I’m still a kid but in 10 years I’ll probably be married with a kid and don’t want to ever contaminate or drag my future family into the trenches of this world of scum.
I AM porn free! Dedicating this account to the sperm I’m keeping that will give me a child one day.
Please help your kids, even if they seem “too old” for that kind of help. I have seen several posts from parents recently starting that they aren’t offering some type of help because “x age is old enough to do x action.”
Here is the thing, if your child was just like other kids his/her age, he wouldnt have an ADHD diagnosis. He might need more support. It’s not a crutch to help your child. Children with ADHD are often several years behind their peers. Yes, even the ones who are smart or mature for their ages. ESPECIALLY the ones who are smart/mature for their age. If they ask for help and you would help a younger child in that way, you can help your older child in that way. Please don’t add to the feeling that they are bad or stupid. They get enough of that already.
I am one of those nerdy types that loves collecting model trains, ships ect and there is something that i have noticed when i have been buying things like this. Whenever i want to buy an item i usually do focus on the reviews (i like to see people pleased with the product themselves before i decide to buy it) but usually all i find in the reviews is the odd collector who appreciates the beauty and hard work that has gone into these 3D Printed, hand painted products as any collector should. But most of the reviews are from parents of children under 10 who seem to think that these models are toys for their children to mess around with and make up games with. Yes encouraging your kids imagination is good but models are not to be played with that much because they are not toys.
For example, i was buying a model ship once (Lusitania model, hand painted, 3d printed and warnings that it was fragile) i scrolled down to the reviews and i saw pictures of kids holding them on Christmas day, most of the kids were holding them in odd angles or playing around with them on a hard tiled floor. Another review i saw the mother had allowed her son to take the model to the beach and actually put it in the ocean! she was bragging in the review how amazing her sons imagination is and all i could think was "That is a model not a toy, and its not to be put in water like that, especially salt water" so many other parents were commenting the same thing and picturing their kids putting the model in the bath, snow, dirt and playing with it at odd angles. I have recently checked back at the sellers profile (he mostly makes these himself and is very passionate about his work and when i clicked on his profile this note was on all of his models and collectors items:
"There is a difference between models and toys. These are quality artisan models not toys. They will hold up to light play but should not be hit or banged around as there are little pieces that can break off. We try our best to make these models strong but because they are 3d printed models, they will always be weak in some of the areas with smaller pieces. They will float in water but not straight. Please do not buy this model collection if all you are looking for is toy boats to float in the tub. That is not what these are made for. If you appreciate beautiful, accurate, highly detailed yet still affordable models, then these are the coolest things of all time! Thank you!"
He shouldn't have to write that but he has ha
... keep reading on reddit ➡Let me preface this by saying that I actually love children and want to have my own in the near future, so this isn’t me hating on children at all. My issue here is entirely with shitty, inconsiderate parents.
I was at a 9:30 pm showing of a PG-13 movie and there were several young (3-4 years old) children making noise, crying, and running around the theatre for half the film. I should have said something to the parents, but I’m not the most confrontational gal and have social anxiety lol. Every time I came close to working up the courage, the kids seemed to settle down a bit (only to start acting up again 10 minutes later).✨regerts✨
In my opinion, those kids shouldn’t have been there the first place considering how late at night the movie was and the fact that it was PG-13. At the very minimum, you’d think the parents would at least try to keep them under control for the duration of the movie, or remove them from the theatre when they were acting up.
Nope! If you got dropped in the room with a blindfold on and no idea where you were, you’d probably guess we were at a daycare or a kindergartener’s birthday party.
I don’t blame the kids. When you’re that young, you’re still learning and growing, so sitting quiet and still for 2.5 hours would be a daunting task. This is 100% on the parents, who clearly don’t have any consideration for other people and are raising their children to be equally selfish and narcissistic.
The world doesn’t revolve around you and your kids. Hire a damn babysitter or find an activity that doesn’t force strangers to watch you fail to parent your children instead of the movie they paid for.
Sheesh
We need to stop raising girls to believe that they're beautiful princesses which in turn makes them dependant on that dopamine hit of being called beautiful.. They pile on the make up and the fashion addiction in order to fulfill what basically amounts to their main goal in life. Stop creating instagram thots parents and ppl in society. Tell young girls they are strong and intelligent instead.
This should be obvs but its mostly the women that perpetuate this cycle every generation and we perpetually have insecure and vacous women in large amounts in every generation. Of course the beauty industry loves that this happens but as a society we need to wake ip and do better in how we raise our children.
Men also need to not be told to be tough as fuck and not communicate their feelingsetc I could go on but yeah we don't need so much division between the sexes for profit. Sports in schools is incredibly detrimental...
one in five children in London will not have a christmas tree at home.
one in five children in London will not have a christmas dinner with their family.
This is not an advertisement for Red cross or Salvation Army, one in five children born in London are Muslims and they dont celebrate christmas!!
More specifically do parents really see their babies/toddlers/teens as cute/beautiful? Like if you have an actually ugly baby (like myself) do you see that ugliness? Or is it a parent thing to think your children is beautiful no matter what? Cause my mom definitely not accepting i was an ugly baby but boy i was not pretty at all.
