Rut (name) Puns

Basically, he couldn't remember to use they/them pronouns with me. It was a hard transition for his ADHD brain. So what did he do? He just goes "fuck it. They/them is gender neutral so everyone is a they them now". Literally uses they/them pronouns for everyone now. Even our mother. Teachers, neighbors, friends, enemies... Everyone is now a they/them. All because he saw how much it meant to me when he got my pronouns right. So the easiest thing for him to remember it was to make it the ONLY pronoun he uses! 😁😭😭

He is the first one to use my chosen name regularly and normally. I don't think he even knows how important and wonderful he's been while the rest of my family struggled to change their language.

We're expecting a baby girl in OCT and can't decide on names or middle names. We had Vivian picked as a first name for the last month but can't seem to agree on a middle name. We also like Bailey as a first name and Harper. He likes harper as a middle name, I like it as a first name. Middle names we've discussed with Vivian that we can't agree on Rae Mae Faith Hope June Rose Jude Jean I'd love to hear anymore that anyone else can think of that might fit well with any 3 of the names listed above. Last name will be Wolfe.

I feel like Im in book rut. I am bouncing between 4 books. Mostly scifi.

Fellow recommendations. What is the most random book you picked up, on a whim. You can recommend me?

Preferably you got mind blown, struck a deep chord, or: you sat days and days thinking after the ending.

Hey there! I take D&D creatures, look into their lore and abilities, and then build encounters around them for you to steal, modify, and plop directly into your D&D games.

Some of the encounters are more story-driven and dramatic while others are more silly and comedic, but all are built-in ways so they can easily be slotted into any homebrew world.

Here are a few of my recent favourites:

• Medusa
• Stone Giants
• Efreeti
• Oblex
• Pit Fiends

Either steal them completely or just use them for inspiration to get out of a creative rut. Abyssal Chickens, False Hydras, Silver Dragons, Imps, Gnolls and more have all been tackled before - so there is something for everybody.

Check out the rest of the encounters here, or sort them by level below:

• Levels 1-5
• Levels 6-10
• Levels 11-15
• Levels 16-20

Enjoy!

P.S - I got better with editing and vocal quality over time, so the earlier vids won’t be as clean...

I'm looking for some helpful advice from writers who have broken through and are now working. Basically, as the title says, things were looking up for me, I had about a dozen generals with producers all over LA from big production companies. My manager and agent at the time shopped a script of mine and were not able to sell it. Based on one of the generals, I worked with a couple producers on a drama based on a true story, they are currently trying to shop it. In the meantime I'm working on a spec of my own. I'd like to switch to a new agent and/or manager. I feel so stuck, where do I go from here? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

My wife and I are expecting our second child in the spring. We have been batting around the same two options in the event it’s a girl: Zoe or Madeline. I also like Hannah as a third option.

I really like those options, don’t get me wrong. But I’m also feeling like I’m leaving a lot of good options on the table too. Would love some suggestions if folks have any. Some parameters, if it helps:

• Our first child’s name is John, and we would really like a sib-set that works well together.

• Last name begins with a ‘W’

• If it’s a girl, her middle name will likely be Lauren

• As you can tell, we tend to like fairly sturdy, classic names. Best way to categorize would be Judeo-Christian heritage, biblical-feeling. We aren’t a religious family by any means but our tastes just tend towards that category (or variations thereof). This is not a strict rule though!

• Lots of popular vowel names are out for us, since our extended family already claimed them: Elizabeth, Ava, Amelia, Eloise, Evelyn, etc.

I feel like a decaying piece of shit with no motivation rn.

I can't stop being a self-destructive retard. Is there any literature that made u snap out of it and saved u from the brink of personal ruin and catastrophe

I'm at my wit's end and I really must get it together before all is lost please tell me what to read (I already own a copy of the Quran and have read Victorian erotica)

Anyone else feeling this way? I can’t afford most challenges, I can’t afford (or get anywhere even close to finishing) sets, and I can’t get lucky enough to get a rare pack. Bummed out

It's cold, zwift has become arduous and boring even. I've seen some recent gains lifting weights and now thinking to myself I don't want this cyclist body anymore. I'm looking through 2k USD home gym setups as my wife looks at my collection of bikes on the wall that haven't moved in weeks and silently steams like a tea kettle about to sound off... I haven't put in over a 30 mile ride in 2 months when 60-70 was a normal weekend ride. I suppose it's ok to accept that things change and maybe a casual 20-30 mile ride is what I need right now vs those half day long adventures. What do y'all normally do to get your rhythm back?

Some bad events happened and I adopted some bad habits in a pretty short period of time. I started waking up really late, stopped exercising, started eating sugar and junk food, lost drive for all things..

Any tips to slowly negotiate myself into going back to my old self?

The biggest struggle is waking up early. I used to wake up at 5am, now I cant. I just dont have any drive to stay awake.

