Not Liking Puns

The more I'm around them, the more I don't like them. Everyone keeps trying to convince me that I'll like them and having me look at other people's children but the connection isn't there and I'm starting to feel terrible. They'll say things such as "they are pure human beings" and it just makes me feel like a monster for not liking them.

I think I'm going to start going to therapy because I'm having second doubts that maybe I just don't like the parental examples in my life. For example; my boyfriend's grandmother treats her grand daughter like a QUEEN. She expects her to have everything (literally. NOT over exaggerating. Words from her mouth) In fact she said, "Of course Im going to get mad when someone doesn't get everything she wants because I believe she should have everything" and it really kills it for me.

She MEANS IT. She told me she said "derogatory remarks" against me for not wanting to give her grandchild everything. It really hits hard.

I think I am going to go to therapy to see if I truly dont like children or do I hold some type of resentment to how they are raised. Wish me luck.

(also I know for a fact that I do not like infants. Part of me doesn't like anything too fragile because I like to play rough.)

Guys I need some help understanding the issue. I'm really confused. So I got AH:LCG about 4 month ago, after reading all the positive reviews and comments about it. I played it(the core box) didn't like it, but the comments... All the comments online... They say it's like the best, top of the year, a game to end all games. I must be mad. I read forums, I read everything I can find on AHLCG. A theory emerges "the core box sux, dunvich is much better". So I bought dunvich legacy fully expecting it to change my mind. Nope, stopped halway to the end. Put it online to sell.

But I just cant get it out of my head. And not in the way like "oh, I'd like to try again, there were some fun moments", more like "it dragged like hell, it was repetetive, depressing and extremely punishing, and I was never in control of anything, why the heck people are obsessed with it"

I am a reasonable person, I can see other's opinions, I understand that I may not like what others like, but still see the fun in it. the issue for me is that in most cases my monkey brain is with the majority, "I like what everybody likes, cause if everybody likes it, then it's popular, and most cases popular=fun". But AHLCG Is. Not. Fun. And I dont understand why everybody likes it.

So basically every round you do 3 actions, most of them are skill checks, and they are not fun, cause you constantly fail. Sometimes you fail so much that you get damage. Sometimes you succeed, and find a clue, and then this clue is taken from you just because "screw you". Sometimes all you actions are wasted on failed skill checks. And, OK, sometimes you just succede, but purely cause you're lucky.

Sometimes you fight, and oh, what is it? Oh yeah, skill checks! Haha, i missed you old friend. So there is 1 strategy for fighting: try to disengage end kick it while it's on the ground. And sometimes you fail, all... 3... Checks... Not fun

Then it's monster phase, they just kick you, at least it's not a skill check.

Then there's some rest, you get this box token and a card, and it never feels exciting or helpful, cause you know what's coming next, yup, you guessed it, you get smacked on the head with this depression token (forgot what it's called) sometimes 2, and an enemie or skill checks again.

Basically if you want to get the feel of the game, just reread my rant 5-9 times and it'll save you some money.

And, I guess, I'll repeat myself, but where are all the negative reviews and comments, am I the only one seeing th

I have a weird obsession for possession in football and haven’t had much problems in previous titles pulling off tactics that gave me 63% possession against most sides. Yet in this year’s beta, it’s so rare that I get over even 55% possession. Am I the only one who’s been struggling with this?

Okay, I know right off the bat that this already looks bad (and it might be, who knows), but I sure do feel like a big dick about this.

My one coworker who I work with every day has been with the company for a long time. Right off the bat on my first day of work, she and one of my other coworkers that I work with a couple times a week bombarded me with questions about my life, when I'm a more reserved person that takes a while to warm up to people, so it was super intimidating and overwhelming for me.

