I got Covid. Staying home with my roommate. He is also covid positive. My mom texts me asking how am I. I'm saying Im fine. Giving her short and regular answers with emojis. We all know why I am trying to keep it short with her.
Suddenly she says: is your roomate talking to his parents like that also? Maybe you could listen how he talks and copy the technique?
I answer: well, his parents don't criticize him, after every 2 sentences.
and nMom kicks in: Oh, when did I ever criticize you? Ok, no problem. sorry. This conversation ends as usually our conversations do. I feel embarrassed, that he thinks your mother doesn't care, at least I know you what kind of person you are, but he doesn't. Get better. bye.
It's funny and annoying. She just criticized me in the same sentecnce where she is saying she doesn't criticize me ever.
Damon should not have retracted or apologised...he is correct. Look at the credits for Taylor Swift's last several albums and she has the absolute best of the best professional songwriters on every track. On 1989 alone she has Max Martin, Jack Antonoff, Ryan Tedder, Shellback, and Ali Payami. She only has one track on that album where she is the lone songwriting credit and it's the worst track on the whole album. I understand why he retracted his statement and blamed it on clickbait, but if we're being honest, he did not mis-speak at all.
On Christmas morning, I (35f) found in his wallet in a photo of my husband (36M) kissing another woman. He was shocked about the photo, and explained she was a distant cousin whom they had a history together before we got together, and they do meet up for meals once in a while. He said it was usually her who initiates these meetups, and it was just meals, and didnt see why he had to 'report' to me who he has meals with. He said this photo was taken in the past and he 'did not know how it got there'. He said this kiss was only a once-off incident because she requested it as it was her birthday. I never knew about this cousin and my trust in him was badly shaken. He finally admitted that she might feel something more than normal, and that he had blocked and deleted her number to assure me. At this point, we had booked a MC and was working towards rebuilding our relationship.
Fast forward 2 weeks, I saw his old phone on the table and decided to turn it on, hoping not to find anything (and give him brownie trust points). I WAS SO WRONG. I found messages where he told her he didnt want to be with me, he missed her, really loved her and can't wait to have children with her. And then shockingly, I found sexually explicit photos of them in a hotel room and her house.
He said those photos were in the past (timestamp stretched for months after we got married). He said those things to her because she threatened suicide when she found out that we got married, and he wanted to make sure she was ok. Those messages dated till August (which was when he changed phone), and I have good reason to believe the messages continued till he was caught on Christmas. Turns out they had been meeting way more often than I thought, on dates during office hours, on evenings when he told me he was in office late.
Devastated and shaken to the core. I could no longer recognise the man that I married - this coward who couldn't even cut ties with this woman from his past, when he decided to marry me, instead having a parallel relationship with her while married to me. Don't I at least deserve a man who could protect and choose me?
At this point, target is messaging me more than any women 🤦🏾♂️. COVID SUCKS
