When I started college my college LGBT was a healthy mix of cis gay men and women, bisexuals and trans. The atmosphere was alot more light and friendly. Howover, over the year the ammount of trans and bi people has increased while gay men and women have pretty nuch gone away.
The trans people and bi women are mostly nice and open to everyone. But for some reason the bi guys are very closed off. They seem quite friendly to the cis girls, trans and more femboy types, but they seem gaurded around other gay men. I get a vibe that they also seem to constantly be overly nice, simpy and flirty to girls or fem presenting people.
I don't have a problem with them having there own preferences dating wise, but I and so many of my friends (men and women) see this animosity that they have toward other cis guys. Ive noticed that whenever sex comes up in conversation these same guys wince whenever man on man stuff is even discussed. I even had a lesbian friend tell me that two of the bi guys had a conversation with her, she said that we the topic of attraction came up they outright told her that they find men disgusting except when they look fem. We had a discussion and it seemed like these guys werent really bi, and they were using the LGBT club purely as a dating place, which has made the vibe uncomfortable.
Nobody wants to bring this up to the social club leaders because they seem to have taken a very hard lined stance. Because of the current inlvement toward eliminating biphobia and being respectful of everyones preferences, theres no way we can bring this up without them accusing us of biphobia and being disrespectful. Because theres this strong NB, trans, bi and pan presence, they dont deem cis gays as queer enough to be relevant.
I respect bi people, and understand the issues of biphobia that can present itself in both the hetero and homosexual worlds. But I cant help but shake the shitty behaviour some of these guys have towards us.
Holy fuck they are toxic. The social clubs I’m involved in are cultural social clubs, but the people are horrible. Gossiping, ostracism, it’s all packed in there.
I became the black sheep of my community after I opened up about my mental health struggles. Ever since then, my relationship with my own community hasn’t been the same. Fuck them. I quit.
EDIT: I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m a person of color in a predominantly white college, so I’m in a very awkward situation. As a freshman, I was able to lean on my community, but once it was known that I’m damaged goods, most of my friendships went up in flames. I wish I never opened up about my mental health. I barely have anyone. I’m alone, once again.
Hi Harvard — I’m a Johns Hopkins student and a member of several clubs relating to sexual violence prevention. Recently there was a drugging incident at our university that inspired a huge campus protest that attracted local news. Students have been trying to force the Hopkins administration to implement a university-wide program that will prevent sexual violence at primarily Greek-held events— perhaps by having sober monitors drug test drinks on students’ behalf, or by having drinks distributed by a third party. But we aren't certain on any details yet, so we're open to ideas.
There’s been quite a bit of pushback from the university and so I’m really interested in connecting with your university’s sexual violence prevention club/team, as well as determining what y’all do to monitor or prevent druggings and alcohol-adjacent sexual violence. Like, do y’all offer free drink tests or toxicology screenings? What kind of accountability structures are in place to prevent sexual violence happening at large parties?
Please feel free to DM me. I’d love to work with you and prevent sexual violence at Hopkins. Thanks.
For context, I am a member of the class of 2022 at a large public high school in America. This is my experience so far with college admissions, and let me tell you, it is all bs.
My high school bully just got into Harvard and no one(not even their recommenders) know how they managed it. They are an absolute a**hole and the admissions committee couldn't see that via their application. They have made fun of us for years and my friends and I found out recently the extent of the mockery. They have decent scores and activities, but they aren't the quality you would expect of a t20 student, nor are they within the most accomplished in our school(every year, 1-2 kids get into really prestigious schools).
Meanwhile, some of my most spectacular friends, ones who have published research, perfect scores, beautiful essays, recs from scientists in the NAS, have been deferred or flat out rejected from their dream schools. Needless to say, the past to weeks have been rough for everyone.
three main takeaways from the EA/ED cycle:
- Colleges are not looking for the smartest people, they are looking for people who fit well in their class. For some reason, admissions saw something in my bully that no one else who actually knows them does. This goes to show colleges are not looking at the whole you and simply handing out decisions based on what you put forth on your application and how you present a sliver of yourself on paper. And DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT take rejections personally. I cannot count the amount of times I've had to talk someone down or comfort them due to a panic attack/breakdown about not getting into college in the past month. Take a look at all of the people who have gotten rejected and accepted on here; they are fine, and we're about to be those people too, so we will be fine.
- People at your dream school are most certainly NOT who you think they are. Some people may be great at your school, but bullies and terrible people go everywhere, and so do people who will not have the same priorities as you. That's okay, but I think we all in our fantasies of attending our dream schools can paint a very idealistic/polarizing version of students attending the school, that they might not live up to. Prepare yourself to meet a**holes wherever you go.
- Lastly, smart people and good students are good and smart wherever they end up. I think state/public/less selective schools get such a bad rep due to their lack of prestige, when they often are breeding groun
Like, how do they even get to the profile?
From Benenson 2013:
> From early childhood onwards, girls compete using strategies that minimize the risk of retaliation and reduce the strength of other girls. Girls’ competitive strategies include avoiding direct interference with another girl’s goals, disguising competition, competing overtly only from a position of high status in the community, enforcing equality within the female community and socially excluding other girls.
This is true even compared to the likes of MIT, Stanford, Yale, and Princeton. Strictly talking from a global perspective, it seems as though somehow villagers in third world countries will know of Cambridge, Oxford, and Harvard yet will know nothing about Stanford, MIT etc.
Icewind Dale was saved by Charlie the gnome cleric of Lathander (and sometimes wizard), Harkon the half orc Barbarian and his pet squirrel, Moose, Zenithia blue dragonborn cleric of Sehanine Moonbow, Evandur the dapper human rogue, Gauthak the Goliath werebear barbarian, and Magnus, the human Elk tribe barbarian.
Like most things at the end of the semester, it was chaotic, haphazard, and bittersweet.
Zenithia married Trovus, rebuilt the Northern Lights and they had three boys and one girl together.
Charlie teamed up with Telfen Sana (an original NPC) and became adventuring archeologists looking for more relics of Netheril.
Harkon and Moose vanished into the wilds, occasionally mailing everyone else mysterious acorns.
Evandur, Gauthak, and Magnus could not resist the pull of the Obelisk and returned to the Year of Chilled Marrow, where they must decide if they will try and change history.
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Thank you to everyone here for wonderful ideas. I recommend the Rime of the Frostmaiden Companions by Wyatt Trull and the Ythryn Expanded Towers of Magic Bundle by Daniel Kahn, both on Dungeon Masters Guild.
I'll be running new players through Lost Mine of Phandelver next fall. Perhaps they will find their way to Icewind Dale once the Black Spider is dead.
