My Super Ex Girlfriend Puns

Tl;Dr: My ex-girlfriend whom I was planning on eloping with at one time broke up. This was hard, but I made it through. Ex unalived herself four months ago and in spite of all the understanding and kindness from current girlfriend, I can't stop thinking about ex.

For some context, I have been seeing a therapist. Nobody would think I'm even remotely depressed/anxious in real life aside from those closest to me. I have attempted suicide before and that's the only reason anybody in my personal life even knew anything was wrong.

I feel like I'm going crazy. I can't stop replaying memories with my ex in my head, no matter the context. If my current partner (we'll call her Sylvia) and I have an amazing moment, I'll process it and feel it, but instantaneously afterwards I compare it with a similar moment from my ex (we'll call her Veronica). I look at old photos of Veronica and I and our chats over Snapchat, and on a few occasions have even "spoken" to her which I never do as I am not religious or spiritual at all.

Veronica and I started speaking in March 2020. My life was falling apart around this time. The Pandemic hit and made class impossible, otherwise, it didn't really do much. My best friend and honestly basically my brother left for the USAF and I would hardly see him for the next six years. I'd been on Tinder and Bumble for some time, had a few dates but never really clicked with anyone. Just before my best friend left, Veronica and I matched. We sparingly spoke for the first month, but it really picked up in late April after my friend was gone. We talked virtually every single night for the month of May and finally met in early June, and it took a while because she lived an hour away. She was my first kiss that day and we even went on a road trip with her friends to pick up a cat before we became an official couple. We went through so much together in such a short amount of time.

She graduated high school in the Summer, we did night drives a lot and spoke about a lot of very heavy things. I knew she had attempted suicide before, and as much as it hurt to hear when I had learned she passed away, it never crossed my mind. She got me an orange cat for my birthday because I'd never had a pet, and my favorite animals were orange cats and she was HUGE on animals to the extent that people would joke in the veil of truth that she cared more about animals than people. We broke up briefly for a day because she was very confused mentally and I was immature

You unfriend her because you love her too much, and as long as you still talk to her, see her everyday, you will never let her go.

She changed her avatar, and you surely lose sleep tonight. To describe the feeling? Short of breath, heart skipping beats, feeling nausea (probably because of the food). But it was not that bad, not like last time. You know that grieving will not do anything good, you just can't stop the emotions. Will keeping checking her Facebook help you to get used to it, or can you get better by forever staying out of her account? You don't know, that is why you are writing this. You hope that through writing, you could think more clearly, and may come up with a solution to your problem.

How do you get better this time? Did you even actually get better? You used to think that keeping grieving and loving, staying in a state of pain can make a miracle come true, and although it did bring you and her back together once, you know that it will not happen this time. So what will you do?

You focus on you. Thanks to that Tinder date for helping you realize that. You will not get her by stalking her Facebook, texting her all the time. You (may) get her (or someone like her) by making yourself better.

So what should you do?

First, youneedtogotosleep. The only reason keeping you up at this time is her changing the avatar, and oh boi, if you sleep now you are going to have a bad time.

You're gonna study. God help you, cause the semester is almost over. One more week and you are done.

You're gonna set a goal in the summer. Get buff, get some skills that make money, study stock markets, learn French. They make you a better person. Also internship, get that recommendation letter bud.

You're gonna go dating. Holy shit only 2 dates and you already find someone that you get more obsessed with than her. What will happen if you date more? You are beginning to get more confident in yourself, and cheers to that.

Go out with your friends. Don’t forget them. They are lovely and can be your true friends. Make more too!

And that is it. You have the solution. Calm yourself down and relax. It is going to be okay. You will feel shitty for a while, and that is totally fine. You are proud of yourself, you know what you can do to get better.

Now it is your choice to do it or not.

Breath slowly, let things flow through you, and feel yourself getting sleepy.

Good night Tom.

p/s: Sorry for the bad grammar or vague wording, I was writing it for myself, and j

So my boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years and early on he wanted to be completely open with me because he wanted me to have 100% trust in him. So long story short he basically shared that he dated/spoke/messed around with some of the women that are still in the same social circle. And he wanted to me know from the start because as he says I’m his best friend. I really wish he wouldn’t have because it’s about to be three years and I can’t seem to stop getting jealous and I want to pop off or break things off with him whenever I see him liking their pics on IG or just knowing that he’s still friendly. He is aware that I do NOT and can’t stand any of them. I have met some and yeah unfortunately they are always in the gatherings because of mutual friends. They are nice to me but highly dislike them. Just knowing that he was sexually involved/attracted to them kills me inside and makes me feel like shit. And to top it off they post too many thirst traps which kills me even more. He always has to reassure me but it eats me inside and I’m always thinking about this. I wish he was more like me with people from the past. CUT THEM like cold turkey. Do NOT interact and let them R.I.P. cause that’s what I do. I find it disrespectful to interact with these women. I’m boiling right now of anger. Why the eff is he like this?!!!!!!

