Edit: same with having to fill out all your education/ work background even after providing them your resume…
Christmas is coming and it could be just another day to me. Dating used to be so much more exciting. Now it's all I can do to feign enthusiasm. Nothing seems to excite me anymore. There are no movies that I must see. No fun activities that I can't wait to try.
Is htat normal as we get older? I'm seeing a psychiatrist and taking Effexor. I don't know if the meds are a problem. It's like I have no dopamine. Nothing to pump me up.
I love making music and YouTube videos as a hobby. I've had a few fantastic ideas for videos where I'd go really in depth on an older video game I grew up with, giving facts about it and telling the whole back story. But it seems like the second I hit a small speed bump in my progress, my brain immediately goes "nope, you don't want to do this. You don't have the mental capacity to continue on and solve this problem, go back to leisure time" and it's a hell of a bad time for me. I tend to want to be a perfectionist, so as someone who suffers from this issue, (I've never been officially diagnosed with anything but I seem to relate to an awful lot on this subreddit) it makes me feel terrible knowing I had/have this great idea but I refuse to work on it because it doesn't look/sound exactly how I want it.
It's made learning anything incredibly difficult, especially with my ridiculously bad attention span because the second there's a challenge, my brain doesn't know how to overcome it.
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to at least curb it? It's really getting in the way of my hobbies.
When I'm scrolling Indeed and come across a job with multiple spelling errors, I just can't bring myself to apply for it. Like, if you couldn't even spell check your ad, how is working for you going to go??
I should preface this by saying that I live in Europe, but, I do work a nightshift job, which means my schedule aligns more with NA tournaments.
Recently I was trying to write down my predictions of who would make it through the open qualifiers in both Europe and North America. In NA, obviously there are some familiar names that are shoo-ins, like C9, SEN, NV, XSET, 100T and Rise. After that, it becomes quite interesting though. There are some really exciting tier 2 prospects that are waiting for their big break, like Akrew, Renegades, Knights, Pioneers, Luminosity, Radiance, BBG and Ghost. Then there's also a handful of teams that enjoyed success in the past but have something to prove, like Gen.G, V1 and NRG.
The reason I care about these teams is because I've been watching them play in Knights, NSG and plenty of other tournaments for the last year, allowing these teams to build their own narratives. Big credit should go to all the NA TO's making these amazing tournaments happen on a frequent basis. I've been a fan of ez5 (now Akrew) pretty much ever since I started watching these tier 2 tournaments, and I was on the edge of my seat when they played that 21-19 overtime on Breeze against Knights in one of the NSG summer opens.
Then when I got to my European predictions, I realised I cared a whole lot less. It doesn't help that some of the top teams from last year no longer exist, like Guild and Giants, and that afaik there hasn't been a high profile roster built from scratch (á la SMB) to take their spot. Aside from that though, there's not a lot for me to get excited about, and I found myself looking to names that I haven't heard anything from in 9 months, like Alliance or Vitality.
My feeling about Europe could be the result of several factors. First of all, there's obviously a lower frequency of tier 2 tournaments. When they do happen, a good portion of them are regional tournaments, i.e. a tournament only for French teams, only for German teams, only for Spanish teams, etc. These tournaments are less interesting and competitive to me, and it means that the top tier 2 teams play each other less often. When they do play each other, the tournament is usually high profile enough to attract the top EMEA teams (Red Bull Home Ground for example), which means the tier 2 teams are relegated to the lower tournament placements, and it's hard to get excited about a team coming 8th.
Putting this out there to see if other people feel the same way, or have sug
... keep reading on reddit ➡Most highly desirable women are surrounded by men who are constantly vying for their attention and affection. Thus the guy who is not actively trying to win a woman over can often become the most intriguing to her. (Important Note: This is not a guy who is standing in the corner doing nothing. He is still interacting with the woman, just in a less needy 'take it or leave it' sort of way.)
Overly eager and super thirsty behavior in men tells a woman that the man lacks options and makes it seem like he is trying to seal the deal ASAP before the other party finds a reason to decide against it.
