Wife: who’s skull is that
Me: a man named Phillip
Wife: what’s in it?
Me: vodka and orange juice.
Wife: .......
Me: it’s a Phillips head screwdriver
I feel like a new person. IWNDWYT
https://imgur.com/a/MhQEt0d
And this one
https://imgur.com/a/nNcpJDz
For those people who say they can't see a difference
https://imgur.com/a/h29NB57
Finally got the energy to start working out again Went from 235 to 185
https://imgur.com/a/dW2F18D
Come on y’all I’m pumped!!
So I posted on here last week. I had issues with intense self-hate, self-harm, and suicidal ideation. For years. During that time my drinking got out of hand and I started using cocaine on a regular basis. Any chance at a romantic meaningful relationship with a woman, I shot to shit because well anytime I was at any social function I was VERY drunk and using coke. This on top of years of a porn addiction drove me to really become a shell of myself. Things got darker and darker and I was knowingly and consciously on a path to death. I wanted to die. I wanted to feel pain. I was obsessed with feeling shame and guilt.
I had moments of doing better. I was seeing a therapist but I never addressed the fuel that caused the small flame of self-hate to erupt into a engulfing inferno. The booze. The booze was the seed. The booze led to drugs. That lead to years of loneliness and feeling unfulfilled which made me hate myself. I have a great family and I had talent and ability and I threw it away because well, the booze had me. I would drink more and more and do dumber and more disgusting shit. I would say fuck it and get drunk.
That came to a head one week ago today and I was going to kill myself when I called my brother. He rushed and picked me up and I told him EVERYTHING. I never thought I would. I finally saw the booze the 'good time' I was chasing was long gone. I was drinking for the wrong reasons and it had taken everything from me and I was hypnotized by it and never saw it for what it was. Now I do. One week sober from booze, drugs and porn. I legit wanted to die last week at this time, today I woke up with pain but I am optimistic. Thank you all for the kind words of encouragement regarding the drinking, the paranoia with the escort (nobody has reached out to me since) and just well, showing me that there is a life after booze. That I can have fun and be social and live. I am 31 and I feel like I am coming out of a decade long mire of sabotaging myself.
Thank you all. From the bottom of my heart, I deeply appreciate it.
IWNDWYT.
Decision Day Drinking Game
“Fer sure” - one sip
Ryan finally says he loves Clara - one sip of water
Braceletgate gets mentioned - one sip per minute it’s discussed
Chris appears on screen - one shot
Chris and Paige say yes - finish glass
Chris and Paige say no - drink water
One sip per minute of unnecessary recap at the beginning
“Legally binding marriage” - two sips
Virginia drinks - one sip of water
Airwrrck says that he understands how marriage works - 3 sips
I’m reading a study on it from 2012 and the claims are pretty profound but just wondering if this has been debunked at all.
First of all, I (26F) owe this sub and r/stopdrinking a major thank you. I came here for support in the worst days of my life because I couldn’t tell anyone in my real life about how bad my drinking had become. In my last post, I talked about lack of sleep, shaking and extreme depression. I was only a couple days in at that point. The following days became much worse, the shaking became uncontrollable and I began to have auditory hallucinations. I probably should have been in the hospital and definitely shouldn’t have been alone. But I had no other choice and somehow I survived. I’m sorry to get dark here.. but my prayers to god became less about relief from the pain and more about relief from this earth. It was the absolute scariest thing I’ve ever experienced. Today is the first day that I have felt better. I believe I am healing and although I understand I’m still in the process, I won’t ever let myself feel like that again. I am grateful for the comments I received and the direct messages from complete strangers who helped me through those first few days.
In my title, I mentioned those who are thinking about relapsing.. I said that because this has not been the first time I have withdrawn and wasn’t even the worst binge I have been on.. but something about this last bender was the final straw for my body. If I do this again, there is a chance I could lose my life. As I was going through this experience, I realized that any day I decide to take “just one drink” Im deciding that momentary relief is worth gambling my life over. It’s not worth it, trying to fit in... momentarily curing loneliness, anxiety or sadness... it’s not worth giving up your life to this shit. There’s so much more to live for and I hope anyone going through this, can find that too 💕
I want to thank all of you for helping me realize that (a) my lifelong problem/excessive drinking had to stop and (b) there are so many others out there who've experienced what I've been through and am now going through. You've all been truly inspirational.
I'm 45 years old, and today marks the first time I've been 10 days alcohol free in well over 10 years. I know this is only the first step, and I've got a very long road ahead -- which could quite possibly be a bumpy road. But the path is finally clear for me, as it is for so many of you. And I look forward to forging up this new path (rather than descending down my old path).
I'm a student of history, and I like to draw energy from historical events and famous quotes. So in my mind I'm comparing my present battle and position to that of the Allies after finally defeating the Germans in North Africa and changing the tide of WWII, when Winston Churchill famously said:
Now this is not the end. It is not even the beginning of the end. But it is, perhaps, the end of the beginning.