#Spoilers for all the way up till chapter 71.

So like, I recently decided to catch up to this series after dropping it at like chapter 14, because I saw a comment on here about how Maise and Eith talk through their issues and all and I thought it was interesting.

But bruh, who cares about the romance?? Why is no one talking about the story?

Around chapter 50, the plot suddenly swerves into this full on thriller when Eith reveals that the world is stuck in a repeating time loop and how he's been trying to defy his fate. Maise discovering the actual corpse of her previous body being in this world. Genbat being someone who tried to fight against fate and being punished for it. The mystery of his ex-lover writing Maise's old name in her notebook. And Maise's ex being manipulated by one of the fates into causing a war with the demons.

Imo, the tension in the story is written so well. You see characters like Sucre and Eith slowly going batshit bonkers. The fact that the reader is aware of Atropos' plan to make Eith watch Maise die. I love the mystery of Maise's old body and her possessions landing in this world and how the two worlds interact with each other. I love that the isekai aspect is relevant.

I don't think I articulated this post super well, but I wanted to talk about how this is probably one of the most interesting OI plots I've read in a while. Kinda sad that the latest chapter discussions don't have any comments at all but it's probably because the plot takes 50 goddamn chapters to show up and is hidden behind a lacklustre couple.

Is anyone else still following the series? What do y'all think about the plot?

So long story short. I ended our 6 year relationship last january. I felt that we had grown so much apart and did not have anything in common anymore. I really cared and still care about her, not in a romantic way but like a really really good friend. Ex gf was devastated over this and I know shes still having a hard time accepting it.

My ex really loved christmas. Decorating the house, buying gifts for me and relatives, listening to christmas songs and so on. Now it is the time of the year when christmas is everywhere. And every time I see something related to christmas it reminds me of her happy face enjoying this time of the year. It breaks my heart to think she is alone right now. Makes me wanna cry in middle of a shopping mall.

If I feel this bad how bad must she feel?

I feel like I should contact her more or even spend time with her now but I fear of giving her false hope of getting back together by doing that.

Any advice from fellow redditors how to deal with these feelings?

I (35F) have been divorced from my (41M) husband for 3 years. We have one son(5) together. My ex (we will call him K) started dating another woman (we will call her G). K and I have a great relationship with each other. We still love each other as friends. K started dating G about 10 months ago. G and I have become really great friends and enjoy being around each other. Everything seemed to be going great until the other day. G and K have started talking about marriage. I know K is really hesitant, but G really wants to be married and have children on her own. I guess G saw some old pictures of me in my wedding dress and has been raving about how pretty my dress is. The other day we had coffee together and G brought up getting married soon. I told her how I happy I was for her. Things changed though when she asked if she could wear MY wedding dress. I was really shocked she even asked. I immediately told her that I was flattered, but no. She immediately got extremely pouty and started to ask why. I explained that I just wasn’t comfortable with her wearing my dress to marry my ex husband. She got really upset and started to cause a scene. I walked out knowing that she was not going to calm down. About an hour later my ex husband called asking what happened. When I told him, he completely understood and was on my side, but it didn’t end there. G has been having her friends and family call me and my work calling me an asshole for not “sharing”. G is claiming that I’m not over K and that I’m just doing this to ruin her wedding. While it’s true that I’m not over K, part of me just doesn’t feel comfortable having her wear my dress. This whole argument has really put a strain on my ex’s and I’s relationship and the relationship around my son. Part of me feels like I should give in, but I still just don’t feel comfortable with it. So, am I the asshole for not letting her wear my dress?

Edit to add- G told her friends and family that I offered for her to use the dress, but then backed out because I was jealous.

Imagine Clark Kent doing those things to Lois Lane.

Today at a New Years Party a few hours ago my girlfriend kissed her ex boyfriend. For context I currently live in the mid west with her but she went back to Vancouver to visit with family she has in that area. She used to live around there and while she was at a New Years party, about an hour ago she told me she needed to call me urgently so I stepped outside and she told me she ran into her ex at the party and he asked her to dance. She evidently said yes thinking it was just to reconnect in a friendly way or something along those lines but he kissed her at the end of the song and she told me she didn’t want to pull away because “that would’ve been awkward”. She apologized profusely but I still can’t help but feel betrayed. I have no clue whether or not she really still has feelings for him and I just am not sure what to do here. Any help appreciated.