She's constantly apologizing for EVERY little tiny thing as if it's the biggest tragedy in the world, even if she so much drops a piece of paper or sneezes. She's also constantly leaving food on my desk - Starbucks pasteries, candies, chips, you name it. I'm not the only one she offers food to, but oftentimes she just drops it on my desk before I come to work (and she's done this in the past with the people who had my position before me). Anytime she offers me anything I decline, because I really don't want it because I've been gaining weight. I've tried to politely tell her that I don't want her to buy me anymore food, but she just tells me that "it's part of her culture" (she's Thai).

The whole thing just bothers me so much and I think it's annoying as hell, as horrible as it sounds. I think the reason why it's so annoying to me is that it makes me feel guilty, and the niceness also cuts into our productivity as a team; her work output is way, way below mine because she gets caught up in long conversations with random people that pass by. Management knows that I have a far higher productivity rate (they constantly remind me about it), but I think her "sweet innocence" makes it so she doesn't get in trouble.

So yeah. I can't tell if I'm being a jerk about this whole thing. Even if the productivity thing wasn't a problem, the niceness pisses me off. It's one thing to maybe offer a stick of gum to your coworker every once and a while, but all the food, prying about my life constantly, the long conversations... it's driving me fucking insane. I'm actually interviewing for a different position within the company on Monday partially for this reason.

So lay it on me guys, am I a terrible person for hating niceness?

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Star Ocean. I love the setting for this series. It's fantasy, it's futuristic and SPACE!

The games themselves though. I just couldn't get into despite trying. A bit overwhelming by all the characters and the last one I played was a bit hardcore least for me. (Everyone's like level 50 and we recruit a level 1...)

Talking about non-story or non-playable character quests obviously.

Gives me time to actually give a shit about the NPC questgivers. Like Kazari, for example, has become so memorable to me that I actually found it kinda hard to claim my reward because I'd lose her memento in exchange.

Another one is the Farmer's Treasure which gave me a laugh due to how stupid the NPC questgiver was. The enemies are also dumb to the point that they get special titles when you fight them lol.

Not to mention that some sidequests actually permanently change the Inazuma physical landscape. It just gives off the feeling that the quest mattered and it had some weight.

We still have the usual "Give me 12 weeds bruh" quests that we've always had, but I'm glad to see more of these long chain quests. I do hope we get more of these in the future.

This has turned into a really long post, I apologize for that. Read if you want, don't read if you don't want. Only read parts, whatever. I just want to engage in meaningful discussion rather than the coarse discussion I've seen so far.

The disconnect from what people are saying about the game, and my experience, is 100% different. This game is absolutely awesome. People can complain, nitpick, or criticize all they want, but seriously, if you have been on the edge, go in with an open mind.

Did this game promise something that didn't deliver? I've never even heard about the game before today, where I saw it and installed it immediately. A completely open mind. I played through the first two chapters of Leo's episode before reading anything about the game and loved it. Turns out, the game has almost entirely negative reception? What? Afterwards I played the rest of Leo's and Celia's story, and I have come to a conclusion. This game is genuinely really fun.

For a bit of background, I love Dragalia Lost and Tales (I have only played Abyss, Vesperia, and Berseria, as well as a bit of Crestoria but dropped it quickly due to disliking the turn-based combat). This game feels to me like a combination of Dragalia Lost and Tales and that is amazing.

Main complaints I've seen are:

• Menu - Yeah the menu is pretty bad at first. Its also really easy to get used to. It is overly streamlined to a fault.
• Portrait mode - I don't get the complaints here at all. The game is perfectly fine, and a good fit, for portrait mode. When running, you can see everything you need to, including enemies at a distance as well as locations you are running to. You are going down long hallways, you do not need to see everything side-to-side, you need to see the entire hallway. You can also see the sky, which is beautiful. I genuinely do not understand why some people are so insistent on this.
• Camera - This is only a problem when fighting enemies. And its a simple fix. When engaged in combat, the camera should move to a more overhead camera. It is a minor issue that can easily be fixed in an update.
• Controls - Not particularly good, not particularly bad. The controls feel very, very, similar to Dragalia Lost. However, it is an improvement from Dragalia Lost in running sections. It is much easier to move than in Dragalia. I've seen some people say that this game hurts your hands... What? How the hell are you holding the device if its hurting your hands. One finger, hold it

I don't know what's about it, but I'm mildly bothered by it.

