Basically what the title says. Has anyone dealt with progressive hearing loss in old age, and does it eventually get to the point where sign language would be better for communicating? He has really good hearing aids but he still has a lot of trouble hearing with them. I want him to feel like he can communicate as regularly and normally as possible, so I'm thinking maybe I should learn it preemptively. I wanted to get this community's opinions though, especially since it would be a considerable amount of work to learn, and to convince my family members to learn too.
Also, does anyone have advice on progressive hearing loss and how to better understand my dad and what sorts of things might be helpful for him day-to-day? I've been a mumbler my whole life so talking loud enough has taken some getting used to. Apologies if this has been asked a lot before or anything like that!
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Edit: Thanks to everyone for your help! I have not heard of terms like "enantiosemy" before, and there are way more examples than I initially thought.
ETA: Not asking for judgement on the personal medical decision MY family made for OUR daughter. She has not had an interest in an implant but if she does later on, the option is available. We wanted her to have the choice, but also to grow up in deaf culture. I am not going to defend this anymore to Internet randoms, but please consider researching deaf opinions on the matter. As a hearing person, I can only give a very limited perspective.
Hi all. I (30F) am hearing, married to a deaf man (32M) - I’m going to call him Walter - and we have a deaf daughter (6F) - I’ll call her Cora. Walter comes from a primarily deaf family but my family is all hearing. We have chosen to raise Cora with sign language and not go for an implant - this is simply for context, I am NOT seeking judgement on this!
Before Walter and I got married, my parents began to take classes to learn ASL, as did my brother and his family. My sister, Emily, took them for a bit but ended up not continuing due to “lack of interest.” She and her husband have not taken any lessons, nor have their 3 children. Walter tried introducing their daughter to baby sign when she and Cora were both very young but my brother in law asked him to stop, as he didn’t want to “confuse her.” Cora and her cousins play as best they can with the language barrier but it’s extremely frustrating for her to feel like she isn’t being understood. When my brother’s children (who visit only a few times a year) visit, they interpret for her, or Walter and I have to constantly be looking over their shoulders to help resolve their miscommunications, which is too helicopter parent for me.
When we learned Cora was deaf, Emily pestered me about getting her an implant and continues to send me shame-y Facebook posts about the benefits of the implant and those videos of babies hearing for the first time. She constantly says it’s “better than having to learn two languages.” She’s been very pushy about it, to the point she and Walter got in a heated argument over it. Since then, she has not pestered him about it, only me.
My last straw was this past weekend. Emily was with all her kids, teaching them a game. I noticed that Cora wasn’t joining, so I brought her over and Emily outright told me that Cora couldn’t play, because it’s a game “for people who can speak.” I was fuming and pulled her aside. I told her that my daughter can communicate, just not how Emily wants, and said that I won’t have my daughter excluded for something so
... keep reading on reddit ➡When I was 18 I was in an accident that caused TBI, resulting in me losing most of my hearing in both ears, making me deaf. I didn't qualify for cochlear implants, so being deaf was just my new reality.
Obviously this derailed my life for a while. University got pushed back, and I was depressed for a long time. Eventually I got back out there, discovered the deaf community, learned ASL (american sign language), and at 26 I now feel very content with my life.
My parents were devastated by my accident, and our relationship has never been the same. A few years ago I told them I have embraced being deaf, and I asked them if they would learn ASL, as that is now how I prefer to communicate. They said no at the time because they didn't have time to learn a new language. I have tried many times over the years to try to give them information on deafness and ASL, but they have shown no interest.
We communicate now mainly by using voice-to-text on our phones, which is far from perfect, and very chaotic when multiple people are talking. Trying to keep up with conversations is exhausting, and people are constantly getting frustrated with me for not following along. Often we watch movies, but they refuse to turn the captions on because it's "annoying", despite the fact that it means I can't understand the movie at all.
This past Christmas, I once again struggled with conversations, which once again resulted in me being either ignored or yelled at. Before I went home again, I sat my parents down and told them that if they did not begin to learn ASL, I would not be visiting again for a long time. I told them I don't expect them to ever be fluent, but I need them to show effort in learning. I told them that they have continuously dismissed my needs as a deaf person, and that if they want to continue to have a meaningful relationship with me, we need to have some kind of shared language.
This didn't go over well at all, as my parents accused me of wanting to cut them off, which isn't true. I just can't do any more visits where my presence feels like a burden. My brother and I have been texting since then, and he thinks I'm being hugely unfair.
So AITA?
EDIT I can't respond to everyone, but thank you everyone so much for your kind words and support. I have been spending the last few days wondering if I'm being unreasonable or dramatic, as even though my friends (most of whom are deaf) support me, I didn't know what the hearing would would think of this. I can n
... keep reading on reddit ➡I read that Norwegian speakers can understand 90% of Danish (writing only) and somewhat 75%->83% of Swedish (in speaking). If that is true, then
Does a language like Norwegian also exist in other families such as Romance (French, Italian, Spanish, and Portuguese) and Slavic (Russian, Ukrainian, Polish, and Bulgarian)?
