I've been feeling extra emotional lately, very scattered, I've cried a lot today. We (my partner and I) believe my period is probably coming soon.
I don't really know what to do with myself in these times usually, but then I remembered something I had done when I was having an anxiety attack and decided to turn the dial up on it. You see, more and more I've liked the idea of dancing around a fire with a bunch of other witches naked in the woods, it just seems so freeing, so joyous, so human. I can not do that though, I do not have a coven and I do not have any woods I would feel safe dancing in at night, let alone being naked in. So I tried the next best thing, I stripped to just my boots, popped on my dressing gown and headed for the back door, to delve into my unkempt, overgrown garden, to throw off my accouterments and dance naked in the dark.
And I felt? Well, I felt like this garden is incredibly overlooked and has that street light always shined so bright and jesus wept my skin is so day glow white I must look like I'm luminescing out here. I headed further into the garden, pricked by thorns and stung by nettles I found the darkest part to shed my cocoon and emerge as the moon goddess I am. I did a little dance, in the small space I felt safe to move in, I felt free, I felt joy, I felt cold, I felt stung, I felt human. I felt.
After my short dance I headed back up the garden to light a candle and say a spell of courage to myself. It was hard to light the candle in the wind, like it has been hard for me to actualize my wants and needs lately. But it lit, it flickered and quivered, and I said "I am me, I feel, I will flicker and flame and" then the candle blew out, so I continued, "I will end, I will feel and I will return to ash and smoke, but I shall still be here, like the smoke that rises from the candle hanging in the air."
I thought about how all things come to an end, my turbulent feelings will end, my body will end, but an end is just a change, as all things change. I wondered if my candle will be relit, certainly these turbulent times will come again, and blow out again, and come around again etc etc.
I embrace that for now I am feeling in technicolour. I embrace my body, which is wondrous. I embrace the 'me' which I am right now.
I am now sitting inside in the warm, enjoying the tingle of my nettle stings and the memories they bring.
I'd love to see Tyler try dance choreography for this song.
So in my country it’s customary to have a band play after dinner to kick the party off and they normally play a 2 hour set, followed by a DJ who plays for another 2 hours and plays requests. The band really sets the tone of the party though.
The vast majority of wedding bands here play a broad range of genres - hit songs through the decades and as well as current hits to cater for the age range of guests - think Johnny Cash to Ed Sheehan. I find most of the typical wedding bands generic and same-y but there’ll be a few songs I like.
My FH and I have found a band that plays music we really like (90’s hip hop and r’n’b). He thinks we should book them because they’re what we’re into, but I’m worried we’re taking a huge risk that very few guests will enjoy them or know the songs. It’s hugely important to me that people will dance and have a good time. I’d die if the dance floor was empty!
Would you ‘do you’ or try appeal to the masses?
Hi everyone, my MIL passed away unexpectedly Saturday morning. My wedding is on the 30th of this month. My officiant is going to mention some nice things about my MIL during the ceremony. However, the mother - groom dance portion is going to be heart wrenching. We don’t have to have a memorial type thing because it’s just too fresh. Has anyone skipped out on the dance all together?? We would have all the mother and sons come and dance but there won’t be that many honestly. So that’s not an option. Let me know some ideas or thoughts please. I feel guilty having my father - daughter dance if he can’t have his mother-son dance. :(
I was wondering if there is any bar/disco where one can dance and listen to 70's-90's pop and more alternative pop music in Cph. I was just listening to New Order now and wondering if there was a place like that :) Thanks!!
Any Tips And Suggestions Are Welcome
Soooo long story short, my dad is a piece of work. He didn’t know how to be an emotionally available dad to my sisters and I when we were little girls. And as a result we have complicated and strained relationships as adults. I’m getting married in 11 months and I have no clue what to do for father daughter dance. If we did one it would just feel fake and not representative of the relationship we have. Honestly it would make me sad, bc it would remind me of what we don’t have. When my sister got married they did a father daughter “shot” together. I don’t want to do that, I want to do our own thing. But I have no clue what.
I know my big brother and uncles would be willing to do the dance, but considering my dad is still with my mom/helping pay for the wedding/and will be there….that seems like it’ll just be a slap in the face. That’s also not something I’m comfortable doing.
Suggestions on what to do? My fiancé and his mom will do the mother son dance…so not doing it I feel like would be kinda obvious. I just want some sort of alternative…
We aren't having any dancing at the wedding so feel it would be awkward If that came out of nowhere. It's a very intimate affair, lakeside, yard games, kayaks, fire pit, board games, cozy garden party vibes. Any ideas are much appreciated!!!! I don't want to just do nothing, I like the symbolism behind a first dance, we just aren't dancers.