So just to give some background to this I’ve been dating my Girlfriend (let’s call her Gayle) for about 4 months. It has been so amazing and we were already talking about building a future together. We just click on every level. I was genuinely the happiest I’ve been in years.

Her best friends are a couple - let’s call them Andy and Alice - they’ve been together 4 years. Now when we first started dating Gayle told me that her and Andy had dated for a couple of years 8 years ago. No big deal she was upfront about it. He seemed like a good guy so I had no issue. I asked if there had ever been anything between them since then (as you know how these things go) and Gayle said “No there’s been absolutely nothing - he’s just my best friend”. So again all good.

Fast forward to the other night and me and Gayle are having a light hearted conversation around “less than good” things we may have done in her past. Then she comes out with “Worst thing I’ve done was sleep with Andy behind Alice’s back”. I was a little bit stunned given Alice and Andy didn’t start dating until 4 years after.

At first she said it was just a one time drunken thing but I could tell there was more. So after probing she admitted they’d basically been sleeping together for the entire 8 year period and she claims only stopped when she met me.

It just feels so messed up - Alice has no idea at all. At first Gayle was saying she can’t understand at all why I’m so upset as it was in the past and doesn’t affect our relationship.

I pointed out it does as now I know and I have to be complicit in a lie to Alice. Also that Gayle has been lying to me about the nature of her relationship with Andy for months. She even said if I asked her to choose she’d pick her friendship with him. Which hurt as I didn’t even ask.

She gets now why I’m angry. And has offered to cut ties with them. But I’m really not that guy. I don’t want to tell her to do that. It’ll only make her miserable long term.

So here are my options as I see them:

1. agree to let Gayle cut out Alice and Andy

2. Just carry on the relationship and become part of the lie to Alice.

3. Encourage Gayle to tell Alice the truth. Although it may do more harm than good.

4. End the relationship.

I was so happy and so excited. Now she just seems like a different person :(

First, I'd like to give some backstory on how I came to be on the show. Gosh, there's so much to write, so buckle up.

Here's the timeline:

April/May/June 2017 - Steven and I had known each other for a while. He starts calling & texting me a lot, and inviting me over. He's sweet, he can be pretty funny, and we have good conversations. He showers me in compliments. I'm 20, and I like how he makes me feel. He's goofy-looking and goofy-acting, but this just makes me think he's innocent and I'm making a safe choice by being with him. Like I said on the show, I was going through a faith crisis, and it was a low point in my life. I was young, confused, depressed, grieving, and had never had a boyfriend. We bonded over having a deceased parent. Since Steven seemed devoutly LDS and was pursuing me, the relationship made sense at the time.

July/August/early-September 2017 - Steven is going to Russia for two months on an internship. By this time, he's already completed his mission in Ukraine over a year ago. He doesn't meet Alina there.

We decide to date once he gets back. We don't want the beginning of our relationship to be long distance. I clarified this at the Tell All, but it was edited out: I don't think he cheated on me in Russia. I told him he could go on dates in Russia because we were not official yet, and I went on dates during this time, too! We were both seeing other people. However, I asked him not to go all the way, and he agreed to these terms, but he still did it. I consider it a betrayal, but not cheating.

On top of that, Steven didn't tell me he betrayed me until I'd already been his girlfriend for a month. He didn't give me the chance to consider his actions before agreeing to be with him.

September/October/November 2017 - Steven and I date. I was his first real girlfriend. At one point he said "I'm so happy I was with you while I was poor, that way I know you're not a gold digger".

So, funny story: Once Steven finally confesses to his Russian philandering, I'm very upset for a few days. Steven was STILL talking to the girls he hooked up with in Russia, and when I asked him to stop talking to them, he refused and said they were his friends. We're arguing, so Steven decides to take me on a hike to cheer me up.. While we're on the hike, I start crying again, but Steven does not comfort me at all. Instead, he starts a photoshoot. I'm sitting there crying, and Steven starts setting up MY phone camera at different angles and t

My wife scolded me " Don't call me that ".

For some backstory we were together for 2 years and during that time we lived together in my apartment, I've had the dog for 3 years. We broke up about a week ago because she had been cheating on me. I let her stay in the apartment until she could find a place to go, and yesterday I came home from work to find she had packed her stuff and left. However when leaving she took my dog. I heard from a mutual that she was staying in her friends apartment with the dog. I'm at a complete loss here, what do I do?

