What happens when men become so terrible women can’t realistically ignore or excuse it any longer? What happens when our rose tinted spectacles get crushed one too many time’s? What happens when we emerge from this tornado of misogyny, squinting from exhaustion and our eyes begin to clear? What happens when we realise we’re not alone in our views- in fact we’re in good company worldwide?
What happens when we can’t keep friendships with Pickmeisha’s because our sisters are so broken, they’ve become too toxic to keep around? Or even worse... they actively turn against us. What happens when we can’t stand to see our mothers go back to abusers and stick their fingers in their ears anymore? What happens when we can’t find it in us to give the benefit of the doubt because we are being shot at from all angles and there’s little point in it all anymore?
A big fucking wave of repressed anger from disgruntled women happens and we have a modern suffragette 2.0 style movement on the move.
You can feel it. I can feel it in the air.
There is already backlash on the way against big porn- for years it has churned out racist, sexist, violent degrading material made accessible to anyone- without much of a slap on the wrist. It has primed the minds of many abusers and rapists. It has objectified many women and made them less safe. It has allowed men to upload videos of them raping women.
It has resulted in many domestic violent incidents and female deaths. It has given many women mental health issues from sheer exhaustion. It has ruined many relationships, marriages and kids. It has turned many ‘innocent looking’ fathers into raging pedophiles who wank off to taboo thoughts of having sex with their teen daughters. It has encouraged teenage boys and grown men to seek girls to spit on, choke, slap and degrade. Dating apps only aid them and widen their fishing pool. It is poison and its everywhere.
Walking down your highstreet you can too easily forget that this is what many men are keeping in their google histories. It’s too easy to forget the seething misogyny many ‘seemingly normal’ men are masking behind alternate personas online.
Reddit primarily benefits from hosting this content and fuelling such misogynist communities. It has actively allowed communities where men wank off to women looking dead behind the eyes. It actively encourages rape culture by allowing pick up artist and ‘seduction’ communities to fester. It has been no surprise to anyone that deranged
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Enjoy this bite-sized excerpt from bell hooks' book "Feminism is for Everybody"
Please post below your thoughts and comments on this text!
"Sisterhood is still powerful"
When the slogan “Sisterhood is powerful” was first used, it was awesome. I began my full-fledged participation in feminist movement my sophomore year in college. Attending an all women’s college for a year before I transferred to Stanford University, I knew from firsthand experience the difference in female self-esteem and self-assertion in same-sex classrooms versus those where males were present. At Stanford males ruled the day in every classroom. Females spoke less, took less initiative, and often when they spoke you could hardly hear what they were saying. Their voices lacked strength and confidence. And to make matters worse we were told time and time again by male professors that we were not as intelligent as the males, that we could not be “great” thinkers, writers, and so on. These attitudes shocked me since I had come from an all-female environment where our intellectual worth and value was constantly affirmed by the standard of academic excellence our mostly female professors set for us and themselves.
Indeed, I was indebted to my favorite white female English professor who thought I was not getting the academic guidance I needed at our women’s college because they did not have an intensified writing program. She encouraged me to attend Stanford. She believed that I would someday be an important thinker and writer.
At Stanford my ability was constantly questioned. I began to doubt myself. Then feminist movement rocked the campus. Female students and professors demanded an end to discrimination based on gender inside and outside the classroom. Wow, it was an intense and awesome time. There I took my first women’s studies class with the writer Tillie Olsen, who compelled her students to think first and foremost about the fate of women from working-class backgrounds. There the scholar and one-day biographer of Anne Sexton, Diane Middlebrook, passed out one of my poems in our class on contemporary poetry with no name on it and asked us to identify whether the writer was male or female, an experiment that made us think critically about judging the value of writing on the basis of gender biases. There I b
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> We all knew firsthand that we had been socialized as females by patriarchal thinking to see ourselves as inferior to men, to see ourselves as always and only in competition with one another for patriarchal approval, to look upon each other with jealousy, fear, and hatred. Sexist thinking made us judge each other without compassion and punish one another harshly.
