Birth Control (band) Puns

I got it 1 month P-P september 2020 because I finally had insurance that would cover it but now I'm not sure its good for me :') I just want to find answers so if anyone had similar problems or possible common issues please comment.

I had a few problems I didnt have to money to get fixed so I would take tylenol or advil as needed but never more than recomended. I never had any problems until after I got the armband? A few days after I take any painkiller (every time) I get these in order:

(Terrible heat flash that somehow doubles as a cold sweat) (A stinging/burning pain starting from right between my boobs to right above the uterus, and up and down my back) (Weakness and feeling kinda dizzy) (I can breathe but it feels like the air isn't being used and moving my chest hurts) (Gas EVERYWHERE I feel like I have to go but every time I do there's like a nugget at most)

After all that calms down (it takes like 5-10 minutes max but its scary and painful because it comes with no warning) I pass out being exhausted, get nauseous, throw up later, and am sore and tired for the rest of the day

I've had this happen 3 times since then

1. In a grocery store, someone called the ambulance but by the time we got to the hospital they said everything is all good and we're all confused

2.I stayed home and ate it because I didn't want to feel crazy at a hospital and assumed painkillers were the problem and my pregnancy made me allergic or something

3. Thought everything was good because I took below the bare minimum after have 5 teeth removed in the same day, had the attack and mouth pain at the same time, went to the doctor again and she told me its probably anxiety because I'm a new mom at so young (20F)

They should be called anti-dependents.

I’m tired of being the sole one responsible for preventing pregnancy in a relationship. Men expect women to take hormonal birth control in lieu of using condoms with a complete disregard to the nasty side effects. Below are some of the ones I personally experienced

-progesterone withdrawal on Bc pills. I started seeing flashes of light in my vision, half of my face was feeling numb, followed by the worst and only migraine of my life that was so painful I was vomiting all night

-depression

-bleeding for over a month at a time (I’ve experienced this on at least 3 different forms of Bc)

-weight gain of 20 pounds

-painful cystic acne

-complete loss of libido

I’m 24 and I have been on 7 different kinds of birth control because I’ve experienced bad side effects on just about all of them. I finally found one that works for me but Jesus Christ it would have been so much easier if there was a universal understanding between men that a decreased sensation isn’t worth making your partner put their body through hormonal fucking chaos

Editing to add the birth controls I’ve been on:

3 different kinds of oral contraceptives (birth control pills)

The IUD (kylena)

The Nuva ring

The depo shot

The birth control patch (xulane) this is the one that actually worked for me without side effects

EDIT 2:

At least two people I’ve seen have commented on this thread they had a loved one DIE because of complications with their birth control. A major side effect of birth control is causing blot clots which can be very dangerous - if you don’t believe me google it

To all the men saying your gf had no issues and hates condoms - that’s great I’m really glad she didn’t go through what I did but read some of the comments below to see what a large portion of female Redditor’s have gone through.

Why YSK: There are women who were on birth control for many years and stopped taking it only to discover that they aren’t attracted to their husband or boyfriend anymore. It’s a pretty devastating thing to have happen to you and many of them couldn’t salvage the relationship (understandably so). Taking anything that alters your hormones will most likely have an unpredictable impact on your dating and sex life, and while this pales in comparison to some of the negative physical health problems birth control can cause, it’s still a risk you should be informed of.

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/birth-control-pills-affect-womens-taste/

Edit: I’ll be adding more links over the next few hours

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/03/study-women-on-birth-control-pills-prefer-less-masculine-men/274464/

https://www.womenshealthmag.com/relationships/a19903511/birth-control-side-effects/

My previous partners, good and bad, did not put on a condom until I asked them to, every time sex was happening. If I forgot to tell them? They’d never put in on.

Even if I told them beforehand that I cannot risk pregnancy, that I react badly to hormonal birth control so condoms and spermicides are a must, they’d just…not take it seriously? Treat condoms like a chore, to speak.

