This is in no way a petty thing, I purely want to do it because it's funny but I'm not sure how it would come across.
I turned 24 last year and my boyfriend (super sweet guy) made me a cake with a huge 25 candle on top of it. I burst out laughing and told him I was born in 1995. He was a bit embarrased but I was in no way offended, we had been together for a few months only and told him many times afterwards too that it was no big deal and I really thought it was funny. He put it away and it's still in his drawer for this year. I was very grateful for it and we still had fun and I think it's a funny story.
His birthday is coming up this weekend and it's his 28th. I got his gift and thought it would be funny to get him a card for 30 just for fun and of course a real one too. I think it's a funny inside joke and if it was me I would find it funny but I'm not sure, I guess 30 is a bigger milestone or what not and maybe it would be a harsh joke.
What do you think?
As per title my hubby is 30. We were going to go away for a city break but Covid put paid to any plans of that or even a family gathering. His immediate fam are acting like 30 is nothing special and he's a bit deflated by it. Looking for any cards, especially funny, to make his day! Thanks in advance
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OP is u/EatsLeadPaintChips/. The same posts were posted in different subs I just chose the ones from the JustNoFamily sub.
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Growing up, my family was always close to my moms sister. My aunt has two girls who are identical twins and I was always forced to play nice with them even though they never wanted to hang out. When I got married, I asked them to be my bridesmaids, and they stood up in my wedding. Only for them to go back to ignoring me and not putting forth effort into the relationship. I mailed them flowers, would call them each month, send happy birthday texts, and handwrite them letters. But they never initiated. I decided to forgo the relationship, and stopped reaching out. They didn’t reach out or contact me for over a year, only to say thanks after I texted “happy birthday”.
I am turning 30 in a few weeks and my parents had a plan to host a party with people flying in from across the country. Yesterday, one of the twins had a bridal shower and I was begged to go by my mom, even though I was not asked to be a bridesmaid and did not want to go.
When I got ready for the shower, my mother didn’t like my hair and told me to wash it, didn’t like my outfit and told me to change, and once I did all those things to just get through the day and survive, then she was upset with how little I talked with everyone at the shower and was giving me nasty glares across the table and hitting my knees underneath. I found out at the shower that my twin cousins both bought houses, graduated with their masters, and they didn’t even tell me. I felt so hurt at the shower that I decided to tell my parents I did not want them to be invited to my 30th birthday party as on my 21st my dog died in my arms and I’ve never had a big party for it and I wanted to invite the people who do not make me feel bad about myself.
My mom stopped speaking to me, my dad wrote me the most hurtful message I’ve ever read from him - sharing that they are cancelling the party, that they will not be attending, and that I am being a selfish spoiled brat. In this context, I have invited my twin cousins to every birthday party, every college party - all of it. I have never been invited to
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Disclaimer: This is a mental health sob story post, please avert your eyes if you’re trying to avoid negativity late on a Sunday night.
Title. Turned the big 3-0 today and I felt pretty miserable for most of the day. Only three people messaged me to wish me a happy birthday, two of them were ex-flatmates from years ago when I was living in London. The other was a former co-worker who up until recently moved back to his home country.
Not one of my ‘friends’ from my masters program messaged me, even after I told them I couldn’t meet for drinks on Sunday because I’m going out for a meal with family to celebrate my 30th birthday.
The real stinger however was my ex-girlfriend who I’ve spent my last four birthdays with (a girl I was a month shy of proposing to) didn’t even acknowledge me today. She left me back in October for a far more impressive specimen of a man who I could never compete with physically.
The highlight of the day was the meal I had with my family. I’m extremely grateful that my parents are still kicking and sound of mind given their age. It just sucks when I take a step back and rethink back to my older sister and older brother’s 30th birthdays, they were amazing. Huge parties, plenty of friends, booze, entertainment etc.
They must have felt some pity for me, seeing as all I had planned was a mere family meal. I play the charade that I’m a ‘low-key’ kinda guy but I’m not. I’d much rather have what they experienced, but I couldn’t. When my relationship ended, it seems most of my friends that were in some way affiliated with my ex faded away from my life as well.
What am I doing now? Sat alone in my apartment that I pay 60% of my income towards. Listening to grungy doomer music, trying to get internet strangers to feel sorry for me. In for work at half 8 tomorrow, go to the gym, come home, eat dinner, sleep, repeat.
You may ask why I’m posting this here. Well I first posted on a depression forum but it got literally no comments and went unnoticed for the most part. I’m also reaching out to any Irish fellas/lasses here that may have gone through a similar experience(s) to me, if they’d have any guidance going forward I’d be very grateful.