I’ll accept that the cultural narratives led women to see themselves as inferior to men but the rest of this statement, about women competing with each other for “patriarchal approval” shows both a lack of empathy for men and a denial of women’s responsibility.
Women tend to show an in-group bias which favors other women over men in general. Men tend not to show such a bias in favor of other men. In fact they generally show a bias against other men, in favor of women.
Women may see each other as competition but they also identify with each other in ways men generally do not. Men generally see other men only as competition and ultimately what they are competing for is female approval.
Women may seek approval from “the patriarchy”. But they also seek approval from each other. Women, in general, police gender norms, both male and female, through displays of approval or disapproval. Most women want to be popular among other women. You can’t look at the behavior of a female high-school clique and honestly say that it’s predominantly male approval they are competing for.
> Female bonding was not possible within patriarchy; it was an act of treason.
This does not fit with the fact that women tend to have more and stronger social connections to other women than men do to other men. I assume she’s using a conveniently restrictive definition of bonding.
I also wonder what her opinion is about the modern situation in which male bonding has become taboo. Not that this is only a recent trend. Women protested coffee houses because they gave men a place to gather and talk among other men and prohibition was, in part, motivated by women’s discomfort with men gathering in bars.
> To demand control of our sexuality,
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--- Andrea Dworkin, "Right-wing Women"
Y’all, FDS has been a serious game changer for me. I’ve grown from such a pickme into a strong and thriving woman and it’s all because FDS has helped me see through all the lies.
Here are the hard lessons I learned along the way; lessons I only could have learned with this community consolidating my levelling up and teaching me to stop 🛑 taking 🛑 s h i t:
- When you’re an Asian or POC woman, everyone will expect you to behave a certain way.
I’ve had the displeasure of encountering racism and prejudice from men and women alike and let me tell you, it doesn’t matter how much you ‘level up’ when you don’t respect and empathise with marginalised communities. People have been shocked at my growing unwillingness to take anyone’s shit because I learned to value myself and stand up for situations that threaten my boundaries. Especially with the rise in hate crimes against POC, it’s become increasingly important to employ intersectionality with feminism as a way to support women rather than do so for the clout. Levelling up applies to all areas of life, not just dating.
- Invest in your career.
So many men expect you to just ditch your jobs for ~domestic life~ without providing the means for you to sit back and chillax. Bro, if you’re not making a 6 figure salary for me to watch Netflix all day for free, don’t bother saying that. I wisened up pretty quickly when one of my exes tried pushing me to be a stereotypical housewife and ever since I literally moved across the country to pursue my education, my career has been my top priority. I love my family and they have supported me all the way, and because of them I’ve been able to invest in my career and see through any annoying bs these LVM fed me to further their own interests. Invest in you!
- Learn how to navigate difficult workplace issues.
I’ve said it before - I’m a young Asian woman and that comes with a ridiculous set of socially ingrained, racially driven biases. Old male patients (I’m a healthcare student) have made not so subtle advances at me and my superiors have used their power and status to try to intimidate me. It’s almost impossible not to bite back and and tell these scrotes off but the reality is that the game is set against us. I had to learn to be smarter and use their preconceptions about me to my advantage so that I can finish off my degree. I never voiced my anger beyond telling to them stop their behaviour but I sure as hell am reporting these incidents when I have a degre
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Ok so i was binging Mentor Lisa in a nutshell vids on YouTube cause they’re funny asl and decided to check out the survival show Lisa was mentoring on (Youth With You 2) and was blown away omfggg kpop needs to step up their game cause China’s leagues above imo watch the performances from ywy2 and you’ll see what i mean (also check out Chuang 2020 cause holy shit)
anyway enough of me fangirling lol (seriously tho i highly recommend you watch the performances from both survival shows) the ywy2 contestants were really friendly and it was a nice change of pace to watch a competition with a cordial atmosphere
though everyone was very pally with each other the friendship between esther yu and zhao xiaotang was the best part as well as the funniest aspect ahaha
they debuted together and I’m SO jealous of their friendship omgg they’re the definition of platonic soulmates like wth?? where tf is my best friend??? fuck Romeo and Juliet i want what these bitches have
esther even stated in an interview that her mom had told her to make friends during the competition and to find a life long friend to be neighbors with when she’s a little old lady and said that person is xiaotang TT and xiaotang cried upon hearing that I’m- they’re always holding hands too TT don’t touch me I’m soft
bruh i just want someone to hold my hand under the bathroom stall for emotional support while pooping in public is that too much to ask??
