Women Who Love too Much by Robin Norwood

Have you read this? I discovered it as I was searching for hope online after a particularly shitty fight with my fiancee. I read reviews and watched some videos on YouTube of people discussing the book. Cut to last week we had an I might actually pack my shit up today while you're out of the house fight. I left the house and immediately bought the book and read it in full in 24 hours.

My struggle is, this book really enlightened lots of things for me but since I'm certain he's a narcissist, it puts so much blame on me for picking him? Yes I understand I made choices to get where I am today. Many of them based on the low self esteem my childhood nurtured leading me to want to reenact all that crap with him. So I do feel more enlightened and informed on my own shit. But I also feel sort of lost now. It seems like it's all on me to make things better where I'm at, join Al-anon or CODA and don't worry about what he's doing. But the things making me crazy and eating my sanity are that we don't have boundaries or respect, I am carrying the responsibility for everything in our lives and with 2 chronic illnesses (fibro and narcolepsy likely caused by C-PTSD from him) and I am fucking exhausted. There's nothing about dealing with the real day to day. I think that is probably due to the time period it was written, women just accepted the misogynistic misery of them doing everything.

Is there a book that is informed of her school of thought that can help someone who is with a narcissist? Recommendations? Suggestions or what you found useful if you read this book? Thank you so much for reading and for this thread. Knowing I'm not alone in my struggles does help.

A little back story I'm 31f, he's 36M. Together nearly 6 years. We broke up last summer because he refused to go to couple's counseling. I tried to leave, got 90% of my stuff out and he hoovered me back in. Things were better for a time, did the couple's counseling. But we're back where we started except that I express my dissatisfaction more often and less quietly so he has done all that he can to further destroy what's left of my self esteem each time. Not sure I have the energy or courage to try to leave again. Wedding scheduled for June and planning seems to have really ramped up the verbal abuse. Idk why I moved forward with picking a date, just another dumb decision of mine. I guess I thought marriage and children might fix some things but the more I think about it t

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Books on how to understand why people search for emotional unavailable people?

Hi! I usually tend to involve myself with emotionally unavailable people. And I want to look into it. Preferably from a psychological perspective but whatever you can recommend me is awesome. Thank you so much! I hope everyone is having a lovely day

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(TW) Incredible book: The Tragedy of Heterosexuality by Jane Ward

Someone recommended this book on FLUS. I’m about one third through and it’s amazing. The author analyzes straight culture and how it is harmful to straight women.

Here are some notes from what I’ve read so far.

The author talks about how, historically, white men were in power and women were subordinate. Women were often sold, raped and used for their labors. At some point someone decided it would be better [for white power] for men and women to try to like each other. So this switch from β€œwoman-as-degraded-subordinate to women-of-worthy-deep-love” has been very rocky. That is where the author starts.

Men and women didn’t like each other. They had little to nothing in common. They didn’t find each other attractive. Quite the contrary, they were repulsed by each other. Men cared more about getting the esteem of other men, than loving a woman. So much so that a whole propaganda started to try to have men and women be together. Early on, pamphlets were given out to help both men and women, to improve their attractiveness (such as hygiene), in hopes that they’d like each other.

It very quickly switched to all of the responsibility for the heterosexuality-repair to be put on the woman. And propaganda, from books to tv shows and movies, pushed that.

β€œIn sum, midcentury representations of marriage doubled down on earlier themes of opposite-sex disinterest and resentment by suggesting to women that not only their bodies but also their personalities needed to be carefully managed in order to produce happy heterosexuality. As experts elaborated their expectations of the good wife, women’s submission and self-sacrifice became central ingredients of straight culture, with women warned about what they must give up in order to β€œkeep their men” ([…] their jobs and interests, their desire for adult conversation, their selfhood). Straight culture was also marked by men’s fragility and irritation, their pervasive sense of burden, loss and entrapment. […] Advertisers learned to capitalize on heterosexual tragedy by creating ads that played on men’s desire for freedom and power over women and women’s desire to be attractive and interesting to their husbands.”

The author recognized that β€œmillions of women had become addicted to unstable, immature, angry, cold, and abusive men” after Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood became a best-seller.

The casual sex era was β€œone way of managing the disappointment of heterosexuality.”

The author also talks about how

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My Christmas Wish - Replace All The Judges

I admit that I like Ken Jeong and I don't find him annoying at all, but, sometimes, I think his bit is just too much, and I just don't like any of the remaining judges. I started kinda thinking about who I'd like to have in place of each judge and I came up with this:

To Replace Robin: Joel McHale. He's funny and just not always using the same old tired bits ("I know exactly who this is." or "WHO IS IT?"), The viewers like him.

To Replace Ken: John Henson. The guy has cutting wit but seems to enjoy having fun and the commentary he did during Wipeout was always big fun. I'm not sure how connected he is, but he would be a nice replacement for Ken, I think.

