I am outside India and I have asked around at all major bookstores and libraries to no avail. Your help would be immensely appreciated.
Personal Context:
I'm a 22 year old male at college who makes YT videos during my spare time, and am a huge fan of Dr. K, here is what I thought he got wrong...
Two things I constantly think about when making my videos are messaging and meaning. At (3:35) Dr. K asks: is addressing Misogyny a validation of the victims or is it trying to change the minds of the perpetrators? Keep this in mind as Dr. K primes the listener at (5:00) to not double down on what they believe and at (7:43) states that if you are born a man you play life on easy mode. Dr. K try's to get the best of both worlds by both validating the victims, while also attempting to change the target audience's mind. The issue I take is that it's very difficult to change someone's mind while also invalidating their experience.
How is saying "men live life on easy mode" invalidating to a misogynists?
From my own personal experience, I find that there's a lot of bitterness in the red-pill community and a belief that women have it easy because they get to pick and choose their dating partners while men have to earn it. By implying that "men have it easy" makes it far more likely that the important message(s) of the video fall on deaf ears.
What should he have said?
In general, I don't like comparing problems. I recognize that women(especially those who live in third-world countries) deal with problems that I don't have to as a man. In fact, I agree with Dr. K's statement that women have it harder in general than men. (here's where the 'but' comes in Dr. K) But I've also heard the opposite from women on men's issues, that men have it much harder than women for a variety of reasons. I think the analogy Dr. K uses should shift from 'women play life on hard mode' to 'women play life on a different rules set'. (i.e. in Terraria you might have a ranger build or a magic build, each with their individual/shared weaknesses and strengths)
Dr. K could expand the analogy by saying the meta is magic builds(men) and that ranger builds... go off king. Although this example isn't exactly true of terraria, so you'd have to find a different game that suits the analogy better.
Note: There is something more catchy than 'Women play life on a different rules set', I'd need to think more about it.
Final Thoughts
The thing I love most about Dr. K's videos is that he arms you with ways to deal with social and mental dissonance. My question is: How did Dr. K teach us to deal with Misogyny in this
... keep reading on reddit ➡
There's not much to add to the subject line, really. How is it that supporters of legal abortion who don't support LPS are not seeing that the argument that LPS equals legalized child abandonment relies on the right-wing evangelical assumption that personhood begins at conception?
I'm from New England... Massachusetts. Close enough? Lol. Just seems like a cool group that I'd like to be a part of.
That's all :-)
