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As the title indicates, I'm child-free while my partner wants kids. When we started dating I was still on the fence, but since then I've come to realize that I absolutely, 100% do not want to be a mother. I actually really like children, but I don't want one of my own. I feel quite sure of this decision, and don't see myself budging at all.
Of course, I had to communicate this to my partner, with whom I'd even discussed marriage in the past. His mind has never changed, he says there's no doubt in his mind that he would like to be a father... but then he doesn't want to break up.
He says that, right now, his life is far from stable, and that he won't be having children anytime soon, or within the next few years. When I talked about not wanting us to waste each other's time, he said that we simply don't know what's going to happen, that it's impossible to predict the future, and that we shouldn't jump to conclusions. He added that he understands how I feel, and has every intention of respecting it (as do I, I'd never want to take parenthood from him, if that's what he wishes!).
I am left feeling unsatisfied over our talk. Marriage has been on our plans, probably within 3 years, but it would be a huge mistake to marry someone who's not on the same page with me on this issue. Don't get me wrong, I love him, but I also see little point in pursuing a relationship that seems doomed.
Can you give me some advice on how to proceed?
TLDR: Boyfriend and I cannot agree on the subject of children. He doesn't want to break up, but I see little reason to continue?
We should not, and will not accept a decision that disregards the interests, mental, and physical wellbeing of us, the IB students. We've put faith in this organisation to provide us with high quality education, but also to ensure that we don't want to kill ourselves by the end of the school programme. The direction the IBO is heading is an extremely dangerous path of apathy.
According to every survey that I've seen, whether on this subreddit, instagram, or even within my own school, consistently, 75-80% of the students want the May 2021 examinations to be cancelled. M21 cohort consists of approximately 170,000 students. Each one of them will pay 510 euros to sit the exams, amounting to an 86,700,000 euro income for the IBO. If anyone thinks that by deciding to host the exams wherever possible the IB cares about its students, you are [to some extent] delusional.
A-Levels have cancelled internationally, citing the reason that it would be unfair to compare the students who have been differently affected by the COVID-19 in their learning. And they are fucking right. The IBO has not presented any plans on how regionally hosting exams will be fair to the students - how the fuck can you expect someone who has been in lockdown for a year to score similarly to someone who was in lockdown for a few months at most. A-Levels listened to the input from parents, students and teachers. What has the IBO done? "cAn YoUr ScHoOl HoSt ThE eXaMs?".
HOST THE EXAMS MY ASS - it can be understood if countries choose to host their national examinations, because every kid in the country has experienced COVID-19 basically the same - they are under equal conditions. So yes, for them, governments can say that exams can take place (although that in many cases is a total disregard of mental health), but the IB only caring about the judiciary aspect of the question shows their true nature. And they are very fucking blatant about it - will your government sue us if we try to profit from the exams? That is what they really are asking.
How the fuck does the IBO plan to implement an aLgOrItHm that equally assesses people from 156 DIFFERENT FUCKING COUNTRIES. The best they've done with algorithms is "ok, so we take pg, ia, hIsToRiC dAtA yeet it into an rng and boom". And guess what? They got fucking sued for it! How can anyone, after a fuck up as significant as that, genuinely expect the IBO to produce an algorithm that doesn't account for three variables, but for hundreds?
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I'm looking for advice, or just commiseration, I guess, about something that happened between myself, my girlfriend, and my mom recently. I was talking to a coworker about it, and he directed me to this subreddit. After reading a few of the "all time top" posts, I made a new/throwaway account so I could join. I'll try to keep things brief, but here's my story:
I (27m) have been dating my girlfriend (28f) for five years. We just had our five-year anniversary in September. For as long as she's been around, my parents (50s) have been great to her. Neither I nor my girlfriend have ever had any inkling that they didn't like her. They've actually told me several times that I've "traded up" from my ex, who lived with me at their house for a while in college (long story).
Earlier this year, my parents sold their house and moved from the midwest to the west coast (USA). About a month after their move, my girlfriend and I elected not to renew the lease on our apartment in the town my parents had just vacated, and moved into a rental property that my girlfriend's mom owns. The rental is right next door to my MIL, in a town roughly a 45-minute drive from the town my parents' old house is in. The town GF and I both work in is actually closer to MIL's town than it was to my parents', so this was a win for us in terms of daily commute. Also, living next door to MIL is really nice. I won't go into a lot of detail about my MIL in this post, but I think it's sufficient to say that she's a very kind, generous, and down-to-earth lady. She's significantly older than my parents (in her 70s) and it brings my GF a lot of peace of mind to live close enough to see her every day.