Conversely, a man who comes off a bit disinterested, unsure or skeptical of a woman at first implies to her that he has options, standards, and is not a needy/value seeking type of person. He makes the woman feel like the winner if she is able gain his interest.
Full Video on Topic: https://youtu.be/n1OaOlvEb-4
Do you share this experience or do you recognize yourself?
Lately, this sub seems to be mainly about demanding to be fairly compensated and treated with respect. Of course, this is the very basis.
But I'd like to point out that jobs have to be meaningful too. I know a lot of people in decent to high paying jobs who are just auto-piloting their life until retirement. These people are very important allies for the antiwork movement and recognizing these people in your environment and introducing them to the antiwork movement can help our cause a great deal IMO.
Growing up, we basically just stayed home 24/7.
We never went out to eat, I've never been on holiday/vacation, nobody did any sports, and none of us had any hobbies or interests. Not books, not film, not art, not anything. Just nothing. My parents don't even like music, they find it boring.
This led to me spending most of my time on the internet, and being caught up in my imagined fantasy worlds, fuck knows what the rest of my family did.
We also lived in a rural area, which exacerbated the issue.
When I left for university, I realised a whole world was there that I hadn't experienced. I don't mean travelling south east Asia, I mean the simple shit like getting a coffee, or going to see a movie.
Suggesting anything like that to my parents was just met with "what a waste of money" "I'm tired" and so on. I am still met with this reaction today - they seem genuinely surprised I like to fill my weekends with plans and activities. They are content with sitting in front of the TV for the day.
Every activity is/was just seen in a negative light, and probably pointless. In hindsight, I know it's likely just an expression of their own trauma and neglect. But still, I think it sucked a lot of life out of me, and contributed a lot to my own depression and anxiety.
It doesn't affect me too much these days. I don't live with them anymore, and try pursue a rich (not materially) life. I learn languages, skills, go to restaurants, go to see music and comedy shows - shit sometimes I just like to walk around my city with a friend. Just something other than stagnating at home!
Perhaps this is more r/emotionalneglect material, but I find this sub really validating, and the festive season has reminded me of this thought.
I'm wondering if anyone else can relate to this kind of thing, and/or what your thoughts are on this?
The podcast is getting shorter and shorter in time length, in favour of bullshit advice and "networking" that people are not interested in. We all enjoy watching women respond to RP questions and a nice debate.
Fresh looks so fucking tired. Today his voice is also low, like he cant be fucked expending the energy into the microphone. He keeps on trying to shut down the show at around the 2 hour mark consistently now, everytime he gets a chance he adds in "last thoughts", then Myron continues with the show.
He doesn't say anything, just sits there watching. He copies a word or two from myron and that is it. We also know he does not come from the manosphere and doesn't really believe in the RP. If he is so tired, slow and disinterested in the debate with girls and just keeps on trying to get the show shut down at the 2 hour mark, can he please fuck off?
I wouldn't mind Chris, because Chris also stutters so it would limit his input and Myron can still run the show. Chris also looks way more interested in the RP. Just put Fresh in the background and he can wonder around or leave early and leave it to Mo. We don't need him nor really want him on the Podcast if he keep on injecting "last thoughts".
He has also shutdown really good shows with good and unique guests, like Saints and Sinners and Coach Greg Adams. Just fuck off if you are not interested and stop trying to shut the show down early because you are bored.
I am watching him right now on his phone, looking somewhere else, one of his knees are bouncing up and down and he is not listening just looks aloof, waiting for the moment to interject again and try shut it down.
They need competition. A duo with the same aggression like Myron, with a similar sweet studio that takes it seriously and can go consistently for 3 to 4 hours without ending it early, will challenge them.
So, I'm a relatively new DM, only really ran one-shots set in my homebrew world before this. Recently, I decided to take the plunge and start a short-ish campaign and invited my friends to play. In the first place, apart from one dude, these guys aren't the type of players I'm looking for. Their only experience playing D&D is in my previous games, and they tend to treat it like a videogame.
