The full press release is available to read and download here.
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The Gabby Petito Foundation, started by the family of Gabby Petito, is on a mission to support organizations assisting families in locating missing persons, and to provide support to organizations that assist survivors of domestic violence through education, awareness and prevention.
The foundation, which has received generous contributions from people around the world, is giving three significant donations this month to the National Domestic Violence Hotline (The Hotline), SafeSpace, and The AWARE Foundation.
“These three organizations are doing incredible work on the front lines of missing persons and responding to those impacted by abuse,” said Joe Petito, Gabby Petito Foundation co-founder and Gabby’s father. “Our foundation is honored to present them with this support.”
SafeSpace’s mission is to empower adult victims of domestic violence and their children through intervention, prevention and advocacy services. Since its founding in 1979, SafeSpace has provided nearly half a million safe nights of shelter to more than 40,000 victims and children throughout the Treasure Coast of Florida.
This grant award will be used to support SafeSpace opening a 19-bed emergency shelter in Indian River County early in 2022.
The AWARE Foundation (AWARE), started in 2016, assists families of missing persons to raise awareness by distributing flyers, securing billboards, working with media and holding events. This organization supports families with their most critical needs when a loved one is missing. Gabby’s parents first turned to AWARE for help to get the word out that Gabby was missing.
“Gabby's family decided to make a difference. They could have grieved in silence, and everyone would have understood, but instead they chose to help other families and survivors through the Gabby Petito Foundation,” said Kenny Jarels of AWARE. AWARE worked closely with the Petito family during the search for Gabby and was named an "Everyday Hero" by the Investigation Discovery Network in 2020.
If you or someone you know is experiencing relationship abuse in any form, help is available. **The National Domestic Violence Hotline provides free, confid
... keep reading on reddit ➡I have been posting this around, mainly for the Trisha stans who seem to really want to justify and excuse her behavior. I really want people to understand her behavior is not excusable or justifiable in anyway because of her mental health issues. Pay very close attention to the snippet below and check out the full article if you are interested. It outlines much about narcissistic abuse vs BPD abuse.
According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, there is no excuse or justification for abuse of any kind, even if your loved one has a personality disorder. The symptoms of a personality disorder may exacerbate the risk for abusive behavior, but ultimately, it is up to the person in question to address their behavior and take steps to seek the treatment that will alleviate those symptoms and manage their behavior. While we can certainly be compassionate towards anyone struggling with their mental health, we must also learn to be compassionate to ourselves, set healthy boundaries with others and recognize when we are being mistreated.
https://psychcentral.com/lib/the-differences-between-abusers-with-narcissistic-personality-disorder-vs-borderline-personality-disorder/
You can want Trisha to get help and be healthy and wish the best for her all you want (I personally hope she gets better, H3 actually helped me like her bit. Before I would never ever give her the time of day personally) . But do not try to justify or excuse the behavior.
Note: original contact information for USA.
For those in the UK: 0808 200 0247 For LGBT: 0800 999 5428
For those in Denmark: https://danner.dk/nyt/covid-19-du-kan-du-stadig-ringe-til-danner
For those in Finland: 0800 02400 Monday to Friday 16-20 o'clock. And their website https://www.naistenlinja.fi have lots of useful information, and a chat that seems to be open 24/7.
For those in Sweden: https://kvinnofridslinjen.se or call 24/7 on 020-50 50 50.
For those in Canada: A list of help lines by province/territory in Canada: https://endingviolencecanada.org/getting-help/
For those in the Netherlands you can call to 0800 - 2000 (24/7). They will help you with a safe place to stay. If you're worried about someone in your surroundings also please call. The website is https://www.veiligthuis.nl
For those in Italy you can call 1522 or visit https://www.1522.eu
The National Domestic Violence Hotline is looking for more Advocates for both phone and live/text opportunities, in Austin, Texas. Come join The National Domestic Violence Hotline to help shift power back to survivors of intimate partner violence. Roles are remote through 2021.
