Misbehavior Puns

I’m not spaying to minimize adolescence misbehaviors, I’m just following the vet’s orders to get her spayed at 6 months.

For those that did get a spay that early, what was adolescence like for your pup?

https://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2021/12/jeff-garlin-responds-to-talk-of-misbehavior-on-set

Some background: This takes place in a preschool with 3 year olds. At this school many of the teachers have children attend there, obviously because they get a big discount which isn't the problem. Most of the teachers dont mind their child's teacher reprimanding or redirecting their behavior as they are teachers themselves.

But then there's Entitled admin. She is the annoying admin , who would call in the middle of our lessons to remind us to take pictures of the kids or stupid stuff like that which we do every single day. She loves to micromanage everyone. I've had several issues with her in the past over these phone calls, as have other teachers. Entitled admin had a son in my class (tiny monster). He was not really a bad kid overall but when he would act out, yikes! But my coworker and I (we work in teams) could easily handle him. However, Entitled admin would constantly tell us to call her when she acts up. Now the thing is, we dont call parents for misbehavior, so why would we call her? None of the other teachers/parents do that. She finally blew up at my coworker and I about it, saying how he never gets prizes and if we just called her he would behave better.

When she left, I looked at my coworker (who looked super annoyed) and a plan came to mind. Cue Malicious Compliance

Everytime Tiny Monster would misbehavior, I called the front office. Got up during lessons? Called. Talked back? Called? Screamed at us? Called. Told a friend he was stupid? Called. Kept going to pee too much? Called. Didn't cover his mouth when sneezing? Called. Anything slightly out of the ordinary, we called up front to let Entitled Admin know what was going on. Let me tell you, these phone calls really added up. She would physically come to the room after each call the first day but pretty soon she started getting annoyed and would just say "Thanks for telling me," by day 2.

The Fallout

After 3 days of calling for little things, another admin came to talk to us about why we were calling so much for one student. We explained Entitled Admin's request and she laughed at how ridiculous it was to have us do it in the first place. She talked to Entitled admin and explained it was unreasonable to have us call when we don't call other parents. The requests to call her stopped and we continued on with the school year.

It's not a huge malicious compliance, but it was a small victory.

Edit: changed acronyms to follow rule #8 Also tiny monster behaves just like other 3 year old

Like disobedience or delayed obedience is one thing but I am convinced my dog will actually play dumb and pretend not to understand what I'm trying to communicate to her/have her do so that she can get away with not doing it.

It's just that she'll often understand exactly what I'm trying to tell her, without ever having used those words, or trained a command, before, and she'll do it immediately. Then later down the line when I ask her to do something of a similar or even lower level of complexity, her behavior and body language feels to me as if she "doesn't understand" (and this often happens when there's some reason she'd like to disobey, like she'd rather have me walk over and try to pick up her toy than her bring it to me, etc).

I've just had this thought several times and wonder if others have too. If they consciously do this, does it not imply that they are not just smart enough to understand, but also that they can pretend NOT to be smart enough to get what they want?? These dogs' intelligence freaks me out sometimes.

At the time I was working at a grocery store as a cashier. Waiting for my register to be ready one of the 2nd to top floor managers was standing next to me and he proceeded to make small talk as I was waiting. What happened next was utterly uncalled for and super inappropriate. A tall nice looking lady was purchasing her goods and as the manager was staring her down he said "if I could have a super power it would be to see through clothing." 🤮 I found this extremely disturbing and even more so since I am a personal trainer in my 20s. The way he looked at me and chuckled while saying it made the entire exchange even worse. Fuck corporate jobs.

Hi! Been awhile since I've had anything worth posting, but this struck me as weird and blatant, even by my mother's standards, and I'm wondering if anybody else's parent(s) have done this on occasion.

My mother never admits to anything, like most of your parents don't; I have cut down on my relationship with her a lot over the past year, but this year she started dating (she never has in my lifetime, I'm 25) and her behavior somewhat improved, so I haven't cut her out entirely just yet. I go out to dinner with her and her boyfriend (whom I get along with!) every so often, which is where this rant comes in.

I recently asked my girlfriend to marry me, and my mother kept arguing with me about the ring- it wasn't nice enough, I should have used family gems, etc etc-, until one night at dinner I just got up and left (VERY proud of myself for that one!), and her boyfriend stood up for me. That was about 2 months ago, and I hadn't been out to dinner with them since.

Well, I decided I'd go this time. My mother commented that it had been awhile since I went with them (wonder why...), and I stupidly said "Not since before Thanksgiving" (which was when I proposed). She...almost laughed, I guess? and said "Oh, right,iand you walked out on us." I didn't say anything, and she kept going: "Well, it's okay, I had good intentions."