Is it really that hard for guys to take initiative and put on condoms without the woman asking every single time? Dudes complain about baby trapping/child support and shit all the time, yet are so terribly lazy about slipping on a piece of rubber.

Meanwhile women take pills everyday/implants and are expected to deal with the side effects as if it’s nothing 🤢

Hey, guys! At first I wrote this for AITA, buy since I really don't think I could've possibly been the asshole here it seemed kinda pointless hahahaha I thought you guys could understand my feelings towards this situation, so I've decided to share this with you - I guess I really need some support, guys.

On mobile (and English is not my first language)

I really don’t think I'm the asshole here, but so many people have told me that I am that I've decided to go to the internet for judgement.

So I (F26) have been seeing this girl (F28) for a little over a month, and things were just starting to get serious. I'm bisexual, and she’s a lesbian. Everything was pretty great, actually: she's beautiful, funny, and we have a lot of things in common – I was pretty smitten until this particular issue came to light.

Last weekend she invited me to spend the night at her place for the first time. We watched a movie, cooked dinner together and, at some point, my alarm went off, letting me know it was time for my birth control.

She looked confused, and asked me why I was on the pill. I explained that I’ve been on it for years. She then told me that now that we were together, I should stop. I laughed it off, thinking she was kidding. Well, she wasn’t, and got really offended. I confess I didn’t really know how to react, since we had never had any sort of disagreement before.

I tried to apologize for laughing, and I explained that my birth control had nothing to do with my partner's gender: I’ve had really bad periods since I was a teenager, not to mention hormonal acne, that really affected my self image. I took birth control to alleviate those symptoms, and that’s why it never occurred to me to stop taking it.

She told me that saying that it had nothing to do with who I was at that point was really fucked up, and by that point I got defensive. I asked how could that be fucked up, and she said that I was pretty much implying that I could leave her for a guy at any moment, and that, if I was really committed to her, I would never imply such a thing.

I went cold at that point. I just picked up my stuff, said I was done, and left. I have been ignoring her messages and calls ever since. Some mutual friends have messaged me these past few days, and I told them I was not willing to deal with blatant biphobia. More than a few have told me, thought, that I expressed myself poorly, and that discussing sexual health is particularly important to Sapphic couples. To those I jus

Before anyone starts jumping about hormonal imbalance and stuff you can do worse stuff with over the counter medication. I am pretty sure you can't kill yourself with birth control nor develop an algeric reaction. Honestly I read about worse side effects in over the counter medication than birth control.

So what happened that prompted this was my visit to the pharmacy. I forgot my birth control home and I am gone for the weekend. So I had no idea what I take, I know it is combination pill with a 3 somewhere. The doctor prescribed me something once, reacted super well, and from then on I just mail the doctor and I can go pick up a year supply of birth control from the pharmacy. I can recognize what I take if I see the name of the hormones and dosage. Anyhow, I explained to the pharmacist my situation and that I forgot my birth control but it is a combination pill and that if she shows me what she has I can easily recognize what I need. Nope, if I don't know what I take it means I don't take birth control and I can't just pick what I want because what if I get to the hospital. Right... Cause the pile of medicine that I was buying couldn't fuck me up. She didn't bat an eye when I asked for stomach acid blockers which can really fuck your stomach but birth control baaaad, even though it was the most harmless thing I was buying.

Anyhow, I find it stupid that I have the liberty to fuck myself with a fuck ton of medication but get to birth control and big NO, what if 'X' happens and you get to the hospital from birth control. What if I randomly get an alergic reaction to ibuprofen or one of those nasty rare side effects?

Edit: Because everyone jumped about blood cloths. This post is not about bc not being dangerous it is about being able to obtain more dangerous drugs, namely famotidine but not being able to buy bc. I seriously recommend any of you to look at side effects from over the counter medication. My aunt one day was fine taking ibuprofen and next day she went into anaphylaxis shook. What I am saying is that I feel birth control is treated differently than other medicine because it gives bodily autonomy to women

Edit 2: I am in Europe and talking mostly about Europe. Just love how everyone assumed this is about America

Edit 3: For the people who keep asking 'How can you forget what bc you take?' Who the fuck here remembers Ethinylestradiol/Levonorgestrel? I had a different brand every year also Netherlands has different bc brands than Romania so bra

I'm still waiting on a lot of tests and doctors appointment. But I want to hear from real people.