Hourly rates start at 18.49/hour with hourly shift differentials for the evening and overnight shifts. Certified bilingual advocates receive an extra $0.82/hr (can apply for any shift/role).
The training cohort starts June 28th, so applications must get in by May 18th.
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General Position Purpose Statement
The Data Analyst is a member of the National Domestic Violence Hotline (The Hotline) IT Team. The Hotline has a strong national reputation as a direct service provider and has become a thought leader around intimate partner violence prevention and intervention by working on collaborative projects, research, and policy advocacy to amplify and support the needs of survivors. We are one of the largest collectors of real-time victim/survivor data.
Under the supervision of the Vice President of Technology, the Data Analyst works to analyze and interpret our data, sometimes in conjunction with third party data, in order to identify trends, patterns and proper context. The Data Analyst provides critical information that will help inform the strategies of our services and the larger domestic violence field at a national, state and regional level.
All work is informed by, and conducted through adherence to, the values of The Hotline:
Integrity: We conduct every aspect of our work to the highest ethical standards and hold ourselves accountable to them. We value transparency and staunchly safeguard the confidentiality of those we serve.
Thought Leadership: We are committed to learning constantly, developing innovative practices and evolving strategies as necessary to achieve our mission and vision.
Excellence: We value performance and results. We aspire to be the best and to embrace the challenge to exceed expectations.
Collaboration: We work as a team within the organization and with a wide range of partners outside of it, in the belief that only through these partnerships will we achieve the broadest impact.
Social justice: We value diverse perspectives and strive to incorporate an anti-oppression lens in all aspects of our work.
Caring: We conduct our work with compassion and in the spirit of inclusion, and we meet all individuals with respect and without judgment.
Survivor-centered: Our work begins and ends with the interests of survivors of relationship abuse in mind.
There are amazing people who care about your well being & want to help keep you safe at the
There is someone at the other end of that line 24/7, 365 days a year.
If you’re experiencing domestic violence, you can speak confidentially and get resources or information, or questioning unhealthy aspects of their relationship
I’ll never know your name, your background, your gender, or how old you are, but you were the catalyst I needed to finally realize I was in an emotional, psychological, and physically abuse relationship.
For two years I knew that something wasn’t right in my relationship. The way he spoke to me and made me feel told me it was wrong. But every time he hurt me, he told me, “this is love, this is how relationships are, they’re not always easy.”
I remember how I started our conversation. I was too scared to call the hotline and so I opened up the online chat at work. This was finally the first step for me, I just needed to know from someone else if my relationship was normal. I was shaking, thinking I’ll talk about a few things that are on my mind and get a third party opinion, you deal with this stuff all the time and I’m probably being too dramatic with my situation. I started the chat with “I’m not sure if I’m in an abusive relationship, can you give me some guidance”
That was all it took. You asked me some questions about why I think that I may be in an abusive relationship. I gave a few examples of what I was going through and I anxiously awaited your response. The words hit me so hard in my chest and I felt so liberated as I read, “you are absolutely in an abusive relationship and we need to talk about how you will get out of it.”
All I needed was that confirmation, that validation that this wasn’t normal. This wasn’t a tragic love story where a beautifully toxic couple make it work for the deepest of loves. This was abuse. This was manipulation. This was gaslighting. This was shame. This was not love.
You pushed me to tell my friends and my family, the people that I had lost a relationship with for 2 years. I was so embarrassed to talk to any of my support network because he told me, “don’t talk about me to anyone, they’ll just hate me.” Well he was right because when I started telling people how he treated me, no one liked him anymore.
Here is my thanks to you. Thank you for telling me it wasn’t normal not to be able to touch a fridge without being yelled at. That it was not okay that I had to ask for food and water because with his OCD, I wasn’t allowed in the kitchen. Thank you for telling me that it’s not normal for your partner to block you from leaving the apartment when you’re in a fight to cool off. It’s not normal for him to throw a purse at a mirror and smash it when he thinks you’ve been out too late, to get the police called on y
... keep reading on reddit ➡A relationship doesn’t have to last forever to be successful. What’s most important is how everyone is treated. If you and another person treat each other well and it only lasts for one night, that’s more of a success than a lifelong relationship consisting of any amount of abuse or control.