I can't tell if this is me becoming old and hate change, or it is because the design is bad :(

But I know for sure they really messed up the whiteboard.

I wonder if this could be my issue and that they aren't doing anything wrong, but the fact is it really grates on me.

They're wonderful people, parents and grandparents and they just want to see their family, so their intentions are good and there's certainly no malice involved.

The problem for me is that they just turn up unannounced and walk right in. I'll be honest and say that our house rarely looks like a show home, and on laundry days (especially the weekends) there can be piles of clothes on the settee or dining table, or worse, the remnants of the previous night (snacks, drinks, alcohol) that haven't been tidied away. I guess at this point I anticipate some replies saying we should see to this regardless of if we're expecting anyone and tbf you'd have a point.

Even if the house was spotless, sometimes we just want to chill on a Sunday morning and not be disturbed, sometimes we're nursing a hangover (which will be immediately pointed out lol) or just aren't feeling social.

There's are mundane reasons as well, such as having work to do for a deadline or being in the middle of some other task or project, or, erm, activity.

It's not that I don't want them to come round, but at the same time I find myself feeling more and more negatively about it when they do, which I feel pretty shitty about; they're my lovely parents after all!

I think if I asked them to call ahead I'd risk upsetting them by making them feel unwelcome or like someone who wasn't part of the family. So AITA?

I’m a VERY social person. I keep a huge social circle, probably around 40-60 friends at school and 40-60 friends at home, all like actual friends as well. Like we text, call, hang out etc. however, I loathe going out on weekends. I get FOMO when all of my friends go but I would rather stay home, do homework and feel the FOMO than actually go. I love talking to new people, but the frat/bar scene is not up my alley at all. Is that strange because I’m such an extrovert? I feel like I’m wasting my youth and college years sitting in my dorm instead of going out, but every time I go out I just get anxious and want to leave early. I like drinking with my friends and people I know, but being surrounded by drunk strangers gives me anxiety. Is there a reason for this? Is this normal? Sorry this was so long I’m just confused by myself sometimes. Thanks a lot for any responses and advice I get. I just feel awkward always declining invites and staying home alone. (I’m Aware there are worse problems to have than “all 50 of my friends want me to go out but I don’t like to🥲”) (sorry for making you read this whole thing)

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I'm sorry to those who don't want to see this kind of post lol, there's been like dozens of them at this point. But I have to defend this arc, cause first of all, it's good, involving characters that still needed development, for example the Miko-Ishigami case and now we've figured out it's linked with Osaragi, and a new character to challenge Iino on her quest to conquer Ishigami (the blonde with blue eyes gamer girl, don't remember the name sorry). All these REALLY GOOD secondary characters have been forgotten a bit lately for the sake of the main arc between Shirogane and Kaguya, which is completely fine, and it was pogchamp to see it end well. We haven't even got to the heart of the matter yet on this arc (Miko-Ishigami possible relation) and yet people are starting to say it's too long? It's only been a handful of chapters for this arc and may I remind to everyone that the manga got a 35 day pause during the month of June. Finally, I saw people complain about this arc being worse than others and it not being comedic enough. This is just stupid to me, a romantic comedy always keeps its comedic moments but is bound to get serious at one moment, simply because that's how GOOD STORY TELLING works.

So, I started doing a crossover fic where one character from one franchise is going through alternate versions of both his and another franchise.

Long story short, he met a character from his franchise that he has never met before in canon and, with some encouragement from my readers, decided to make some witty banter/flirty dialogues between them... And now I'm into this ship that, not only will probably get me murdered by half the fandom, also basically is non-existent.

Any of you guys have a similar story?

Hello all! I hope everyone is doing well! Hopefully this post is allowed as it's a somewhat...controversial one.