The MOMENT all of my research clicked into place was when I read about the relationship between estrogen and histamine. It absolutely BLEW my mind because suddenly everything made sense. I was on nexplanon birth control implant for 6 years. Liked it the most of all the birth control I had used on the past. When I had it removed 5 years ago... that is when all of the trouble started.

I very suddenly discovered I had a Shellfish Allergy. Out of nowhere... I ate shrimp on a very regular basis and I developed this allergy over the course of a month.

I got an IUD in it's place and I swore to all my doctors it was making me depressed. Which all of them were quick to state was not possible (I was angry but ultimately I guess they were right) So I got the IUD taken out 3.5 years ago and my husband got a vasectomy. I was SO EXCITED for my new hormone free life! But then ANXIETY, ADHD and crushing PMDD reared it's ugly head and I've been dealing with that as just a separate issue.

The last 8 months I have had "heartburn like" symptoms that NOTHING helped. PPIs, changing my diet. I had an endoscopy and a CT scan, EKG etc etc. No answers. The ER doctor literally told me "It's probably just your anxiety"

Then I read up about histamines and estrogen and how progesterone can help. I immediately went to look up the nexplanon and OH MY GOD. Its a progesterone only birth control. I cried. I cried so much.

So... now i'm faced with a decision. Of COURSE i want to find out what the root cause it. I don't want a band aid. But my psychiatrist has already asked me... Why don't you just go back on the implant. Because the whole reason my husband got a vasectomy was so that I didn't have to screw with my hormones!

Anyone else faced with this choice? Did you ultimately decide to go back on birth control??

Okay, So this is going to be a bit of a long one. Bur I am going to explain the timeline of everything. From Sept 2019 until now.

I was on hormonal birth control for 10 years. My mom put me on it when I was having sex with my boyfriend of 4 years when I was 14 years old. She definitely did not want me becoming a teen mom, and I was okay with that.

Sept 2019 I decided that I wanted to get off BC just to see what would happen to my body. I was on it for 10 years, and before I got on the pill I was very tiny, weight 95 lbs most my life, late bloomer, flat chested, ect. BC made me gain weight, not a bad weight, but you know, BC prepares your body for pregnancy, so my body changed. My boobs got huge, I gained weight in areas I never had before. And my period was "regular". Anyways, I got off the pill and everything was fine! I noticed some acne here and there but nothing that wasn't manageable.

I noticed 3 months into being off BC I wasn't getting my period. So I schedule an appt with my primary doctor (GYNO) she did a hormonal panel, turns out my testosterone levels are higher than normal, she also did a vaginal ultrasound, and found a "higher number of follicles on my ovaries" and saw my acne and diagnosed me with PCOS. She told me the "cure" for this would to be put back on BC, especially since i'm not trying for kids yet... I told her no, that I did not want to go back on BC & that I wanted my body to try and do its thing, on its own.

3 more months passed and my period regulated (I found out about post Birth Control PCOS, so maybe thought that could be the case so I never went back to the DR), the acne was there but not terrible, (mostly about the chin area) I lost weight, down to 115. (I was 123-125 on BC, I am 26 years old and 5'3) my sex drive was really high (which was amazing) because the BC made my libido soooo low. I felt really confident in my skin and I was happy! I definitely experienced some PMS around my period which I never did before while on BC because it masks all that shit, at least for me.

April 2021 is when shit hit the fan, it had been a year and 6 months since being off birth control and my acne came in full swing. (I got vaccinated for covid in feb/march so idk if this has anything to do with it, but ive definitely though about it) nothing else in my routine had changed. I thought by now all the BC hormones would be out of my body. And that if I was going to have acne it would have happened by now. But I guess I was wrong.

