What’s your favorite commercially available salsa?
Very loose criteria, I know. Typically love bright, acidic, medium heat, chunky, red salsas.
I’m expecting my first child in a few weeks, and while I won’t be cooking as much, I will still want to grow as a salsa snob while helping a new human learn everything.
Thanks!
Happy to pull the post if it’s against the rules.
I (white female)have been taking lessons and going to salsa socials for about 10yrs. It is my number one favorite hobby, you understand.
During the pandemic I met a guy and we started dating. Part of the reason I decided to date him is because he said he likes to dance, and was interested in learning more. He is Latino and had grown up around salsa & bachata, but never learned formally. He was excited that I am an avid dancer, and that this is something we could do together.
Fast forward one year, we are living together, and in person lessons and socials started opening up.
I knew that he was unfamiliar with the social dance scene, and that he might be offput by me dancing with 50 leads/night, one after the other, so I knew I had to slow myself down, and introduce him to the social scene slowly. I felt hopeful that because he wanted to learn dance formally, that once he saw how the salsa Social community works (that everyone dances with everyone) that it would click, and he would fit right in, and not only be okay with it, but find social dancing as fun and rewarding as I do.
That dream of mine did not come true. We started taking lessons together and practicing, and it went relatively well, however he became gravely upset every time I accepted a dance from another lead, even a fellow classmate, at a social. Gravely upset. So, I stopped going to socials for a few months because I didn’t want to upset him. We practiced some more and went out dancing just him and I. I tried to talk through it (social dancing) with him.
In his eyes, me dancing with anyone but him is complete betrayal and disrespect. I have tried to explain to him that this is a sport, and social dancing with other people is where you put your skills to the test, and get good practice in. That I only want to dance with true dancers, and I know how to avoid the creepers. Also that, he knows how much I love him, and that he should feel confident and secure that these leads are not a threat to our relationship- that dancing is just practice and fun, and that i have eyes only for him.
To no avail.
He does like to dance and wants to dance with me, but he wants me to dance with him and no one else, for the rest of our lives. (“Am I not enough for you?”)
This is the one and only thing that we fight about. I say that we both need to compromise and meet in the middle - that him asking me to stop social dancing forever is unfair, and that me asking him to be completely fine with it is no
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