Does anyone else feel really triggered/irritated by kids’ self-centeredness?

Or am I evil?

Little kids are sort of the ultimate egotists and I remember being one of them and literally not caring at all about the other people around me.

It took so much effort and growing up to develop my compassion and concern for others. And when I’m around kids it feels like getting mentally thrust right back into that original place. Does that make sense?

I know that they can’t help it but I find it really draining to be around little kids for this reason, and I start to resent them.

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Losing friends is easy (try selfishness and self-centeredness) but making and keeping friends is hard work and requires good qualities like patience, understanding, forgiveness and a giving spirit.
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Agree or disagree with Max? It was obvious that Lorelai "forgetting" to give Max the keys was not out of self-centeredness, but rather, because she already knew she didn't want to marry him. However, I still tend to agree with what he said.
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Self centeredness and selflessness

How do stoics demarcate between self centeredness and selflessness, and where do they draw line between self centeredness and selfishness?

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Has anyone seen the show Enlightened, with Laura Dern? I think her character, Amy, was kind of like a prototype for Diane in a lot of ways. Socially conscious, but also prone to self-centeredness. Anyway, I made a mashup poster of the two
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Another death trap for the soul apart from vanity, pride and self-centeredness: Egocentrism in our spiritual beliefs
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Sudden Self Centeredness

My parents have gotten divorced. Recently I’ve been confused and blaming them both constantly about it. (Not to them) When I stay with one parent they talk badly about the other; I feel ive taken that on. When I come back home they comment that I’m more rude to them; I don’t want this to affect my relationships or emotions, and would rather it be back to normal and settled, my feelings neutral.

I understand both sides but I feel I’ve forgotten this and have become more self centered out of confusion and anger, which is unlike me.

How do I become less selfish in this situation, or, what would Buddhism teach me to do?

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Pleasure-seeking, status-seeking, and self-centeredness. It doesn't seem right.

This isn't directly related to being INTJ, but I'm posting it here because you guys are pretty logical, and I don't know where else to put it.

I'm 30, and had spent the majority of my adult life in the military. While I certainly had personal goals and desires, my career was one of sacrificing self for a greater purpose. While I was in, I saved a bunch of cash and got out.

In the past few years, I left and went on to the corporate world. By pretty much any standard, my life is better now. I have a lot of money. I can buy expensive things, travel, eat out whenever I want, etc. But I feel an emptiness, and even disgust, at the amount of pleasure in my life. It feels like a life of eating cake every day, and I want a bit of struggle.

This seems counter to what we think we want, as logically, we'd want to optimize pleasure and minimize pain. In reality, it feels a bit gross. Similarly, I look at people who aspire to an Instagram-model esque life of beaches and private jets and it seems sick and misguided. The more I think about it, the more I think that I want a life not of personal pleasure, but a life of measured sacrifice toward some greater goal, even if that goal doesn't directly benefit me.

I've never seen this sort of lifestyle promoted or pushed before, but it seems like this is what my soul wants. I'd like to know if others feel the same.

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Selfishness and self-centeredness

Lately I've felt that my faith is selfish. I'm looking after my own spiritual needs to unite myself to God. Even the Jesus Prayer is all about me. Reading the prayers of the church seem to be focused on my salvation and repentance. It seems all too easy to sit out the world and shut myself in. Thoughts? Different perspectives?

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Seeking examples of the evil of Pride; or, good characters hurting others with reckless self-centeredness.
  • The Trees of Valinor were meant to light the whole worldβ€”and in practice, only lit the blessed lands of the Valar. It could be said that the Valar believed that Valinor was the whole world, and that no one would leave it, therefore. Had the trees not been destroyed, the sun and the moon would not have been fashioned, and all of Middle-Earth would be lit by starlight and torches for ever.

  • Isildur choosing not to destroy the ring, but to claim it for himself as a werekind and use it to his own ends. Also the belief of some Men that the ring could be wielded against Sauron.

  • Similarly, Saruman’s (and Denethor’s, though he was more desperate) use of the Palantir, which warped his perception of the world while reassuring him it was wisdom.

  • Thorin’s ultimately selfish endeavor to reclaim his birthright, the kingdom under the mountain, directly causes a fiery slaughter at Smaug’s hand, the death of his kin and himself, and a war between five factions.

  • Dwarves of Moria, who delved too greedily and too deep into the Misty Mountains in their lust for gold and mithril, discovering the Balrog.

  • The whole intrigue about the Silmarils; really, Feanor’s whole shtick. And relatedly the intrigue about Galadriel’s hair.

ETA; Morgoth’s whole shtick towards IlΓΊvatar and creation would probably qualify, demonstrating the pervasiveness of the idea.

Hubris is a theme that comes up a lot in the legendariumβ€”what other examples are there?

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β€œGod is blessing me”... The sheer arrogance and self-centeredness of saying this.

β€œGod has blessed me with so many things in life!” What about all the hundreds of millions of people who are starving to death or dying from easily curable diseases?

God is apparently too busy β€œblessing” already wealthy North Americans and Europeans, while simultaneously not giving a ratβ€˜s arse about millions of people starving, being sold into slavery, or being harvested for their organs.

Nothing makes my blood boil quite like listening to a wealthy Christian harp on about how much God is blessing their life. It’s really great to know where his priorities lie! I guess your new house or love life is more important to God than a child being sold into sex slavery or chopped up for spare parts.

