Grandma's Wedding Puns

So I want a low key wedding, I’m not going for fancy. My fiancé and I are big campers, and most of my family is to. We’re getting married on my dads farm and have our reception at a small lodge in a campground! I’m super excited because it’s exactly what I wanted. Everyone has been supportive of my vision except with the food.

For the food I want to do a grill out, basically everything you’d have at a good family cook out. My family who is opposed are all biting their tongues now because I kind of exploded.

We’re having hotdogs & hamburgers bar, baked beans, party potatoes (some call this funeral potatoes?), coleslaw, fruit, pasta salad, maybe Mac n cheese and we are doing pie (we’re going to buy one sheet cake as well). We will also have vegetarian options (we have no vegans coming) and all will be gluten free since I have to eat gf.

Our wedding/dinner is going to be around 80-100 ppl, my grandparents from my step dads side (who have experience) are cooking. They have a huge grill the size of a trailer, and this saves us so much money!

Do you think guests would actually be disappointed in having this type of food? Is it not enough options?

Hi, I saw a similar story and thought of asking for advice.

About my fianceé (let's call her Bae); we (me 22f, her 23f) met 9 years ago at highschool, we've been together for 7, and recently we've decided to get married, so we've settled it for next year, and we couldn't be happier!

About our situation; we live in a city with the biggest unemployment rate on a third world country, where most jobs you find only last three months at most, so to save money both of us live at my dad's house (common thing here), with him and my grandma.

Since money is still an issue, we've decided on a little eloping ceremony with close family and friends, and to have a lunch/dinner with them afterwards. While checking for the guestlist, whether if we should invite my grandma or not came up, and well, Bae and I are not thrilled at all about having her there, so we said we wouldn't want her to come.

Dad didn't like that. Dad basically LIVES for her (mostly because he feels remorseful about stuff from the past), and told me it would be rude not to invite her, since she's family, it's unfair, and she'd done so much for us (dad uses her pension money to pay for stuff), and basically nagged me for a while.

Thing is, we really don't want her there, Bae hates her, I really dislike her, and she doesn't likes us either. She's homophobic, dramatic, childish, whiny, has a tendency to scream and make a scene if things don't go her way, and fights a lot with my dad (and I'm leaving things out). Basically, if she goes, we won't enjoy our own wedding. Though I'm concerned for my dad, and I understand how he feels, I can't make him understand how uncomfortable she makes me feel.

Plus, she doesn't want to come either, we'd be doing it just for dad's sake.

Not to mention, of course my mom will come as well, and she too despises my grandma, she's always been rude with her, and it's one reason my parents got a divorce.

Am I in the wrong? AITA?

ETA, Woah, I didn't expect so many reactions on my first post, thanks for the good and bad coments, they really gave us insight.

To add context; Around two years ago, Bae and I came to live with my dad, my grandma wasn't here yet, he had no problem with us because we watch out the house when he leaves for work, do cleaning, feed the dogs, etc.

As last year was ending, he told us since grandma's health has only gotten worse (she never took care of herself, and shut others down when offered help), it was for the best if she came to live with us,

Last week, I had a (very small) wedding ceremony with like 20 guests. As part of it, my aunt (not their daughter, and incidentally the only practicing Muslim at the party) organized a champagne pouring thing. My aunt is very sweet and loves spreading positive energy so she did this bc she knew I’d love it and she did it without me even asking her to.

Now my grandma is bitching about it, saying it’s haram and saying she thought I was a Muslim. When I was 4 my parents immigrated to Canada, and since then she’s made zero effort to be in my life. She went from being my daily babysitter to one phone call per year, and yes I feel like she abandoned me. She admits she could’ve tried harder, or come to visit when my parents got them tourist visas, but she wanted to punish my parents for being atheists.

I told her to mind her own business, she wasn’t even at the party… she asked how come my husband’s parents were okay with it. They weren’t! And they weren’t invited either! For the exact same reason of trying to stuff their religion down people’s throats.

Why can’t more Muslims be like my aunt?

Hey y'all.

