Behavioral pattern Puns

I've been coming to terms with how I've been unintentionally emotionally neglected and have been reflecting on my childhood/adolescence a lot lately. I nearly forgot that when I was in elementary school I would compulsively pick my scalp until it bleed, and I would keep the scabs (I know, TMI - it was totally gross). I remember my hairdresser once noticing the dried blood/wounds on my scalp and I was very embarrassed.

I have also been biting my nails since I could remember - I've never had long nails, and I am kinda embarrassed how low they are nowadays.

Also, during high school, I didn't have any friends unfortunately, and spent often several times a week for hours on end listening to music, pacing, and daydreaming. My mom once asked a doctor if it was 'normal', and I guess the doctor said it was a 'healthy' coping mechanism. I didn't feel healthy, I was worried I was slipping into some sort of severe mental illness at the time - I remember being so worried about it. Later found out the term maladaptive daydreaming so I guess it's not rare lol.

I feel hollow knowing how isolated I grew up. I'm 22 now, still have a bit of college left, so am trying to heal before entering the workforce full-time. I do not pick my scalp anymore, but I do pick my face whenever I am stressed/bored/anxious/etc.

Are these behaviors symptoms of emotional neglect, you think?

Except for the one pattern which expresses that Connor Roy was interested in politics from a very young age.

Does anyone else think that they could easily break out of FA if they altered their behavior consistently? I feel like it's impossible to consistently break my own behavioral patterns that cause me to be FA. I make a push here and there but I always regress. My therapist today mentioned something that the average 20 year old is booked (with plans) A MONTH OUT. It made me feel so alien, to be so undesirable that I am never "booked" at all. Nobody can believe us that we're simply born dysfunctional and a lifetime of suffering is the result. They'd rather think we're not trying hard enough.

I've always been curious about this particular behavioral pattern that mine as well as many other DX or NDX partners do here.

For example, with mine he would always be on his phone mid conversation. It would be fine if he didn't get distracted and engaged but he does not. I asked him for years not to do this.

So about a year ago, I unintentionally started doing the same. I had recently made some friends and got really excited and was talking to them 24/7(I'm DX Autism).

He noticed it and made a comment that he now understood how annoying it was and has not done it since.

I've seen this in many other instances with other partners.

Why is the only way they grasp a concept is for us to do it back to them? I think this is childish and not the way adults should change behavioral traits.

I'd be lying if I didn't say I wasn't thinking about making a list of all bad behaviors to do back to him just to see if they will improve. I'm not going to of course, but it does make you think.

I'm 35 and my little brother is 22. He still lives with my partens because he has trouble moving out - he thinks he won't be able to care for himself.

Last weekend he visited me after three years where we hadn't seen each other. I went NC with my parents and he didn't know which side he should take, so we texted a lot, then had some calls and now he visited me.

I kinda expected him to behave a certain way, because my Nmom and my Edad treat him just like they treated me, but I was shocked nevertheless.

It was like he was walking on eggshells the whole time, trying to avoid to do anything wrong. He even asked me if he could go to the toilet at one point.

On friday we were in a restaurant and he dropped his knive. He went pale and started to apologize to me and my husband for being an inconvenience. I was already shocked at this point, but it went even worse. He starting throwing up in the middle of the night - first I thought that he might have had a problem with a bit to much wine, but it didn't stop. After he threw up 2 times and still was in the bathroom, I asked him if I could help him and if he needs some medication. His reaction was to start crying and again apologizing to me that I woke up and that he is such a burden for me.

It took me almost half an hour to convince him that everything was okay, that he isn't a burden and I gladly take care of him when he is sick. I couldn't sleep the rest of the night because I was really concerned for him.

Saturday evening we had some friends of ours over and played some video games and that was the first moment when I had the impression that my brother got more relaxed. Then Sunday he left again.

Now it's Monday and I can't stop thinking about how I could help him, especially convincing him that he is able to take care of himself (he already has a job) and can move out. I already offered him support multiple times when it comes to searching an apartment or organizing his relocation, but he seems so insecure and I'm pretty sure my Nmom made sure that he has such a low self esteem and that it stays that way.

Were any of you in a similar situation with younger siblings? How did you support them? Were you able to get them out of your parent's home?

Thanks so much for any advice.

I think you can change your own patterns through concentration practices but I am wondering if there are certain types of meditation that is concerned with this kind of... transformations, for the lack of better word and... if there are defined ways to reach such goals. For example increasing your motivation and drive.

