So I’m a 25 year old male and I’m on the autism spectrum and my special interest is movies and filmmaking and I absolutely love the process of going to the theater and seeing movies. It’s literally my favorite thing to do and just sitting in a movie theater and seeing motion on a big silver screen makes my serotonin levels go up and I’ve never regretted seeing a single movie I’ve seen in theaters (even though I’ve seen some HORRIBLE movies at the theater, hahaha).
Anyway, I was looking at what’s gonna be playing at my local theater next week and I just saw that Sing 2 is gonna be playing in 3D and I was thinking of seeing it. However…it is a kids movie and there probably will be a lot of kids in the theater and I don’t wanna appear like a creeper and get judgmental looks from parents or even have someone say something to me. I remember I saw an animated movie by myself two years ago and when I sat in my seat, this woman and her kid were sitting nearby and the woman made her kid sit on the other side of her away from me.
Would it be inappropriate for me to go see it? I don’t mind just renting it when it comes out on home media if so, I just would love to know for this situation and any future reference.
On the post about the Baird family dinner, some of the snarkers were complaining (as usual) about what Bethany wore. It looked like she was just wearing a sweater dress with tights. I really just don’t get the issue with what she wears? Like what is considered an appropriate outfit for an adult woman to wear in their eyes because it seems like every outfit she wears they have a problem with. I don’t like the GD women but my issue is with their beliefs and need to push them on others and prey on young women not their outfits. I feel like Bethany just dresses like a normal woman in her 20s.
I'm spending the holidays with family, and found that my sister and her husband play their kids almost entirely kid-targeted music, and just play classical around the house for themselves, so my nieces and nephews don't even know what rock, hip-hop, pop, etc. even are. This is in contrast to my brother where he and his wife play zero kids' music because they find it annoying, so their 4yr old likes Primus.
I've been on a little project this holiday (with parents' permission) to expose the kids to a wider variety of musical styles. They just asked that the videos not be unduly sweary/sexual/violent but they're not too uptight. I'm finding it's also a challenge to find videos that are clean but not too boring for kids, as there are some great adult songs with clean lyrics but the videos are just concert footage or people staring at landscape, so I've been trying to find videos that are pretty busy or engaging, or funny, or have a cool plot.
So far we've been leaning heavily on pop, since that's been the easiest, found a few metal and punk videos that work for kids, struggling a bit to find hip-hop ones since I don't know that scene well. So if people have some genre expertise, that'd be really good insight.
I'll post below some of the ones I've tried so far and how they've worked out, but I'd really like to hear your ideas about grown-up music videos that kids can enjoy as well. Thanks!
I’m watching 24 hours in police custody where a fully grown man is being interviewed after attempted murder - no mental health issues have been mentioned but the interview couldn’t happen until an ‘appropriate adult’ arrived - someone he had never met before and arrived a little like an interpreter. What is the purpose of this person being present?
Out of curiosity, did you find out later in life that you are "gifted"? How? Has this impacted you? Do you wish you'd known earlier or been in supportive programs as a child/young person?
1st of all you're surrounded by FAMILY like its just gross to talk like this and secondly there are often children around , who thinks it's OK to say this stuff infront of kids trying to eat their food? Did you experience someone saying something nsfw this holiday season?
She also takes pride in saying that her kids understood her and talked back to her like mature adults. But I have the feeling that she is misinterpreting passive subjugation and emotional inhibition for maturity.
Hi !! I’m a server, and this is something I tend to have trouble with. At the restaurant where I work, we only have adult menus (no child-specific ones) and we can either offer paper cups or drinking glasses.
For your child(ren), at what age did they start wanting to look at a regular menu? (Especially if a kid menu wasn’t available). Also, at what age would you trust them with a glass cup instead of a paper one?
How do you choose the right age range for your story?
I'm timelining at the moment but I'm already seeing a problem. My main character is a preteen in a historical fantasy, the plot however is where things are less kid-oriented. I'm planning on playing around with more adult-oriented problems like court intrigue and soft violence. There isn't going to be anything explicitly sexual but the gore level could put it in a higher age range. It's not horrifically gruesome but it's still in a weird middle ground. However, if it's not an interesting story in the new adult range, I could tone it down to be a teen novel. However, toning it down would change some key elements... Thoughts about what makes something YA vs Adult?
Edit: I have thus learned what New Adult actually is and more or less want to die in a hole.
I'm not actually a lawyer, but nor am I obtaining legal advice. Can someone help with my question please?
My personal POV is that it means that the appropriate adult must be available immediately i.e. "here and now", not within the PACE detention period. Which automatically discounts an Inspector authorising a renewed detention period for the purpose of getting an appropriate adult so that the DP (Detained Person) can be charged with them there. What if the AA (Appropriate Adult) is not available in person, but they are available via telephone?
