When god died, and modernity began- the pursuit of self-actualisation was born.
When I think back on my 20s, It was a decade of this single pursuit which I now see as synonymous with finding god. Finding myself. Trying on different ideologies. Glorifying different institutions. Finding my social role. Taking part in the culture war.
Finding god, today, is a highly individual exercise, 'self-actualisation'. We are left to create our own mental map of existence. Of our place within this world. Our values and our pursuits. To do this ourselves is exhausting.
Maybe we should work towards some form of communal-actualisation? Something that doesn't feel like we have to do this whole thing called life from the ground up. Something where we are not materially and spiritually alone.
Modernity says it's a privilege to self-actualise, in actuality- you're doing the hard work that used to belong to the gods. It's not a privilege, it's an obligation.
The promise of self-actualisation is to have that which you are lacking, fulfilled- and in this fulfilment to transcend suffering. That there is utopia beyond that which you lack. That a world without contradiction and antagonism can exist.
Within Christianity, for example, you accept yourself as inherently lacking, now and always. And through this acceptance, is your salvation beyond it. And it is only through the grace of god, a supernatural force, that you are able to hold the ultimate contradiction- that to suffer has great meaning. That suffering is part of a much bigger plan. That it is not to be avoided (or sought), but welcomed.
It took a decade of spiritual and existential wandering, but I'm at a place right now where I accept this truth in a secular way. When I turned 29 last week I expected to look at my 20s and feel everything I didn't do. Feel everything I missed out on. All the pain I could have avoided. All the people I lost.
But instead I feel that everything it lacked, belonged. It is very human to aim for things and miss. To wander aimlessly without direction. To not get the girl. To feel inadequate. To fuck up immensely. Everything that I thought my 20s lacked, actually made it whole.
When god died, we thought that we could become him. That we could transcend the human condition- the great lie of modernity.
I mean I sort of know how it works- angels believe certain things about themselves enough, often subconsciously, but it’s not clear what the limits are. You’d think it’s only themselves they effect but we have Amenadiel slowing and one time even stopping time. Rory travelled backwards and forwards, Uriel can control patterns and probability, Lucifer can bring out people’s deepest desires whilst Michael can get people to admit their greatest fear, so clearly it has an external effect. Does anyone else have a more clear cut perspective on how it works?
I found Bruce Lee was a very fascinating and inspiring person. He wasn't only a martial arts master but essentially a philosopher who created a way of being based on the spiritual and physical aspects of the martial arts. I found two concepts of him: Self-Actualization and Being like Water (formless) highly adaptable in terms of daily stoic life. I wrote more about it in my blog post, you can read if you're interested, hope you find it valuable and helpful :)
Kurt Goldstein coined the term self-actualisation in 1939 and the term reached prominence as the summit of Abraham Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. It describes the concept of self-fulfilment and reaching one's potential.
It's a concept that has bothered me for some time. I identify extremely strongly with the concept, I'm happy, fulfilled and optimistic. I experience difficult setbacks as painful but glancing blows. I consider myself extremely resilient as a result.
I've reflected on this a lot but can't seem to avoid the conclusion that my self actualisation has been enabled and strengthened by the white-cis-patriarchal forces that dominate Western culture. My privilege let me reap these silent advantages for many years before I even acknowledged they were real.
It's of paramount importance that we develop a society that promotes self-actualisation for everyone.
Yet part of me fears that the entire concept of self-actualisation is steeped in privilege. An inaccessible luxury afforded only to the dominant demographics backed by societal institutions. Would I even feel self-actualised if my identity characteristics were changed and everything else stayed the same?
I'm still not sure how to feel about this.
Prayer by definition involves communication, but is otherwise similar. Is there a more general term for the act of trying to think something into existence?
Edit: Not necessarily looking for a single word, but "ITAT (is there a term) for" wasn't an option.
Please help
In new actualisation I can't craft green potions it desapears after few seconds
I understand that Maslow believed that self actualisation was the goal of every human being, and that reaching self actualisation leads to personality. I have found many articles that describe the characteristics and personality of someone who has reached self actualisation. I can't seem to find anything on how Maslow's theory affects the personality of people who are not self actualised. I would assume it would be something like, if you are stuck at the love and belongingness need, then you may be clingy, or nervous around making friends/dating, but I can't seem to find any evidence for this assumption. Any articles I can read would also be appreciated!
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I was once told that- I go crazy about guys and get bored after a while. One thing I realised about myself today is.. I'm fond of guys so much, it's bcuz I never loved myself COMPLETELY & UNCONDITIONALLY. I used to spend more time with guys, as they flaunted me all the time, which made me feel good about myself. However after a while they start treating me normal, that's when I don't feel the spark anymore and I move on.
