Charming, California Puns

About Me: I'm 20 years old and I'm living on the west coast. I'm from Florida and I have never traveled over seas but I want to. I play video games on my Xbox, normally just RPGs. I stay up to date on current news. I don't go to college, but I do work fulltime. I watch TV on Hulu sometimes and I watch Netflix a lot. I think I'm fairly decent looking if that matters to you.

What I'm looking for: anyone who can hold a good conversation and makes me laugh.I'm pretty interested in talking to older people, but I don't mind your age, gender, race, or where you're from. I just want you to charm me. So send me a PM!

EDIT: PLEASE IGNORE. POST IS NOW OUTDATED!!

So I’m gonna try to keep this brief...

Hi there! I’m looking for someone roughly around my own age to cuddle up in front of a movie with, as the title says. I live in OC, however I work in the IE so I’m also open to meeting up with people in the Corona/Riverside area, though I won’t be able to host in the latter case.

I’m very introverted and can be socially awkward before I know someone well enough to let out my goofy side, so I have very few friends around my own age, and there’s absolutely zero intimacy in my life... I’m not actively searching for a relationship; if something grows naturally, cool, however the big thing I’m looking for is just to curl up on the couch with someone and watch a movie or a couple episodes of a sitcom either after work or on a day-off... I just need the human contact. Should be implied given this is a cuddle sub, but clothing stays on, I’m not comfortable with getting more intimate than that.

I’m absolutely fine with meeting out in public the first time for introductions and getting to know one another first (in fact it’s actually preferred), and with sharing my name and face over DMs as well.

Uh, a couple brief facts: I’m an ISTP and a Gemini (if you’re into that stuff), I’m 6’1 and around 250lbs (neither completely muscle nor completely squishy, but a bit of both), and fully vaccinated! You can find out a lot about my eclectic interests in my post history, but suffice it to say, i’m a massive nerd. I love to laugh, and going back and forth with jokes is one of my favorite things to do. I also love to cook, especially for other people, so if you ever come to my house for a movie, you’ll very possibly get a homemade dinner first. When cuddled up, I’d kinda like to feel like I’m protecting someone... but also just relaxing together is fine too. I’ve only ever cuddled with someone once before many years ago and I really want to feel that closeness with someone again...

Anyway, this is getting long enough. I hope to hear from you soon!

Well hello ladies of Reddit! It’s my first time posting after being a long time viewer of the thread. I am 24 years old and I live on the Northern Side of California. I am currently just working through this pandemic and haven’t gotten around to being out and social with anyone these days.

A little about me: I love food (and I mean all types of food), I’m into animes of all genres, and for the most part I like traveling whether it be just driving on a cruise or finding new hidden gems in the cities around me. I am very much into cars as well, so shoot me a shot at your favorite car! I’m pretty open about everything so feel free to ask me any questions. (:

My “requirements”: Nothing really lol. I have no particular age range or anything. Be yourself I’m not here to judge. A nice conversation would be a breath of fresh air sometimes. I don’t judge based off height or anything because that doesn’t really matter to me. I’ve learned that people’s life story really shows who they really are deep down, so what is your story?

I don’t know how to add a picture to Reddit but I am open to sharing photos whenever we feel comfortable! If this doesn’t make you comfortable to send a message, an upvote or like would be nice too! Thank you for taking your time to read this and I hope you all have a wonderful day!

Well, I was in the same boat as most of you: benefits frozen with no updates whatsoever (in my case since December 26th).

Thank heavens and reddit I was armed with great advice/strategies.

After having tried dialing in the middle of the day which of course was completely futile, I did the proper thing as you all advise and called this morning at 8 AM on the dot, using the auto code of course.

“You’re being connected... your estimated wait time is... 1... minute.” :O

True as hell, there was an agent in no time at all.

Super friendly, super helpful, like calling an actual company and not a governmental agency :). Pleasant guy, give me one second, there you go! 11 weeks unlocked, start certifying from the end of December not now, yes you will be getting the $300 bonus, and if pandemic extension is still going on after 11 weeks you will get the PEUX.

This guy seriously couldn’t have been any friendlier and this whole process couldn’t have been any simpler. It’s actually as simple and straightforward as everything else is difficult- complete inversion of what we’ve all been dealing with.