If this God is who christians claim he is, then quite frankly he’s an asshole. And to top it off, they get their panda paradise complete with fruit platters, while those same people who God ignored are killed at Armageddon for not accepting a faith they most likely haven’t even heard of.

I’m a very loyal person, so much so it took years of β€œwaking up” to leave. But a God who would do this is not worthy of any loyalty from me. Even if it were real, I would rather die standing up for what is right, instead of serving a God who fills the Governing Body’s bellies full of β€œspirits”, but would happily kill a child at Armageddon for not serving him.

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I'm having trouble with 3 main shadows I've identified in mybself: 1) self centeredness 2) manipulation 3) over sexuality. I need help with integrating these in my life/being more conscious when it rises, any suggestions are welcome please
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Radical Individualism and Self-Centeredness in the West - Fake Politeness and Non-Confrontation in Society

Just a small seemingly incident but it's important in highlighting how different our values and culture are.

I live with three Western roommates. I absent-mindedly left some food on the counter overnight. Not one of them bothered to let me know or just close the damned lid! It's not that I expect people to clean up after me but I'm human and fuck up sometimes. Contrast that to my desi values: I called up my neighbor know that he should move his car when he would have gotten a ticket if he didn't. He was not only thankful but also shocked at such a decent thing. In India, if my car broke down in the middle of a road, someone sooner or later would have stopped by and helped me out (maybe even going out of their way). Here they would have driven past you and maybe even splashed on a puddle to make me soaking wet. They worship money here and not human connection.

I can also say that Middle-Easterners, South Americans and Africans (not African-Americans!) are not like this unless they've lived in the West for a long time! Anyone else feel that they'd never fit in with these mindless, soul-less, overly polite, passive-aggressive and non-confrontational robots?

If you can relate to this, I'd love to hear people chiming in with stories of their own on this subject. Even if you don't relate to this, and think that I'm way off and am imagining all this I'd like to hear that as well. Disagreement is welcome - I just need a conversation.

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On Memorial Day weekend, Kamala outdoes Obama’s self-centeredness americanthinker.com/blog/…
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Psychedelics & Sleep Provide a Temporary Relief from the Burden of Self-Centeredness (1.5-minute audio clip from Tim Ferriss & Jack Kornfield) podclips.com/c/TyaQmg?ss=…
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β€œI am protected everything is fine...I never knew the state of what these two niggas would do at any given moment and I will not allow any of gang, ANY OF GANG to be affected by bad business and bad decision making and greed and self centeredness and all of these other toxic toxic things” Joe Budden

May 12th, 2021. Episode 437, timestamp 1:10.

Did Joe do any risk assessment?

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Self-centeredness is no virtue.

Ayn Rand's Objectivism still haunts our modern discourse. The sublime individuality of Libertarianism and Objectivism seek to elevate man as a transcendant, immaterial being. They claim to have rationale as their framework, but it serves something far less, if at all.

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Lilith in 5th house cusp Taurus. Venus in Scorpio. Does this point towards a tendency for self-centeredness in love?
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TIL Obsessive taking of selfies and posting to social media has been found to be linked to many symptoms common to mental disorders to include narcissism, low self-esteem, loneliness, self-centeredness, and attention-seeking behaviors en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sel…
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Self Centeredness

People who have struggled with being self-centered; have you found that you are less self centered when microdosing (especially psilocybin)? Do you find that it lasts once you stop?

I know it is different for everyone, and there are lots of different factors, but I was just wondering for a general sense of people's experiences.

Thanks!

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self-centeredness arises from the failure to distinguish the self from external objects
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Trancendental meditation enhances centeredness, self-awareness, and empathy, while reducing stress eurekalert.org/pub_releas…
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"True-Self" Centeredness

"True-Self" Centered

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*Spoiler?* Imma be that person for a second, but literally the first screen and already I want to throw my phone at my MC πŸ˜’πŸ˜’ are you kidding me right now? The self-centeredness is on a whole new level πŸ€¦β€β™€οΈ rant over πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ
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Finally got up the courage to tell my ndad I’m angry with him and explain how his emotional neglect and self-centeredness has ruined our relationship. Answer I got: β€˜you’ve shattered my identity as a father.’ Cool, dad. Thanks for β€˜listening’.

Feeling both proud of myself and irrationally scared of making him mad. It’s been almost 5 months since I last communicated with him. Thanks for this group. It helps. Navigating relationships with narcissist parents is not easy. Love and strength to you all.

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The level of self-centeredness is just...wow
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Psychedelics & Sleep Provide a Temporary Relief from the Burden of Self-Centeredness (1.5-minute audio clip from Tim Ferriss & Jack Kornfield) podclips.com/c/TyaQmg?ss=…
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"Society grows great when old men plant trees whose shade they will never sit in." Renewable energy, hemp plastics, universal healthcare... what is your favorite example for how short-term self-centeredness & greed are ruining our potential future?
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Failed doctor shopping, ridiculous levels of self-centeredness, and more #thathappened from Sara Grace
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Cursed_Self_Centeredness
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Sifting through self-centeredness.
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9/11 & Postmodernist American Writers: Insights into Problem of Radical Self-Centeredness nationalreview.com/2020/0…
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Self-centeredness is the shittiest seat one can view reality from.
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The entitlement and self-centeredness is mind boggling and infuriating. I don't understand why you feel everyone else has to cater to your personal tastes.
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You can significantly help the world by sparing it your anger, judgement, self-centeredness, rudeness, and insensitivity. -Domyo Sater Burk
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