I don't know why I stayed this time, I was just so...taken aback? She's NEVER been blatant about her behavior.

Is this progress? I still really don't know how to even respond to that.

When your child is choking and beating up other students AND sexually assaulting teachers; when your child won't stop screaming to the point where his class can't learn because the teacher has to chase him down and attempt to discipline him, and my class across the hall can't focus on their lessons; when a teacher (me) can't watch out for a room of thirty after school kids because she's been left alone and is having to restrain one child, and you have to be called up to the school for at least the fifth time, it is beyond time to START DOING YOUR JOB AS A PARENT.

If we call you, please know that it is a last resort. We exhaust every method out there to try to get through to the kids, and we do believe the best in every single student, but sometimes, you just can't do anything with a child who is going to choose not to listen. When we explain to you what's been going on, the proper reaction is NOT to say crap to them like, "You're not in trouble, we're just going home," "I'll tell his dad about this" (will you? will you REALLY?), and "If you keep this up, I'm going to have to start disciplining you harder." If a student is at this point already, something has gone very very wrong with your parenting. Especially when your child is only preschool aged and is still very much able to be swayed towards developing better behavior.

Believe it or not, teachers are not nannies! We're supposed to be teaching them colors, letters, and the months of the year, not how to act like a human being. Minor things like reminding them to be quiet or sit correctly, sure, but not why you don't run from authority figures or why you don't fight with people. That ought to be common freaking sense when they enter school.

A few days ago I 22F rode a cab with a driver who was seemingly in his mid 40's and this wasn't an uber or anything just a regular old cab. However I did note the cab number and his name. On the way there was a lot of traffic, I was seated at the right side and in my country the drivers seat is on the left so he could basically look at me if he turned around.

I believe its important for me to add this as i do not remotely want to be pissed off by victim blamers for what i was wearing. I had jeans and a shirt on and a very modest shirt at that, i was covered entirely even half my face with a mask except for my feet and hands.

During the 31 minute ride, and all the traffic signals and the traffic itself that driver turned to look at my feet at least 7 times, not my face, MY FEET. By the 3rd time id already felt uncomfortable and asked him if theres something wrong with the car on that side to which he said No Madam and tried to change the subject by blabbing a bit about traffic.

I was surprised that even after i asked he turned a 4th time to stare at them. But in that moment i was looking outside the window and i chose to stay looking outside as i panicked and didn't want to confront him i turned back when he turned around and caught him doing a little weird wiggle or adjusting himself. That just grew my suspicions about what he was doing. But i wasn't really sure how to even bring it up.

I finally sat on the opposite side of my seat and noted his name and taxi number. He turned twice more but was probably disappointed i had moved. Now i thought about it and i didn't want to complain to his company management because I believe he has a family to feed with just that job and i wouldn't want them to suffer in this job market because of this mans atrocities. But I have since had nightmares about this mans face and Ive not been able to keep the incident out of my mind.

This isn't something that hasn't happened to me before ive probably had worse but idk why this particular incident is affecting me so much i can not shake it off.

So WIBTA if i report him just to see if ill feel better, even though i do not want to ruin his family life?

TLDR: i was riding a cab dressed modestly with only my feet out in traffic and the driver turned to stare at them at least 6 times and seemingly adjusted his seat/pants. Now i have nightmares of him and want to go to his company with his details but id feel guilty if i ruined his job or family.

UPDATE: After making this post I called 8 parents because I am an overthinking bitch. :)

My third period class is driving me up a wall. I cannot get around half the class to shut their mouths for me to instruct and it usually takes an average of 5-10 minutes to give instruction that should have taken 3-5 minutes. Their misbehavior eats up my class time and disturbs peers who have ADHD and need quiet to focus.

Despite several warnings and appeals to basically everything, I cannot get these students to respect me and their peers’ time. I have done seat changes, positive reinforcement (thanking them when the noise level is appropriate and letting them know when I appreciate on task behavior) but it is not sticking. The one thing I haven’t managed to do is call parents because I have been so bogged down with calling another class period’s parents for grades.

But now that I’m here, I have like 15 parents to call for misbehavior and that is just so daunting. I just don’t want to do it. Is it unacceptable to just text parents about misbehavior? What do you do?

I am always told to shut up.

Every time there is a situation going on that I don't think is right, I jump in, and instantly get put down for it. Sometimes it seems like it makes sense, like if I mishear something and jump in to correct (though I think there are better ways to politely correct someone if they meddle into a situation), but sometimes there are reasonable times (in my opinion) that are legitimately needed.

