>The US is better off with fewer Asians': Outrage as University of Pennsylvania law professor says America should clampdown on 'elite' Asian immigration
a) I had a talk with white professor's and white engineers and they told me that Asian Americans are only good at mugging before Exams and solving MCQs.
b) They told me that Asians only value academic success and don't value any type of skill development.This is the reason why Asian parents force their children to do some random mugging of spelling bees and maths type MCQs based questions.
c) They were of the opinion that Asians are good at cheating.
d) One Jewish Colleague even asked this question to me
>"Why don't Asian Americans start their own companies just like Jewish Americans ??? Are Asian Americans only good enough at mugging MCQs and spelling bees ??"
e) They told me that Indian Americans will become jobless in next decade because of availability of cheaper labour from Asia and Africa.
Circa 2021,
- Desis don't have any advantage of Immigration as any human being can work for any company in the world.
- Democratization of knowledge because of availability of MOOCs and Video lectures,Hence any human being can upskill himself.
https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2021/11/remote-work-employment-employeers-covid-pandemic/
Now as an Asian American,How will you respond to these allegations' ?
I can’t wait for the day when I can watch a brown guy drop 40 points in an nba game or score a hatrick in the premier league.
I’m in my early 20s and looking to move from the Chicago area to Austin. I’m hoping to make some female friends around my age and meet guys around the same age as well. Been doing some research on Austin and it seems like a nice place to be, but I haven’t ever visited before.
Was hoping I could get some of your guys’ opinions on the city, what it’s like for Desis and hopefully what the dating scene is like as well. I’m a female in my early 20s looking for guys around the same age.
So I always grew up wishing south Asians were better represented in media as we all do but it's sad that in 2021, there still isn't a cool south Asian fronted band in the indie world (maybe Young the Giant or MIA but they're the pioneers). I grew up playing music with my close friends and I've always dreamt of starting a band in the style of The 1975, Phoebe Bridgers, Paramore etc... The themes we would write about would be similar to what's discussed on this sub: arranged marriage, identity, parental pressure, and growing up super religious in the US.
Is this a good idea or is it cringe? Like is it too niche? I'm thinking we hide our faces at first cause we literally wouldn't fit in anywhere lol. Open to your thoughts!
Some context: I (25F) have a sibling (23M). Both of us were born in the States and our parents immigrated from India in the 80s and 90s. Right off the bat, our parents are divorced, which is pretty uncommon in Desi marriages across the board. Mom suffers from unchecked mental illness, dad is a self-absorbed academician. See where this is going? Add to this a lot of physical, mental, and emotional abuse directed towards us from our mom, and our dad basically shrugging his shoulders and being like "what can I do about it?" and that was our entire childhood. We have very few, happy memories, and had a strained and often contentious relationship for years.
Fast-forward to now, and both of us no longer live with them. I defied my dad by moving to CA for grad school and have been here since. Bro is still in our home state but in grad school and is slated to graduate next year (so happy for him!). I don't have much of a relationship with my mom because she seemed to dislike me from the get-go, so I keep things short between us. Things are difficult with my dad because he's the 'better' parent, but he's still self-absorbed, traditional, and honestly grating on the nerves. And he's approaching 70 and his heavily hinting to us that he'll be retiring soon and will try to depend on us in some way...he has plenty of savings and is comfortably upper middle class, but we feel that pressure. I can ignore it for the most part but bro cannot as he lives a lot closer to them and gets bothered a lot more than I do. I like to joke with him that our gendered expectations flipped because I said fuck it and moved, and that my parents giving up on me was a blessing in disguise.
To the meat of the question, we talked recently and it's been weighing down on him A LOT. He already has a strained relationship with our dad, who pays for his education, so I'm sure he feels some obligation. Our dad has been diagnosed with cancer twice + comes from the generation of men who were never taught to take care of their needs, so it's rough. I'm unwilling to put up with the maltreatment I endured for years (dad kicked me out twice for no reason + is controlling and mean), so I bounced, but my dad is literally trying to get my brother to apply to jobs in our hometown area so he can stay closer for convenience.
I want my brother to be happy and follow his dreams. Our parents never supported that, but I want him to live his best life every day, wherever that is. He's less confrontational than I
... keep reading on reddit ➡Hello everyone! I have a few days to myself and would like to watch some good shows in the above genres.
Desi and/or otherwise will do too.
>!Age restrictions are not problem!<
Is there any good site for desi porn now thar mmsbee is down.was searching for good alternative. If anyone know any alternative for leaked porn please share except Dropmms and masalaseen.
My partner and I have discussed that we want to get married mid next year in the US - if we start planning in November, will that be too late? We wanted to have 2-3 days of events, with one day being just for family, one outdoor, and one reception indoors which would require booking a venue. Would 4th of July weekend be impossible to get a venue for?
Also, we know we want to be married and have already discussed wedding planning but neither of us has formally done a proposal. I'm not sure when the right time to do it is. It feels a bit weird to do it after we've already discussed so many wedding details lol 😂 I am not even sure if it will be possible to make the proposal that surprising or special to the other person?
I'm quite new to cooking South Indian dishes and I find my parents cooking instructions too vague for me given that they've learnt and know different recipes beyond following a set instruction. Do you guys have any good websites for cooking up South Indian (and Asian) dishes!
Any cooking tips would be much appreciated!
I’ve heard snappy tomato has it - wondering if it’s good or if any other places do it better?