Help pls

Edit: thanks for all the responses, I will implement all the tips and give an update.

I've been trying to find new games for a while now, but I don't really have anyone other than my spouse and brother to talk to about video games. We have some overlapping interests, but none of the usual stuff is catching my eye. For my birthday last month I got a gift card for Steam. I kind of feel guilty about getting it because I've been in kind of a blah place in terms of gaming. I wish I could game with others, but I'm so unreliable in terms of gaming on a regular basis. Haha 😆 I mostly play RPGs, open world, sandbox type stuff, but nowadays, the gameplay and story have to be really compelling to pull me in.

I want to hear about what games you all are passionate about. I don't care if they're brand new games or 'Old Faithfuls'. I miss talking about video games with all the passion I can muster. (Let's just say I can get pretty animated when I like something. People have to tell me to bring it down a few decibels. 😅)

(I wish I could pick multiple tags. I would flag this as Discussion and Request.)

Edit: I just want to say thank you to everyone who commented! Having discussions with you all and seeing how passionate you are about your current (and forever) favorite games has really helped! I have a lot of new games to add to my wishlists now! You are all amazing! I think this is my most popular post yet!! Thank you all so much!

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So where to start back in sept got a refusal charge. Ended up paying almost 2 grand in impound fees and repairing a window that got broken. License suspended 90 days and i work 45 mins outta town ranging start and finish times.had to drive one day as my gf needed to bring our daughter to appointments got pulled over. Ended up in a payday loan loop to keep afloat and its been monthss. Slowly decreasing amount taken but its hard. My expenses and debts are Lawyer-15k Rent -1300 Insurance-370 Gas 100 week Along with other necessities I feel like i can only physically work so much to try and pull myself out. ANY and all advice and criticism is welcome

Hello! Trying to meet more friends. Had some success but it’d be nice to make more real friendships. Ever have that feeling where life is stable, career is stable but you feel like life is kinda unfulfilling? The last 8 months or so, I feel like I just go to work and pay bills. I have friends to hang out with time to time, but I'm still feeling like I have no idea what I am actually supposed to be working for in life.

Hoping to meet and talk to some people, maybe feeling the same or just looking for a new friend. I am usually not a downer or sad person, I am actually pretty happy just kinda lost. I like to keep in touch with chatting through the day or even phone calls. Talking over the phone is a great way to connect. Platonic friendships very much welcomed.

Shoot me a message or maybe your discord name!

I haven’t had a lot of fun with some of the games lately. I used to play a lot when I came home from work. Now sometimes I can’t find the energy and that could be something with me. But I really think it’s that I haven’t found a game that I really like. I think my taste are changing but games now are just always plagued with these new modern trends. The last good game I played was the Witcher 3 and destiny was good until about just recently. What are people playing right now?

So-

I’ve been on twitch for about 8 months now. I’ve made some good friendships with people and get a consistent audience around 5/6. Thé problem is, I’m struggling to attract a larger audience outside of my 5 consistent people. I try to be present in other twitch streams to get my name out there but nothing is sticking… any advice?

Hey all. I spent the past 6 months studying for certifications and left my reading life fall off. I'm looking for fast-paced novels or short story compilations in the following categories: Sci-Fi, Hard SF, really scary horror, mysteries, thrillers, and short story compilations.

Examples for those categories to give you a better understanding:

1. Sci-Fi: Dark Matter
2. Hard SF: Any Andy Weir novel
3. Really Scary Horror: If you can find something that scares me, I'll be grateful. Hint: monsters don't do it for me. People are scarier.
4. Mysteries: Agatha Christie-type novels
5. Thrillers: Dead Koontz usually does it
6. Short Story Compilations: King, Chizmar-type

Who else thinks this is not about money, business or growth but the share structure - the fact that Dan owns 90% of the companies with very little float available for the public? With Jay moving to a new leadership position unless they announce some major news I don’t see is getting to fair value (at least 25) clearly WS and hedgies hate this company

I play bass in a band. We practice a lot and have a strong catalog of really good originals. But with Covid it’s been really hard to gain traction. We really want to start playing live shows (which we did pre Covid) and make records. But at the time it seems that all we can do is just practice. Does anyone have any ideas on how we could get our band out of this rut and on our way reaching our goals?

i am still living in the same house with INC wife i think its 3 or so years since i stpped attending INC I guess normal person may have moved on found some better life, i wanted to stay close to my kids plus i have no confidence in myself, or finding anything better never did really and reinforced by all the lousy life experiences that always seem to far outnumber the few and far between good events in my life, events that i ended up ruining anyway. i feel trapped and theres nowhere to go, life is only pain and disapointment. I think i am doomed and my sons are doomed and i am poor father. I know my sons would not have been born if i didnt join the cult all those years ago, Maybe they can get out. My youngest wants out for sure, he hates it, i can see the effect it has on him not being able to live an authenric life, my oldest doesnt say but also i feel sure he woul get out if not for the INC obsessed mum and mil. So i am just as stuck, i tried a dating site and met one attracrive lady, on third time we went out i told her some of my situation ie still living in same house , even though i dont know how it got to 3 dates, i felt from 1st meeting she was dissapointed in what she saw. It still hurts to be rejected. I wanr to be happy or at least have something to look forward to but i just dont have mich hope. Anyway its a

