She could take him to the court. She had.... concrete evidence
So a pal (f/34) had a second date with a guy that was supposed to be dinner at his flat. Beforehand, she mentions to him our girl code and that she'd get shit from me if she went without at least his second name and address. So she asks for it, and instant radio silence. She says, if that's not OK, they can get dinner at a place nearby. He eventually replies that they can meet up and have a coffee and chat. Alarm bells are ringing and she mentions something along the lines of being downgraded from dinner to coffee because she asked for his address, where she would be going anyway. He thinks it's really weird and insulting that she would ask for this beforehand. She tries to explain that's its just a very basic safety precaution and no judgement on him but at this point his reluctance is giving her alarm bells so they'll just leave it. Best of luck in his future endeavours etc. His retort is that 'someone must have seriously hurt her in the past' and he's not looking for that. He actually warns her how off-putting it is and that she probably shouldn't do it again in the future. She tells him she always asks and no one has ever had a problem with it in the past. She could tell he was gearing up to war and peace in response after that so just deleted and blocked.
Very proud of her but kinda gobsmacked that someone in this day and age could get soo uppity about this. I have literally taken a photo of a guys number plate before getting in his car to go on a date and they have laughed it off. They could be a serial killer or a mad rapist. I've said this to them in my experience most guys get it. This guy did not. Just wondering if anyone else has experienced this or something like it?
Edit: the plan was to meet her off the train and take her to his place.
I have found that a lot of men and their families (particularly if they are religious) are very insistent on women and step children changing their last names after marriage. In today's world, I feel this is completely unnecessary and robs people of their established identity. Those who wish to can do it, but it's not something that should be forced/expected. It is by NO MEANS a measure of how much someone loves another person and shouldn't be treated as such.
Edit: It seems like people don't understand the post at all. It's not about changing names after marriage being removed as a practice, it's about changing names after marriage not being forced/expected if the woman/child in question doesn't want to. People losing the plot all over.
Edit 2: A lot of people claiming people have a choice, this is reddit. Not reddit USA or reddit UK. Just because your country allows it doesn't mean there's tens upon tens of them that don't.
Edit 3: It's really shocking that the first world minority comprising of maybe 400 million in a population of 8 billion believe that if this is popular among them it's popular opinion. Well I shouldn't really be surprised tho.
I got married nearly 10 years ago and changed my surname to my husband's but I just can't get used to my new surname. I didn't realise how much of my original surname was part of my identity. I'm thinking of changing it back (hubby and family would be okay with this, so no issues there) but wasn't sure if it would make filling out forms in the future annoying or if there are any practical considerations to think about? Thanks!
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Humble thyself.
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Some people are reading this incorrectly. The stewards are there to assist, yes, but the JW should not be a tyrant king to them
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Most citizens in the US do not have the luxury of being a member of a union. That being said we are seeing organizing efforts like never before. Bosses are scared. They have no idea what happened to unquestionable power they once had. That is all thanks to people finally standing up and saying enough is enough.
My current union whole heartedly and emphatically stand in solidarity with all struggling working class Americans. When we unite, they no longer have power.
I wanted to address some common misconceptions about labor laws. I am not a lawyer and I am not giving you legal advice. Laws may very by state.
It is 100% illegal for your boss to not allow workers to discuss wages. the only reason they do not want you to do that is because they don't want you organizing.
You may not be fired for talking about organizing or using the word union. everyone has the right to assemble. It's part of the first Amendment that people conveniently forget. It however, doesn't mean you wont be fired. They will just classify it as something else. But it does happen.
at-will-employment and right-to-work employment are two separate things. make sure you know the differences.
Last but not least here are organizing links from the AFL-CIO and the IWW, two of the main union organizations in the United States. if you have any questions feel free to ask me.
Used to go to school with a Bossman, which was pretty cool. And recently there was a boxing match between Wilder vs Fury, which together sounds like something from Clash of the Titans.
I asked him why, and he said because the customer is always right.
The first of which is Stefon Diggs, drafted by Minnesota in the 5th round of the 2015 draft. He quickly proved to be a draft steal for the Vikings, providing a 1-2 punch alongside Adam Thielen and became a franchise legend due to the Minneapolis Miracle. After being traded to Buffalo, he has earned back-to-back Pro Bowls in both years with the Bills.
The second active player is Quandre Diggs, drafted one round after Stefon by the Lions (Surprisingly though, they aren't related). Stuck in the perpetual quagmire of Detroit, in wasn't until he was traded to Seattle that he truly flourished. Providing an excellent replacement after the Earl Thomas flameout. While he hasn't been as good as Thomas was, he's still a very good player that the Seahawks defense sorely needs. He's even carved out a little niche as a ballhawk. Intercepting 13 passes over the past two-and-a-half seasons.
Finally, we have the most recent entry into the Diggs Echelon of Eliteness, Trevon Diggs. Trevon's burst onto the scene in a big way this year. If Quandre Diggs could be considered a ball hawk, than Trevon Diggs is a BALL EAGLE. Dude's brought back interceptions like it's the 80's all over again. Tying the Cowboys franchise record in interceptions and shattering all recent interception trends. Dude's on an absolute tear and you can't help but be impressed
So in summary, while Diggs may be a pretty rare last name for NFL players, the ones that do have that name have a pretty good track record
I hope she takes him to court. She has concrete evidence.
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