In response to a post calling out the atrocities of the British Empire against the Indian people (one which didn't even mention the word "white" anywhere), the lead moderator of r/ABCDesis banned the OP, citing supposed "anti-White racism" in his stickied comment. Either this guy is completely mentally colonized, or, in the more likely scenario, he's another one of those creepy old White men who LARPs as a self-hating POC online to get his fix.
In any case, it doesn't really look like there's a future for that subreddit, at least as long as that moderator stays in power. I did notice that there were plenty of highly-upvoted commenters calling him out on his bullshit, and I think people like that would be happy to participate in an alternative (gender neutral) Desi sub that focuses on activism and productive discourse, almost like a Desi version of r/aznidentity.
What do you guys think?
Can you all share some examples of fit desi men with good genetics vs bad genetics? I'm curious to learn more about what constitutes good genetics wrt body building/looking aesthetic.
Not looking for guys on juice.
Many friends told me to watch city of dreams. It's on hotstar and it's a subscription based thing and I ain't paying.
So sites like soap2day or fmovies that have Netflix or HBO originals. Is there a sites that has desi originals shows or movies but in NA ?
I randomly stumbled upon Bambi Bains' music today, her music is straight 🔥. She's the first Western Desi female whose music I vibe with. (My playlist mainly just consists of males)
Was wondering if there's other hidden talent like her, any recommendations?
Her songs:
This is kinda of a rant, I need to get it off my chest and want to see if I'm the only one. Desi and Mac's relationship is driving me up the wall. They are so damn toxic it's insane. This isn't saying that I want him to end up with Riley either. Rhey have a solid sibling relationship, it would be weird if they ended up together. I would take it over Mac and desi any day. I'm finding that this damn tv show can't make a decent relationship for Mac to save they lives.
I am south Asian Bangladeshi and every woc I see is stunning. I am the complete opposite and ugly.
Y'all my desi heart has been SNATCHED by desi romance recs recently, I cannot believe I have gone my whole goddamn life not reading romance narratives starring women like me and I don't think I can ever return! I need more, I swear I have read everything I can get my hands on. My only problem is...I don't want to read about that stereotypical brown girl living in the west, trying her best to downplay her heritage and be all White Like until a hyper traditional Good Brown Boy shows up, cue arranged marriage subplot to showcase how Traditional They Are, but she wants to rebel until, like, the final fifty pages where they fall in love etc etc. It feels so...pander-y.
So, give me all your desi romance recs! I'll list the ones I loved and the ones I hated so you can get a feel for where I'm at!
Loved: -The Tiger at Midnight trilogy -The Zoya Factor -When Dimple Met Rishi (this one gets a vague pass on the above trope cause it was done well and also the TV show is HILARIOUS. I cannot read the Twinkle book by the same author cause my brother and the love interest have the same name and that's just...ew) -Man of Her Match (I wanna read The Wedding Photographer but Indigo and Thriftbooks don't seem to have it in stock)
Hated: -The Marriage Game -The Trouble With Hating You -Rebel Hard
On my TBR right now: -The Sands of Arawiya -The Wrath of Ambar
I've also read the Daevabad Trilogy and The Wrath and The Dawn duology and loved those but a tiny part of me prefers contemporary more than historical and fantasy - but I'll take whatever I can get!! Thank you all in advance.
Hey ladies! I have been having a problem with my hair for the past few years, which is that it is really dry and doesn't have much shine or softness to it. It's also always tangled, no matter how much I brush it. My hair is super-thick (even for a desi) mostly straight but also somewhat wavy. I use Dove or Pantene conditioner, which I know you're not supposed to, but there's so many different brands that I don't know which one to use instead! I would prefer that you recommend something on the cheaper side, like under $15, but above all I just want to know what worked for you. Thanks!
I totally do NOT mean to generalize here, hence I asked "some"
But I am just curious. I have Caucasian friends whose parents are middle-aged, and they seem to have a good time with life. They work during the day, yes, but then they seem to take the evenings easy. Maybe watch a movie, maybe go for a walk, or play golf, or gather with friends (pre COVID) etc.
But my parents-and the parents of my few desi friends-seem to do it differently. For example, my parents NEVER relax. If they have time left over, they take on DIY projects around the house that are, lets just say nice, but not necessary. Ie, build a new deck even though our deck is fine. Or replace the carpeting even though our carpeting is fine. Or do a deep cleaning of the house, even though they literally just did one and the house is fine. They then proceed to call distant relatives of ours who live in a 4-5 hour radius and literally volunteer their services to do these similar DIY projects at their places-things that are nice, but not by any means necessary or urgent.
Now, I totally am all for this if it is what someone likes to do and enjoys doing. But I don't get that sense from my parents. They decide to do all this, and then get very, very stressed out. I lived at home for a few months, and they were constantly yelling and snapping, taking out their anger on me. It was like walking on eggshells. They always blamed their stress on all the billions of things going on-that THEY SIGNED UP TO DO and were not necessary at all. Now I've moved out but if I even try to stay in touch with them, any time of day or evening they're always busy with these projects. My desi family friends of similar ages seem to be doing this too.
Meanwhile I see my Caucasian friends commenting on how easy their parents take it. Just wondering...anyone else also observed this? Is this how our parents also expect us to lead our lives?
What are some good desi shows/movies or series you all have been watching recently? I am looking for something that will be interesting for us ABDs and not the typical Indian dramas.
Thanks!