It lets you watch Netflix/YouTube with two sets of subtitles (one Swedish, one English), has an option to auto-pause after each piece of dialogue, so you can read and understand both, and has a pop-up dictionary which you can access by mousing over the subtitles.
Link: Language Learning with Netflix & YouTube
Note: it does not work with Viaplay or SVT play.
In Swedish ur- can also be used as a prefix to some words in order refer to something ancient and, similarly, in German ur- refers to to first of something.
If there is a connection, how has this connection been preserved in languages? Or is it a coincidence that Sumerians are credited with having innovated the 60 second/60 minute method of timekeeping and the word UR being closely related to time in some form in a handful of modern languages?
(this post was removed from /r/AskHistorians, wondering if it fits here better? Grateful for any answers!)
My first time meeting a deaf person was when I was 17. He came into the restaurant I worked at and I took his order, he had typed it out on his phone and let me take his phone to type back to clarify a few things. I was so distraught that I couldn't even say thank you or goodbye to him or his wife, they looked so kind. I so badly wanted to tell them that I hoped they had a great day but all I could do was wave and smile!! So I learned how to say a few things. Next time they came back I said hello, told them my name, and I was able to say "thank you, goodbye!" before they left. I was so happy to be able to speak to them they way they did a little bit, even though they still had to order by typing.
They only came to the restaurant once more, then I never saw them again. They seemed happy to see me, smiling big and waving to be as soon as they saw me, & I know I was just so excited to be able to talk to them in a way that didn't (fully) require texting. After that I forgot most of my sign until I got to college and a friend was taking ASL classes as she was going to be a teacher & wanted to be able to speak to any student she had, she also was working on Spanish and another language if I remember correctly. She'll be an amazing teacher. So I started learning again, from her, and thank God I did because a close family member of mine recently woke up completely deaf, let's call him K. He'd been becoming hard of hearing slowly, but suddenly it was just.... gone. He and his wife have been using text messaging to talk to eachother now.
I've always read about how isolating it can be when deaf & surrounded by hearing people. Language barriers of all kinds can make things so lonely.. Plus, K is in his late sixties and, y'know, old dogs don't always want to learn new tricks. He's can be hard to handle sometimes as he can be rather abrasive, but he's family to me & there's nothing I wouldn't do for him & his wife, even if his is a grouch sometimes. I don't know if he'll try to learn it or not, to be honest.
So I sent his wife every resource I had on ASL, every tip I could think of (like printing out hand signs for common objects and taping them to the object) and while they try to figure out whats going on with the doctors, I started writing letters since we can't talk on the phone anymore. It breaks my heart knowing he's struggling, especially because I know his children are the type who will sit around him and talk to eachother but not bother
... keep reading on reddit ➡I remember the name having something in a nordic language like fjord or something similar. There are people walking and sometimes a korean appears in an old tv yelling stuff lol. And sometimes i think they walk single filed on a bridge one behind the other. And then you see them on an old tv, camera zooms out. The rythm is kinda techno genre, or house not sure
You never know when it might come in handy
I would really like to try those out, especially the first 3 languages would be great since i understand them a little.
It's my fault really. I offered and they said yes. Christmas here is on the 24th, help please. Its not that I can't use Google, but I really want to show them my Malaysian side BUT because my lazyass haven't cooked for so long, I cannot brain lah. I would love to get any inspiration or ideas from you! Something easy for me to pull off, but it'll make me look like a damn pro after. I want to blow their taste buds away. Well, at least that's the dream.
We eat everything, no diet restrictions. Though there's 2 attendees that don't really like spicy food that much.
My problem, I can't find any pre-mix, or most of the Malaysian ingredients required to do most things. So no ikan bilis here, the curry powder smells weird, no cendol, no pandan..
Rough ideas I have, nasi lemak (I really don't know how to do sambal though) vs nasi ayam. I don't know which one suit better. And for dessert, I thought about kek batik indulgence because I'm extra, but maybe it's too hard to pull off.
What 3 course malaysian dishes match well? What's your favourite easy to cook dish? Share with me all your food secrets, all those killer recipes you have in hand. Preferably not time consuming/ stressful. There was one time when I tried to pull off birthday dinner and do this chocolate dipped strawberries tower, the chocolate didn't harden and I pretty much had a breakdown due to frustration, stress and feeling like failure.
Bonus point if you link some fool-proof recipes!
Seems like a simple fix to me. If you have to learn Spanish in the US so you can communicate with Spanish speakers, that still leaves out the entire rest of the world. So why not we all learn sign language to communicate with everyone?