I came across a video on YouTube about "unpopular opinions" and there was a comment thread with people saying that black people who like kpop are "weird" because they're supporting an industry "that doesn't see them as human" and that "they need to get over that phase, I've gotten over it". Now, that hit me very hard as a Black person. I feel like there's so many things that define a black person and now kpop is one of them.

I've always felt a twinge of guilt for liking kpop because I've seen and heard the bigotry that some groups have expressed and I've seen many black people denounce others for liking Kpop. I mainly listen to one group because I've seen they've made a huge effort to change and they have but I don't think liking kpop as a whole should determine whether someone is "black enough" or whether they have internalized racism or anti-blackness.

It's up to the person whether they want to listen to the artists or not and whether they want to hold them accountable. I personally see if they've made efforts to change and, if they have, I continue listening to them. If not, I move on and don't invest as much time as I did in them before.

But don't say black people are "weird" for liking a genre of music. Don't shame them.

I've also always felt a bit of embarrassment for liking Kpop due to younger and older people thinking that it's "odd" for people who are "older"( 25+) to listen to Kpop (I'm a '92 liner).

It's like there are so many criteria for listening to Kpop that other genres of music don't have. It's almost like if you're not black (or maybe other races/ethnicities but I'm black so I can only speak for myself) or a certain age group you shouldn't listen to it, which is so messed up.

These are just my thoughts and I want to emphasize that black people aren't a monolith. I just wanted to post this here because I don't have anyone else to talk to about this IRL. 😔

EDIT: WOW. I'm so happy to read these answers! Just know that I read every one of them and I'm glad to see this discussion happening. 👍🏽

Any comments praising the album are like immediately shit on lol.

I personally loved the album and was shocked to see a negative reaction on here. It's not perfect. I don't love the sequencing and they could've left off like 4 or 5 tracks, but there's a really great 12-13 song album in here.

If you like it too don't let yourself be swayed by the overwhelming negativity!

My three year old has been saying that she doesn’t like daycare and that she doesn’t want to go since January when she moved from the toddler room to preschool. I put it down to being one of the youngest rather than one of the oldest and a little loss of confidence due to the pandemic. But it was beginning to get to me. She seemed to have a good day when she was there and came out smiling, went in willingly etc. But she regularly says she doesn’t want to go when we talk about our plans for the week.

Yesterday on the way she told me she didn’t like daycare. She’s three, so although I tried to ask her why, we didn’t really get any answers. Eventually she said she didn’t like the people, but wouldn’t say which people (kids or staff). When we got there I spoke to her key worker, who assured me that she seems happy, but sometimes she wants to play on her own and gets fed up with the other kids. This makes sense because my kid loves play dates, but after a couple of hours will ask to go home. The key worker suggested that if kiddo wants “chill time” she should find her and she’ll take her to the “calm down area”.

It’s been two days and my kid is so much happier. She goes to an adult, asks for time out, gets to chose a toy, book or pencils and stays in the calm down area for 5-10 minutes and then comes out when she’s ready. She only does it once a day. She’s much happier going now.

Moral of the story: talking to daycare staff about your concerns works!

I (26f) feel guilty mainly because I grew up a hair spoiled, the youngest of three daughters and my dad had a fair amount of money that he could toss around often on rebuilding cars and whatnot that came from a job at a steel mill... he spent most of it on his own wants and needs, but us kids definitely good some cool things too with a little pleading in our youth. I was definitely very fortunate and I sometimes feel guilty for being selfish in my youth asking for toys, pets, ect.

I'm having a hard time lately because I've never really been able to talk to my dad ...at all. I couldn't show emotion because he would be angry if I cried, or was frustrated. We have zero things in common, and now that I'm older he's always got really disgusting (racist, homophobic, mysogynist) jokes and only spends his time on things that either benefit only him, in his garage, or glued to the TV watching slot machine gambling videos on YouTube. He almost died from a heart attack four years ago and didn't stop smoking even after my sister announced her pregnancy with triplets.

My mom is nice and kind, but she thinks I am so weak because of my anxiety, which has been well controlled for the past few years with medication and cutting out alcohol. She never tells me anything that's going on because she thinks I'll have a mental breakdown.

