The unaltered list contains the names of potential abuse victims and shouldn't be posted here. Feel free to post articles and pieces discussing the whole thing but anything that potentially identifies victims of abuse will be removed.
Here is a Guardian piece on the new leak:
https://www.theguardian.com/world/2017/oct/31/who-is-handsy-in-taxis-spreadsheet-of-sexual-allegations-alarms-tories
Nice guy, terrible Vet
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Also, you would help me out A LOT if you simply donwloaded it. Thanks so much!
He slept with one of his patients and can no longer work in the profession.
What a waste of time, money, and effort. He's still paying back his college loans. Just goes to show that one tiny mistake can ruin your life. My thoughts to him and his family.
He really is a good man, and a brilliant veterinarian.
The scene with Kira and Dukat in the cave right after Dukat sits on something sharp. I don’t think there’s anything funnier than after Kira tells Dukat he has to activate the dermal regenerator, the way Dukat turns it on and says “Oh.”
TL;DR: I was unfaithful when her and I were already on the verge of breaking up. I never told her, and now the other party is talking.
Sorry in advance for it being so long.
So i'll give you a little history: Her and I have been dating off and on for 1 year and a half. We broke up once, but after a few months of not talking, we decided to try again. She ended up getting pregnant shortly after. One thing that has afflicted both attempts at our relationships is her lack of sexual drive. For example; the first time we went 2.5 months without having sex, and this time we've gone the whole term of the pregnancy (nearly 7 months). I don't feel that this excuses my behavior by any means, but it definitely wasn't helping the situation.
Now early this year, her and I were starting to fall apart and I could tell that if we didn't get help we weren't going to make it. I asked to see a counselor together or at least make an adult attempt to talk things through. She agreed to it, but it never happened, and i felt the strain of my need for physical touch pressuring the relationship.
One night, I was having a little bit of a party at my house and i invited a few people over (her being one of them since we didn't live together at the time). A lot of the people that came over were hanging out in the kitchen talking to some other people, and her and I ended up in the living room by ourselves. Now, at this point, I was drunk, but I asked her if we could have some more intimate time together. She got upset, and said that's all i care about, and ended up storming out of the house.
I got upset, went outside to have a cigarette to clear my mind, when a friend of mine (who shall be named Girl B) came outside and told me that she wanted to be with me and that I shouldn't have to put up with my girlfriend not giving me sexual attention.
(I suppose i should also mention that my roommate found this girl attractive, as did I. My roommate was also attempting to get with girl B, but she was interested in me.)
I told her that I couldn't leave my girlfriend just because she wasn't having sex with me/lack of physical touch. So girl B, then stormed out, and left. So, trying to not have my roommate find out about girl B liking me as much as she said, i tried to head it off at the front and ended up telling my roommate. We were both drunk, and I think that it didn't help, because he ended up leaving too. Which left me basically by myself.
The next day my girlfriend and I got in
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(also posted in /studentloandefaulters ... just noticed your much more active sub... )
Here's my deal ...
I finished school in 2007, was very irresponsible with money. Never even attempted to pay, defaulted by 2009. But I had a decent job with an accounting firm, I rehabbed the loans, and was good to go by 2010.
Did ok for 2 years, then got de-railed with expenses, and rather than reach out to Navient ... let it default AGAIN in 2012. Stupid.
2013 I consolidated, got on track, wife gets sick in 2017 (she's 100% ok now, thank God).... had to choose between foreclosure on the house or paying student loans, obviously I chose the house. BUT, I go back into my hole, financial crisis causes something in me to just go into a shell, I defaulted AGAIN. 3 times now.
So here I am 2019, default for the 3rd time. They kept our tax refund obviously. Credit is shot. Debt collectors calling every 10 minutes ... here we go again. Anyways, as I understand it (and please correct me if I'm wrong.... I'd love that), I have no option to rehab again. And I cannot consolidate again b/c I have no other loans to consolidate. Whats the solution to getting out of default (again).
BTW- as an aside, let me be a warning to all you younger ppl on this sub. I started with $44,000 in loans. Paid around ~$400/month for about 5 years ... due to collections fees and penalties and bullshit, my balance is currently $62,000. Yep.
**TL;DR: caught my girlfriend sending nudes on snapchat. after much deliberation, introspection on her part, her doing everything in her power to fix us and also be a better person for herself, i decided to forgive her. Now I've found out that it was more than that, and I don't know what to do.
So a couple of months ago, I found out my girlfriend had sent a few nudes to a guy on snapchat. I immediately broke it off, and in the ensuing days, she sent me a couple of like novel length emails regarding like, figuring out what it was about her that made her able to do something like that. I won't get into details about that, but I'm a pretty objective person, and I showed the emails to my sister and a couple of friends of both genders, and they were on the same page with me that she genuinely wants to be a better person, and is disgusted with what she was able to do. Due to the emails, and knowing her past and how it came into play, I decided to try to move past it, because I thought the long run would be worth it. There as some family stuff, and past relationship stuff that I factored in as well, and I really thought (think?) that she is a different person now.
We're in a long distance relationship, and it was also a factor to me because we hadn't gotten to the discussion about moving, and i told her if this was gonna continue she needed to move in a few month, which wasn't gonna be an easy thing to do, but she agreed, so i really thought highly of that as well. Basically that was a long winded way of saying that I genuinely have very little doubt about her ability and willingness to change.
Now the problem has come up where I found out that it wasn't just nudes, it was like, sexual conversations, videos, etc etc. As much as I like to think I would be a bigger person and br forthcoming about the fact that there were more than just nudes if I was in her situation, I think that I would have kept it to myself as well. Not in the least of which because I kind of made it very clear that had there been more, this would have been over with no discussion about. I regret saying that now because I dunno if she would have told me, but that's done now. Based on the emails she sent when we broke up, she was pretty devastated when it all happened, and was willing to basically do anything to make us work, so I'm trying not to factor in the fact that she didn't tell there was more, because I essentially told it would be a poison pill if i found out more, so I guess it'
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