A relationship can be between two people, or five people, or ten people. There’s no rule that you have to be monogamous, and it’s okay if monogamy isn’t for you.
It’s okay if you wake up one day and don’t love your partner anymore. It’s not okay to lie about it.
Sometimes people hurt people that they care about on accident. But only you know what is or isn’t a dealbreaker for you. Trust your instincts.
Sometimes people hurt other people that they care about on purpose. And then they blame their partner for it. This is not okay. Anyone that doesn’t have your best interest in mind is undeserving of your time and attention, but it’s okay if it takes a while to realize that.
Sex isn’t currency. You can say no at any time for any reason, and your choice to be affectionate or not be affectionate should never be used against you. Sex is not a bargaining tool.
Marriage, babies, moving in together - these things don’t fix relationship problems. Any problem you have before moving in together or getting married or having kids will still be there after you move in together or get married or have kids. Nothing replaces the open, honest communication that it takes to resolve conflict.
Don’t yell, say your pleases and your thank yous, and take the time to tell your person that you appreciate their decision to be with you. We all know they could have just as easily chosen to be with someone else, and could still do so at any time. Let them know you value the time that they’ve chosen to spend with you.
It’s okay if you don’t agree on everything. It’s not okay to make a partner feel badly about disagreeing with you. Everyone deserves to be heard and to have their feelings respected. Respect doesn’t require agreement.
There are no guarantees when it comes to another person. Whether you’re counting on them to text you good morning or counting on them to stay by your side forever, there are no guarantees. Enjoy what they do give you, and give to them as well.
You deserve to feel safe 100% of the time. Honesty shouldn’t compromise your safety. A relationship shouldn’t compromise your safety. Love shouldn’t compromise your safety.
People are not possessions. No one
... keep reading on reddit ➡I have already contacted the number through DHS, She Rises, and I have reached out to the YWCA. I'm still going through pamphlets and information, but so far the only attorney I can get ahold of sooner than weeks or months out is a $4000 retainer.
She writes it off as normal married couple squabbles but it absolutely is not. She'll move things out of his car such as a disabled parking permit just to aggravate him, she plays back seat driver to the point where he almost has accidents on the road on a daily basis, and leaves him utterly confused by saying half a sentence then completely changing the topic but not in a way that tells the listener it's been changed. When it's just me and him in the car everything is fine, when she's there, it's an absolute powder keg and is physically and emotionally exhausting to be in such close quarters with someone in such an unstable state.
I've let her know that what she does (I haven't put a full list here) is domestic violence and not ok, she just says I don't know what real domestic violence is and says "But you do xyz" - not denying what she does but sort of... deflecting the accusations I guess? I'm certain there are some underlying mental health issues with her, definitely ocd and munchausen by proxy, her thought patterns are very confused and she holds beliefs which are very odd and often cause conflict with both of us.
My dad needs respite and he needs someone he can call when he can't handle her behaviour. He's had a stroke, recently he's waved a fist in the air at her which he had never done previously. I don't think he has the capacity to seek help himself, I'm thinking that appointing a guardian would be appropriate however they have someone (probably a family member) ready to become power of attorney, but they have no idea what's going on. She's a very skilled manipulator, very skilled at hiding what's going on when people come around, her disordered thought patterns and strange beliefs seem to come to the surface though as her longtime friend and nephew complain about that, but in a "You're so strange" way, not a "You need help way.
I just need an idea of what to expect and how I should explain this to the domestic violence hotline and mental health triage - do I just tell them what I've told here? I need to emphasize that if this happens when I'm around, I can't imagine what happens when I'm not there (Though what dad says about this suggests that it's 24x7 abuse). I think I touched on this whole situation some time ago in a post here and a couple of people said it's none of my business. I can't accept that, one or both of them lack insight and capacity in how serious this is, and if I'm extremely upset and fearful when it's happening
... keep reading on reddit ➡