For me, I didn't realise my parents are narcissists (they have full-blown NPD) until I was 26 years old when I started working as a mental health professional. I was manipulated, gaslit, controlled, threatened and made to believe that their abusive behaviours of constant physical abuse, emotional abuse, neglect were normal and happened in all families and all households - in fact I was told this all throughout my life.
They severely limited and sabotaged my interactions with other people all throughout my life, including female friends and boyfriends by feeding me lies that I stupidly believed such as "your boyfriend/friend/peers are secretly rapists, murderers, or illegal drug dealers, and out to harm you", and stealing my phone while I was having a shower, going through my list of contacts and contacting my friends and boyfriend (I was in my early 20s at the time). At 26 years old I finally learnt the terms "narcissism", "NPD", "psychopathy" and "sociopathy", and finally realised that what was happening in my life wasn't normal at all.
And now I feel defeated - why did I not realise all of this sooner?
My once best friend - I was the maid of honour at her wedding and present for the birth of her first child - told me she didn't feel it was safe to bring her children to visit me in my home as she maintained I'd get angry with them for damaging something. (I live in a pretty minimalist environment without a lot of knickknacks whereas she is a Maximalist decorator who has always seemed a bit uncomfortable in my home). I loved her sooo much and tried over and over and over to tell her in a multitude of ways that I'd be so proud and happy to have them come visit, that her girls could burn my house down with no recourse. However, she continued to insist that I planned to hurt them. (I've never harmed a child in my life and she is the only person who sees me that way).
We didn't talk for several months and when we finally did I received a pseudo apology where she told me she "was sorry my feelings were hurt". Currently, we speak on the phone occasionally. I've been hoping/waiting for the situation to change, but after more than a decade it has not. I cannot defend myself against a charge of something I'm going to do in the future. She refuses to back down. The situation causes me daily distress, and I cannot seem to muster the courage to cut off a "friendship" that makes me feel despair and has damaged my ability to trust others. The thought of abusing a friend's children makes me nauseous. It makes me curdle inside. What should I do?
This has crossed my mind several times that a child doesn't have boundaries brown they look at another person leaving his/her parents but will be ready to speak to a stranger, play with a stranger, go out with a stranger. But as we grow up we start segregating people into race, creed, religion, neighbor etc.
Is it difficult to become like a child again or is it impossible? Or can it be done easily if we remind ourselves everyday to be loving to all? What are your thoughts?
Outside of wide range of covid-related changes in the classroom, what normal stuff do you see different in your kids' classrooms compared to what we had in the 90s? For example, I assume overhead projects are long gone. How about the big TV on the cart? Do they have flat screens or no movie/education films at all? I can't tell you how many Disney movies I watched in the 90s in class! I hear math has changed. Are the desks different? Do elementary school kids all have laptops at school? Any change at all, even something small and sentimental that seems significant to you, feel free to share!
You were the adult when they were a child. If their first instinct, as soon as they get out from under your thumb, is to completely ignore you forever, you need to own the fact that you messed up as a parent at several, consistent, points along the road throughout your child's upbringing. They hate you for a good reason, and they're probably better off without you in their lives.
There are a number of forms of abuse that range from over-parenting, to neglect, over-discipline to straight up negative enabling behavior.
I have friends who don't talk to their parents because the strictness was so suffocating, and friends who don't talk to their parents because they were lazy bums who never took an interest in their child's life. There are tons of other reasons kids abandon relationships with their folks, but the one thing that stays true through all of these experiences for me is that it's always the parents fault.
This is mostly about relationships that end as soon as the kid leaves the house, not necessarily relationships that break down during adulthood, although the same reasoning could be applied in a lot of these cases too.
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To the people in the comments defending parents and blaming the kids: If you're a kid defending your parents then congratulations on having parents who treated you fairly and cared for you I'm sincerely happy for you (everyone didn't get the same life you did), if you're a parent defending yourself then just own up to the fact that you messed up and move on with your life, try to be happy and leave your kids alone because they've cut you out for very good reasons and they're better off without you.
My mother has been emotionally abusive to my sisters and I ever since I was a child. I’ve been called names, gaslit, hit and threatened more times than I can sometimes remember. Mother’s Day sucks and I know there are others in this boat. I still have a relationship with her (mainly due to the pressures of family), and every year, I still have to put on a show for this day. This year is no different. For anyone in this situation, know that you’re not alone. Find a way to give yourself a time limit on your interactions and take some time for yourself that day. You deserve it too.
Edit: Thanks for the gold + awards ❤️ I’ve never gotten any Reddit post awards before so it was exciting to see those notifications!
Parents of Reddit. Do Children nowadays still play Yu-Gi-Oh the TCG? When I grew up in the 2000s as a kid and spending my childhood playing the TCG. I am wondering do Kids still play the game or is it mostly adult ridden? Do your kids even care for physical board/card games? Focus on YGO if possible?
I am just curious because I am a 22 year old male and loved the game, and I don't have younger family members to ask whether they still play the game. So I am just wondering whether TCG is dead.
If so? Do they actually know the game? Is the game too complicated for them nowadays? Do they just collect the cards or do they actually sit down with friends and play the game? Do you as a parent play TCG with your kids? Also are schools still super strict on Card Games and does YuGiOh rule the school ground still? Thank you.