I started to get drawn into the Hunter/Millie Bobby Brown situation and then Drake's name came up. Now I do not like Drake as an artist and I don't care for him as an influencer at all. I don't follow his musical career nor do I follow his like personal dating relationships at all, so I don't know if he's creepy with other underage people but I'm just going off of one thing because I can sort of relate to it.
Supposedly in an interview Millie Bobby Brown mention that she was friends with Drake and that they texted and that he gave her advice on dating and other things. Supposedly automatically the responses were negative and he got categorized as a creepy person.
When I was around the age of five, I was walking down the street in front of my mom and I saw a couple sitting on their front door steps, some people call it a stoop. I was very extroverted as a kid and I literally pulled up on them and started asking them random questions and pulled them into playing a hand game with me. Well my mom walked onto the scene and of course she initially felt concerned.
Anyway I ended up developing an actual friendship with the couple. So much so that my mom even asked him to be my god parents but I mean that's a really intense question so they understandably said no. I would go over to the house, I would spend hours with their dog, I would sometimes spend the night and sleep in the guest room.
There was never anything weird that happened between me and those people. Initially my relationship was closer to the guy and as I got older the woman became more of my mentor and she even helped me when I was still trying to go to college.
Like, the relationship never felt weird there was never any creepy grooming behavior and there was no also never any weird close touching. I know people can be fucking creepy but it doesn't mean that they're creepy every single time.
TW: brief CSA mention and ramblings from the parental perspective and how to navigate a family with multiple people with difficulties. I don't want to hurt anyone.
I am so lost and really need outside perspectives. I don't speak to anyone about this irl because I am very sensitive to how my daughter feels, and it just feels bad to talk about. But my life isn't sustainable and I need help.
Bio/history. I dont know how to give all info without writing a book, so please forgive me if I leave something out inadvertently. I'm a 52 year old woman, self diagnosed autistic in the last 18 months and have shared with a few people in the last few weeks. So very new to the whole thing and to talking in general. I'm a CSA survivor and have always attributed my struggles to that until I realized I'm autistic. I've done countless therapies, self help books and programs etc to become what I considered a normal person. Never made it obviously lol.
I have two grown children and dedicated my life (not necessarily in a healthy way.... I'm not trying to blow my own horn) to trying to give them a good, healthy upbringing and never letting them feel as I did as a child. I've struggled as a parent, internally. People tell me I'm a good mom but on the inside I'm so not ok. Especially for my daughter, as she and I seem to need the same airspace. Since she was born, my daughter has used up all my spoons. I poured so much into trying to be a good mom. Looking back now I see it was a special interest. I had lots of values and worked so hard at it. I failed in many ways but think I did good things too. She's now 31 and my son is 24. I kept myself going for so many years by telling myself I just need to get my daughter safely to adulthood and then I can breathe. Then I can rest a bit. But at 19 she was diagnosed with several mental illnesses I feel so much guilt for what I didn't see then, for not making her happy and healthy and not being able to just make everything OK.
Current situation: she has two children, 11 and 9, both autistic. I've basically been a second parent to them. They have bedrooms at both my husband and I's house, and their mom and step-dad's house. Their dad is in prison. I love them dearly. This life, though, I feel like I can't handle it. I mean I do handle it but I need to find a way to finally tend to myself, also. My grandchildren come first. My daughter, though, still needs a very intense amount of emotional support and I don't feel lik
... keep reading on reddit ➡I read The Hobbit to my son and he loved it (and of course I’ve loved it all the times I’ve read it). It was the perfect balance of interest and magic for my son, while still being “mature” enough for me.
We’ve also read Fortunately the Milk by Neil Gaiman which is a very different style but it’s still about an adventure, and while the story itself is pretty childish it is witty and clever enough that I genuinely enjoyed it.
Roald Dahl books could also fit in this category.
I find most kid’s chapter books are overly simplistic in their vocabulary and plot, with predictable one-dimensional characters.
So what are some other good adventurous chapter books that are either for adults but good for kids, or written for kids and good enough for adults? I want depth and clever writing and interesting plot and characters, but still on a level that a kid can understand and enjoy.
Edit- I prefer it not be a series since there’s a decent chance my kid will lose interest and not let me read multiple books
I am looking for a good psychiatrist who can diagnose and treat adult ADHD. I have no idea if medcation will be necessary but I want to avoid any psychiatrists that automatically do not consider medication an option. Or who only prescribe to already high-functioning (well off) people.
I suddenly remembered this old r/entitledparents post that I remember reading about 2 years ago and felt like sharing it on here. The user who submitted the original post has since deleted their account.
No real damage done but it was still annoying. A cousin of mine recently got into Studio Ghibli films. He wanted to borrow Spirited Away and I was okay with that. His folks go to a church in my area so they agreed to swing by and grab the disk after service.