As Dr. K said, children learn from their parents' behavior and patterns,
whatever they're exposed to ends up Molding their personality.
I have seen this to be true in the world, and it is really easy to trace this in individuals around us.
People Imbibe their qualities, patterns, way of handling people, and also Emotional Range and emotional pattern

and probably the differentiating factor starts when the children are sent to school and interact with other people and then eventually college and finally move out
(also there could be other influences like tv, YouTube, etc.)

but still the major part of an individual's personality still feels as their parent's reflection

Now, the problem is,
people don't Just inherit the good qualities, they do the bad ones too...
from parents and from people in general.

For Example
(bit hard to explain while not revealing too much info)
Recently I was talking to somebody about a topic.
at a particular point, I reacted strangely
(Like, the personality that I think I have, that personality wouldn't have responded that way, yet it did)
and at that moment I thought "Where did that come from?"
then I connected it in my brain and found that's the way my mother reacts
during "that type of moment"

and there have been waaay to many such incidents where that inherited personality comes out in different forms

I'd really like to know how to
firstly UNLEARN these personality traits
because as much as I think that I can avoid it and by saying and enforcing rules to myself
"I'll not do such things," or
"I'll not behave in that manner" or
"express emotion it that particular way"
it still ends up happening, I think this is because at the back of my mind,
these behavioral patterns have been "cemented" as a result of constantly watching it for more that 20 years and it comes out whenever "the body is on Autopilot mode" while the mind is concentrating on something different than the current moment or conversation at hand.

secondly how to NOT adopt any others in the future
either from the parents or anyone else..

I have recently started taking action towards taking control "of my life" "in my hands" and am fortunate that I am waking up earlier than never.
In this process there are many questions that are needed to be answered and this was one of them.
Sincerely Thankyou to anyone who took time out to read this post.
Any input is appreciated...

The dragon was a resoult of an overly ambitious wizard casting a aoe time ravage like spell that created a time Area that dragons were unable to get out of. He decieded to kill two birds with one stone and cought two fighting dragons a Black male and green female on the Area. The dragons realized their situation and combined their streangths to try to get out and during that struggle developed some measure of respekt for each other. When they realized that there is no escape after decades of their percieved years they formed a plan to at least get their revange od escape was impossible. Although they both hated the idea they tried for a child and then thought IT how to fight ( dragons on my world can survive without food but they are on terrible pain when they do that). After that they waited for IT to mature and then killed themselves to break the spell. After that a horryficly hungry hybrid with some parental issues killed and ATE the wizard and its horse gaining great liking to those two kinds of meat.

The dragon Has to be aquatic have the manipulatove tendencies of a green and a sadism of a Black dragon. Everything else is not set on stone

TL;DR: boss always loses her temper at the drop of a hat, but recently crossed a line. I realised how bad the situation has become, want to go part-time to study, and not sure if I should make a formal complaint.

I (30sF) joined a very high-pressure government team in an entry position 6 years ago and have performed well. I've been promoted regularly, I'm now a middle-manager, and I've worked very hard to develop a sterling professional reputation.

The leader of our section, Ivy (40sF) has worked for the department for a long time, and is well known for having a temper - it's a joke/meme around the office, even with our executive director. She often gets vocally frustrated, usually in a sweary way, but mostly directed at people external to our team (though this obviously negatively impacts the reputation of our section within the organisation). Unfortunately, when she's stressed her temper gets quite bad and she's very difficult to work with and to be around. She overreacts to problems and gets very activated, to the point that "managing Ivy's temper" is a significant part of our problem solving. We've steadily been losing staff and can't attract people to the team from within the organisation. Ivy is very vocal about people she dislikes, and also often complains about her staff to the rest of her staff when they do things she doesn't like. Sometimes she misrepresents things in these rants.

Although I'm sure I've been the target of frustrated commentary behind my back many times, Ivy doesn't typically lash out at people to their faces. Recently, Ivy made a very minor but incorrect edit to my work, and lost her temper when I tried to explain that the edit was wrong and offer to solve her issue another way. She misunderstood an unrelated interaction as my being cold with her because of the edit, although I've never behaved childishly before! She sent a number of passive aggressive emails (one went to my staff as a CC) and then blew up and insulted me when I went to her office to discuss. I didn't speak except to briefly explain that she was mistaken, and then left. She gave me silent treatment for most of the day, then "rug swept".

I went on a period of planned leave the following week and realised that the situation in general and Ivy in particular are causing me serious issues with my anxiety. When I got back and it was clear there was no change I applied to go part-time, with the justification that I'm burnt out and my m

Killers like Gein and the Vampire of Sacramento aside, who were beyond sociopathic and actually INSANE aside, I was genuinely creeped out when I read that Trailside Killer David Carpenter, a chronic stutterer, lost his stutter and could speak normally during the killings.

