Iβm Nick Sparks, a kid from Detroit who, like most people in our culture, received a terrible education on sex and dating. I attempted to have great relationships with women, armed with this terrible education, and failed more times than I can count. After realizing that the answers I was looking for werenβt available on the internet, I decided to find them myself.
For more than a decade Iβve helped thousands of men to live the dating lives of their dreams. Iβm one of the only coaches in the world who guarantees success, which for me is defined as dating the people who youβre most attracted to without trouble. My job is done when a guy realizes just how easy that is, and that heβs the only thing thatβs been making it difficult.
In 2012 I delivered a speech that now has close to 2 million views on youtube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b-a1jXgAsQI
In 2015 I published a book for my younger self -- the book I wish I had read when I first started asking questions about this stuff. https://www.amazon.com/As-You-Are-Confidence-Masculinity-ebook/dp/B01680KDA2
I strongly dislike the term βpuaβ. I absolutely hate all of the little-boy tricks that pass as dating advice these days. I think going out to a bar to pick up women reeks of desperation and is inherently unattractive (and I met my girlfriend in a bar). Youβll never hear me talk about lines or routines or escalation ladders. Instead, I focus on developing genuine confidence and fully expressing oneβs sexuality in the most attractive way possible. (You canβt even imagine how easy dating is after that.)
If you ask me a question about getting a specific reaction from a woman in a given situation -- Iβm going to turn it around on you and give you the last answer you thought youβd receive. It probably wonβt be what you were looking for, and not every guy will be open to it. But if youβre able to look at things from a different perspective, then I can promise you the world.
With that in mind, AMA!
>Nick Nurse, asked if Barnes or Birch have to take more 3s: "I'd like them both to be shooting more threes. I'd like them to be making some if they're gonna shoot some, and they're capable. While we're on the subject, I'm disappointed that Scottie isn't taking 3 or 4 threes a game"
>Nick Nurse on Yuta Watanabe's eagerness to return from injury: "He's getting pissΠ΅d. He really wants to play."
Look, I know everyone here is hyped up on Riley Greene as our third outfielder, but we need bats. I've seen Castellanos and the Tigers mentioned together in a few different articles, but the fan base seems to talk more about picking up a guy like Kris Bryant than Nick. I think there's plenty of room on the roster for a leader like castellanos to platoon in the outfield, give candy a breather at third, or even DH every now and then. We already know what he can do in a big ballpark. Would anybody else like to see him come back? I always liked BLASTellanos, myself.
I have very mixed emotions about the three year time jump. On one hand it brought us adorable Ruth, but on the other hand, I feel like we were cheated out of getting a chance to see the passion of Nick and Jess finally reuniting. I hope in some of the coming episodes we will get to see a little more spark between them. Hopefully the proposal, if we get one, will bring a little heat along with the sweet!!
An attempt to TL:DR upfront -- It's been a year since this whole ordeal started and we started fighting. We've been doing couples therapy for the last 6 months and I feel it's only marginally helped. My wife agreed that we needed help with the kids and was scared to bring someone in to the house, and that's why she flipped out. Once we settled down a bit from our peak, the therapist suggested a 'date night' which we do once a month now. It's OK but not like it was, there isn't as much to talk about these days (as there was pre-covid) - we start off about the kids, then to her family, but there aren't trips or events that are in our future to discuss, we're both exhausted and don't read so no discussion of books, and we generally watch and are into different things. She is drinking more and drinks so quickly that she immediately hits a slurring stage and then halfway through the meal ends up drunk to the point where she stops eating (because she can't) and then we're lucky if we make it through the rest of the night without a fight. We're co-existing. We love each other, it doesn't feel like we're in love with each other, we're both exhausted and need care, but neither of us is in a place or has the capacity to give it. Some days I want to take a break so I can not wake up in the same exact day that I've been living for the last year. I don't want to divorce, but this groundhogs day reality is slowly draining my sanity. I also can't seem to let go of how I was treated those first few months after I voiced that something needed to change.
We've been married 10+ years. Our second child was born during COVID lockdowns. Whatever was hard about two parents working from home with one child, it became even harder with two. My wife went back to work after 6 weeks of maternity and was nervous about bringing a nanny back (summer 2019), given the state of COVID at the time. I told her we could give it a shot - two kids at home, both of us working from home, no family help, no nanny - and that we'd revisit it in a few months. By late 2019 it was too much, we needed help. Unfortunately, it came out of my mouth when we were already bickering at each other, so piling on that "this isn't working and something needs to change" didn't go over well. She asked "well what do you see as the solutions?" I said, "well the only options I can think of is that we need to bring someone back in or you need to quit your job." I also threw out the timeline of beginning in 2020, which wa
... keep reading on reddit β‘Our first AMA of 2018 is Nick Sparks. I'll let him speak for himself here. Note: this is not the AMA, save your questions for January 30! A new link will be posted when the AMA begins.
Iβm Nick Sparks, a kid from Detroit who, like most people in our culture, received a terrible education on sex and dating. I attempted to have great relationships with women, armed with this terrible education, and failed more times than I can count. After realizing that the answers I was looking for werenβt available on the internet, I decided to find them myself.
For more than a decade Iβve helped thousands of men to live the dating lives of their dreams. Iβm one of the only coaches in the world who guarantees success, which for me is defined as dating the people who youβre most attracted to without trouble. My job is done when a guy realizes just how easy that is, and that heβs the only thing thatβs been making it difficult.
In 2012 I delivered a speech that now has close to 2 million views on youtube. (Link)
In 2015 I published a book for my younger self -- the book I wish I had read when I first started asking questions about this stuff. (Link)
I strongly dislike the term βpuaβ. I absolutely hate all of the little-boy tricks that pass as dating advice these days. I think going out to a bar to pick up women reeks of desperation and is inherently unattractive (and I met my girlfriend in a bar). Youβll never hear me talk about lines or routines or escalation ladders. Instead, I focus on developing genuine confidence and fully expressing oneβs sexuality in the most attractive way possible. (You canβt even imagine how easy dating is after that.)
If you ask me a question about getting a specific reaction from a woman in a given situation -- Iβm going to turn it around on you and give you the last answer you thought youβd receive. It probably wonβt be what you were looking for, and not every guy will be open to it. But if youβre able to look at things from a different perspective, then I can promise you the world.
On Tuesday, January 30 at 2PM EST, come and AMA! (And if youβre interested in further coaching, check me out at sparksofattraction.com)