To Replace Nicole: Gwen Stefani. She's genuinely nice and uplifting. There doesn't seem to be any kind of fakeness to her and she provides a warmth and funness (as well as a sense of reality as a singer).

To Replace Jenny: Triumph The Insult Comic Dog Puppet Thingy (to balance out the sweetness of Gwen Stefani), Vanessa Williams maybe, or even Brandy Norwood.

None of my choices are overly dramatic but I think all of them would work with the show quite well.

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Blind Girl Here. Give Me Your Best Blind Jokes!

Do your worst!

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What starts with a W and ends with a T

It really does, I swear!

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Dropped my best ever dad joke & no one was around to hear it

For context I'm a Refuse Driver (Garbage man) & today I was on food waste. After I'd tipped I was checking the wagon for any defects when I spotted a lone pea balanced on the lifts.

I said "hey look, an escaPEA"

No one near me but it didn't half make me laugh for a good hour or so!

Edit: I can't believe how much this has blown up. Thank you everyone I've had a blast reading through the replies πŸ˜‚

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[Match thread] Nottingham Forest vs Sheffield Utd

#[Championship - 2021/2022] #FT: 90' Nottingham Forest 1-1 Sheffield Utd


Match Info:

Date: November 02, 2021

Time: 19:45 (UTC)

Venue: The City Ground


Recent form

Nottingham Forest: DLWWWW

Sheffield Utd: LWLWLL


Lineups:

Nottingham Forest - 3-4-3

Starting XI: Brice Samba, Joe Worrall, Tobias Figueiredo, Scott McKenna, Djed Spence, Ryan Yates, James Garner, Jack Colback, Brennan Johnson, Joe Lolley, Lyle Taylor

Substitutes: Ethan Horvath, GaΓ«tan Bong, Alex Mighten, JoΓ£o Carvalho, Braian Ojeda, Philip Zinckernagel, Lewis Grabban

Coach: S. Reid

Sheffield Utd - 4-2-3-1

Starting XI: Robin Olsen, Jayden Bogle, Chris Basham, John Egan, Enda Stevens, Oliver Norwood, John Fleck, Rhian Brewster, Morgan Gibbs-White, Ben Osborn, Lys Mousset

Substitutes: Wes Foderingham, Jack Robinson, Conor Hourihane, George Baldock, Iliman Ndiaye, David McGoldrick, Billy Sharp

Coach: S. Jokanović


Match Stats:

Nottingham Forest Sheffield Utd
1 Shots On Goal 3
3 Shots Off Goal 1
6 Shots inside box 4
1 Shots outside box 2
7 Total Shots 6
3 Blocked Shots 2
11 Fouls 11
6 Corner Kicks 4
1 Offsides 1
43% Ball Possession 57%
4 Yellow Cards 2
0 Red Cards 0
2 Goalkeeper Saves 0
361 Total passes 501
289 Pass accuracy 428
80% Passes % 85%

Match events

0' KICKOFF!

39' Yellow Card for O. Norwood (Sheffield Utd)

45' Yellow Card for L. Mousset (Sheffield Utd)

51' Yellow Card for R. Yates (Nottingham Forest)

53' Yellow Card for Tobias Figueiredo (Nottingham Forest)

57' Substitution: P. Zinckernagel for J. Lolley (Nottingham Forest)

63' Substitution: L. Grabban for L. Taylor (Nottingham Forest)

65' Substitution: I. Ndiaye for L. Mousset (Sheffield Utd)

69' Yellow Card for B. Johnson (Nottingham Forest)

76' Substitution: B. Sharp for B. Osborn (Sheffield Utd)

78' GOAL! Scored by M. Gibbs-White (Sheffield Utd)

79' Substitution: A. Mighten for Tobias Figueiredo (Nottingham Forest)

83' GOAL! Scored by L. Grabban (Nottingham Forest)

89' Substitution: C. Hourihane for J. Fleck (Sheffield Utd)

90' Yellow Card for J. Worrall (Nottingham Forest)

90' Match whistled off

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What is a a bisexual person doing when they’re not dating anybody?

They’re on standbi

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I wanna hear your best airplane puns.

Pilot on me!!

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E or ß?
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What do you call quesadillas you eat in the morning?

Buenosdillas

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No spoilers
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Covid problems
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These aren't dad jokes...

Dad jokes are supposed to be jokes you can tell a kid and they will understand it and find it funny.

This sub is mostly just NSFW puns now.

If it needs a NSFW tag it's not a dad joke. There should just be a NSFW puns subreddit for that.

Edit* I'm not replying any longer and turning off notifications but to all those that say "no one cares", there sure are a lot of you arguing about it. Maybe I'm wrong but you people don't need to be rude about it. If you really don't care, don't comment.

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I had a vasectomy because I didn’t want any kids.

When I got home, they were still there.

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What did 0 say to 8 ?

What did 0 say to 8 ?