My oldest (37) sister is 11 years older than me, we have never had a strong bond because I honestly don't know her all that well. The times that I've tried we are just too different on opinions and lifestyles.

My other sister (32) was so mean and manipulative to me, but also condemned my anxiety issues as "another one of her freakouts" although I haven't had one in years.

None of them make an effort to come and visit me. My parents have seen my apartment once in the four years I've lived there, and have popped in to my workplace once within that same span. They don't call me unless they need something, or want to know if I'm coming for a holiday or an extended family function.

Getting together for holidays hurts me so bad because I feel obligated and required to go, nobody talks to me or my boyfriend, my dad just winds up in front of the TV with one of my sisters and making gross comments on things, my mom is usually busy wrangling the triplets, and my other sister sits on her phone getting upset about Facebook propaganda. We don't bond or even talk. I've tried to push conversation, I've tried my hardest to relate, but usually I'm ignor

I do see this a lot more from the conservative's posts when they get fact-checked they want to complain about it. I've even seen memes that are obviously conservative that try to dis on fact-cheecking. Sometimes even say fact-checking is apparently a lie. Really I don't think anyone is really safe from fact-checking but it does become kind of sus when you complain about it and think it's wrong when facts are right there and they even give you information to look up for yourself. It is like fact-checking should apparently be wrong because it disproves their beliefs. I mean like I used to be all for Steven Crowder and Ben Shapiro until the whole election fraud idea. I do think conservative people just want more confirmation in their beliefs a bit more while more libreal people are more about critical thinking so when they see their beliefs aren't being confirmed they kind of do get angry and blame fact-checking for doing its job. I get there is a sense of censorship but it's really not it's more about informing people the facts so they aren't fed lies. I really do think it's good although I have never experienced what it's like to be fact-checked.

Hello fnaf community I want to ask you all about fnaf pizza sim and how some people just dismiss the game and I want to know why,

I’ve seen some comments about how pizza sim was disappointing or underwhelming, which is strange to me because when the game was first released a good majority seemed to like it, I guess since pizza sim wasn’t the finale of the series since.... help wanted and security breach happened people just dismiss the game entirely.

But I don’t know is there something else

So I (43M) don’t think I’m in the wrong here, but my mother is very angry at me, and my best friend said I was a horrible person for saying what I did and I’d be lucky if my girlfriend didn’t put me out with the garbage, since I decided I wanted to act like trash.

My girlfriend (34F) is a preschool teacher and for some reason I can’t explain she dresses like Ms. Frizzle. Like a dress with the pattern of whatever they are studying. She makes a lot of them herself, now including matching masks. The kids love it, and the parents seem to think it’s great. I don’t like the amount of attention she gets honestly. I’d prefer if she came home and changed before running any errands.

On Friday, she helped my mom with something after work and she was still in her weird dress. I have told her before I don’t like when she dresses that way, but she tells me I don’t have to like it, but I have no right to tell her how to dress. I was upset she went out like that with my mother, and told her that my mom said she was embarrassed and to ask that she please not dress like that again if they’re going out. I was not expecting her to call my mom and apologize. When my mom asked what she meant, she told her what I said. My mom was furious, explained she doesn’t have a problem with how my girlfriend dresses and thinks it’s great she spends extra time doing things to engage her students. My mom then yelled at me for lying to my girlfriend and trying to throw her under the bus because I was being an insecure jerk.

My girlfriend and I got into a huge fight. I said she should be embarrassed to be seen in public like that. She said the only thing she was embarrassed by was me. She hasn’t spoken to me or done anything for me since. My friend said I was horrible and called me trash. I shouldn’t have lied, but I think my girlfriend should take what I think about her clothes into consideration and I’m not sorry for expecting her dress more appropriately in public. Am I really such an asshole here?

EDIT: I’m sure you all will be pleased to know we broke up tonight. She said I’m to controlling and narrow minded so she broke up with me.