I'm a college aged dude, and recently hosted a hotpot, with like 8 or 9 people. I spent a fair bit of the night prepping food or washing dishes. The rest was normal stuff, like eating and making sure everyone was happy. At some point, some of the people are calling me a housewife, but one said that it was in a good way? Like some of the guys would marry me platonically? I brought out some homemade cake after, and that pretty much sealed the term for the night. To be honest, I'm flattered but also confused. Is it not normal to treat dinner guests well? That's not housewife behavior, just human decency!
Ok, Jenny is by no means smart in her decision to stay with Sumit when he's shown no clear intention of actually marrying her. But a lot of the criticism I see directed at her cleanliness and way she interacts with her in-laws is coming from people who really have no real knowledge about the complexities of life in India and the traditional family dynamic. And clearly Jenny didn't fully understand this either when she decided to live with Sumit in India.
Yes the kitchen definitely could have been tidier with the stuff on the countertops moved out of the way and the surfaces better cleaned. But I can tell you that sink that they have will NEVER be sparkling or spotless because of the material it's constructed of and its age. That sink basin isn't a singular uniform piece it's multiple slabs of stone arranged together and that dirt in the cracks will never fully be removed just by scrubbing. I've stayed in houses in Central and S America with kitchen sinks built of a similar design and material and there's no amount of scrubbing that could fully lift the dirt that settles into the cracks. The floor is also old and would probably need to be stripped and redone before it'd look spotless. I think a lot of people making these condescending disparaging remarks about the kitchen cleanliness are doing so from the safety of their stainless steel modern appliance kitchens who've never stayed in an older home in a developing country.
Also acclimating and fulfilling the demands of a traditional Indian MIL is a notoriously difficult process for even native born Indian women, let alone an American woman who's spent the whole 60 years of her life accustomed to very different standards. Traditionally a couple moves into the husband's parents house following marriage where the MIL spends months schooling the new wife on how to do housekeeping and cooking to her exacting standards. Afterwards she would be responsible for essentially the entire household upkeep unless the family has the means for a live-in maid. Many times this traditional arrangement has developed into a not just openly hostile but abusive environment for Indian wives. This stuff is by no means a secret in Indian society. Should Jenny have known all this before deciding she wanted to spend the rest of her life living and married with Sumit in India, probably but he obviously did a poor job of warning and preparing her. She probably believed that they would enjoy a peaceful relaxing life on their own and
... keep reading on reddit โกStill going strong on my rewatch. Iโm on the next episode - S3E8 where Kyle has her dinner party in her (unfinished) new dining room, designed by the Morally Corrupt Faye Resnickโฆ
She went so hard at that dinner and even felt a sense of pride or maybe accomplishment when Brandi walked out, crying. But it was just embarrassing! LOL
โFine, donโt send her flowers. Send her an orchid!โ Iโm likeโฆarenโt orchids flowers???? ๐
Idk I just feel like anytime Faye Faye was on camera, she was very aware that this was her time to shine and secure a diamond - which she never did. Omg could you guys imagine Andy finally asks her on? ๐ฎ
thats all
24F here. I really like taking care of people. I want to take care of a family. I want to raise kids and be with them as they grow up and learn about the world and reach their dreams. I believe Iโm also quite lovey so taking care of a husband is not a bother for me at all. Iโll be happy to serve as long as Iโm treated right (spoiled right, maybe? lol).
But I know this is going to be a burden on my partner financially. I donโt know if anyone is okay with that. L
Edit: Thanks to all of you who responded! I am grateful for the various perspectives and sharing of experiences. From what I have gathered, this is definitely a choice, but I have to choose carefully. It seems like I have only considered the happy path. I appreciate that there are many who make sure I will be cautious and take care of myself no matter what. L
Like many (most) of us are currently doing, I'm rewatching RHONY, specifically season 4. Remember Cindy? She Had twins?? Owned a spa business??
I know she's easy to forget... BUT after this re-watch and instagram stalk of Cindy Barshop, I have to say that she is one of my favorite housewives! Maybe not for star- entertainment-drama - wise, buut, she was one of the most level- headed and "cool" housewives there were.
She didn't last because she is too "normal," but she's what I like to see peppered in! A successful lady who is raising a unique family and happy on her own. You can tell in the show that she can't even comprehend these ladies antics and is just entertained by it all from the outside, but could never stay on and accept this as reality. Specific scene: S4 E5 when Sonia confronts Cindy about a "pecking order" and criticizes Cindy for her atrocious act of 1. having a party "far away" in Quogue, and 2. SHE DIDN'T HAVE RAMONA'S PINOT GRIGIO.........!!!! you can tell in Cindy's facial features when Sonia is explaining this to her, she can't even keep a straight face and the scene ends.
Following Cindy's departure on RHONY on instagram, she continues to successfully grow her business and lovingly raise her kids - which I will note that she is an absolute superstar raising her (trans) son and daughter in a normalized and caring way, and supports them through everything.
In conclusion, I am extremely stoned, haven't been outside in days, and just felt the need to highlight an often - forgotten superstar.
......It's past 12PM, I can have wine now.....
I know that this is a bit of a foolish question, but I have wondered this for a while now, and I really just want to stay at home with my future kids all day.
edit: I've changed my mind, I'll hopefully be an archaeologist
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I'll fight you on this.
Iโm an early twenties wife to an early thirties man looking for some RPW advice. Weโve been married almost a year now after a shotgun wedding while I was finishing up my second bachelors degree. We now have a 7 month old son, a brand new house, and are both early in new careers.
While dating my husband, I followed my own mix of RPW, Laura Doyle, and Matthew Hussey inspired dating advice. Under the stress of all these changes it has been hard to stay true to those principles but Iโm doing my best, but coming up short. My husband recently called me a โbad housewifeโ because I am a messy person. Iโve worked really hard to be neater and am a lot better now than when we first married, but that comment really stings. I work full time as a night shift nurse, cook meals for the week, watch the baby (with my moms help when I work), and sometimes am too exhausted to keep a perfect house. Iโm not sure if itโs contributing to his frustration, but after being a student/working part time with my husband as the breadwinner, I am now making more money. We always say itโs OUR money and I remind him of how he supported me while I finished school.
I really want to be neater and better around the house, but my husbands comments sting and often lead to arguments. Any advice from other working moms on keeping a better house and making my husband proud?
