feel fidgety. I pick stuff up i drop it i quickly tap things and more stuff. Is this normal?
These days there are fidget spinners, chew toys, and other things like that. There claims that the reason boys struggle in school today is because they're made to sit still and quiet. But it seems like in the "good old days", schoolchildren were able to sit up straight and sit still and pay attention to the teacher. Or were they able to do that? What was the norm? What happened to those who fidgeted?
Got a job I enjoy that's remote AND allows me to pay rent and buy spaghetti, yay! But I have hyperactive (I believe? It's been awhile since my diagnosis) ADHD so while I enjoy what I'm doing I am super restless and feel a really potent tension pretty much an hour in. I'm going to see if I can purchase some of those handheld fidgets but does anyone else have any ideas? Thought about a standing desk but the reason I'm remote is chronic pain/health issues, and that might make it worse because when I stand for too long I can sometimes rock back and forth (stimming) so much I injure myself.
Hi, i might have ADHD but im not sure. Everyone saying that its so obvious but idk. Im already diagnosed with lack of attention but not hyperactivity. But im usually fidgety and hyperactive. And i want to ask if being hyperactive, energetic and fidgety usually but sometimes you become so tired that you’re not fidgeting that much anymore. Being a bit numb etc. Is this normal for a person with ADHD, or ADHD people are always energetic, fidgety and hyperactive? And how did you understand you got adhd?
Any one else? Does it get better?
I’m sure I’m not alone in that I cannot sit and watch a movie or TV show, I need to do something with my hands. I have found a few game-type apps that keep my hands busy but are slow-paced enough to still allow me to focus on listening and occasionally glancing up at the TV. These have really helped me recently and I wanted to share in case it can help someone else. It’s tough when you want to watch a show but can’t even get through the first episode because your brain is going 1,000 mph.
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Happy Color: a color-by-number app at is simple and the coloring pages are updated daily.
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Duplica 3D - Match Puzzle: matching game where you pick out matching objects from a heap of 3D items. Has lots of ads, unfortunately, but still fun.
Anybody else experiencing this? I'm about 2 weeks in on 10mg of Lexapro for anxiety and depression.
Feel fidgety and like I can't relax or sit still. It's more a chronic type of restlesness than anxiety and panic.
Anybody else encountering the same thing?
I am trying to study hard for the next 20 days because I have exams but I wasn't able to study for a month for personal reasons. I find that I can only concentrate if I'm doing some little thing at the same time, so I used to eat snacks at the same time and it really helped but helth, so then I tried knitting, which was ok... but then I started getting distracted by the knitting instead. I've been trying to study all day today, since 11am - it's been 5 hours and I've done less than one hour of study.
Any ideas for some mindless stuff I can do at the same time as studying?
My 18-month-old is a bright little guy but sometimes I just don't know about him or the things he does. For a couple of months now, I find him constantly holding a small, usually a ball, object. No matter what he does, he is holding an object and one of his hands. Even while eating. If you try to take the object away from him, he throws a fit. Admittedly, I don't have much experience around other small children, so I'm not really sure if this is unusual behavior or not.
His paid visit is coming up in a couple of weeks and I'm not sure whether or not this is something that should be brought up for concern. He does struggle with speaking words but will babble when prompted to when he feels like it. He does know how to say yes or no using sign language, He does know how to say I want using sign language. He does spend a good portion of his day running in circles too. Will set up an object in the middle of the play area and run around it. Sometimes That object he runs around might even be you lol.
Would anyone find this typical behavior?
Title pretty much said it all, ive been getting into Hemi sync guided meditation. (I like having a voice walk me through as it takes focus from head chatter)
The first 15 minutes of a tape i am fine.
Once i relax and shut off internal dialogue (usually during resonant tuning) my mind becomes very attached to bodily sensations I get overwhelming urges to scratch my head or random parts of my body burst out in intense itch, my eyelids become strained and i feel like i have no choice but to give in to these sensations, its weird because its not like im thinking “scratch scratch scratch” or “open your darn eyes” its just kind of there but i become more fidgety as these sensations become progressively more intense as time passes because thats all my my mind can focus on. After i finally give in i become frustrated as i feel like “i just wasted 15-20 minutes” but despite the frustration i ironically feel more refreshed and thats a big part of what keeps me from just giving up all together.
Is this normal? How can i overcome these sensations?
Hi,
I work from home and I'm lucky to have the extra time available to study and learn new things. I have some days where I am really in a state of flow but then other days I get this feeling where I keep wanting to check my email/phone, I'm not focused and I feel sleepy. I remember this happening when I was at university but I'd really like to nip this in the bud to have more consistency.
Have you ever had this problem? Did you manage to solve it? Could you please give me some tips? I don't drink/like coffee but would be willing to try some kind of supplement that would give me consistency.
EDIT: I also notice that I seem to really wake up and feel focused at around 6pm when it's time to spend time with my family and I can't really study that time
Like I can feel each and every single crumple of my shirt.. or sheets and it annoys the F out of me. I have to keep fixing my clothes until its smooth and there are no more sensation of folds and crumples under my skin. I keep repeating this until my brain feels satisfied. If I don't attend to the feeling.. it feels like not scratching a itch. It goes on for a long time until I have to force myself using some technique to calm down and then finally drift to sleep after being so mentally tired because of this stupid thing.
Anyone else have this issue ? I am trying to figure out the psychology behind this and finding a way to come out of this. Sorry for this weird post.
I confronted my bf because I felt distance between us, and I my intuition felt like he was probably talking to another woman. I confronted him and he told me no, so I asked about the girl whose pictures he puts likes and hearts on. Then he got really fidgety. He told me she was someone he met in 2018 when he was on a Christian dating site, but that he hasn’t spoken to her since then. I find it odd, though that he has been liking/loving ALL of her posts. Every single one. Does him getting fidgety indicates that he’s lying and he is still talking to her?
TLDR; I (39f) confronted my bf (38m) about him liking/loving every single post of a girl he briefly dated in 2018. He got really fidgety and told me he hasn’t spoken to her since 2018. I’m not sure that I believe him, because I don’t understand why he likes every single post. He doesn’t even like/love all of my posts. Does him being fidgety mean he is lying?