(Sorry for bad English its not my first language)

Edit: can the troll in the comments please stop?

Second Edit: Thanks everyone for the support we are working out a plan to get the dog back right now

UPDATE: We found out she's keeping the dog at her friends house, she's staying a different mutual friend, She's going out tonight without the dog. While she's away the owner of the house is going to let us in to retake the dog, I will make another post to let you all know how it goes.

SECOND UPDATE: (the subreddit won't let me make a second post about this so I'm putting this here)

Dog heist success

My friend and I went to the mutuals house shortly after my ex left, we were let in and we got the back. He seemed very scared but I imagine he would be after all he's been through with this. We got him back to my apartment safe and sound (don't worry we changed my locks this morning so my ex can't break back in to the apt.

For those wondering on the original post why I didn't contact the police its because the police where I live are very underfunded and cant do much about small cases like this (I already mentioned this in the comments but I figured it was helpful to point it out here) Thank you to everyone who commented on the original post offering advice, most of you were very helpful in this.

I will update you good folks in the morning if my ex tries to contact me or if anything else happens, but for now I'm off to rest, its been a long day.

I'm still in shock from this so I apologise if I ramble at all, or don't make too much sense.

My girlfriend and I recently had totally consensual sex, however, the next day she contacted the police and reported the encounter as rape, which caused me to be arrested yesterday (Jan 7th) I was held overnight and gave my version of events. It all went well as far as I could tell, however I now have to wait until February 4 to find out what happens next and was bailed until then.

It is purely a case of my word against hers as all physical evidence, DNA swabs etc will prove only that we had sex, which I already said happened.

I turned down the offer of a solicitor at the time as I simply wanted to say my side of things and try to clear things up. Although I now feel like this may have been a mistake.

What are my options here? I have never been through anything like this before, and in fact have never had any trouble with the police at all.

I'm terrified that my word against hers will come down to her being believed and me not and I'll end up getting charged, anyone been in a similar situation or know of any like this and how they turned out?

Any help anyone can give would be greatly appreciated.

Edit: another thing is that I'm not allowed to have contact with her, which to be honest I don't really want anyway, however, we live together so I still have all of her things and need to get them too her, or have them collected, what is the best way to go about this as I can't even let her know when I'm not going to be there so she can come and get the stuff?

I (30/F) was in a super toxic relationship with (38/M) in my early 20s. I was already secretly stalking him near the end of our relationship, and then I totally lost it following the breakup.

I (M35) dated "Annie" (F33) from 2020 till the 1st of this year. We broke up simply because we didn't get along anymore, everything and anything was a fight and both of us were tired.

I had given Annie a promise ring that I had inherited from my now-deceased mother and, when we broke up, I asked for it back. I had given it to her, technically as a gift, but I wanted it so my sons from my previous marriage (M8, M6) could have it if I never got in another relationship.

She cried and called me a jerk but gave it to me anyways. However, I am worried that I may be the asshole because I'd given it to her in the first place and now I was taking it away from her.

I'm 59 and mother to Daniel (27). When he was 14, he started dating Amelia. As the years went by my entire family grew quite close to her, me in particular. Unfortunately, soon before their 10th anniversary, they broke up. Daniel cheated on Amelia with Clara and started dating her right away. His reasoning was that Amelia was all he'd ever known, he didn't know himself without her and all that. "Losing" Amelia was devastating, as was his attitude, but I tried supporting him and the new relationship. Amelia sent me a lovely message when they broke up, we met for coffee, but she asked for some time. Early last year, we got back in touch and have been talking once or twice a month since. Around this time last year, she told me that she was dating someone and it was getting serious. I never told Daniel.

A couple of months later, she posted her first photo with her boyfriend. Soon after, Daniel came to see me, saying he'd broken up with Clara because he'd realized he'd made a mistake, he loved Amelia and couldn't handle seeing her with someone else. As far as I know, he tried to apologize, she rejected him and that was that. After that, Daniel started dating around a lot, always bringing a girl over, introducing her to everyone, only to show up with a different one a month later. I didn't like it but, again, I tried to be supportive and not meddle. However, a couple of weeks ago, Daniel told me he'd bring his girlfriend over for Christmas. Now, we talk almost daily and I had never heard her name. I told him that the rule for Christmas had always been only family + serious significant others (Clara had come once) and I didn't think a girlfriend I hadn't even heard of yet was serious. So I told him he couldn't bring her. He was really annoyed, but showed up alone and Christmas went very well. That day, I posted a picture of myself, my siblings and my parents on Facebook and Amelia messaged me privately saying that it was really nice to see everyone and that she missed us. I asked if she was in town, she said she was, and I invited her for a cup of tea the day after Christmas. By then, it was just me and my husband in the house again, so we had a lovely chat over tea and then Facetimed my siblings and my parents, who were all very happy to see her. It was a lovely time. Somehow, though, Daniel learned about it and he called me absolutely fuming, accusing me of being too hung up on Amelia to accept a new relationship of his and saying that inviting her over to the