I am so sick and tired of every single period/hormonal related issue under the sun just getting ignored and treated with hormonal birth control. No period? Birth control. Too much period? Birth control. Acne? Birth control. Pcos, endometriosis, severe pain? Birth control.

I have begged doctors to look into my problems and they refuse to unless I’m trying to get pregnant. I have a heavy and painful period every 13 days lasting for 8 days each. They cause severe migraines too. These issues are all solved with my birth control but I just got diagnosed with a heart issue preventing me from being on birth control it anymore. Wtf do I do now?????

Edit: I think there is no problem with bc in general I’m just tired of it being used as a band aid for every issue.

On the topic of “condom sex vs. no condom sex”, I’ve read from a lot of posts on this subreddit that many guys experience severe loss of sensation when wearing a condom, causing some to even opt for no sex rather when faced with condom sex.

This is a very valid concern, and I understand why this would be frustrating, considering that sex is supposed to be a fun, pleasurable activity for everyone involved. As a woman, I would want to try my best to hear my partner out and figure out a solution that works for both of us if he is not having fun during sex.

That said, something really bothered me when reading these posts (there have been several that cover this topic on Reddit lately). A lot of male commenters who dislike condom sex said they would “highly encourage” their female partners to go on birth control so condoms wouldn’t be necessary.

I have several questions about this mindset. Do guys who “highly encourage” their female partners to go on birth control first have a conversation with her about her comfortability with that decision? Is there any thought given to how this might effect their partner’s health?

If you scroll through the posts on r/birthcontrol, there is a lot of evidence of women experiencing major side effects such as weight gain, hormone imbalance, low libido, and severe acne. Not to mention the risk of blood clots as well.

I bring up this perspective because from the posts I’ve seen about “condom vs. no condom” on r/sex, not many men seem to give a lot of thought toward how birth control might negatively affect their partner. If I were in a relationship, I’d want my male partner to have my best interests in mind, while I would do the same to have his best interests in mind.

Some women find that they love their method of birth control. In that case, that’s great. But I feel like no matter the woman’s stance on birth control, it should always be a discussion that happens between both partners with everyone’s best interests in mind.

I think once Roe vs Wade is overturned they will come after birth control. It may start slow, like banning some forms that prevent zygote from planting on uterus, then they will slowly start curbing other forms of contraceptives.

I’m watching Season 8B unseen moments, and the girls are all discussing the types of birth control they’re on.

Briana- Depo shot, she hates it Leah- Mirena Chelsea- is pregnant, but is using the pill until they’re done with babies Jenelle- Mirena Kail- Mirena

This is after Lux was born. The Mirena is good for 5 years. Did Kail have hers removed on purpose? She conceived her 4th after 2 years. I know that people have theirs removed for personal reasons. I had mine removed because of the side effects. I can’t help but think she purposely had hers taken out. She was set for 5 years, then she got pregnant 2 years later and cried about it. Like girl, you and Chris are the only ones to be blamed for this mess.

I’m just here for a pity party right now but I honestly just needed somewhere to vent these feelings. I’m just so frustrated. I have been on birth control since I turned 20 years old. I am so tired of it & honestly feeling depressed and angry that there are not better options than getting my organs removed to prevent child birth. I have taken the pill, used the ring, even had an iUD for a year that ended up just being a complete disaster (Also can we talk about how painful & invasive getting an IUD’s is and they wont even give a sedative for that procedure?). I recently went on strike from birth control because i mentally just can’t take it anymore. I literally had to go into the hospital yesterday because I swear my ovary is calling it quits.. waited nearly 5 hours to say that my body is going through withdrawals from the hormones? I have an ultrasound today to figure out what’s going on, but dang yesterday I was angry. I’m also angry because I know that a woman’s body can practically still be considered a medical mystery - that some text books don’t even have the full diagram of a woman’s anatomy. I asked my doctor when i got the IUD removed, “can you just tell me if I’m fertile?” But you have to try to have a baby in order for them to determine that. Anyways, rant over.

