Baby Shower Bee Puns

SIL is having a 40ish people invited (women only) baby shower. Having it at a restaurant with a buffet and wants loads of gifts. I've known a few women who have had baby's in the last few years and not a one of them did anything like this that I'm aware of. When she said she wanted one I just pictured family being invited for a meal together or something similar. Am I being a scrooge not wanting to go now and thinking it's too much? Grats on making a baby I guess? /s (for those messaging saying I'm an asshole this last bit was badly worded sarcasm!)

Edit: for those concerned messages a quick update!

Spoke with sil about concerns over attending a party of that size due to covid concerns, and she was actually very reasonable (this is hit and miss with her honestly!) and has agreed to have a smaller family only event which includes everyone (men invited too!) after the baby is here. I think she's still going ahead with the other one as a friend's thing which is her choice! I certainly wasn't the only family member to have concerns about the scale of this with the current covid situation at least.

Edit edit : have to say despite all the comments I have no idea If baby showers are common in the UK or not! Seems to be about 50/50 each way and I must have somehow just never heard of it outside the US media shenanigans.

I (16F) went to my boyfriend (M17) sister's(29F) babyshower

He invited me because I get along with a lot of his immediate family and thought it'd be a good way to introduce me to some of his extended family (Cousins, aunts and uncles)

I had a bad feeling that I'd get the question any time their out with their boyfriend to a family event

And I got it, one of his aunts who I didn't know too much came over while I was playing with the younger kids and took me over to where some of the other aunts and my BF's sister was for some 'girl talk'

What she meant was an interrogation about my future life choices

What university did I plan on going to? What did I want my career to be? My opinions on marriage?

This was more the aunts then the sister, she was pretty silent during it, I answered each one calmly, they seemed to not like the fact that I didn't want to ever be married, even though that's also my boyfriend's opinion

Then the question came

'Do you want kids?'

I said never because I don't want kids, for multiple reasons but I got interrogated about why don't I want kids, would I ever adobt, doesn't my boyfriend want kids

Then the aunt who pulled me away asked what would happen if I got pregnant by accident, I told them that's very unlikely but if it were I'd most likely abort, they looked like I said I'd kill it with my bare hands, telling me it'd be different if I was actually pregnant and that when I feel a life growing inside me it would be different

I told them I'm sure that's what they felt but at this moment I don't want a kid and never want a kid, so that is what I would do

When I went back outside I told my BF what happened and went to play hide and seek with the little kids and everything was fine but when we came back in to eat

My BF's aunt asked 'I thought you didn't want kids' I reinforced that I didn't and she brought up that I was really good with the kids at the party, I explained wanting kids and being good with kids are two different things

She then told my BF that I need to leave and I ruined the party because of my opinions and what I said while she was 'making conversation'

My BF said we'd both leave since his aunt was out of line

A couple days later his dad told us that his Aunt never wants to see me again and disapproves of me being with my BF

So AITA for stating my views on a topic I was asked about?

Edits: I just wanted to clear up and add in some things

It's very common to ask 16 year olds about Uni and c

THERE ARE SLIGHT SPOILERS BELOW. IF YOU HAVENT READ FLOWERS FOR ALGERNON DON’T YOU DARE READ THIS POST!

Lets me introduce myself first. I’m a pretty bland guy in his early 20s. I don't laugh that much, don't get worked up easily, seldom express my emotions and I can’t remember in the prior 2 years when last I actually cried. As I’ve become older, I’ve become more “desensitized” to everything. Nothing really seems to “move” me anymore, emotionally that is, so I thought why not pick up a book that reddit says will emotionally destroy me? It’s always recommended in the comments when you’re all talking about sad books. Maybe that would make me feel something for the first time in ages? Oh... I felt something alright.

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But oh boy. As I started turning the last 5 pages of that book…I started feeling funny. My throat deep down started aching. Last time I felt that aching pain was when I was a kid. I carried on reading until I got to the last page. I could feel a single tear trying to escape but my toxic masculinity wouldn't let it.

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I don't think I will read anything for at least a few days. I feel like I need to savor the feeling. I'm in my "mourni

Just got an activity book for 7-11 year olds from my sister. She reserved an age appropriate activity mat from my registry, but it was out of stock so she got me the book. 😂🤦🏼‍♀️💀

Unfortunately both a family member and a co-worker are reproducing now and I have been invited to their respective showers.

Cringe.

EDIT: Thank you all for helping me to decide. Your input was most helpful!

I am going to attend both showers. The co-worker's shower is via Zoom and I will donate $10 to a group gift. The games are quizzes that sound fun to me.

I am also going to attend my relative's shower, but I will decline to cater all of the food and will cut back on the gift. I'll bring an appetizer, a modest gift NOT from the registry and politely skip the silly, over-the-top games.

EDIT 2: I'm not buying from the registry because I bought the relative's crib for her first. This time I'm buying consumables that I know she uses such as wipes, diapers and breast pads (thank you nurse who suggested the pads LOL).

With the variant and living in frigid cold temps I just made the decision to pull the plug. I’m heartbroken as I was truly looking forward to it. I’m fully boosted so struggling if we’re being too cautious. I’m also selfishly bummed as we’ll need to buy a lot more from our registry than initially planned.

I’m 20yo and new to Reddit.

My SIL and I got pregnant within a few months of each other. She was excited and me well I got there eventually.

She is now at 28 weeks and I had my baby on Jan 3rd at 22w plus 1 day. It has been so hard. And I get really emotional about everything right now. I even burst into tears when my neighbors baby cries.

Next week is her baby shower. Before my daughter was born I said I would be there. I even bought her a gift which I have since given to my brother to have at the shower. I changed my mind about going though simply because I don’t think my emotions can handle it.

Rather than announcing it over the phone I announced it durring a brunch on Saturday with my mom, SIL, SILs mom, and my older sister and all hell broke loose. They are all calling me selfish because I can’t put the fact I have a preemie out of my mind for one day. SIL wants me there because we have been through almost every part of pregnancy.

I finally just told them that selfish or not I don’t think anyone would have an enjoyable time if I cried the entire time.

Then I left and went home in an Uber. All have tried to call and are leaving messages to change my mind and that I made SIL cry because it seems like I don’t care.

Am I being the ass here?