My (35) boyfriend (36) have been dating for almost 2 years now. When we first began dating, within just a few weeks he expressed interest in getting me a sex toy. I am very sexual and open to a lot so I was totally down for it. The following week he whipped out a vibrator/dildo. I was super excited but couldn’t help but find one thing odd. It was already out of the packaging. In fact, when I casually asked “where’s the packaging?”, he suggested that he took the toy out to charge and threw the packaging away(instruction book and and all). I had a bit of a pit in my stomach about it but decided to give him the benefit of the doubt. After all, up to that point he had never given me a reason to not trust him. Now, fast forward a year and a half, things were going great and we decided to move in. As the typical guy that he is, I did most of the unpacking and upon doing so stumbled across the warranty card for the toy. It sparked that same “pit in my stomach” feeling I had when he first gave me the toy. It was the first time I thought about that situation since he first gifted me the toy but this time I couldn’t stop thinking about it. So I began doing a little digging. Fast forward to today, I officially found evidence that this toy was purchased years before me, during a time in which he was in another relationship and I am at a loss for words. I feel so incredibly violated and disrespected. I haven’t approached him on this yet because I can’t quit figure out what to do so in the meantime I’m suffering in silence. I’m just so disappointed.

For context my girlfriend's ex (step daughter's dad) is, how do I put this, not a great guy. I know you might be thinking it's just a rivalry thing because he's her ex, but he genuinely has problems.

His long list of stupid as fuck antics while he was with GF include but are NOT limited to:

• Frequently going out drinking and, on multiple occasions, passing out somewhere in town and only returning home the next afternoon.

• Constantly getting himself fired from every job he somehow managed to get (one time for punching a coworker).

• Doing jail time for helping his friend try to steal back his repossessed car.

•Smashing the neighbor's car windshield with a hammer because he asked him to stop throwing cigarette butts over the fence.

•Selling weed without telling GF, pissing off another dealer and getting a brick thrown through the window. GF then called the cops not realising what he was up to and he ended up going back to jail. (This is what made her leave him).

So as you can tell, not exactly a decent, functional guy. But the biggest issue I have with him is over an incident that happened about 2 years ago.

Since getting out of jail after the breakup he's had my step daughter every other weekend. Usually it was GF that took her back and forth from his place, but on the rare occasion I did it almost always ended with him trying to pull some needless tough guy shit. I always just rolled my eyes tried not to let it get to me. Then there was one time he took it too far.

So I pulled up, rang the door and he answers. He tells me to send step daughter to the car because he needs to speak to me. As usual he starts an argument and we're standing at his front door yelling at each other, he was standing about 6 feet away from me. Then I say something that infuriates him. So he runs inside, picks up an empty beer bottle he had lying around and launched it right at me. I managed to duck in time, so it flew over my head and smashed on the sidewalk. I then shouted at him and ran to the car.

I told my GF when I got home. While I decided not to press charges, I told her I didn't want to deal with him in any way ever again. She agreed, and since then it's always been her that's handled it.

Fast forward to a few days before Christmas. I get a call from my GF. Her ex had ended up in hospital with electrical burns after he tried playing electrician with some busted old Christmas lights he found in a garbage can. At this point she was spending some time visiting her

That’s how small my penis is

MAN, I sure am LUCKY! I mean, first I win the lottery and now THIS!

I will give you as much as I know about the story:

In the late 80’s or very early 90’s, my dad’s ex girlfriend Belinda was found dead in the desert around the Phoenix Arizona area.

She had been decapitated. Her head has not been found and she was identified by my dad because she had been wearing some of the jewelry he gave her.

Now I’ve asked my dad about this 3 times over the years but obviously he doesn’t enjoy talking about it. He says the person who murdered her had murdered several women in the area but I’ve gotten 3 different answers on who the murderer was. Answer 1: A local dentist Answer 2: the green River killer (Gary Ridgway) Answer 3: a man who gained the trust of hitchhikers and sex workers because he had a car seat in the back of the car.

I can’t find anything on a dentist being a serial killer in Arizona. Gary Ridgway was in Washington and as far as I know didn’t extend into other states. The third answer doesn’t give me much to search with.

I’d like to understand more about what happened to Belinda but I’m not sure where to dig.