They come in and I go to get the disk. My cousin starts asking about some of the other Ghibli films and anime mixed into my dvd collection. Then he points to Soul Eater. It’s a great show but he just turned thirteen and it wasn’t exactly age appropriate. Plus I didn’t think his parents (mainly his mother) would approve. They’re very religious and the show revolves around soul harvesting, the Grim Reaper, witches, and some fan service. I’m still not sure why Ghibli was okay with them (because of the spirits, witches, and demons) but I was pretty sure a show called Soul Eater would tip that Jenga tower.
So when he asked me if he can borrow it, I said no. That “no” seemed to catch my aunt’s attention and she was by my cousin’s side in a flash. She ask why he can’t borrow it and I told her it may not be age appropriate. Then she says something along the lines of “Its a cartoon, it’s meant for children. You’re a grown woman, you shouldn’t have this anyway”. I was a little irritated but stood firm. Instead, I let the kid barrow My Neighbor Totoro as well as Spirited Away and they went home. I thought everything was good until an hour ago.
I received a call from my screaming aunt. She accused me of trying to corrupt her son with vulgarity and satanism. I was lost at first and then she mentioned a demon and a naked cat woman being in the first episode. I checked my shelf and Soul Eater was missing. I’m not sure when she did it but she had stolen the box set. They’re returning the movies next Sunday and Soul Eater had better be with them. I’m hoping she doesn’t “confiscate” it like she does with other “ungodly” stuff. That set was around fifty dollars after shipping and handling. It was like THE first anime box set I ever bought and I will go to war for it.
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Second Edit: They agreed to return my DVD’s next Sunday. I’m ho
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My younger brother (11) is really physically affectionate with my mom’s partner. They often cuddle and even give each other pecks on the lips. My brother isn’t even this affectionate with me or our dad. This kind of affection makes me highly uncomfortable, though I was a victim of CSA so I am extremely sensitive and almost paranoid about this type of thing. My brother seems to really like him and he treats my brother well. If I told my brother to stop being affectionate with him I don’t think he would listen anyway. Should I be concerned?
My company has asked me to gather some examples of game-type interactions in Storyline. I’ve scoured Google and the E-Learning Heros community but haven’t found many which are appropriate for an adult audience. The majority I’ve seen are a little rudimentary/only appropriate for younger learners.
I know 'Jeopardy,' 'Family Feud,' and 'Who Wants to Be a Millionaire' themed games might be appropriate, but all of these are far overused already in my company.
Does anyone know of any online examples of games created in Storyline which are visually clean, and appropriately challenging for the adult learner, that I can start to use for inspiration?
For reference, two games I found online which are closer to what I am looking for in terms of visual flair, and ability to adapt to an adult audience are:
- https://articulate-heroes-authoring.s3.amazonaws.com/Allison/360/countdown-quiz/story.html
- https://elearningprojects.s3-eu-west-1.amazonaws.com/demos/BoardGame/story.html
I appreciate anyone’s input!
Edit: I should add, the games I see on the articulate community are really great, just not adaptable for what I’m looking for!
This question has been bothering me for a long time. What I seem to be doing is fading to black, but I wonder if I am letting down my readers.
Hey all! Hoping to get some insight into the world of shorts.
I'm in my early 20's and gradually upgrading my wardrobe a bit for post-college life. Up til now, my repertoire of shorts has been
- DIY denim cutoffs made from a thrifted pair of Levi's 510s (comfy, well loved, extremely short to the point of booty-showing if I'm not careful)
- Lightly distressed olive short shorts (less comfortable, but more covered up than the Levi's, pretty sure they're from the Target teens' department)
- Quick-dry short board shorts for the beach
- Gym shorts
I'm generally happy with my legs and rear and don't feel the need to cover up for modesty's sake, but lately my shorts options don't sync up with the more put-together look that I'm going for. But I'm really struggling to find more "grown up" options that I like. I've observed adult-ish shorts falling into some categories:
- Denim/linen/chino shorts that are still really short (2-3 inch inseam), but aren't distressed and have a finished hem
- "Retro" shorts like what's on Modcloth - high rise, A-shaped, loose around the legs
- Paperbag shorts - loose, high rise, belted waist
- Mid-thigh and longer: long denim shorts, bermudas, fashion bike shorts
(1), (2), and (3) definitely look more put-together than shredded denim booty shorts, but are they really more classy/versatile? I still feel they need to be just as short to look attractive on me. (4) just does not feel flattering no matter what I do.
I would love to know what kind of shorts, if any, you'd wear in different settings:
- To the grocery store
- To a grad school lecture
- Out to dinner (the sort of place that doesn't have an official dress code, but everyone dresses semi-nicely)
- To work (are there shorts you can wear to the office? I know offices have different expectations, but I've been taught that skirts for the office should be knee-length, and certainly never shorter than mid-thigh. Shorts in this length range feel extremely unflattering on me.)
Are booty shorts becoming more generally accepted? Is it possible to look good in shorts with an inseam longer than 2 inches? Have I been brainwashed into feeling I need to reveal as much leg as possible? Do you think that 2-inch shorts are acceptable outside of the club? Do the rules change when it's hot outside? Please share your wisdom!