You guys on here could not have been more helpful. I love reddit and I love all this information. Thank you thank you thank you and good luck all!!!!!

First: THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU to this sub and /r/Edd! 🤘🏽🥲👏🏽.

The tips about using different numbers, doing all the commas and stuff so you just automate through the prompts, and especially the advice to call at 8AM OR 4PM...priceless. I can’t imagine where I’d be in this struggle without the help of such a wonderful community. Thank you so. So. SO much.

Hopefully my story gives hope/advice to anyone struggling with mental health issues or just the impact of this insane experience— there’s hope!

Time blindness (shout out fellow neurodivergent folk!) combined with memory issues and all sorts of other clinically diagnosed issues have made thing extra hard in this crazy time. All the crappy things that come with mental/chronic illnesses are exacerbated tenfold in this time of Corona.

Regardless, I should have been more aware and responsible, but I didn’t certify in time and was promoted to reopen my claim. Due to mixed messages, I just tried calling (and we all know how that turns out) before reopening. Then I was prompted to do it again. Nothing. I discovered the backdating option and thought all my problems would be solved.

Instead, nothing. I called and was told I’d have to complete a phone interview and would receive the date and call window in the mail. So I waited, called again three weeks later to be further informed that my “clever” backdating solution was a dunce move which meant I was SOL and had to keep waiting.

Now I’m approaching six weeks since the first call, 15 weeks pending, credit cards maxed out, savings tapped, no options for employment due to extremely strict ordinances in the Bay Area.

Called today, the employee I got didn’t sound optimistic, but after some back and forth...I’m getting paid!!! Plus, that sweet soul let me know my original benefit year was ending in a couple of days and offered to transfer me to someone who could make sure my claim was reopened and there wouldn’t be any lapse. I know I can do it online but this isn’t Vegas and gambling isn’t my strong suit anyhow.

I forgot what it was like to breathe unencumbered.

TL;DR: THANK YOU KIND PEOPLE OF THESE SUBS; call, call, call, before you do anything (preferably at 8AM or 4PM PST), make sure you certify on time, and remember that EDD employees have really hard jobs and they’re doing their best.

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Click here for a link to Kitty Bungalow Charm School for Wayward Cats’ main website.

Rafael is a tenured professor of playtime and snuggles at Kitty Bungalow Charm School. Yes, playtime and snuggles is a real subfield of Felinology, and our Professor Rafael’s work has been published in a number of scientific litterature magazines. His study on the most effective way to throw a catnip banana around was revolutionary, and he’s currently trying to unravel the mystery of the laser pointer (how is it that he can see it, but never catch it?). When Professor Raf isn’t lecturing the KB enrollees, you can find him napping in his office, dreaming about a quiet, loving home that will take him in and feed him lots of yummy treats. His purrfect family would be one that sees him for his gentle, academic nature and will sit next to him and read him your favourite books.

I know this sounds crazy but it's so true! I hope this can help other people.

When taking a large test with massive amounts of memorization, a lot of memory experts suggest creating a Memory Palace. This is a memory tool that allows you to memorize words in a certain order by imagining them in different places in your house or a familiar place. This helps you remember the words in order as you go through the imagined house and keeps your ideas organized. (there’s more on this idea here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Method_of_loci).

Anyway, my memory palace was the Charmed Manor. After seeing the show about 9-10 times all the way through, I know the Manor like the back of my hand. If it were real I could probably walk around it blindfolded. It was the only house I know that was big enough to hold all of that information and honestly it also was very soothing to think of one of my favorite places when studying for this demonic test. When I had a hard essay question, I would just go to the appropriate mental room (conservatory, basement, attic, parlor, etc.) and run through all the words I put there. And it worked! I never have to take that test again thanks to my favorite show of all time.

If anyone ever wants to try, I started by writing words into the Manor Blueprint :)

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This may come off as racist but I promise you that's not my intent. I am a black man, I grew up like a lot of black families do, struggling. I've always been enterprising, well-spoken, driven. I've also been handicapped since 5 years old, a very noticeable affliction. This movement that you all are currently on, has been most POC's lives since birth.