So my wedding day was lovely and small. My husband has asthma and in general, we are both just overly cautious when it comes to Covid. So we decided to host our wedding over zoom, with only our parents and siblings in attendance.

Everyone said that was fine with them and they understood.

But lo and behold, my Italian, highly opinionated and narcissistic grandmother was offended that she wasn't invited "last minute." She says she deserved to have been there. When I told her we specifically did not invite at risk people (she is 90 and has CHF as well as multiple other health issues) including my husband's grandparents, she rudely claimed that "his grandparents are in Mexico!! Of course they wouldn't come" we live like an hour and a half away from the border... Of course they WOULD have come.

She has been gossiping to our entire extended family that she was not invited, and everyone else is egging her on. Even my cousin and aunt who were pretending to be supportive of my decision. They're all saying 'wow that's incredibly wrong of her...what an awful granddaughter...you have every right to be upset....you should have been invited how can she insult you like this..." Etc.

When I confronted her about it, she said I was too sensitive. When my parents confronted her about it, she said "well of course I'm angry. It wasn't my type of wedding. It was terrible. And I should have been invited. She's taking everything wrong and being too sensitive."

I feel bad for my dad (this is his mom) because this is the final straw for me in an incredibly tumultuous and toxic relationship. She raised me, and she raised me to feel unsafe, responsible for other people's emotions, and guilty for expressing boundaries.

How can I keep her out of my life without hurting my dad? He's 100 percent supportive of me and on my side, as is my mom. He too recognizes her toxic patterns and behaviors, but also thinks it's futile to expect things to change. But still, I know it hurts him.

I feel like this is all my fault. But I also hate her. How do I literally just move on with my life.

!!!!!UPDATE!!!!!!

Y'all I am sad and confused. My dad and mom (yay mom) went down to officially confront her and tell her that her gossip has literally dampered my whole wedding. She told them "well now I feel bad for OP" an hour later, I get a call asking me to go down to her house (5 min away lol) and she APOLOGIZES. I was NOT expecting that. There were some backhanded apologies (stoo

I (25f) inherited my grandma’s wedding ring when she passed 10 months ago. Originally I had wanted to save it to be part of my wedding set whenever I get to the point in my life where I get married. I still like the idea of this but also recognize that a man going out to pick out a ring that is styled to himself and his future bride can be a very big deal. I don’t want to have the ring taken apart and want it left as is, which would very much limit what a future partner could do. I also considered just having it as a piece in my personal jewelry collection to wear, but it I feel this isn’t a great option as it is a plain band with a single diamond on it. What are some ways you’ve added to a ring to make it your own either as a new wedding set or a personal piece?

First time posting so apologies for any issues.

I (23M) recently got engaged to my fiancé and we are planning our wedding. With most of the other major items out of the way, we are working on the guest list. My father and his siblings and mother (my grandma) have a VERY difficult relationship. My father has been sued by two of his brothers over a family business that he generously and fairly purchased from grandma. This is only a minor part of the history of issues between the two parties. They can’t be in a room together without my father getting super anxious and one or both parties making comments.

So on to the dilemma, my sister is also planning her wedding and is planning on inviting my grandma and uncle. She lives out of state, and if I’m honest, I don’t think my grandma or uncle will attend because of that. I live and will be getting married 30 minutes from grandma and uncle. I don’t think I want to invite them because it would stress my dad out a ton and tbh, I don’t have much of a relationship with them anyways.

My dad has been very supportive saying that he would prefer they not come, but that it is entirely my ( and fiancé) decision and will support whatever we decide. But being from a very small town, everyone will hear and judge us for our decision.

No one in my immediate family has said anything to me where I would think ITA if I don’t invite them, but I would feel guilty not inviting them at the same time.

So, AITA if I don’t invite my grandma and uncle to our wedding, but my sister does to hers? TIA

• if I do not invite them, I MIGHT invite them out to dinner to celebrate more privately.