" Nice Belt "

So What did 3 say to 8 ?

" Hey, you two stop making out "

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I dislike karma whores who make posts that imply it's their cake day, simply for upvotes.

I won't be doing that today!

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The Ancient Romans II
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How do you stop Canadian bacon from curling in your frying pan?

You take away their little brooms

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I did it, I finally did it. After 4 years and 92 days I went from being a father, to a dad.

This morning, my 4 year old daughter.

Daughter: I'm hungry

Me: nerves building, smile widening

Me: Hi hungry, I'm dad.

She had no idea what was going on but I finally did it.

Thank you all for listening.

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It this sub dead?

There hasn't been a post all year!

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Couch potato
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Baka!
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concrete πŸ—Ώ
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My name is ABCDEFGHIJKMNOPQRSTUVWXYZ

It’s pronounced β€œNoel.”

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All dad jokes are bad and here’s why

Why

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Why are people so surprised and angry about Djokovic being an anti-vaxxer?

After all his first name is No-vac

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Letting loose with these puns
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If Korean pop is shortened to Kpop and Korean Drama is Kdrama...

What, then, is Chinese rap?

Edit:

Notable mentions from the comments:

  • Spanish/Swedish/Swiss/Serbian hits

  • French/Finnish art

  • Country/Canadian rap

  • Chinese/Country/Canadian rock

  • Turkish/Tunisian/Taiwanese rap

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That’s Michelle
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Is this sub still active?

There hasn't been a single post this year!

(Happy 2022 from New Zealand)

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What did the ocean say to the beach?

Nothing, it just waved

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is Isn't
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@u/mordrathe - remix
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Match Thread: Barnsley vs Sheffield United | English League Championship

#FT: Barnsley 2-3 Sheffield United

Barnsley scorers: Devante Cole (78'), Aaron Leya Iseka (82')

Sheffield United scorers: Lys Mousset (51', 53'), Ben Osborn (72')


Venue: Oakwell

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LINE-UPS

Barnsley

Bradley Collins, Michal Helik, Liam Kitching (William Hondermarck), Toby Sibbick, Jasper Moon, Claudio Gomes, Callum Styles, Callum Brittain, Cauley Woodrow, Dominik Frieser (Aaron Leya Iseka), Victor Adeboyejo (Devante Cole).

Subs: Mamadou Obbi OularΓ©, Jack Walton, Clarke Oduor, Remy Vita.

^____________________________

Sheffield United

Robin Olsen, Ben Davies, John Egan, Enda Stevens, George Baldock, Oliver McBurnie (Chris Basham), John Fleck, Oliver Norwood, Lys Mousset (Billy Sharp), Ben Osborn, Iliman Ndiaye (David McGoldrick).

Subs: Conor Hourihane, Jack Robinson, Wes Foderingham, Rhian Brewster.


MATCH EVENTS | via ESPN

51' Lys Mousset Goal

53' Goal! Barnsley 0, Sheffield United 2. Lys Mousset (Sheffield United) right footed shot from very close range to the high centre of the goal. Assisted by Ben Osborn.

54' Substitution, Barnsley. Aaron Leya Iseka replaces Dominik Frieser.

59' On: Devante Cole|Off: Victor Adeboyejo

61' Substitution, Sheffield United. Billy Sharp replaces Lys Mousset.

67' Substitution, Sheffield United. David McGoldrick replaces Iliman Ndiaye.

72' Ben Osborn Goal

74' On: William Hondermarck|Off: Liam Kitching

78' Devante Cole Goal

82' Aaron Leya Iseka Goal

86' On: Chris Basham|Off: Oliver McBurnie


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What do you call a guy with no arms and no legs in a hot tub?

Bob

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My WIFI password is 2444666668888888

Just to clarify, 12345678

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I named my dog "5 miles."

So that I could frequently say, "I am going to walk 5 miles now."

Edit: My most popular post on Reddit! πŸ˜€ Thank you for the awards.

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Possibly the greatest Snap Reaction dad joke I've ever told (it even got me a POWERFUL groan and vehement FU from my wife)

Me grabbing a soda from my (what I thought was) half full 12pk...

Notices there's only 2;

Me: "Awe man... This is a damn bird box!" Her: "What the hell does that mean?!" Me: (Pulls both cans out & shows them to her) "It's only got Toucans."

I'm not ashamed to admit the look on her face was glorious.

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I can't believe I was arrested for impersonating a politician...

I was just sitting there doing nothing.

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Guns
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The two genders
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If β€œwomb” is pronounced β€œwoom” and β€œtomb” is pronounced β€œtoom” then shouldn’t β€œbomb” be pronounced…

β€œBOOM”?!

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A little boy came running up to me and said, "Please help, my dad is in a fight!" I followed him and came across two men fighting, so I asked him, "Which one's your dad?!" He replied, "I don't know."

"That's what they're fighting about."

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I like my coffee how I like my slaves

free

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