To expand a little, my family has been trying for years just to simply TALK about an action plan for him to quit, but he becomes very combative and always makes excuses such as "I am too stressed to talk about this". The mental gymnastics he does in relation to this topic is astounding. I am sick of not being able to reach him and yet still care that he is fucking his body up. I am almost to the point where I want to ask him whether or not he wants to live to see me grow up
I retorted, "Well son, I guess you could say that I'm just deaf defying!"
(I'm 14 now) was what I meant to write, no quotation marks.
Behind them was a plain picture of the inside of a jungle, like they were in one. One of the characters were blue. I think the background changed sometimes to a cave or other. You most of the time went forward or backwards tho, it's one of those games where you like go in to the right of the screen and you're at the next level.
My dad is 65 and retired. He's bored out of his mind. I'm posting here because he has an engineering degree and has been working as an engineer for 40 years, so if anyone is like him, and has ideas, I figured it would be you guys.
He complains that he's bored. I looked into getting him a drone, but the batteries only last like 15 minutes and that just seems so worthless.
I thought about showing him this subreddit so he'd have an online community, but so many of the posts are questions from students or people starting out in their career, and he's not used to reddit and how ridiculously disappointing or mean people online can be, it seems like more of a bad idea than a good one.
Any ideas at all? Thank you.
Edit that this is an amazing number of responses; I appreciate all of you, and I am reading them! Thank you so much. I'm just going to wait until replies stop coming and then send my dad this thread. Hopefully he'll like some of the ideas in it.
So, I have ADHD and anxiety, a mix that makes it super suuuuuuuuper easy to get overstimulated. I deal with it as much as I can, but the one thing that really gets me overwhelmed and usually leads into me having an attack is sound. I'm incredibly sound sensitive and my mum and sister are very accommodating about it, but my dad has a bit of an issue.
So, he's losing his hearing. He won't admit it and will get super pissed if anyone says anything about it but that's what's happening. He's also the type to play music without headphones or anything, which leads him to play music and TV shows on loud settings. We've tried telling him about using spotify on his phone if he wants to listen to music (since he usually uses the TV), play it quieter, etc, but he always brushes us off. We bought him bluetooth headphones so he can listen to the TV at any volume he wants, he hardly uses it. I quite literally am unable to leave my room when he does this because the sound is way too much for me but whenever I bring it up it we always end up arguing about it.
I know he has a hard time hearing and he's really not trying to be mean. He seems to get really frustrated when I tell him he's triggering my anxiety and I can't imagine how frustrating it would be to have trouble hearing and constantly be told to turn stuff down to levels he can't hear at. My dad is a very hard working man and at the end of the day he's just trying to relax and be able to just turn on the TV and do what he wants without having to get all this extra stuff set up just for one person in the house. I feel awful butting in on his relaxation time to complain about something that honestly I can deal with if I put in a little effort. Also, he's clearly very embarrassed about his hearing loss and me constantly bringing it up obviously wouldn't feel the greatest.
AITA?
Sorry for the long post and if it seems to ramble a bit. Everything is a mess right now and I'm typing this up on mobile. I'll update it if any questions come in.
My Nmom and dad are currently going through a divorce, after 26 miserable years of being married to each other they are finally going through with it and it's been a shit storm since the start. They are currently being "fair"and splitting everything 50/50. This only came to be after I found out my Nmom opened another bank account without telling my dad and she drained one of their accounts, I told him immediately and he called her out. Now they're actively working to divide all their belongings and money down the middle. Except for their house, my dad wants to refinance the house and buy her out by paying her the equity in it since my mom doesn't want it. But, my mom doesn't think my dad deserves to live there and keep the house, the only way she would allow him to buy it is if he continued to let her in live there after the divorce, free of any rent. My dad said not a chance in hell, my whole family told my mom that she was crazy for thinking that something like that would work but she absolutely can not understand why it isn't fair. She believes that he owes it to her wasting 26 years of her life. So they're selling their house and just splitting up the money from it.
My dad is not a bad guy, but he was never a good husband and he's owned up to it and admitted all his faults. He was never abusive, mentally, physically or emotionally. He was just never husband material and my mom was a very manipulative and controlling wife through their whole marriage. Growing up with them was like living in a war zone. My dad was always very calm and level headed while my mom screamed and got mean every time she didn't get her way. She's pretty much burned all her bridges with her family over the years due to her behavior and I honestly could write a multiple part series about what kind of parent she is and the things I went through as a kid and an adult but that could take months to write out. So I'll get back to the current issue.
I'm stuck in the middle of this whole mess, trying to be Sweden and not take sides. All I want is for them to get divorced civilly and fairly. My dad is happy and in a great mood, he and I talk multiple times a day and he visits me frequently after work to visit my 2 month old daughter. (he's killing it as a grandpa). My mom and I talk often as well, I try my best to have a re
... keep reading on reddit ➡Single dad, 3 year old son has a lot of anger issues. Told his grandma he hopes she starves the death because he was mad. None of us even talk like this, and I'm not sure where he's getting the aggression from. Any tips for a struggling dad?
i had never seen such bullshit before
This coming Saturday I’m getting remarried to an amazing man. My ex-husband was a good guy, but long story short, we were only meant to be friends. The divorce in 2014 was utter hell on us all. But my ex’s family knew I didn’t have a great relationship with either of my parents, and miraculously supported us both through the transition.
My ex’s dad basically adopted me. I call him my dad.
In 2016, I went NC with my own NDad after he called me a sorry excuse for a mother.
My life has only gotten better from there.
I am so grateful for my ex’s dad. He is amazing. He loves me unconditionally and our family is extremely close. My ex-husband is getting remarried next year as well, and was gracious over all these years in allowing me to stay close to his family, as they were all I had.
We expect the ceremony (small, in my fiancé’s sister’s backyard) to be a blast. Only the closest family and friends will be present. My dad has apparently written a very funny ceremony wherein he plans to look at us, look out at the family (my side will all be my ex-in laws, my daughter, my ex and his fiancé) and jokingly say: “Well this is awkward.” Among other fun jokes. It’s who we are. We laugh at past pains and find joy wherever there is joy to be found. It will be a happy day.
I love you Dad. I hope this Father’s Day you love the card I got you which says: “Thanks for being less of a dickhead than my real dad.”
It’s good to be able to laugh so much again.
As I go through this subreddit I recall a lot of my childhood.
I remember one time during some mothers day as a kid, I of course had no money but I went out and bought my mother a gift bc that's just what you do. I bought her a mini potted Orchid in light pink (her favorite color.) My brother made her breakfast that morning too.
Later in the day my dad comes to my brother and I furious and screaming. Calling us ungrateful fucking spoiled shit heads. The worst children possible. That my mother is disappointed with the gifts we got her (just want to remind you that we were children) and we should have spent more on her presents. Like atleast $100 each. Of course my brother and I were terrified and felt super guilty. I think I was crying from guilt but also mad because I didnt know why this was happening.
Few days later I asked my mother why she didnt like my gift for mothers day. I later found out that in fact my dad didnt get her a gift. Soooo I'm pretty sure we werent the problem. But it was our fault because my dad said so.
I said, "Like a glove."
