Self Conceited Puns

Quick backstory: my best friend was slightly obese and had an alternative style during high school when we met and became friends. She lost some weight five years ago. Since losing the weight, she started dressing more provocatively, wearing more makeup and always wearing heels. Also, she has started working in a predominantly male environment.

That's not the problem.

She has become very self-conceited. Every time I would see her, she would brag about how much attention she was getting everywhere. She even has the need to text me things like "omg this creep is checking out my ass", "omg some guy is honking at me, ew" or "i can't go to the gym when there's guys around because they always look at my ass". I thought this was strange since she isn't that attractive to get so much attention so often. I tried to be happy for her because I knew that behind the bragging is an insecure person seeking validation.

Then I found out something.

I accidentally met a guy that works with her and he told me the other side of the story. Most people at their workplace don't like her because she insults people as a joke. I believe that to be true because she told me she doesn't want to be known as nice anymore because it makes her look weak. People at work stare at her because she comes in dressed inappropriately for work and for her weight. She was even mistaken as a prostitute on the streets a few times. Sometimes they even convince one guy to go up and flirt with her as a "dare" just to make fun of her because she's so self-conceited and rude to them. She even had sex with some of the colleagues who later told other guys about it and how desperate she is. She doesn't even notice they're making a fool out of her, she thinks she's desirable.

I don't know how to feel anymore. On one hand, I know she's a good person and don't want to hurt her feelings. She's kind to me and would be there for me in a heartbeat. On the other hand, I can't stand to hear her constant bragging and self-complimenting while also knowing how delusional she is. I don't understand why she goes out of her way to be mean to people, then complain to me about how nobody wants to be her friend and how she can't find a boyfriend. I feel bad for knowing the truth and letting her continue to embarrass herself.

In short: my friend thinks she gets attention because she's attractive, but I found out people make fun of her weight, inappropriate clothing and enlarged ego

At 31 now when I hear them talk about people they dont know like this it makes me so furious and I see red and flip. They ruined my life and play dumb now that they dont know why I'm the way I am and have all these problems. Go fxk yourselves. Good for all these young people living normal healthy lives having fun and making memories and will never know what this is like, can't say I dont wish it was me and I'm not jealous but good for them. I wish I knew how my life could have turned out with different parents like to close my eyes and see just for 5 min like the butterfly effect

I quite literally do not stop talking about myself. Like I'm self aware but I always manage to say something dumb before I can filter. Today is my friends birthday so we texted in the group chat. While they were talking about her birthday and what she got I was gonna type "my birthdays on <mm-dd-yy>". Its small stuff like that that makes me seem arrogant. I mean heck I'm writing a reddit post about myself.

I caught myself before I sent it out. Like I will not hesitate to change the subject to me if I'm given the chance. I'm trying to fix myself but damn. I'm annoying

There’s this girl who got into Princeton; big shocker that she got in. Not only does she have double alumni status, but they apparently donated every month. Nevertheless, she’s very smart and has high stats, but it is undeniable that those both helped her. But, Princeton is an amazing school, don’t get me wrong, I’m very happy for everyone who worked hard and got in! It’s amazing!

But for this girl, there are some words to be exchanged. I’ve known her since we were 12 years old. We went to a summer camp and spent two weeks at a camp together. She was pretty humble and whatnot before she got in, but AFTER? She suddenly is “the greatest,” and she pretends like she doesn’t know who we are. Two of my friends, who she knows, saw her at a party, and the girl looked them up and down, walked over, and said, “Oh, I don’t think we’ve met before. Who are you?” This has happened on multiple occasions to many people that we mutually know.

Another public event, she made direct eye contact with me, ignored me, and said she had no idea who I was. Ever since she’s gotten in, she’s dyed her hair, gone out to parties, and acts as if she’s better than anyone else. Oh, and get this; she committed to Princeton but didn’t withdraw from her other schools. Asshole move.

TLDR: I’m very happy for everyone and their college acceptances (Heck, one of my friends is applying to Princeton, and I’m rooting for them!) but it gives you no right to act as if you’re better than anyone else. If your biggest accomplishment in life is where you went for undergrad, something is wrong here.