For me, it's random kid's high pitched screaming tantrums in public. I think I felt an ovary literally break today during grocery shopping.

Title is enough. I’m uncomfortable with going on birth control and he doesn’t understand that.

EDIT: for all the people saying I want a kid, that is not true at all. I am apprehensive about birth control because I’ve taken hormonal birth control before and experienced severe mood swings as well as acne. It seems like a lot of the options for birth control come with a laundry list of unwanted side effects. The problem here is that he is unwilling to compromise with me.

EDIT: I’m 19F and he is 31M

EDIT: it’s not that I’m not willing to go on birth control period. It’s the fact that when I ask him to maybe do some research on different types so we can reach a solution he gets upset that I even mention some potential side effects. He wants me to just go on the pill no questions asked.

EDIT: people are saying I’m upset at him. I’m not at all I understand it’s what he wants from someone. I am just disheartened that he doesn’t want to maybe research some different methods of birth control and find a good choice.

FINAL EDIT: He doesn’t wear condoms and is unwilling to wear them.

If the availability of birth control was the main reason behind the Sexual Revolution, then why did condoms not spark it?

My mom and I(28f) have a close relationship, but she does have some justno tendencies. After going to therapy and working on sticking to my boundaries, it's gotten easier for me to resist her attempts to get inside my head. Enough so that I completely missed something she said at Thanksgiving until my husband mentioned it today.

I don't remember the context of the conversation, but I'd guess it had something to do with our eventual plans for kids. Any time it comes up, my mom gets weird and encourages us to wait as loooooong as we want because she's in no rush to be a grandmother. Doesn't bother me because our timing is up to us, and she'll have to get over it if it doesn't fit with her schedule.

What bothers me is that she made a comment about no form of birth control being 100% effective. I know that's true, but she's always been saying that since I first went on the pill. She only mentioned it if I was dating someone, though. So I ignored it. But apparently after she said it, she gave my husband a weirdly intense look. He admitted it got into his head and now he's kind of paranoid about unplanned pregnancies before we're ready.

I can't tell if I should talk to my mom about it now, or just wait until the next time it comes up to set a boundary on the topic. Or if my focus should be on talking about pregnancy concerns with my husband. I could use a little TLC, but also want to know if it's not actually something to be worried over.

I absolutely hate getting a pap smear. I read somewhere that if you’ve had regular results, you only need to every 3 years. I wish I could just order my birth control pills from a website and call it a day. I’m jealous my boyfriend doesn’t have to do anything or take a pill every day but that’s besides the point and a completely different story. The whole thing gets under my skin. If I just had to get a wellness exam where they check my blood pressure and weight, that’s fine. But I get so anxious for these yearly pap smears JUST to get a prescription for birth control pills. Anyone get theirs without needing a pap smear? Is there a way I can just fight this with my doctor so I don’t have to have one?

They're calling it Sonblock

Not sure if this is the ideal sub for this topic, but it kinda fits.

I'm going to assume other women have noticed, but when it comes to sex, almost every single guy assumes us women are on some kind of birth control.

Wait, assumes? No, they expect us to be on some kind of birth control.

Even more so if we've expressed our disinterest in having children.

It's disgusting. Misogynistic. Down-right rude.

I've never been on birth control, and I doubt I ever will, but the look of pure shock that I receive when I tell guys that always makes me skin crawl. Why would you assume anything about anyone? Especially when it comes to sex?

And, yes, I don't want children, but condoms work perfectly fine! So, put one on, and let's get to it.

Yeah, I just find it grim that us women are expected to be on birth control, especially if we don't want kids.

EDIT: I am NOT looking for birth control advice. This is just a rant.

I know irregular cycles are essential for a PCOS diagnosis. I was wondering how long everyone’s cycles are without birth control or medication.

We are expecting baby #3 next month. For all intents and purposes, she is our last, but we do not want to make any permanent decisions. Moms who are in the same boat: what is your birth control of choice? I thought an IUD was a no-brainer but the more I research, the more nervous I get. Help!!! What works for you?