This year, my parents wanted to see us for Thanksgiving. They said they hadn't really gotten settled in their new place yet, so my GF offered to host them now that we have a big enough house. My parents agreed to this, and at the time they seemed happy about it. My mom specifically said it would be nice not to have to cook for once. We told MIL about them coming and she said she'd stay out of our hair so we could spend time with my parents, and made plans to go to a Thanksgiving lunch at her church. (She said she'd see all of her friends and we'd get to see my parents without any distractions, so everybody would get what they want for the day.)
Right after Halloween, my mom sent me a text asking me to remind GF that she needs to make a specific potato dish for Thanksgiving. My mom makes these potatoes e
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I feel like a total ass telling myself that this an issue but I honestly donβt know what to do and Iβm in a real moment of internal conflict.
I just last night had a very intense conversation with my girlfriend of a month or so and a lot came up. In addition to finding we have very different personal beliefs towards a few things, the fact that sheβs not only a virgin (not a big deal on its own) but she also has very very strong views against birth control. This was a byproduct from the main subject of the conversation but long story short she has very very conservative feelings towards that whole area. She sees the use of virtually any method other than abstinence as βabortiveβ.
Iβm concerned because, while Iβm not annoyed that she might be hesitant towards sex, Iβm used to having a physical relationship with past partners and to me itβs a very important aspect for a healthy connection and relationship with that other person. I donβt in any way feel like Iβm owed sex or anything gross like that, I just feel that knowing you and another person can be in sync sexually is important in having a serious relationship. I wouldnβt entertain the thought of marrying another person unless we knew that we were in sync sexually, and itβs hard for me to consider even reaching that point if there would be any recoil towards me or her using preventative measures towards an unintended pregnancy.
Basically I just donβt know what to do now. I donβt want to lead into a worse situation where this issue simmers below the surface until making a worse breakup down the road, but I want to know if Iβm being ridiculous about questionable the relationship over something involving sex.
EDIT: *what did you do
Ang mahal naman talaga ng med school. Even with scholarships and grants, may mga babayaran pa ring essential expenses : (
Last year our 12 year old son Jake became very close to a girl who just moved to the area, Leah. She is one of 4 black kids in the school. (We live in a small town in the Midwest) She is a nice girl but a bit eccentric. However my son is too so their friendship works. A few months ago my son told me me they were getting bullied/teased by some kids, particularly one boy named Kyle in the school. Apparently racist remarks were involved. At the time we reported it to the school (even though Jake told us not to) and the school said they would put a stop to it. We thought it was done with because we didnβt hear much about bullying for the next few months.
However last week we got a call that our son was involved in a fight with Kyle. Jake apparently punched him twice in the face. and Kyle has noticeable bruises. Jake told the school it was an argument over a girl but wouldnβt give further details and he was suspended for 4 days and assigned to have check ups with a counsellor at the school and to apologize to Kyle and his family. Obviously I was horrified. My husband and I interrogated Jake about what happened. He admitted that the bullying had continued and the school didnβt do anything except βtalkβ to Kyle and that Kyle and his friends were mad at them for snitching. Leah didnβt want to be singled out so he stopped telling us about it. The trigger point was when they were sitting together at lunch , Kyle came up to them and started making rude sexual comments and then said in the βold daysβ Leah would be a Slave and they would be slave owners and they could βforce her to have sex with themβ Jake said he just snapped and that he didnβt regret what he did and said there was no way he was going to apologize to Kyle.
I was absolutely disgusted by this. I actually called Leah to talk about it and she confirmed Jakeβs story but said she βdoesnβt want it to be a big dealβ
Obviously I donβt think using a violence is an appropriate way to solve personal issues and I emphasized this with Jake and told him it was unacceptable but I donβt want to force my son to apologize so I told him he didnβt have to apologize if he didnβt want to. I told the school and Kyleβs family this and now a bunch of people are angry at me. My husband thinks I should just give in and have Jake apologize to Kyle so we can move on and that Iβm encouraging bad behaviour but I honestly donβt care? Weβve NEVER had issues with Jake and violence or anger, heβs usually very mild mannered so I hone
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