I have a greater focus on RP and storytelling aspects than combat while they care more about combat. As a result, I spend most of the sessions just giving them random encounters to make things more enjoyable for them. Even then I can still tell that they're not at all into the game (checking their social media and chatting about other stuff in the middle of the game) and I really just feel demoralised. Along with the usual mess of scheduling games, the thought of just cancelling the campaign comes up often, but I don't want to go through with it because I doubt I'd be able to find a new group at all.
Is there anything I can do to improve my game?
I saw a comment recently about fears some people might have on becoming fans and active participants in a fandom. I found the question interesting and at the same time a thought popped in my mind. Whether what factor can make a person hesitant to become a fan, but also what can make a person to lose interest in a Kpop group or any group in general. Other than a busy lifestyle, what could make a fan or even a potential fan become disinterested in a group. I asked this question here because I think this subreddit is a very welcoming, positive, and comforting environment, so please remember this when answering. Thank you 😊
I have problems focusing because of ADD. And while I can write well I just get distract very easily.
I also just run out of steam for a certain idea, like in the middle of the first chapter. How do you guys stay focused? Especially want to help with fellow people with ADD and ADHD.
I've been a fan of progressive rock and metal, including Dream Theater, for years, but also other bands like Rush, Haken, Symphony X, King Crimson, Tool, Porcupine Tree, etc. I've gone to so many different shows, I've seen Dream Theater perform 4 separate times.
Probably this past year or two, I've just become disinterested in music, and part of it is I just don't really care about going to concerts anymore. My buddy invited me to go see Dream Theater and for the first time ever, I just had no interest. 2 years ago I would've jumped at the opportunity, but for some reason this time, I just didn't feel like going.
Has anyone else gone through this? I feel like I just may be falling out of love with music. I've spent the last 10 years going to so many shows, I think it's possible I may have gotten burnt out. Dream Theater is phenomenal live and I recommend that everybody go see them, but I really don't think seeing them perform will ever again have the same magic as it did as seeing them my first or second time. I've already seen almost every single other bucket list band of mine perform live, I don't think anything could ever come close to topping any of the experiences I've already had.
Anyway, I'm just really confused and wondering if anybody here has gone through similar experiences and can share some insight in order to help me make sense of this. I'm 35 years old if that matters, maybe this is just part of getting old.
Why? It makes me wonder wheter I lack charisma and it I could change my approach towards girls. In university and have talked to a couple of girls, not to date but to socialize. But I struggling to understand how to connect with em.
I know guys who just after meeting a girl once have managed to form their entire friend groups with them and develop good friendships. Both being equally interested in the friendship. But in my case it's been the opposite.
I managed to get to know this girl aswell, and even though I had a good time with her, she probably didnt felt the same way. This has happened a couple of time previously aswell. This makes me feel like I am doing something wrong/ saying something wrong and makes me insecure.
At this point I do want to date girls but more than that I want to improve my personality so that instead of me being desperate for women, they chase me. How can I do that?
I don’t even care that season 4 is coming out in a few months. I actually don’t
I used to enjoy Kizzie, Jiyuna and Justin Wong's content until they signed with Panda.
There's just something about Panda videos that feel samey and lacking originality. And not to mention all the damn clickbait.
I know these channels tend to grow after signing with them so I must be in the minority. But honestly I can't watch Panda Global content.
Hi everyone,
I'm a 2nd year PhD in Economics. I don't like what I'm doing, I have two research ideas that didn't take off at all, I'm not even close to having one working paper, and, most importantly, I'm completely disheartened and disinterested in my job. I am already planning on looking for a job/internship next year and leaving in September. Tomorrow, I have a meeting with my supervisor to discuss my progress: I didn't make any since the last time, even if I worked like crazy and I kept on trying everything I could possibly conceive (Economic theory is just about stylized mathematical models), with no success. However, I want to save my wage: should I tell my supervisor I'm really disgusted but what I'm working on, or should I simply pretend to be fine and go on until the end of the year?
Does anyone have any stories or experiences when someone who had kept them on a backburner or was disinterested first, came back to them few weeks/months down the line? How did it go?
Growing up my mum took my and my brother to everything. She always said she didn’t want us to be limited. Mum got us ready for school, made dinners, helped with homework’s, did washing, decorated the house for Halloween/Christmas, made Christmas dinner every year, bought every present herself. Me and my brother have been playing basketball for a local team since we were kids (over 20 years).Never can l remember dad coming to watch us play a game, not once.