With your help, the tide has finally turned in my favor after many difficult years. I thank you all for being with me on this journey, and I wish all of you the best. Happy Good Friday, and I look forward to actually remembering this Easter on Sunday! IWNDWYT!
I didn’t plan to stop forever. I told myself I’d have a drink at that yearly festival (which ended up being canceled due to COVID). I told myself I’d have a drink at the salon (but they didn’t offer and so I didn’t ask). Looking back, I’m glad it happened that way and I don’t intend to have another drink. It’s wonderful skimming right by the wine aisles in the grocery store and feeling a little bit richer. Life really has been richer since going alcohol-free.
I was searching online for non-religious AA alternatives after having a huge drunken blow up with my wife last night (not the first, but one of the worst). We both have a drinking problem, and we were both pretty wasted. This particular fight led to her leaving and claiming we were done and she would be serving me divorce papers. Hopefully cooler heads will prevail, but we shall see.
One of the articles read suggested this subreddit. I've been on reddit for years now and never though to look for anything like this on here. Im glad to see there s something better to do on here than the usual mindless social media exploits.
So I have joined there sub, and today is my first day of consciously attempting to quit this terrible vise that has taken over my life, mind, and body. Today I take control. I know it will be difficult, but I have to try.
Any and all advice on how to best navigate this journey, whether on Reddit, or any other resources anyone would recommend, would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you for any help
There is a road called recovery and we are on it :)
Hey all! I've often seen people in this sub wondering how to meet protein goals when they're higher than what you're used to. I've been eating 130g/day pretty routinely for a while, so I'd like to share some of my go-to meals and some tips for planning them.
This post will mention calories, but they aren't the main focus. And while vegetarians may be able to glean some tips, my own diet revolves around meat and animal products, so this will be most useful to omnivores.
For more on protein, check out the FAQ, which also has a giant list of lesser-known protein sources.
How I plan a day of high protein meals
First, I determine my protein for the day, and how many meals I will have. Right now I do 130+ grams of protein in three meals (breakfast, lunch, and dinner) plus a pre workout shake. This lets me figure out how much protein I need in each meal: about 35 grams each, with 20 in the shake.
Then I plan each meal around the protein source. I just straight up ask myself:
- What protein source do I want for this meal?
- What else can I add?
I have a mental list of things that can answer question #1. In other words, it's a list of things that have 35 or so grams of protein.
- 5 ounces of cooked chicken breast
- 5 ounces of cooked chicken thighs
- 5 ounces of 2% Greek yogurt plus a half scoop of whey powder
- Two scoops of whey protein powder
- 1/3 lb lean ground beef (weighed before cooking)
- a filet and a half of fish (depending on size)
- a can of salmon (or tuna)
I don't know the numbers offhand for turkey, shrimp, etc but you get the idea. Eggs and egg whites are also good options.
(Before we get any farther, remember that you need to do the math for your own numbers. If you want 150 grams of protein with no shake, that's 50 grams per meal. If you want 100g protein and you eat 4 meals, that's 25g each. Make up your own list of protein sources. Also double check the protein content of your favorite foods, since they can vary by brand and the serving sizes depend on how they are prepared.)
The step 1 foods are not just high in protein, they are also low in other macros and thus relatively low in calories. If you make your list and include foods that also have a lot of carbs or fats (for example, rice and beans provide protein but they have a ton of carbs) you'll have less flexibility for step 2.
For step 2, I can adjust the other components of the meal according to my calorie or macro go
... keep reading on reddit ➡I know it's just another hokey "National (whatever) Day," but this one involves beer, so it's good.
I got a Toppling Goliath King Sue and Elder Pine Gjaerkauk
Cheers!
In Finland, saturday is probably the number one. Then comes friday, and thirdly wednesday. Finns sometimes call wednesday "pikkulauantai", which means "little saturday". Pubs usually have a discount on their drinks on wednesdays, but usually people only have one or two beers.
Drinking has become now a distant memory.
This is something that I would never have imagined while I was mired in the drinking life.
I could never have imagine how better life would be; how I would regain my senses, my tastes, my love for life.
It truly is a rebirth, a renata, since I am no longer him who drank.
He is still there in the deep shadows - you have to be mindful of that.
Recently when I lost a close friend to suicide during the pandemic, I thought for the briefest second to have a drink.
Then I thought different. And I did not drink.
This freedom is available to everyone.
It is a Herculean effort to gain, but it is doable by everyone.
Some will require help and patient love. Some will require medical intervention. Some will require the loss of everything.
But it is doable.
Find your why for giving up drinking, and the how will reveal itself to you.
My why was that I was going to die a miserable death if I didn't stop, and I may take others with me.
That worked.
IWNDWYT
anyone else genuinely better at existing i.e. more focused, driven, personable when theyre drinking heavily all the time? and before anyone wants to start a pissing contest i weigh about as much as small bag of potatoes sold by a very sheisty potato salesman so half a bottle for me is a lot. oh and i eat bout an ounce or so of kratom but thats just baseline