Appreciate any advice.

So I (19M) just got out of an almost 3 year long relationship with my now ex-girlfriend (19F). The break up hasn't been to toxic. We both agreed to try and be friends and still do some things together and not make it all terrible. Two weeks ago my mother invited my ex-girlfriend over to help her with some chores, since my ex-girlfriend always enjoyed helping my mother clean. Once it's around 11 PM my mom says to me that my ex will stay because it's too late at night for her to drive home by herself. I'm fine with it mostly but my ex-girlfriend wants to sleep in my bed with me. Since this is MY ex-girlfriend I assumed this to be the last time that she would sleep over with me. I told my Mom that this isn't good for her since she is having trouble letting go of me and that she starts drama when she is here and I don't really want to deal with it anymore than I have.

Last night my ex-girlfriend came over because I agreed I was gonna build a PC for her sister so she brought the parts and I built it. After a few hours of just hanging around my mom tells me she is gonna stay the night. I asked my mom why she is staying the night and my mom just says "if you don't want her in your room tell her she can sleep on the couch". A little bit after that my ex-girlfriend is in my room and tries to cuddle with me and that was when I told her that she should sleep on the couch and I don't think this is good for us. It's one thing to hang out but it's a whole different thing to cuddle and sleep.

After this my ex-girlfriend got upset with me and went home. I sent a text to my mom saying EXACTLY this."I'm not sure why you think you can just do this when you know it toys with her heart and that I can't fix anything so I don't wanna deal with this right now. This was fucked up of you and I'm not having it anymore. Goodnight."

Shortly after the text my mom comes in my room telling me that I have "no compassion" and I'm a "cold-hearted asshole".

AITA? I was trying to have this relationship end as good as possible but her we are. I have not been angry at anyone or insulted anyone. I've been trying to be cool with my ex-girlfriend but she has been getting toxic and I don't think it's cool for us to hangout anymore but my mom insists that I need to let her sleep here. Doesn't make sense. If I'm the asshole I'll admit it. Thank you all in advance.

TL;DR: My mom keeps inviting my ex-girlfriend over to stay the night here with me after I have told her I do not want that. I tel

Although she prefers I don't call her that.

My ex girlfriend and I broke up after we thought she had a miscarriage about 6 months ago, she just came to my work and told me that she had the baby 2 weeks ago and gave it up the the hospital anonymously. Do I have any legal right to my child is there anything I can do? I live in Florida if that changes anything with laws.

Edit/ update if anyone cares- I have called DCF they told me that due to HIPPA they cannot give me any information or help me in any way at this time, and I need to got through the hospital. I have called the social worker at the hospital 3 times and haven’t gotten an answer yet just messages. I’ll keep the post updated if anyone is interested I’m not sure.

Edit #2 I got a hold of the hospital and confirmed that the baby was dropped off on the day in question and they have given me the number for adoption agency that now has her. I’m waiting for them to call me back to find out my options.

Edit #3 The mother and I have legal counsel and he feels this is going to be easy, cut and dry, I really hope that that is the case. I will update with the hopeful results of the case.

My brother dated his ex for a long time. He was very in love with her but once she was done with her masters. She cut him loose but from conversations with him, I realized that his ex is paying him money and he was saving it to buy a house. She is going to pay him for 5 years!

He started to date a new girl about 6 months after break up. I feel it is a bit shady that he is accepting financial help from his ex when dating another girl. It feels a lot like lying by omission. I hinted at it when they visited us and she didn't know what was happening and he was clearly hiding it from her. She was surprised by it and I had to explain the arrangement.

My brother was upset and told me to stay out of his business but I wasn't too bothered by it but now his girlfriend is very hostile to me and she keeps making digs at me and it is very clear that she does like me at all.

I feel that I may have messed up her but I wanted to do the right thing and I feel like I should have listened to my husband and stayed out of my brother's mess.

For more context, I bought a house and we live here together. We had one of our classic blow out fights over dumb shit. And In the past few months I’ve honestly been getting so sick of them and just drained from it. She never realizes her faults and blames everything wrong in the relationship on me. Of course I can take responsibility and recognize my short comings, but she absolutely will not ever admit when she is in the wrong or is being completely ridiculous.

Anyways, after our blow out she was like I’m moving out. I’m like ok, whatever. Cuz she has done this like 3x before. But this time she gets right to work and starts calling places to find an apartment and starts packing. So I’m like ok whatever, she clearly doesn’t care enough to work it out and is not going to change her mind.