Thanks for reading, hope this hasn’t depressed you too much.
Edit: Thanks so much for the birthday wishes dudes!
Should I say something to him and his wife? We are very close in the sense that we love each other a lot and see each other for family functions often. Not to mention my husband and I live literally within walking distance and bought a house so close so we could spend time with them. But my brother and his wife never ask us to do stuff with them.
This weekend was his 30th birthday party and they had a ton of friends over but didn’t ask us to come? They know we would blend in and have fun. I know it’s not their friends either because at their wedding their friends all came up to me and said how excited they were to meet and spend time with me and we clicked.
Should I mention that it hurts my feelings we wouldn’t be invited to something like that or should I let it go?
UPDATE: I responded to my brothers post about the party in a private message and said “I’m a little hurt to not be invited to your milestone birthday celebration, just curious why is that?” And he wrote back saying he was sorry and that his friend group was worried about having other people there because of Covid and he did want me there and loved me but it was the friend groups decision. I honestly kind of feel like it’s a bit of an excuse.. there was like 20 people there what’s having one more.. and your sister at that? Somewhat accepting that they aren’t that interested in hanging out socially. And that’s fine. I feel good about expressing how I feel.
I turned 30 today. I didn't do anything. My day was otherwise fine and dandy.
It made me think of a 30th birthday I went to a few months ago for one of my friends - there were loads of people who were clearly quite drunk, but knew exactly when to stop. Many of them went home as soon as they felt "too drunk". Towards the end of the night, we were all sat around in his backyard playing catch with some small beanbags. 'Jack' was sat on the beer cooler and went to catch it, but missed and fell backwards, slowly, off the cooler. It was at that moment that he knew he was too drunk, and then he walked home.
Made me realize how we are a different breed when it comes to booze. All these people could drink quite a bit, then just stop. I found myself sneaking off around the corner of his garage to stifle my dry heaves after playing, and losing, beer pong(because I had mixed bourbon and vodka and Guinness into my cups when I thought they might be distracted).
Being a normal drinker must be fun.
I’m still waiting for the adult function to turn on. At what time does that usually happen? ….like the exact time of my birth, or…?
Honestly, I don't think I was ever happy. His insecurity and controlling behavior immediately isolated me from family and friends. He didn't have a job for the first 2 years. I used to live with him in basically a closet but eventually left and tried to end the relationship about 3 years ago and he stalked me and harassed anyone he suspected I was talking to; so I caved and took him back. Never moved back into the closet with him and he never came to pick me up or visit at my parents house. It was always my responsibility to get to him.
So after midnight last night he calls and talks about his day for a few mins then goes to say goodnight, without asking me how my day was at all... I manage to squeeze in that I'm officially 30... "It's your birthday? Facebook didn't tell me" I literally never had my birthday public on Facebook the entire time we've known each other. I tell him I know his birthday and recite it to him... "I'm sorry I forgot your birthday, Jesus fucking christ" and he hangs up. In 5 years he has never remembered my birthday, our anniversary, valentines day.... To top it off I've been dealing with a really deep depression I just can't seem to crawl out of and this was just the last straw for me. I'm too old to be with someone who doesn't make me feel special. I've wasted enough time.
Honestly, I never thought in a million years that I would be days from being 30 and be so excited about that but I genuinely am! I can’t really explain why, but I’m filled with all the feel good feelings this time around and previously birthdays were just like any old other day for me. I spend them kinda entertaining myself and that was fine, I was alright with it, this year feels different though. I really want people to celebrate with me! I think it would be a lot of fun to get a slew of Birthday cards sent my way for this milestone, if you’re reading this and you think that is something you’d wanna be a part of just let me know you’re up for it and I will send the mailing address right over! P.s. I love Birthday Cards that are packed with hilarity! I will love literally any card you guys choose to send to me, but those silly ones just make my day! Who doesn’t like a good laugh? The more grown up the humor the better but don’t feel like you guys are restricted, just be authentic and I’m going to love what you send. Thanks for considering my request for these!! About a week and some days now and my 30th will be upon me. I’ll take any amount of birthday wish cards, just let me know it’s ok to DM the mailing address your way! SO EXCITED TO HEAR FRPM YOU GUYS!
...but they forgot that it is u/norsefenrir 's Brithday too!
Eyes up, Guardians!
September 92 here. I was originally thinking about having a huge party because I haven't had a real party since my 21st, but now I'm starting to think of going on a trip instead. Fellow 92 babies, what's the plan?