I actually don’t remember my dad showing any interest in any activity either myself or my brother have ever done. I feel like we’ve been raised by a single parent. I know for a fact if mum wasn’t there we’d have had a very different life. They were married for 8 years before they had me so it’s not like a child was a big surprise. Is it normal for dads to act this way?
Just went on a date with a girl and I could tell right off the bat that she wasn't into it at all. Tried my best to make conversation and she basically shrugged off everything I said. I asked if she wanted me to take a picture of her in front of this cool giant Olmec head in the museum (it was the Museum of Natural History) and her response was just "no" (and no, I didn't want a picture of her for some pervy reason, I just asked it spontaneously because we were on a date and I wanted to do something fun or the kind of thing people who like each other would do). Predictably she ended up not wanting to see me again, saying we didn't "click". Why is it always like this? Why do they always seem so incredibly bored and deflated at the mere sight of me? Okay, I get it, I'm short and balding and near-sighted and awkward, but so are plenty of other guys who have found meaningful relationships. Why am I so repulsive to them no matter how hard I try?
For me it is Halloween. The original is great. Part 2 is forgettable and Part 3 is ok. I attempted to watch Part 4, but got bored with it after about 30 minutes. I made it through about 45 minutes of the Rob Zombie remake before turning it off.
I’ve watch all the Hellraiser, Leprechaun, Children of the Corn movies, and Howling movies, but for some reason, Halloween is where I draw the line. I love the Friday the 13th movies, but I just can’t connect with Michael Myers as a killer.
I'm 35 year old female. I've been married for 10 years. I know workarounds to having an enjoyable experience, but I'd sure like to also enjoy plain old intercourse. Somebody, please tell me this is not normal.
Anytime I meet new people, I obviously get the dopamine rush of the getting to know them phase, and figuring out what they're like and how they work.
But once that's over, I truly understand how disinterested i become, and can usually become quite distant just because they do not interest me anymore. And I hate it, even friends I always just think of "the good old days" which basically just means I miss the dopamine that came with befriending them and learning about them.
And it makes it hard to be a good friend because I'd rather just get to know new people or just sit and indulge in my other interests for hours on end instead of checking up on friends. Especially after covid it's been difficult because of the object permanence issues. People in my life just seem to not exist sometimes.
I know this also somewhat has to do with my emotional unavailability, but definitely also because of ADHD. I'm just tired of it and wondered if anyone has any advice on how to be able to consistently interact with people you're not interested in :/
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If Komal lurks here….gurl this sub will host a teleparty of the red flags displayed by this man if you want.
Christmas is so nauseating to me. It drones on year after year; filled with gobs of materialistic and religious overtones. I wish it all were dialed down to the extent that people were satisfied enjoying each other's company and celebrating new life experiences together. I'd rather be in gratitude for the living trees in nature, instead of the dying ones in people's homes that are slathered in sparkly lies of happiness and joy.
Please rant on my friends.
My little sheepdog mutt will try and find them behind the TV, inside the TV etc.
But if I put on the same videos for my black lab, she looks for 10 seconds then goes back to napping or whatever. I see her eyes follow the squirrel across the screen a couple times, then glaze over with disinterest. And she's absolutely squirrel crazy. But she couldn't care less about them when they are on a 60 inch 4k TV 6 feet away. Does she not recognize them for what they are? As much as she chases squirrels, and tries to ambush them by barreling out the back door before they get a chance to go into the trees, I doubt she gets any kind of a good look at them.
Or does she know it's not real? Or maybe the 60 fps of the TV looks weird, like a jittery show or a book being flipped through or something?
No sex or bad, obligatory sex as a presenting issue to a deeper underlying issue. What do you think are true underlying issues?
I see a couple possibilities for Connor of 20 years ago, Logan saw he was a bust, so he never included him, Connor tried but failed at being part of the company, or Connor never even tried and always wanted his own thing (while reaping the rewards).
Was this answered and I missed it?