A few days later and she has most of her shit packed and is half moved out. She no longer stays here, idk where she is living. But she texts me and says all this shit blaming me and saying she knew I never cared about her or loved her because I have been literally numb to the entire thing and shown no sadness or regret. Which I have none, which is weird. Even after she told me how heart broke and sad she is, I feel like bad for her kind of, but I also don’t care.

I’m confused by this emotional response from myself and it feels like she’s trying to make me feel guilty and a bad person for not trying to convince her to move out even tho she never said anything to me about it until tonight.

I’m not sure if this is normal, if her reaction is justified, or if something is wrong with me for legit not caring and already feeling like I’ve moved on from a 2yr relationship in like 3 days

Update:

I worked all day so let her move her shit out with her friend. Came home to a massive picture frame with photos of us broken on my carpet with glass and wood splinters everywhere.

I just texted her and said “you’re such a fuckin loser” and then blocked until the end of time. Glad she’s finally out of my house.

My girlfriend and I have been dating since January of 2021. We both are young professionals that live in the city. We met off a dating app and have been going out since.

My girlfriend invited me to Thanksgiving at her mom's place (her parents are divorced). When I went to meet her mom she was nice to me told me that I am the first guy beside her highschool bf that she brought home. Which makes sense, my girlfriend told me that she hasn't seriously dated anyone for a long time.

FWIW while I was the house, I helped her mom put together some furniture she brought from Facebook Market Place. The situation at hand has been more so that when we were having Thanksgiving Dinner. Her mom said it was sweet having a man in the house, and she said that she is surprised that her daughter went for a guy like me. That her daughter usually goes for guys filled to the brim with testosterone and guys into sports.

I didn't think much of it till we were on the ride home. Here's where we are at, my girlfriend and I have a great platonic relationship, but when it comes to sex I wish there was more. Initially it came down to frequency, where my girlfriend told me she didn't like having sex multiple times in a row, and she would say she was tired after work. I wanted to be a good bf so I never pushed or pressured her for more. But then later on, she told me that she really hates blow jobs, and even before then she wouldn't do it for long. Again never pushed her for it after she told me that.

But now really, I am having second doubts, because when my girlfriend has described to me her past situationships she has basically told me they always all revolved around sex. I am really starting to wonder, if my girlfriend even really likes me like that. Like I love her I find her sexy, but now I am wondering if I am even my girlfriend's type. It honestly makes a lot of sense. And also too, my girlfriend has been the one pushing for more and more commitment (talking about living together)/(meeting her family) without really seeming that into me?

I don't know what to do in this situation. When I talk to my girlfriend her response, is babe I find you the sexiest guy in the world. But none of her actions show it. I am starting to wonder if I am just her backup guy because she is worried about being single? What to do next?

TL;DR - girlfriend's mom said I am not like any of the other guys her daughter has dated. I am wondering if my girlfriend is settling for me .

Wonder what She's up to now..

I (21) female broke up with my ex boyfriend (25) back in 2020 and all together it was very toxic and abusive relationship and I’m happy it ended. Up until recently he’s been stalking my social media accounts and I’ve tried to be nice and firstly asked him to stop doing it but he still continued. I tried blocking and restricting and he found ways to keep looking at my accounts. It annoyed me but I just let it be up until when he started to stalk all my friends and anyone I ever went out with. It became creepy and with knowledge of what he can do I honestly was starting to get scared. I decided to private my account but he continued checking all my friends accounts and even they started to be a little weirded out even after blocking him they noticed that the same fake account was watching their lives. I had enough of it and send a message to his girlfriend asking her to tell him to stop. To which she replied pretty hostile saying that she is stable in their relationship which isn’t something I really cared about. I’m glad they were happy no matter how crappy of a person he is. I sent her another message saying that I’m glad but asking again to tell him to stop. Three days later I’ve received a message from her asking what he has done to me which through me off since I never mentioned anything to her. I explained in little detail what I suffered through for the two years I’ve been with him. She then proceeded to tell me that she has ended the things with him the same day that I texted her as well as implying that he was also abusive to her. I don’t know if I should feel bad for ending the relationship for the sake that he stops bothering me. AITA?

