Sorry if this isn't the sub to post this in! I've been out for a long time. And have went through a few names. Luna. Alyssa. Then Lily. I want to legally change my name soon. I'm having a lot of trouble picking between Lily and Alyssa, as I identify with both of them, and adore both of them as flower names.
I think Alyssa is a beautiful looking name, the two s's, the two a's, the nickname Aly as well!
I think Lily is an adorable name. It sounds very youthful and pure, which describes my personality to a tee. I think I identify with Lily more. The problem I have with Lily is that I meet so many trans women named Lily, and something that did bother me about the name Luna was when I said "hey my name is Luna" and people automatically knew it wasn't my real name.
What do you guys and girls think?
Hello, y'all. First time poster, mostly because I lurk here daily.
I am writing an urban-esque fantasy story, and have decided on the name Alyssa for my lead character.
Her last name is Dodds, and, unlike most of my characters, I can not figure out a middle name for her.
INFORMATION:
~Her family is very formal with very normal names to contrast with the fantastical names of future characters
~She is a redhead with blue eyes and is somewhat pale
~She likes to go by Ally, but also loves her full name
Thanks in advance, and hope I find something fitting of my lead character.
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I've been having trouble finding a gender-neutral name similar to Alyssa. The reason why I wanted a gender-neutral name similar to Alyssa is that my mom named me after her best friend that passed away when she was younger. My mom's friend was named Melissa, and my mom changed the name so I won't have the exact name as her. The rest of my family has sentimental names, and I want to keep that tradition.
Update: I really like the name Alistair. Thank you Noa_16, and everyone for helping me find my name.
Hi, my name is Alyssa & I just need someone I can talk to. Recently, I lost someone who was once my whole world to suicide & it's been really hard coping with everything i.e. the loss, school, work, family, relationships, friendships, & myself. I feel so lost & sad. Sadness doesn't even begin to describe the kind of pain I'm in. I'm in a deep blue abyss of melancholy. I feel like my entire world has just been flipped upside down and there's nothing I can do to stop it. Life just keeps on going, I can hardly catch my breath. Gasping, I'm gasping for air, as I find myself slowly drowning with not a single life raft in sight. There are so many paths that I can take, so many directions in which I can take, which one do I take? I'm at constant war with myself. Do I just give up completely on my friends, my family, work, school, and myself and just succumb to my melancholy or do I find the courage to stand up?
This happened a couple days ago but my mom told me she liked when my name was Hazel more than Alyssa because she had just gotten used to me being Hazel and calling me Hazel and it's weird calling me Alyssa because she has friends named Alyssa (This reason just seems pretty selfish tbh) but like here's the thing, she's never actually called me Hazel or Alyssa she's always called me by my deadname and by male pronouns and not female ones, so like what was the point of telling me that if you're not even actually respecting my name and pronouns anyways, even after a professional said that I should go by and be called Alyssa and use female pronouns and then she doesn't even follow that and the part that gets me is that when my mom told me she liked my name as Hazel more than Alyssa is that she said it in a way that it seems like she wants me to go back to being Hazel and when I asked if she was she said that she wasn't because it's my name which is the obvious awnser to say even if she does want me to
Stuck in a very transphobic home rn, so I can't make any official changes yet. But maybe I can at least use my name for small things the family won't know about.
My birth name definitely feels wrong but I'm not sure what my name really is. I've always liked Alyssa, ever since I heard it (years before thinking I might be trans). I kind of like Rey as a middle name, but I'm even less sure about that.
Just trying to figure myself out, and any help would be really appreciated! Thanks ❤
Days later, with a prognosis of becoming blind for her whole life, Alyssa's doctor soon realized she had pulled out part of her optic nerve.
This happened a couple days ago but my mom told me she liked when my name was Hazel more than Alyssa because she had just gotten used to me being Hazel and calling me Hazel and it's weird calling me Alyssa because she has friends named Alyssa (This reason just seems pretty selfish tbh) but like here's the thing, she's never actually called me Hazel or Alyssa she's always called me by my deadname and by male pronouns and not female ones, so like what was the point of telling me that if you're not even actually respecting my name and pronouns anyways, even after a professional said that I should go by and be called Alyssa and use female pronouns and then she doesn't even follow that and the part that gets me is that when my mom told me she liked my name as Hazel more than Alyssa is that she said it in a way that it seems like she wants me to go back to being Hazel and when I asked if she was she said that she wasn't because it's my name which is the obvious awnser to say even if she does want me to
