Hello!
I’m a 26F, currently making $55,000 and will most likely make 60k by end of the year. I’ve been living with my parents since the pandemic and have 25k in savings, $0 in debt, and about 15k in my 401k.
I just signed a lease to a new place and am planning on moving back to chicago next month.
My dad thinks I’m making a big mistake because he argues I should be spending the next 6 months (at least) saving more and staying at home because I’ll never have this opportunity again.
At first I was chalking up his arguments to him just wanting me to stay here forever but now I’m getting cold feet. My financial literacy is admittedly bad and I have no firm understanding on what’s considered “good” savings for someone in my situation.
I originally decided to make the move because I was feeling stuck staying at home with my parents—even though I love them. I just miss my old life in Chicago and feel like I am definitely leading with my heart and not my head on this one.
Do you think my dad is right? Am I making a stupid decision that I’ll probably regret when I’m older?
**Edit: thanks for all the awesome advice! Since the lease is already signed, I guess the horse is already out of the barn. I’ll just have to make sure I’ve got a solid budget set up before moving!
Also, just wanted to clarify that I have lived on my own for most of my 20s and only moved back in with my parents last May when the pandemic hit. So I’ve been living back at home for a year now!**
Now I have tostitos
And I'm not talking about a wedding. Har Har.
Hey fellow MSers. I'm curious if anyone get cold feet. My feet are freezing. I'm in a relapse rn which is when they really got ice cold, but generally it's been an ongoing issue on and off since last winter. I got frost bite indoors putting on a cold pair of shoes.
I've also had flares of very cold toes that develop hot itchy spots.
Anyway with this relapse rn I was wondering if it was MS related. It hadn't occured to me before. I mentioned the coldness with the relapse to my neuro and he said yes, my sensation of temperature could be affected. But these are icy cold foot blocks.
Anyway, just curious if anyone has similar issues. Hi commiseration!
Here is a behind-the-scenes photo taken of William Shatner with his daughter Melanie, who played the Captain's Yeoman for Star Trek V: The Final Frontier (1989):
https://i.imgur.com/d5SiVJw.jpg
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Like, you really want to and up for it but when the time comes you suddenly regret everything and don’t want to leave.
Or basically think of everything that could go wrong or think it might be dangerous and just get scared about it
Me and my fiancé have been together 5 1/2 years now - I’m 32 and she is 27. Lately, I’ve started to question whether or not I want to get married to her. There are so many things I love about our relationship but the biggest thing is I’m just not excited to get married. There is no passion at all from either one of us. It’s getting to the point where we both feel like we are just roommates.
We started dating when we were both in school and trying to start our careers. I think at the time, I was looking for something completely opposite of my ex (complete physical attraction with zero friendship). We just clicked right away as friends and it was something comforting while going through medical school so I never really fussed about the lack of intimacy.
Now that we’ve both graduated and we have our careers, I’ve started to focus more on our relationship and what is lacking. The biggest thing is the passion. Looking back we never really had it. For example, we will be sexual but it almost feels like we’re just completing a task and neither is really that into it. Also, I can never really say that I was absolutely “in love” with her like I have other people. But I’ve also never had a friendship like this with anyone.
So I’m stuck here. Is the passion something that just goes away with time. Granted we never really had it but is that stuff just for the honeymoon phase anyway? It’s just a hard situation because my brain tells me she’s awesome. However, I can’t shake the feeling that I want more.
I was debating whether I wanted to post this in r/relationship_advice or here, and chose to post it here hoping to get a bit more unbiased opinions.
I've been with my beautiful girlfriend for 6 years and we also have an adorable 2 year old daughter together. I love both of my girls dearly. My girlfriend has been my rock and one of the primary sources of happiness in my life. I consider myself extremely lucky to have met her and I never before imagined I could ever be so happy and satisfied with my life. I proposed to her earlier this year, but the wedding will probably have to wait until next year(due to covid and some work related stuff). With that out of the way, let's move on to the main issue. For the sake of convenience I will refer to my girlfriend as Kate and her friend as Christine from now on.
My sex life with Kate has been and still is amazing. Even when she had gained some weight and her belly was swollen during the pregnancy, her confidence in the bedroom never wavered. We've tried some pretty weird kinky stuff over the years, and she was always happy to indulge me, but it was always only the two of us involved. I personally felt indifferent towards ffm threesomes. I mean as most men I have watched some ffm and lesbian porn, but it never really particularly excited me. Also, I find the thought of sharing Kate with another man really disturbing. She, on the other hand, has lately(this has been going on for more than two months actually) been expressing her desire to see me fuck another woman. To be more precise her ideal scenario as she has described it to me would be them taking turns fucking me, while she is guiding me and the other girl through the whole process and culminating in me finishing inside the other girl. Not sure how I would call this, a "cuck breeding fantasy" perhaps? She has been trying to warm me up to this idea for quite a while. At first it was only jokes and games, asking me if I have ever fantasized about fucking other women we both knew, or we would pretend she was someone else during our sexy times. Then sometimes she would find some porn with a girl going at it solo that she deemed more attractive than her and we would watch it, rubbing each other till orgasm and she dirty talking me through the whole thing. I would have preferred some penetrative sex instead, and with the kid and stuff we aren't as free to fuck whenever we want anymore, but she seemed to really fucking enjoy it so I usually just went with it. Long st
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