Guess who’s side they took? I’ve got anxiety and panic disorders. I’ve been in a 7 year relationship that’s never been anything but arguing and fighting. Just some background I’ve been cheated on twice, lied to, she did heroin behind my back. For all these years I’ve played the hero. Got her out of trouble, done things I’ve felt uncomfortable with to make her feel better. She doesn’t do anything around the house and I do all the chores. I can barely go out by myself and she can’t even go shopping. We got into a fight and the insults always come after that. We said things to each other then she spit in my face and punched me in the jaw. I called the cops told them I wanted to press charges. They came. She admitted to the whole thing. I was told “well your the man and she’s the woman…”. You know that if it was me that hit her I would’ve left this house in handcuffs. But I told them I wanted to press charges and they said they wouldn’t because it was petty. And here I am on Christmas even sitting in this house with her. And they didn’t do jack shit to keep me safe. Just so y’all know this is not the first time I’ve been hit either, just the first time I’ve called the cops on her. And all these cops had to say is “your the man and she’s the woman so…”. As if I can’t be physically and mentally abused. ACAB.

I met Anna when I dated her son Joe in college. She's in the same technical career field as I am and I really looked up to her.

When my ex Joe and I were still together, I really started seeing Anna as a career mentor and as a friend. We'd go to happy hours together every few weeks to vent about work and catch up.

Joe and I broke up when we graduated. I stayed in touch with Anna afterwards, we didn't talk much about the breakup because it was a raw subject for me. She and I kept meeting up as friends though.

Just a few months ago, Joe and his girlfriend Lia moved in with Anna. I guess he lost his job and needed a place to stay when looking for a new one.

I hadn't known until then that he was seeing someone new, but I wasn't upset to hear it or anything. Honestly I didn't think much about him at all; college when we dated feels like forever ago.

Anyway, Anna invited me over for coffee last Sunday. When we were at hers, Joe and his girlfriend Lia came in. He had a real double take seeing me and said something to his mom about not realizing "her friend Kat" was me.

I let them talk and I got the impression Joe hadn't been really close to his mom in a couple years, and he'd just heard her mention stuff like "having Kat over" for years just thinking she meant a work friend.

Meanwhile, his girlfriend Lia stared at me looking kinda mad and then stormed off upstairs without saying anything. Joe followed her upstairs.

Anna and I had a little laugh about how oblivious boys can be, how can someone hear about "Kat the electrical engineer" and instead of connecting it to me, assume she had made another friend with the same name and job? You can hardly find two women at all in my job, let alone two with the same name.

Soon, Joe came back down to tell his mom "How long are y'all doing this, Lia wants to cook"

Anna said we could go sit in the living room (next to the kitchen, in an open concept layout) and Joe said that she's gotta know how disrespectful this is. It was clear as day I was coming around "dressed like that" right after he and his girlfriend move in, trying to disrespect his relationship.

I spoke up for the first time and butted in to say "Dude, this really has nothing to do with you, this is just how I dress nowadays and Anna and I have been friends for years, I've been visiting every Sunday, which you'd know if you visited your mom more yourself."

He got real mad at me saying that what I was doing was really creepy and stalkerish

Ann

You unfriend her because you love her too much, and as long as you still talk to her, see her everyday, you will never let her go.

She changed her avatar, and you surely lose sleep tonight. To describe the feeling? Short of breath, heart skipping beats, feeling nausea (probably because of the food). But it was not that bad, not like last time. You know that grieving will not do anything good, you just can't stop the emotions. Will keeping checking her Facebook help you to get used to it, or can you get better by forever staying out of her account? You don't know, that is why you are writing this. You hope that through writing, you could think more clearly, and may come up with a solution to your problem.

How do you get better this time? Did you even actually get better? You used to think that keeping grieving and loving, staying in a state of pain can make a miracle come true, and although it did bring you and her back together once, you know that it will not happen this time. So what will you do?

You focus on you. Thanks to that Tinder date for helping you realize that. You will not get her by stalking her Facebook, texting her all the time. You (may) get her (or someone like her) by making yourself better.

So what should you do?

First, youneedtogotosleep. The only reason keeping you up at this time is her changing the avatar, and oh boi, if you sleep now you are going to have a bad time.

You're gonna study. God help you, cause the semester is almost over. One more week and you are done.

You're gonna set a goal in the summer. Get buff, get some skills that make money, study stock markets, learn French. They make you a better person. Also internship, get that recommendation letter bud.

You're gonna go dating. Holy shit only 2 dates and you already find someone that you get more obsessed with than her. What will happen if you date more? You are beginning to get more confident in yourself, and cheers to that.

Go out with your friends. Don’t forget them. They are lovely and can be your true friends. Make more too!

And that is it. You have the solution. Calm yourself down and relax. It is going to be okay. You will feel shitty for a while, and that is totally fine. You are proud of yourself, you know what you can do to get better.

Now it is your choice to do it or not.

Breath slowly, let things flow through you, and feel yourself getting sleepy.

Good night Tom.

p/s: Sorry for the bad grammar or vague wording, I was writing it for myself