I remember reading that the Emperor's Children were given the right to use the wing of the Aquila as their chapter icon as a special honour. Does that mean that you cannot use the Aquila or its elements in your iconography willy-nilly? So you can't, say, place the Aquila on your shoulderpads unless you earned it.
Tldr:; My guy friend got confessed to by this girl who he'd been friends with for 4 years. He let her down easy with the general message of "I just don't have feelings that way towards you." Emotionally I wanted to punch his face in. WTH?!
So my friend let's say Brian has a friend who's a last named Anna. Anna has a history of anxiety which she's been institutionalized for and also a history of alcohol and drug abuse. I haven't met Anna more than two times and generally keep drama like her away from my life.
Brian and Anna have been friends for 4 years. Last night Anna confessed that she loves Brian to Brian and that she'd like to date him. Brian let her down super nice and easy.
When I heard the news from Brian I immediately wanted to punch him in the face. I don't know why. Instinctively I'm all like "How could you crush her hopes like that! You are depressed Brian are you sure? You haven't had a date in like 10 years maybe you should have given it a shot. Girls got issues and you couldn't even see a way to try with her? Are you holding her past against her? What is wrong with you Brian!"
Now I said none of those things. But having been on HRT for almost 3 years and having experienced all new emotions before I was ready to hold my tongue.
I was just totally shocked I had such a negative reaction to Brian doing the right thing. It was incredibly wierd for me.
Anyone else have a similar experience or am I alone in this strangeness?
With Thirty-Nine coming up (Eeeeee! I can't wait! But now I'm afraid that I've hyped it up too much for myself) I started thinking about how sisterhoods (womance is a stupid word), especially ones with three women, have become more common in drama land, especially in the past few years. I know that Be Melo and Search WWW get a lot of love in this subreddit - I wasn't a big fan of Search WWW, but I adore Be Melo. As I thought about this more, I realized that there have been sisterhoods of three in K-dramas for quite a while now, even if they're more understated than the current ones. Here's a list of all of the sisterhoods of three I can think of in dramaland. I'm probably missing some, so if you can think of any, please let me know!
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The Woman Who Still Wants To Marry (2010): This is the earliest sisterhood of three drama that I know of, and in many ways, it's sort of a combination of things that more recent dramas have featured more prominently. Like Search WWW, its central romance is a Noona romance (featuring Kim Beom!) and our leading ladies are confident career women (I liked Park Jin-Hee and Kim Beom in this show a lot more than I liked Jung Soo-Jung and Jang Ki-Yong though). Like Be Melo, the ladies are all besties, and two of them are even roommates at the beginning of the show. I felt like the friendships in this one vibed strongly like the friendships in Be Melo, if less quirky. Like the sisterhood in Because This Is My First Life, the show uses the three women to contrast different approaches to marriage - Bu-Ki (Wang Bit-Na) is the one who doesn't plan on marrying, Shin-Young (Park Jin-Hee) does want to get married but only if she finds someone she really loves, and Da-Jung just wants to get married to a decent guy who's well-qualified. It's been a while since I watched this show, but I remember enjoying it thoroughly. The title is a bit unwieldy, but I loved the show, and all three of our leading ladies - especially Bu-Ki, who was all kinds of cool.
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Reply 1988: You're probably thinking, "Where's the sisterhood in this? If anything, doesn't this have more bromantic relationships?" Although the sisterhood in this is a fairly understated part of the show, I absolutely loved the relationship between the Ahjumma trio - they were just automatically there for each other through everything, whether that meant financial difficulties or just bedroom talk. One of my favorite moments of this trio was when Deok-Sun's mom was embarrassed to ask Ch
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