I have a common name, you don't know I am black until I show up for the interview and I have been able to stay relatively well employed my whole life, but the common themes in here:

1. Not Enough Pay
2. No Time Off
3. Hateful Managers
4. Lack Of Respect
5. Indifference
6. Threats If You Leave
7. Harassment

This has been the norm for me and most of the friends and family I have known since we were children. America is a funny place only in the sense that no one takes what you're saying to heart until it happens to them. All of the leaders that were able to articulate that, it shouldn't be white vs black, but us vs them were taken out for those reasons alone. Growing up poor prepares you for hardship. It's a gift in the curse. But now it's not really about white vs black, an employer will give you a job no matter race or creed as long as you accept it for the pittance of pay, and in turn, make the job you do what your life's value is. What used to be camouflaged, and done in backrooms, is done on t.v. in front of everyone. The difference now is, they control everything. The ruling class, there are more of them now, that they're not afraid to just blatantly show it! Hitler was probably the best example of how that works. He convinced millions that the superior race was blonde hair, blue-eyed white people. While he had, brown hair and brown eyes. There are two main groups of people in the world, those who create power, and those who are controlled by it. If you feel like you are in the company of power, then you also have power.

Quick story, in my early twenties in California I was big into street racing, right after Fast and The Furious came out. I used to go to this car shop to get upgrades and started to be friendly with the owners who ran the place. They were around my age, very charming guys. They asked me to come to Tijuana with them and a group of friends, so I did. In this group, there was a tall dark man that was the "bag man." He carried anything they needed and was often the brunt of jokes. We were in a strip club and they paid for him a lap dance with some extras. He came out of the room all

Finally finished! Obviously there is a ton of stuff in here about her and I’m going quickly so these are just the main bits I thought people might find interesting. Highly recommend the audiobook— hearing her read all this personally made it feel even more authentic!

INTRO Night one:

• she had seen her cast leaked online before she had to give up her phone and had specifically noticed tyler

• Tyler’s entrance was later in the night and she kept waiting for him, but when he finally arrived she thought he seemed drunk (he wasn’t he was just nervous)

-she started to feel panicked after meeting all the guys because she did not think she had met her husband, he wasn’t there. She felt really pressured to say that she could see one of them becoming her husband, but deep down she did not feel that spark she had expected with anyone and she was worried about it

-she felt a little something with Jared and Tyler but overall felt scared her person wasn’t there. Producers tried to tell her stories about other bachelorettes who felt the same and then found their love

Then the book goes back to her childhood and details her family life and early formative experiences.

-the murder of her aunt and cousins was extremely formative for her, and also really showed how her family did not talk about traumatic emotional events and kind of set an expectation of pretending things are ok when they arent

-became a people pleaser especially to try to make sense of who she was in her family, and felt she needed to let her mom succeed in pageants through her, etc. her little brother was more the troublemaker so she tried hard to be perfect

-became incredibly sick as a young kid and had to insist past several doctors that something serious was wrong, which ultimately led to them discovering a cancerous tumor on her pancreas. She had a surgery to remove it, it removed the cancer completely, and for the first time during that experience she was not afraid because she was sure that God had her.

-her parents fought a ton and modeled pretty argumentative/dysfunctional behavior she still has a hard time with. A lot of it she thinks comes from the fact that they never dealt with the trauma of what happened to her aunt in a real way.

-family was against therapy until she became very depressed in college and finally had to confront having an undiagnosed anxiety and depressive disorder. A medical doc helped her get onto medication, which scared her at first but led her to feel she could

Its that most wonderful time of the year again- the final rush of games in the college football season. One thing I’ve always loved about the bowl season is how it plays out like a really, really long fight card, with the undercard bouts kicking us off, rising up to bigger and bigger things and culminating in a blockbuster main event. Anyways, this is my personal decision on ranking the bowls based on impact, the caliber of teams, and the overall watchability and enjoyability that I think the game will have. Obviously I’m going to be 100% wrong on this, but I hope you enjoy anyways.