I've been dating someone since mid October. He's had to travel to another city (5 hours away) for work fairly often, so we only see eachother every other week or so. We communicate daily. I've told him a lot of my personal shit - including having been cheated on for a year and lied to about it for the subsequent six months. After that relationship, I kept finding myself unknowingly being "the other woman" in several dating experiences thereafter. I took a break from dating after the third time, and took a hard look at myself to set higher expectations for myself and the people I choose.

I called this guy I'm seeing last night, after not hearing from him for two days. A woman answered. You can guess who she was. I knew her name, he had told me she was his business partner, which is true, but she's also his girlfriend of 3 years. She told me that they've done the "off and on again" thing for those 3 years, apparently splitting up in November - after we started seeing eachother. She knew about me too, but was told we were just friends and "workout buddies"...

There were enough little red flags that I'd ignored this whole time (none that would have me think he wasn't entirely single, more like character flaws that I ignored). So really this is a blessing in disguise, it's a slap in the face that I need to, again, reevaluate how I'm going about dating, and why I'm ignoring the red flags.

What are your behavioral patterns when it comes to dating that you're working on improving?

I have a lot I want to say, but I'll try not to ramble.

I'm 28. I've been struggling with various issues related to porn, sex, masturbation, and compulsivity for about 10 years. But I first started watching porn probably at about 11 years old.

I've talked with more than one sex therapist, and have also gone to "regular" therapy for years; participated in NoFap on and off for years (hit 90+ days a couple of times); participated more recently in the more lenient PornFree (again going several months at times).

I've had problems with ED that I have attributed to porn addiction that I'm realizing slowly are more specifically a result of issues with my conception of sexuality and attraction.

That's some background about me--I'll talk more about myself in a bit, but first let me broach one of the main topics of this post.

It's the elephant in the room: the porn addiction model isn't universally accepted in the medical community.

Yes, I've read Gary Wilson's Your Brain On Porn - many times. Yes, I understand that the medical community can sometimes lag behind the "cutting edge" comprised of the sufferers who need answers now, i.e., us. And yes, I understand the reasoning behind a statement like, "It doesn't matter what the medical community accepts right now; it's clear to me that I have a problem and I know what the solution is."

I totally get it. Beyond that--I embrace that, and I've lived that, and to a degree I still do live that mentality. But in my expensive sessions with sex therapists and psychoanalysts, and in my own research, I'm starting to land on the painfully obvious, dreadfully inconvenient truth that we all probably know but don't want to admit to ourselves: each of us has a different problem, and so each of us needs a different solution.

Take sugar as an analogy. A reasonably fit person, who eats reasonably well but has put on a couple extra pounds from drinking soda at work during a particularly stressful year, might very simply conclude something like, "I've put on a bit of weight, and I know sugar's bad. I'm cutting out soda." And he will crave soda for a few days, and then the cravings will cease, and he'll lose some weight, and he'll say "Yea, sugar's junk, get rid of it; I did and I feel way better."

Many of us "long-haulers" are more akin to a binge eaters, or obese people who stress-eat, or poor people with no nutritional knowledge living in food deserts. To drop the analogy here, I'm saying that we have

A core idea may be that the point is not to "resolve your obsessions", but to adapt new behavioral patterns that minimize the creation of OCD symptoms.

So i.e. "recovery" is not about resolving, but about behavioral changes that lower symptoms.

I feel so sad for both Six and Mono. Mono felt so betrayed and grown into a twisted man. Six has her soul separated from her body and forever nawed by hunger. Throughout LN I, we've seen Six as a distrustful and cutt throat child doing everything she could to survive. So for those who only beat LN I, Six is betraying Mono for her own survival.

Here's why that is not the whole truth, Six does abide by a moral code though she does show cruel tendencies. Hence she wouldn't normally drop Mono at the end. Well, nothing in LN is normal.

Playing through LN's prequel, Very Little Nightmares, Six helped the girl by throwing a boulder onto her pursuer. The protagonist of VLN helped Six before and she return the favor. For a brief moment we see the two look at each other appreciatively. Then the protagonists was thrown off a cliff because her pursuer didn't die completely. They both fell in to the ocean. Here is the catch, Six went down to the shore to hope to see the girl who helped her survived, only to find her raincoat washed up.

With this we can tell that Six reciprocates help, and she is for the most part, held no ill will against those who helped her. Her cruelness come from apathy, and an animistic feeding desire.

Then why did Six drop Mono? Has she been waiting to get rid of him from the start? Did she see his face and recognize him as the thin man?