And I’m not saying that it’s only an Ivy thing! Two of my very good friends are headed to Harvard and Cornell and are some of the most humble people ever. It’s people that stick their noses up in the air that make me livid.

Sorry for the rant; this irks me more than anything. I saw a kid on TikTok make an “Ivy League Check” and almost lost it because he said that he was the best of the best.

Really, it seems like I made her feel alive again when she was down. Not just alive, but full of herself to the point where she’s acting like her shit don’t stink. She’s always posting selfies on Snapchat about how her eyes are something special, which I loved to look in when we’d have sex but they’re really not all that. I feel like my self esteem hasn’t fully rebuilt itself since we split but hers has turned from being unsure of herself to thinking she’s the most beautiful thing invented. Yes, I always reassured her how much I loved her still tell her to me she’s the most beautiful thing in the world, yet I know to the rest of the world she isn’t. I was never conceited before but always confident in myself before her but now... I feel like my energy’s been drained.

It’s really discomforting knowing how I gave myself away to build someone up who didnt work out in the end. I wish I knew how to restore balance and if anyone’s got advice or has been in my shoes, please share. Thanks all

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Ever had an "oh shit, I'm a shitty person" moment? I've had a few of those recently.

I've realized I'm cocky and care too much about my physical appearance. I'm a bad listener and care more about coming off as smart or cool in conversations than I care about what the person I'm talking to is saying. I look down on people for not doing as well as I am in life. I care more about people thinking that I'm a happy, successful person than I actually care about being happy or successful for personal fulfillment. It's making me cringe just to write this.

I really want to change and be someone who doesn't feel the need to be better than others. I want to be someone who makes others feel loved and appreciated. And I want it to be sincere. I don't want to do it just to "come off" as a kind person, I want to truly, genuinely change. What are some things I can do to practice humility and stop caring so much about myself and how I compare to others?

Filling out my own letter of recommendation, then forwarding it to my supervisor, I want to give myself an excellent, strong, glowing recommendation (PERFECT across the board), but I don't want myself too come off as too......??

One of our roommates is really messy, but somehow she's convinced she's the hardworking Cinderella in a house full of people who never clean up. For example, she hardly ever fills or empties te dishwasher (while she actually uses significantly more glasses/bowls/pans than every one else in the house - she just piles it on top until someone else takes care of it), but then when once in a (long) while she finally does take care of some dishes, she always sighs and makes passive agressive remarks about what a mountain of dishes there is, and how no one in the house ever cleans up! While hello! We do those dishes every day! It's driving me absolutely crazy, but since she's so strongly convinced of herself, I have absolutely not idea how to get through to her. Also because it's probably a message she will not WANT to get. Any ideas?

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I met a guy about two months ago. We went on a few dates and seem to like each other. We mostly talk in person (dates, meet ups) but text sometimes. We don't know each other that well but I've seen him maybe twice a week since we met. I think I have a pretty good handle on what type of person he is. He seems like a nice guy.

However, I recently started following him on Instagram and it's seriously cringe worthy. I feel like I'm following a 13 yr old girl. Just think a bunch of "artsy" self portraits of himself in different lighting showing off his chest hair. Most are without his shirt. Some are just face shots with a raised brow or a lip lick.

Is this a red flag? Is he just confident? I don't really think it's necessary but whatever floats your boat, I guess? He doesn't come off conceited or "too much" in person which is why I'm still thinking of dating him. Although if we were to become an item, I think I'd be pretty uncomfortable with his profile. He's trying too hard to come off seductive and while he is a single man (we are not exclusive yet), I definitely wouldn't find his pictures appropriate if we were.

Is this way too soon to bring up? He's invited me to a close family/friends picnic so I can meet people so I can see us getting there eventually.

tl;dr: Guy I'm seeing comes off as conceited and into himself online. I don't know how this will translate in person.

for, verily, you can never rend the earth asunder, nor can you ever grow as tall as the mountains.

Be humble. Fear Allah.