Hi, I’m 17M and I turn 18 in about a month, my mom asked me what I wanted to do on my birthday and I told her I planned on hanging out with my friends and my Dad was gonna take me out to dinner later that day, followed by me spending more time with my friends .
A couple weeks later she told me that her cousin (I think it was her cousin, I can’t quite remember) died and his funeral was coming up, I expected it to be on maybe Christmas or New Years or somewhere near that time (either way it still would have sucked) but she told me we’d be gone for a week and the funeral would happen the day before my birthday and we wouldn’t be going home until two days after my birthday.
I got upset and told her I didn’t want to go, because I don’t want to spend my birthday at a funeral with all my relatives being sad and crying (and probably me too even though I’ve never met her cousin) she told me unless I have somewhere else to stay, I’m going, besides he is family and I need to be there to say goodbye, again I’ve never met this guy so I don’t even know who I’m saying goodbye to.
We haven’t talked about it since and I honestly think she forgot but I think maybe I’m being selfish for not wanting to go. It’s a milestone birthday for me and I want to spend it with my friends but she wants me to go to the funeral (surrounded by people I don’t even know, or have met when I was like a month old and couldn’t process faces yet)
So AITA for not wanting to spend my 18th birthday at a funeral?
Feel free to ask questions about anything I didn’t add in here
Update: So I talked to my mom about me staying home and I guess she assumed I wouldn’t go to my Dads (since we aren’t that close) because she immediately changed her mind to that I HAVE to go to this funeral
A little bit more detail: she was on the phone with my Aunt and they explained how this is apparently a Jamaican thing, and that I should be grateful to have my birthday in Jamaica
I don’t want to seem spoiled or anything but I just don’t want to go, I know others may beg their parents for months to do this but I don’t like traveling out of state, especially by plane. So she keeps trying to bring me places and calls me selfish when I tell her I don’t want to do it
I don’t know what to do now and she’s most likely gonna force me to go on this trip with her and I’m just gonna be upset the whole time
I'm very very excited about officially being an adult and I would like to talk people's ears off. I love baking, gaming, reading and writing, pretty flowers, the idea of running away to a remote cottage, and cats. I'd like a friend to play games with or just talk to. I can be very chatty so beware! Have a great day everybody!!
Today my little brother turns 18. (Damn that's weird, makes me feel ancient 😅)
We all woke him up singing Happy Birthday, gave presents and had breakfast and cake together. 🎁🎂
I was asking my brother questions, having conversation, trying to keep the attention on him for once. (as the youngest, he usually gets ignored and that annoys me to no end)
The thing is, his friend (who is also 18) had a child last year. My brother got a Christmas card from him, and the card is just a photo of the baby wearing a Christmas hat. 👶🎅
So guess what mom has been obsessing about the whole day? That baby photo of course! 🙄🙄 Asking my brother how the baby is doing, digging through boxes to find any photo of my brother's friend as a child ("So I can compare if the baby looks like he did") and looking at the baby photo saying how cute it is.
Your own son just turned 18! But he doesn't have a baby so what ever? 😡
I'm a father of 2. Bio 26 and step daughter 18. I'm lucky to have established a good relationship with my stepdaughter that is based on mutual trust and respect. I raised her when she was 2 I don't even call her my stepdaughter I call her my own. She always dreamed of owning a car and hinted wanting a car for her 18th birthday for years and I took it upon myself to try and save up for one.
It took me years to save up money to be able get her a decent car as gift and I felt thrilled I was able to achieve this goal knowing how much this means to her. I haven't bought the car yet and am currently looking for a decent around 10-13k.
My older daughter has been struggling with infertility and she and her husband already tried clinical route but weren't successful. They've stopped trying for a year due to financial struggles.
I visited her last week and she talked about getting ready to go through another round of IVF. We talked about the money and she brought up the money I saved for her stepsister's car. I tried cutting the conversation but she asked if she could borrow the money and she'll repay me in few months. I said no because what's the use of getting the money in few months when I want to buy my stepdaughter the car this month. Her husband pointed out how his parents helped with the previous treatment costs and now it's my turn since we're family. He said my stepdaughter can get the car anytime later but logically the money should go towards a better cause. I declined saying that's her last birthday with family before she moves away for college and I didn't want to disappoint her. My daughter said she wasn't asking for a fancy new car she just longs to become a mother.
In all honesty I stated even if I gave her money there's no guarantee the treatment will work this time. Her husband said I had my priorities messed up asking who in their right mind sees their child struggle with such massive issue and refuse to help and then prioritize a car over a potential grand baby that every sane grandparent dreams of having. I asked why isn't anyone else besides his parents helping and my daughter said they already asked others for money but are struggling with debt with her medication. I said even if the treatment pays off, then what? Did she really think having a baby while struggling with debts was a good idea? She got quiet and her husband asked that I leave and he won't call me selfish since I already know that's why I kept getting "defensive". I left wit
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So when I was 17 my mum got pregnant with my brother. I’m the eldest of 7 children so it’s a busy house. Baby was due 14th January which was grand.
When my mum was 30 weeks pregnant they found out she had placenta previa. The hospital wanted to deliver baby between 36 and 38 weeks (17th-31st December). My mum wanted him to be born on the 30th (my birthday) as it would make it easier than having another separate birthday in December (I have two other siblings born in December). I got quite upset and said that I had wanted her to be at home for my 18th and if she had the baby on my birthday she wouldn’t be home from hospital and my dad would also spend most of the day at the hospital with her.
In the end my mum went for the planned section on the 27th December and was home in time for my birthday which was lovely.
He’s now 8 years old and every year my mum goes on and on about how difficult it is having a birthday on the 27th and it would’ve been so much easier having him on the 30th. I reminded her how it was really important to me that she was home for my 18th and she said “yes but we’re all paying for it now for the rest of our lives”
I know I maybe should’ve been more mature about it at the time (obviously now it wouldn’t bother me at all) but back then my 18th birthday was really important to me. AITA here?
Bit cheesy but this sub has really helped me throughout the year and so I'm just happy to be a part of it :)
I live in an area where it's not that common, culturally speaking, to charge your sons and daughters rent, and those who do are expected to be in the most dire of straits. If they're not, they're seen as greedy. The justification is that you made it this long paying for their necessities, and now that they're working and likely buying their own food, clothes, etc, you're technically saving money, so it's seen as unnecessary.
Just curious what some other areas think of this situation.
Hi everyone. My friends and I all turn 18 this year and to be honest we're just not mad on the whole 'going to someone's house and drinking for 12 hours' idea so we need to plan parties that involve activities like go karting, paintball etc. Any ideas welcome
