I’m currently reading “The Gifts of Imperfection” by Brené Brown and it’s opened my eyes to how much shame has infiltrated my life because of my upbringing (never feeling good enough, fast enough, productive enough, capable enough, etc.) My volatile Ndad constantly used punitive punishment and shame to “motivate” me to bend myself backwards to meet his impossible standards. I had poor self-esteem growing up and thankfully through years of therapy I have achieved a higher level of self-worth and am surrounded by a loving partner and friends who accept me for who I am. However, I’m still wading through the mud and healing past traumas. I still struggle with feeling like I’m not enough or too much when I am vulnerable and need support from others. I have a hard time identifying and articulating my emotions because Ndad taught me it was optimal to be stoic and suppress your emotions and would dismiss me for crying or expressing hurt (how ironic for someone who has poor emotional regulation and a hot temper). I’ve learned that there will never come a time that you’re the ideal version of yourself; we’re constantly on a path to self-improvement and that’s enough.
I have listened to her podcast & read some snips of her work online. Now I’m ready to commit to a book, but not sure which one is best etc. Not really looking for workplace leadership strategies - more interested in personal growth & honesty. Advice appreciated! Cross posted.
I've loved the work of Brené Brown since I saw her original TED Talk in 2010. I recently went down a bit of a YT rabbit hole watching a bunch of interviews and presentations she has done over the years. I'm realizing a lot of her work would be a great help to this community (based off of what I'm seeing here on r/Healthygamergg).
This video, a condensed edit of life advice she has given, really got me thinking of the pain and confusion I have seen here.
Is anyone else familiar with Brené's work? What do you think about it?
Brene Brown announced today that she will be releasing a TV show on HBO Max! The show will serve as a companion to her latest book, Atlas of the Heart, and should begin airing in Spring 2022. More info can be found here.
The article also included this quote from Brene Brown about her upcoming work:
“The real gift of expanding our language, practicing this work, and cultivating meaningful connection is being able to go anywhere without the fear of getting lost. When fear, anxiety, and uncertainty leave us feeling adrift and untethered in our lives, our first instinct is to look out into the distance to find the nearest shore. But the shore isn’t something outside of us — the solid ground we’re seeking is within us. It’s not always easy to find, but it’s there. I believe the more confident we are about being able to navigate to that place, the more daring our adventures and the more connected we are to ourselves and each other.”
What a gift this TV show has the potential to be! I'm excited to have something else to look forward to, and I hope you feel the same! Will you be tuning in when the show is released?
I don't know if any of y'all are familiar with Brené Brown's work, but she is an emotions researcher who has gotten famous by communicating what she has learned about emotions in a way that often resonates with people's lived experiences. I have personally found her work to be an enlightening combination of scientific research and self-help. As a result of which, I believe that I understand myself and the world around me better, and I believe that I am better able to navigate the world.
Anyway, I'm in a little activist group where we decided to read her book Dare to Lead together and do the workbook that comes with it. We meet over Zoom twice a month, and I'm really liking this as an experience. But I feel like I'm failing to connect in some way with the rest of the group, and I blame autism for that. I'm not diagnosed, though, and I don't feel confident declaring that I am autistic or that my being autistic is the reason why I'm not connecting more with the group. (Maybe I'm not actually autistic and I'm just not connecting with the group for completely different reasons? That's definitely possible, but it feels like the same phenomenon that I feel when I feel autistic.)
Regardless, the experience has inspired me to want to do something similar with a small group of autistic people. Would anyone else be interested? I'm not sure how well it'll work for a group of more or less total strangers, but I'm interested in trying if anyone wants to join me. I was thinking of using a different book of hers – Rising Strong (Rising Strong reading guide) – because Dare to Lead is geared towards established organizations, and that doesn't seem like the best fit, but I'm open to other books and other authors.
Damn. At only 20 minutes into this episode I texted my husband (who is also a child of nparents) and said, "Omg you have to listen to this episode. It's so good." Brené Brown interviews a neurobiologist and Oprah on trauma, ACE testing (something I had never heard of), our stress response system and resilience. It's so moving and really opening my eyes to a lot of things.
Link: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7GgvaJ3DUL4oQyxtyr86H3?si=6hSqadtKSG28Cf59CwDzrA&utm_source=copy-link.
I have dealt with anxiety for a large portion of my life. I meet with a therapist weekly and do a ton of reading to learn how I can be my best self. I have considered medicine at my lowest times, but I am confident I can live a happy life without it when I am back to feeling good.
I am currently reading through “The Gifts of Imperfections” by Brené Brown. It has helped me understand myself and my anxiety a lot more. I believe that most of my anxiety stems from self-esteem issues. My natural reaction to strong emotions, like shame, is to feel anxious and pressure to “fix” it. I also have ADHD so I tend to overthink my anxiety and beat myself up for it.
My main questions to you....
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For those who have anxiety and/or depression, how has Brené Brown’s teachings helped you? What lessons in particular have helped you?
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Does anyone have positive or negative stories sharing Brené Brown’s teachings with loved ones struggling with anxiety and/or depression?
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Does anxiety/depression make us feel more shame or does shame make us feel more anxiety/depression? Perhaps both?
Interested to hear your thoughts!
Brené Brown (famous for her TED Talk on Vulnerability) started a new podcast recently and it has been such a ray of light for me during this crazy time. She has about 6 episodes out right now and it's perfect because she picks guest speakers and their topics based on what would be helpful during a global pandemic.
She invites leading doctors, researchers, authors, etc. to have deep, unfiltered conversations with her on heavy topics. Some of the topics she's done so far are anxiety, being authentic (she speaks with Alicia Keyes), and dealing with loneliness which is so helpful during quarantine.
Just wanted to share because I hadn't seen it mentioned here yet!
I don't know if any of y'all are familiar with Brené Brown's work, but she is an emotions researcher who has gotten famous by communicating what she has learned about emotions in a way that often resonates with people's lived experiences. I have personally found her work to be an enlightening combination of scientific research and self-help. As a result of which, I believe that I understand myself and the world around me better, and I believe that I am better able to navigate the world.
Anyway, I'm in a little activist group where we decided to read her book Dare to Lead together and do the workbook that comes with it. We meet over Zoom twice a month, and I'm really liking this as an experience. But I feel like I'm failing to connect in some way with the rest of the group, and I blame autism for that. I'm not diagnosed, though, and I don't feel confident declaring that I am autistic or that my being autistic is the reason why I'm not connecting more with the group. (Maybe I'm not actually autistic and I'm just not connecting with the group for completely different reasons? That's definitely possible, but it feels like the same phenomenon that I feel when I feel autistic.)
Regardless, the experience has inspired me to want to do something similar with a small group of autistic people. Would anyone else be interested? I'm not sure how well it'll work for a group of more or less total strangers, but I'm interested in trying if anyone wants to join me. I was thinking of using a different book of hers – Rising Strong – because Dare to Lead is geared towards established organizations, and that doesn't seem like the best fit, but I'm open to other books and other authors.
