it hurts it hurts it hurts it hurts it hurts
Idk why I asked this lol it’s a bit extreme
Since things are definitely over between us, I'm not really writing this to get advice to win him back or fix the situation. There's no fixing with him, but I'm feeling in need of some comfort and understanding and maybe helpful words from someone who has gone through something similar.
Here is the full story:
I was just out of a 6 year relationship that I ended because I was not in love anymore, never looked back. I immediately fell for this guy I met at school. At some point I found he had recently broken up as well AND that he was also into me (he suddenly made it very clear). Things started between us after the holidays, about 5 months ago. He pursued me and started the whole thing himself.
The attraction with this new guy was crazy and mutual and at the very beginning we were both smitten with each other. He seemed head over heels for me, he would keep saying how I was special and different from anything he had known before and that we had a crazy connection and so on.
It started off very intense, and it was literal heaven for TWO WEEKS.
Then suddenly he turned dark (literally OVERNIGHT) and he said he'd been overthinking and didn't want to ruin things with me, but he felt 2 months after his breakup was too little time to recover, because his ex had left him in a very abrupt way. He said we'd been running too fast and that he needed more time before he could start over. He said he still was feeling "cold" and "apathetic" because of the recent breakup and "didn't want me to get hurt".
In other words, he was far from being over his ex, as I suggested.But he was adamant that he still didn't want her back. He asked for a break because "he just needed time" and "didn't want to lose his chance with me" because "he really really liked me", he had lots of fun with me and he felt "we really clicked".
This all sounded to me like a lame exscuse; I turned away but surprisingly, he didn't pull back. He did everything to win me back and he was very persistent. He kept asking me out and texting me every day and courting me for a full month, we went on dates and we talked a lot but we never kissed or touched or had sex during this time and I was very confused about his intentions. I could see very clearly he was growing more and more attracted and attached to me, but never made a move, and it made me confused.
During this time together I found we still had a great intellectual connection, a similar sense of humor and we both really
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I can’t even do the things we both enjoyed together anymore, that I loved even before we met. It have been almost 6 weeks and I am still in tremendous pain. I don’t cry everyday anymore, but I will just randomly be triggered and lose my shit. It feels like my chest has a giant gaping hole in it. I loved everything about this man and he was my best friend and pretty much next door neighbor for almost 2 years. We saw each other almost every day and could talk about anything. He was brilliant but very short tempered and cruel in a lot of ways but I loved him regardless. Now that we are over and he moved away I feel so empty and lost. It’s like I still have this immense love in my heart that I want to share romantically with someone, someone who will love and cherish me back, but that person isn’t here. Idk what to do. It has already been almost 2 months and I’m still crying whenever I pass the gym we went to together or play video games that remind me of him. I want to love again so badly but I haven’t met a soul that caught my attention or my heart like he did the day we met. How can I ever move forward like this? I have only been meeting men who fall short in one are or another. What I want in a man seems so simple to me. Loyal, honest, kindhearted, committed and hardworking , attractive and fit. That seems simple because those are all things that I do my best to be everyday. Where is my counterpart? I feel like the hurt I feel surrounding my ex would vanish the moment I met the one Im actually meant to be with ☹️ should I keep looking? In the meantime this still hurts. Help 😢
You call me babe and tell me you love me yet you wanna be in a unofficial relationship I’m sorry but I can’t hurt anymore and it’s time to move on I love you and always will but I need to work solely on me.....I’m sorry it has be this Way