For an example, this summer, my family went on a trip to Colorado. After we finished setting up camp, we sat down to enjoy some snacks. My older brother (who has struggled with his weight in the past but is doing extremely well right now) was full, saying he couldn't eat any more. My mom looked up at him with amused surprise, saying that it was really a big deal if my brother decided to stop eating, and kept asking him over and over if he wanted to keep eating more.

Now before now, my parents always tell my brother to stop eating so much. So when he eats less, they mock him and urge him to eat more. This is what my mom was doing. That irked me, so I politely told my mom, "No, Mama...if he's full, then he's full. Let him go."

She stared at me for about a minute, got up, and started warning me about how I should be careful with my words and that I was developing an attitude that she didn't like. Then the speech I've heard 101 times about "staying out of conversations or else they'll land you into trouble" began.

Another example is an incident that occurred yesterday. My younger sister (who is the "scapegoat" of the family, always being misinterpreted as "rude" and "rebellious") was having trouble with a school assignment and was feeling immense pressure from all her classes. (We are both in high school.) She broke down crying, and my older brother and I tried to comfort her, only to have my dad call her over to "help" with her.

My dad went through the situation with her, turning every single problem (such as the unresponsiveness of her group members in a project she was working on) into "it's your fault". My sister started crying again, in which my father responded "Stop crying, you're annoying me."

This. This made my "watching-healthy-therapy-videos-to-learn-proper-communication" self ANGRY. With the patience I could muster, I politely called over to his office (which was like, seven feet away from our family library area) "Be patient with her!" In his response, he said, "mount_fujiapple (not my real name, but you get the point), i

While watching my DVR recording of Fast Money (CNBC) in Windows 10 Edge, skipping commercials with the keyboard within 10 minutes of the end dumped me back to the beginning of the program. Clicking the scrub bar to try to go back to where I was took a couple of tries before it respected the place I clicked instead of just dumping me back to the beginning.

With about a minute to go in the program, it stopped early and went to the "next playing" screen, which, to my surprise, was the sensible choice of Mad Money, the program that immediately follows it. Usually, it'll be some random program, often one I've watched. However, when it began playing Mad Money, it went to the end of the program. Anyway, I loaded Fast Money again, scrubbed to the end, and was able to watch the last minute of the program.

These sorts of things happen daily and have been going on for a long time. It wasn't always like this. I guess I should be glad last week's problem, the one where unskippable commercials would suddenly appear in DVR'd programs, hasn't come back. That was one I'd never seen before, that many people complained about last week.

#hearmeout

I get it. Ever since that first Karen stepped out of the woodwork, haircut and all, asking to immediately speak with the manager over some ridiculously minute issue thing while mistreating the the hardworking, we’ve all been on high alert for this behavior.

However, now I’m seeing the word Karen everywhere, and now for just basic conflict “Oh this Karen doesn’t want me to walk my dog on her property” I’m putting my Karen high heel down and being Karen like myself to say Think about it. Karen is a term that should be reserved for the truly deplorable behaviors that make the working public hate their job. Overusing it takes away from its meaning.

We need help.

My son has been misbehaving on a daily basis for over a month now at daycare. He doesn't want to follow rules, he will throw toys, hit and kick others and run out of the classroom every single day. We have tried to talk to him over and over again, picked him up from school and disciplined him and nothing has helped. We did a test-run at a different daycare today and the results were even worse. Now, I am stuck without a daycare for my son and I still have to work.

I took him to the doctor to be tested for developmental issues and or speech issues. His speech is definitely behind. Doc says we should understand him 90% of the time, we only understand him about 60 - 70% of the time. So, we're waiting on a call from someone to get the speech therapy sessions setup.

My husband thinks he is just acting out and misbehaving because he is spoiled. He listens to us at home and he is disciplined. The doctor mentioned that he "could" be on the autism spectrum because of several reasons listed below. I am just at a loss. I am in the process of finding someone else to watch him but I'm afraid it won't work out there because he has been running out of his classroom and away from the teachers. SO the big question, why am I here?

Can anyone of you help a mom out with suggestions on how to improve his behavior or steps I could take?

Have any of you gone through this? Any advice would be greatly appreciated, I have been crying all day. I don't know how to solve the problem.

Background: almost 4 YO.

Behaviors: short attention span, reluctant to look in the eye, will ignore you about half of the time when speaking to him, delayed in speech, prefers to play alone, does not like to follow rules at daycare, will run away at daycare, throws toys & very physical when upset.

*his behavior at home is not as bad as what is communicated to us from daycare.