#42- MYRTLE BEACH BOWL (12/20 2:30, ESPN)

OLD DOMINION Monarchs (6-6) vs TULSA Golden Hurricane (6-6)

The selling point of this bowl is that both teams are coming in kind of hot- ODU won its last 5 after a 1-6 start, and Tulsa has won three in a row, including a season ending upset of SMU to allow the Hurricane to squeak in the bowls in the first place. The issue is ODU’s winning streak becomes a LOT less impressive once you see who they faced during it, and while its nice to see the Monarchs not give up and push through to the postseason, the fact is they’re likely the weakest team in this year’s postseason, and a definite underdog to Tulsa.

#41- NEW MEXICO BOWL (12/18, 2:15, ESPN)

UTEP Miners (7-5) vs FRESNO STATE Bulldogs (9-3)

Fresno State absolutely deserved better than this game, which is easily the most disrespectful pair-down of the season. UTEP has come a long way in just a couple of years from when they were the bottom-feeder in all of FBS, but they’re still a 7-5 team who got exposed after a downy-soft start to their schedule. If this is anywhere near close, its because Fresno lacked motivation.

#40- BAHAMAS BOWL

BOWL (12/17, Noon, ESPN)

MIDDLE TENNESSEE Blue Raiders (6-6) vs TOLEDO Rockets (7-5)

Toledo was just another MAC team in a year where the conference lacked any true standouts, but were so close to being something special, with four of their five losses coming by three points or less, including one to Notre Dame. MTSU on the other hand, was a team that never really stood out, other than a slight upset over Marshall, and just kind of got to six wins. Not exactly the biggest bang to kick off bowl season, but the weather should be nice.

#39- LENDINGTREE BOWL (12/18, 5:45, ESPN)

EASTERN MICHIGAN Eagles (7-5) vs LIBERTY Flames (7-5)

Hard to believe the Flames were 5-1 at one point, but came crash

For anyone who is still trying to get ahold of them, I followed this post and it worked for me. Started calling at 7:45am and finally got put on hold at 8:23am. Was on hold for 2 hours (although it said wait time was 5 minutes).

Good luck everyone.

Do your worst!

Hello everyone. A while back, I posted here asking for advice about whether I should visit Seattle (which I had been to before) or Vancouver (for the first time) during October. This sub unanimously told me to avoid Vancouver and to go to Seattle instead. Now that I’m here, I’m glad I didn’t listen 😊. My observations:

• Firstly, Vancouver has clearly been impacted by the pandemic. There also appears to be a homeless issue from what I saw and also read about before coming here. However, the homeless problem in Seattle (and even in my area in California) is FAR worse and much more visible.

• You guys were right about the weather not being ideal. It has basically rained from the moment I landed until now. However, I was able to find a couple hours where the drizzle was light enough for a bike ride around Stanley Park. I was blown away. It was like NYC Central Park (which I’ve visited many times) on steroids. The rain made the backdrops majestic… and when the sun peaked out a couple times, it was incredible.

• Robson street is the most vibrant shopping street I’ve seen in a while. I can tell you that Seattle’s shopping streets are completely dead in comparison.

• The diversity surprised me, even though I knew Vancouver was “diverse”. Every time I’d leave my hotel room to walk around the city, I’d hear German, Hindi, Tagalog, Farsi, Spanish, and lots of French of course. I thought California was diverse… this is a different kind of diverse!

• After visiting Granville Island Market, I don’t understand why people compare it to Pike Place. They’re completely different. I loved the offerings at the market… but what I loved most was walking around the charming island itself.

I guess the purpose of this post was to say that even with the gloom and rain, I found your city incredible. And in COMPLETE honesty, I found Vancouver far more interesting than Seattle (which I’ve visited six times). Vancouver feels like an international city. And it’s alive in ways that Seattle isn’t. So to end this post: I’m glad I came. And I hope to return someday when it’s sunnier!

Edit: Thank you for the overwhelming kindness! If any of you find yourself in Orange County, California (2.5 hour direct flight from YVR… home of Disneyland and Laguna Beach), message me and I’m happy to give you tips as a local! :)

Edit #2: Apparently this post made it to the news! https://www.msn.com/en-ca/lifestyle/travel/news/an-american-shares-these-5-reasons-why-vancouver-is-better-than-californi