I'd say no to the paranoid idea that Six has been waiting to betray Mono from the start. Because Six held and pulled Mono up many times. And the people of Little Nightmares are more...single minded. Because they don't talk in languages we know, the character generally emotes true to their desire to communicate with the viewers. When Six is hungry, she wouldn't fake the pain from hunger, because that's just how she felt. Same could be insinuated that Six hugged the gnomes in the first game because it feels good for her. When she pushed Mono upon first encounter, she was genuinely afraid of him. Just as snapping the fingers of the mannequins is her way of feeling more secure (make sure they'll never rise up again) as well as slight sadism. Mono has to repeatedly smash the hand to make sure it won't stay up.

Faces aren't as important in LN. (With the Lady mirrors are more symbolic than what her actual face looked like.) Thus, I don't think it mattered to Six that her friend Mono may be the Thin Man as much.

There's not a definitive answer yet. There is, however, definitive evidence that Six held ont

Hi everyone,

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I am a codependent, diagnosed one as of this week. For those of you fellow codependents struggling out there: their accusations are part of blame-shifting, being a maladaptive defensive/coping role of diminishing their guilt and shame, and not take responsibility or offer accountability for their horrific actions.

When my pwBPD ex started to accuse me that I suffer from BPD, I was in such a vulnerable place and on such an emotional roller coaster that I started to believe her. I started to believe that maybe I caused all of that madness. But then my therapist asked me - did you have this in your past relationships? I had conflicts, of course, but not this kind of madness and highschool drama.

I know some of my mistakes now in relationships - poor boundaries, not listening to my anger when I should, badly expressing anger or becoming passive-aggressive, not defending my boundaries when I should, I put the suffering of the other person above mine, tend to sacrifice my needs for the needs of the other person, tend to enmesh or find that attractive and as evidence of love, think I might be morally superior (often for the simple fact that I feel loyal), expect the other person to know the "obvious" and that their behavior is hurtful without me having to state that, building huge resentment because of that, and so on.

Yes, I contributed to that toxic dynamic with my share of maladaptive behavior, but the abuse one endures at the hands of a pwBPD is without precedent: the drama, blaming, gaslighting, false accusations, pathological jealousy, pathological insecurities, pathological lying, the pathological need of control, intimidation, the emotional blackmail and manipulation, cheating (emotional or physical, while accusing you of doing it), angelic display while being a burning hell inside, angelic friendly display for the world but devours you behind close doors, using empathy, blame-shifting, enhancing their trauma or suicidal threats with the scope of disarming you from defending your boundaries, giving with one hand and stabbing you with the other right in your heart by using your deepest vulnerabilities against you, using sex as a form of control or reconciliation or manipulation, extreme flirting, testing the relationship with jealousy and accusing you for not being jealous when they expected you to be, essentially using you like a pair of socks and moving on with the new person who was on the waiting list, and so on.

Did you do all of this? No, they

In the anime there is a huge difference between the younger 02 in the flashback and the pre-cares about protagonist. The young 02 had passion and feelings, which possibly eroded overtime due to the loss of so many partners and being seen as a monster everywhere she went causing her to grow apathetic and unattached, only being able to feel something in the heat of battle, perhaps this led to her sociopathic tendencies (being impulsive, acting on whims, self-centeredness).

Feel free to add some insights to help us understand this really interesting character.

Let me be first clear myself this post is not targeting the whole community. There are some in the community who are spreading hate and bigotry. So my post is about them. Kindly don't equate it to whole community.

What I have been observing from past some days is the pattern of some of the Sikh artists who are all praising Bhindranwale and indirectly pushing for Khalistani propaganda. This somewhere indicates the kind of hold fanatics have on our artists and the whole industry. No one is born bigoted. This artists are made to believe that if they want to succeed in the industry then they have to follow this pathway of distancing themselves from rest of the community. Behave like a supremacist and contempt for Hindus in general. Once they starts walking on that path they experience rise in industry and then they think this is the right way so they don't wanna ditch it. Instead they want to further go deep down this rabid hole of hatred and bigotry. Every artist wants to find that element which becomes baton of success for them and the people in the industry who are the gatekeepers make this artist to follow this or else they won't succeed. Others follow this artists which furthers sows more hatred in the community. They can't ditch this behavior cause now its ingrained in their mindset which sees as way of success. So, its difficult for them to change at this point. This is decades of propaganda which are showing their true colors. I hope we can all see it and don't indulge in any sort of counter propaganda of equal hate cause that's what they want. They really want us to fight among ourselves.