(Heads up, all names are fake)

So I recently got engaged to my lovely boyfriend of two years. We both are introverts and deal with social anxiety. Our plan is to elope and then later have a small ceremony for close friends and family members, and to try to keep the wedding a small as possible. I decided to call my grandma on my dad’s side because she had somehow found out about the engagement and was telling others before we could (we're planning on telling everyone at the same time after we take engagement photos). It somehow got brought up that my Fiancé and I were only planning to invite her, my grandpa, and my Aunt Sherry, and my cousin Kevin from that side of the family.

This would mean that I wouldn’t be inviting my Uncle Donald (who makes me very uncomfortable and is probably a narcissist, it's a long story), my Aunt Kayla and Uncle Jim (who I barely ever interact with), and the rest of my cousins (who aren’t involved in my life outside of holiday get togethers). My grandma started accusing me of splitting the family (although the family has grown distant from each other long before this) and saying that she knows that after she passes the family will no longer interact with each other, and that for her sake as my grandma that I should invite the whole family. That aunts, uncles, and cousins are immediate family and need to be invited (which I’m pretty sure that they aren’t immediate family). She then started saying that she wouldn’t come because I would be making her choose to split the family, and that my Aunt wouldn’t come either because she wouldn’t come unless the whole family was invited (which I think my grandma was projecting).

I stood my ground and reaffirmed that we would only be inviting those who were close to us, and I absolutely refused to invite my Uncle Donald because I want nothing to do with him. My grandma then tried to say that it's a two way street with those family members and that I never interact with them. (Which is questionable since I do interact with them awkwardly at family holidays, but at the same time, why is it all put on me to reach out to them?) I get that my grandma wants us to be this big happy family, but it would just be a big lie. I’m hoping that given the wedding some time away, she may reconsider, but it sucks that she may not come to the wedding and refuse to let the other family members I did invite to even come.

Tl;dr: Called my grandma and ended talking about wedding guests. She accused me of sp

This is gonna be a long one… My grandma (62) was raised Catholic, married my grandpa in the Catholic Church, and then had my dad and my aunt. My dad became a diabetic when he was 8, and when he was a young teen my grandma had gotten pregnant by another man and left my dad, aunt, and grandpa for the other guy and moved 1000 miles away. She got an annulment, married her still husband Ben, and they moved back to the state we live in in 2010 (she was gone for 21 years).

My parents got married in 2010. They had been together for 13 years prior. They had me when they were 19/20- and then had a destination wedding where my moms dad whos since passed away married them. It was incredible. My grandma told my dad that since they weren’t getting married in the church she wouldn’t come. She said it wasn’t a true marriage in God’s eyes. And last minute she came. My dad has always been forgiving of my grandma. All hes wanted his entire life is her love. He just gives her chance after chance after chance. It’s the saddest thing I’ve ever seen.

I (21F) have always been insanely close with my grandpa- because he was around. He has always been here. I saw my grandma once every couple years until 2010, and we didn’t visit regularly until probably 2012 ish because my dad had a hard time just… processing his feelings and navigating things. My aunt raised all of her kids Catholic and is a devout Catholic. My dad became Catholic again when i was 16- i was baptized and attended masses regularly until i was 19. I just can’t stand the stereotype because it’s so true. Most Catholics I know are so judge-mental. I don’t believe in confession. I just don’t really like the way it’s practiced. My parents are supportive and my dad only cares that I have a relationship with God- he doesn’t care what religion I best identify with.

In October of 2020, my aunt disowned me and then my parents (for standing up for me). She doesn’t like my fiancé (who her daughter originally set me up with) but she claimed to love him before we dated. She previously set me up with a man that and 9 years older- we went out a few times but it was just really weird and ended amicably (I was 19, he was 28). So idk if she could be mad I am marrying someone else. But she really hates my fiancé’s family (they both live in the same small town) for… no reason. She hardly knows them, and sung praise of them before me and fiancé got together. Anyways she said that I’m not being Catholic, shouldn’t live out of wedlock

Y’all I just can’t with this place lately. OPs entire post is taking about how her fiancé’s grandmothers passing is going to put a damper on her wedding day.

At no point is OP concerned about her fiancé or his family. She’s just worried his family will use theatrics on her day.

Oh and apparently this death doesn’t mean all that much since grandma had been since for a year.