The fact is.. I always searched for acceptance from others instead of ACCEPTING MYSELF. I need SELF-LOVE, SELF-ACCEPTANCE and SELF-ACTUALISATION
If ur asked to list the things u LOVE, let ur name be the FIRST 😊
You are The Lioness
, a witch living on the edge of the medieval kingdom of Larion. You have a wand and a pet alligator named King Judas. As you sit in your swamp hut mixing a magical potion, you hear a knock at the door. You open it and see a large orc standing before you. "I am Chief Gro'tesk," he says in a low, rumbling voice, "and I need your help." As a witch, it is your duty to help the downtrodden, but you are also an outcast who is wary of all strangers.
> You say "I've never been conferred by one of your kind before, what does this mean?" "It means that my beloved wife is sick, dying! You're a witch, so help her!" Gro'tesk says. You tell him that you need to see Big Jesus about this. Big Jesus is a tall orc who lives in a large yurt at the center of town.
> You say "Unless... Are you even part of the tribe?" "Yes! I am Chief Gro'tesk!" he says with a hint of anger. "No, I mean that you haven't been conferred to by Big Jesus... We don't exactly let just any stray orcs into our fold." Big Jesus appears from his yurt and begins to converse with the orc. "You seek to join the tribe?" he asks. > You listen carefully. "I'm already part of a great orc tribe," Gro'tesk says, "but I need help." Big Jesus sniffs at the air and looks at the sky.
> You say "His wife is dying Jesus!" "I know the situation," Big Jesus says, "but I have to follow our traditions." He tells you to go and see the other religious leaders. You go to see Elder Hawkins first. He lives in a small house on top of a hill. When you arrive, he seems happy to see you. "Ah, The Witch of Las Montañas!
> You say "Good to see you old man. Let a woman speak to you for just one second" As the old man invites you in, you can hear the sound of a woman screaming coming from inside the house. "Shut up, woman!" he says, hitting her over the head with a large leather-bound book. You enter and sit down in a rocking chair.
> You say "I see you two have made up. Can't blame you for being hard on her from time to time. She's driving me mad with the old love potion too" Elder Hawkins looks at you, a confused look on his face. "What's this about a love potion?" You ask him if he's been naked in front of his chiminea recently. "Yes... Well no! It's been too cold at night to do that!" You tell him that he should go and check, and quickly.
> You make yourself a tea and wait. While elder Hawkins is outside, you strike up conversation with the woman. The woman is h
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Hey people, I had this brainwave about people feeling like "the detective" 's story is over; a lot of people will take different things from the ending, but I think a lot of the sense of resolution that the ending contained was in the sense of your character as someone who finds meaning and understanding, actually makes their life right in some small way, and gets back into their job, maybe gets Kim as a partner etc.
Potentially moving beyond addiction and heartbreak, or coping with both but seeing miracles in the world that keep you moving, finding ways to do good along the way like the missing person case..
So after all that, after having found a way to recognise a sense of yourself and slot back into your job, where can you go?
The interesting thing for me is in exploring what it means to be a good detective in a world where (unlike Martinaise, where no one expects anything of you, and you are bringing policing to this world) you are trying to slot into a role you're good at, that you've worked for, that you feel gives you something productive and rewarding to do, while the whole context is pushing you in another direction.
Like being a perfect bullet, but you cannot aim the gun, so your only choice not to hit someone is to become a bad bullet.
We see examples of this in Klassje; I mean, did anyone actually put her under arrest? I know I didn't. It's presented in some way as her "tricking" you, but the question remains avoided there about whether you really want to actually arrest anyone, whether you believe in this court system and it's laws and what things it thinks matter, and what it doesn't think about at all.
The people of Jamrock will have a lot of ideas of what they expect a good detective to be, the obligations and the things you have to do, the things they want from you, there's lots of potential social esteem out there for you to get, and instead of the collectable theoretically grudging respect of Martinaise, where once you get over your initial down position, everyone basically cooperates, there's no New-Vegas-esque factional choice you have to make -
And as an aside, I think that's good actually; instead of replaying it trying to get "into" another faction and portray another identity for the content it gives you, the game is pretty relaxed about giving you immediate access to these different people and their information. Evrart hides things from you, and isn't on your side, but the transactional nature of your relations
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I am really reluctant to use the label 'Spiritual Path' and the like..I think because of the damning stereotypes that can get attached to the watery levels of spirituality.
I mean the work that's described as transformation in the sense of Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy.
So I guess I just wondered how many INFPs are out there doing this stuff. What do you get up to? What do you read? Do you think that this path is particularly helpful or linked in some way to the way an INFP experiences the world?