In fact if you apply this to other communities, there also it fits the pattern. Muslim artists have to believe in certain narrative like whitewashing of Mughal's atrocity and glorifying their fake history or Hindu artists have to have contempt for Indic faiths, ridiculing their culture and festival etc etc. This gate keepers are the ones whose authority needs to be smashed. They are the one who are pushing their own bigoted thoughts and propaganda among those who wants to enter in the industry.

This is my rant for the Sunday. Hope you all have a good day.

I've noticed my nMom has this behavior, I'm not sure if it's something that is normally related to narcissism, or if it's related to her hoarding tendencies. I honestly don't even know what to call it.

She becomes fixated on "needing" something the moment that she realizes that it's unavailable.

I'll give an example:
Today we had someone doing yard work. She only uses her car occasionally and we have a gravel driveway, so grass grows up around where her car is parked. I moved her car so he could weed the driveway. I'm on the front porch paying the him and she walks out her door with her keys and her hand an acts surprised that the car has been moved. I tell her that the car is across the street so he could clean up her parking spot. She's visibly frustrated. Says "OH??? Well I really need the car". I'm smile and say "cool, he's done working I'll go get the car for you so you don't have to walk across the street". Then she gets flustered and tells me she didn't need the car, she "needed" the case of Pepsi that was in the backseat of the car. The last time she went to the store was in OCTOBER yet this urgent Pepsi situation just occurred? It took me less than a minute to put the car back in the parking spot. I unloaded the Pepsi from the car.... and she's already gone back inside. I put the Pepsi on her porch railing, it's been sitting there for the last 3 hours. She didn't need the Pepsi, she noticed that the car had been moved, And she suddenly remembered that there was Pepsi in the back of the car and decided that the Pepsi was necessary at that moment. And as soon as the Pepsi became accessible she no longer cared about it.

She does this with people as well. She only cares about the person she doesn't have access to.

She has a sister who is desperate to form a close relationship, and a brother who can't stand her... She will only visit her sister if her brother agrees to go as well. She has two sons, one who is eager to please her and one who cannot stand her, she only wants to talk to the son that can't stand her.

It's this really weirdly immature behavior that's become a running joke between my husband and I. But, it's incredibly frustrating once you notice the pattern. Is this a behavior that you have noticed in other narcissists? What do I even call it? It's not fear of loss... It's more like loss obsession?

Hi! We are planning to adopt an English cocker spaniel and we were told by a breeder that those of the red/golden coat colour (which we love!) often have problems with aggressive behavior. Could anyone shed some light on this topic? Are coat colors (solid vs. multi, black vs. red) usually associated with behavioral patterns within this breed? Thank you!

Hey guys,

I need some help. I am in a Nanny share situation and nanny 4 kids total. One of the kids (F6) has been exhibiting concerning behavior. She lies to manipulate her peers into doing what she wants (making up rules claiming her parents made them, saying they will get in trouble if they don't do what she wants, taking things, and lying about where they are). She also steals all the time. One of the other girl's toys went missing for 2 weeks, come to find out NK (f6) had it in her bedroom and hid it. Her brother often complains about his sister stealing his things or hiding them. NK's mother claims that her stuff goes missing all the time too. Last week NK broke something of Mom's because she was "bored" (Mom's words).

Last week I had to take a toy sword from her because she kept hitting the other kids in the face. After 2 warnings, I took it from her. This put her in a fit of rage. NK hid the sword and when I found it she ran into her room screaming. Her mother claims this happens often and they usually let her cool off. This meltdown happened 10 minutes before it was time for me to leave and NK was still cooling off. I informed the parents (Dad is home the entire time I am with the kids) and I left. I texted the parents what happened and they didn't even respond. Monday rolls around and NK informs me that she was so mad that I took the sword away that she defecated in her bedroom.

I have spoken to the NKs family about potential mental health concerns. They have a family history of similar behavior and are worried their daughter may have inherited some of those traits. It seems as if nothing is being done about it. What am I supposed to do here? I try not to reward negative behaviors and I've communicated to NKs parents some of my concerns but NK doesn't get consistent discipline if any. Her mom is full of empty threats and works 90 hours a week, while dad hides away in his office. I plan on giving in my two weeks as soon as my new job finishes background paperwork stuff. How do I communicate that I feel like their child needs to be assessed without offending them? They know I have a background in mental health and have worked with people who have severe mental health concerns, so my opinion is somewhat credible.

I promise I will expound on this very soon.

But this is something I've noticed in my own analysis. If one can use a chain of associations to uncover the reality of one's internal and external environment, one understands their "CBT triangle" (thinking, feeling, behavior) in a more full way, carried to the limit. By actually understanding the patterns, one can consciously work to break them more effectively and meaningfully. Analysis is literally better at CBT than CBT.