So I go to a bad program in Utah. I’m on a home visit though, and I’m thinking on either running away or flat out refusing to leave when it’s time to go back. I head back on Tuesday. I’m afraid running away is dangerous, but also I may get harsher punishment and threats if I just refuse to go back. And the scary part is, I don’t know what’s in store if I choose the second option. I’ve run away before and I know about it but absolutely nothing about the latter. Has anyone been in this situation? What can I do?

I am, and I'm not quite sure how to fix it. Between studying for exams and trying to write my own novel, exercise, keep up social connections...I'm really having a hard time finishing anything. Nothing grabs my interest much in terms of books, and I usually just end up watching TV. It's making me nostalgic for the days when I would devour like five books a week and inhale every word, even the so-so books.

The two books I recently finished and enjoyed were Passing by Nella Larsen and Howl's Moving Castle by Diana Wynne Jones. I read the latter because the former was kind of heavy, and brought up a lot of personal things for me. I know Howl's is technically a children's book, but I absolutely loved it, and I finished it in about two days. I tried starting a few other books, but my problem is back. Maybe I'm just burned out, and I don't know what to do about it.

Any thoughts?

for background: I (29F) have been active in triathlon since 2015, coached in the sport since 2018, and active in road racing since 2011. Since 2011 I have completed 9 full marathons, 3 twenty-milers, a 30k, 6 half-marathons, and 3 ten-milers as well as an ultra-distance triathlon (140.6), a long-distance triathlon (70.3), and 30+ sprint and olympic distance events. I have competed in USAT Age Group Nation Championships 4x and in 2021 qualified for the 2022 ITU Standard Distance Age Group Grand Final. I usually do 7-8 tris/year and the most races (running and tris) I've ever done in a year was 26, in 2019. My best olympic time is 2:28:26 and my best marathon is 3:53:00 (ultra-distance was embarrassingly slow at 16+ hours). Although my times and training have been inconsistent over the years, I have always managed to show up and finish.

Unfortunately, I have been fairly mentally ill for the past 2 years and pretty debilitated for the last couple of months. 2021 saw my first DNF and my first DNS. October 2021-now is the "laziest" I have been in over a decade, and I have done essentially no training at all. Fortunately, my medication treatment seems to finally be under control to where I feel semi-normal, have been going to work as I am supposed to, and am not torpedoing my personal relationships.

That being said, I am really struggling to get back into a training routine. Workouts are really discouraging as I am overweight (150lbs, race weight 135lbs) and so much slower than I used to be. This is especially hard for me as training has always been part of my coping mechanism. I have a full marathon scheduled for 1 MaY, USAT Age Group Nationals in August, and the ITU Grand Final in November so I am definitely starting to feel overwhelmed. I am so discouraged that I don't have the drive and discipline that I used to have but I don't know how to get it back after being so sick.

If anyone has had experience coming back to a semi-competitive place after any kind of illness or injury, I would really appreciate the advice, tips, tricks, or methods that helped you come back or at least start again. I don't really have any friends in the sport and I find that most people don't really understand where I'm coming from in wanting to be competitive.

thanks for taking the time to read, hope all is well for you and your goals

I have fair skin with cool undertones and blue eyes. I find that pretty much all of the pallets I own (which are not many) fall into either creams/browns or pinks/rosy browns.

Does anyone have any suggestions for other colors that would be good to work in for everyday looks?

So my wife of 11 years (and two kids) had an affair. It was mostly sexting but they did meet up a few times and got somewhat physical. She says they never had sex but he put his hand in her pants…she denies reciprocating.

I found out by anonymous email. When I confronted her she admitted to sexting but denied the physical part. Then I got a creepy phone call where I was told it was a physical affair. Not many details though.

She gave me trickle truths after I got the phone call, but I know she hasn’t told me everything, specifically one of the places they met. I discovered this location with some investigative efforts.

She is making efforts to rebuild the marriage but I know she hasn’t come fully clean. I know they met somewhere that she hasn’t told me about (she admitted to some other places). How do I approach this? Should I forget this and move on since she is making effort?? Also possible that she has lied about the extent of the affair and that it was way more physical than I thought….

I love my kids more than anything and can’t imagine my life without them every day. I also really love my wife and I’m hoping to rebuild our marriage. We are in marriage therapy but having a tough time with this issue. Any advice is appreciated.