Have I been missing kink or am I just not that into sex?

I (F29) have had a string of relationships since my late teens. Once I hit early 20's, I started a pattern of relationships that lasted for 2-3 years before I lost interest in sex and became attracted to someone else. Not wanting to cheat, I'd break it off and start up a relationship with the new person. Circumstances allowed me a bit of a break before I met my now-husband. He was everything I ever wanted in a partner. Right on schedule, I lost interest in sex around the 2-3 year mark. I just assumed there was something wrong with me, and that I'd never want sex that wasn't "novel".

Then I met someone else, who was.. naturally dominant, just in everyday life. I found myself incredibly attracted to him, and I had no idea why. I was so baffled and confused by this, because I've always seen myself as a "strong independent woman" and was usually "revolted" by dominant men. Why did I like this so much?

Long story, I was forced to do some research and soul-searching and in doing so discovered and accepted my submissive kink. I believe this is an inherent part of me, as I have clues from as early as kindergarten. But for some reason, meeting this dominant man finally brought them all out in me.

I told my husband about all this and what I might want in bed, and he's been willing to try.. and he's honestly done a really good job. But I can tell his heart isn't in it. I have a strong desire to be with someone who's very being is dominant. My husband is a lovey-dovey type, and that does absolutely nothing for me anymore. I've asked for polyamorous or open relationships, which he considered, but ultimately doesn't want.

I'm afraid of leaving an honestly wonderful marriage to pursue a more D/S relationship without knowing if it will actually satisfy me. What if, after 2-3 years, I want a new partner again anyway? What if sex isn't that important to me after all? I used to think I could take it or leave it, but now I wonder if I just wasn't getting what I wanted. Does anyone have any experience similar to this? Anyone go on to have great, fulfilling sex for years after discovering what you actually needed?

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Am I missing something? I don’t get the point of this sub with all of it’s strict rules. It literally says β€œDiscussion for EVERYTHING pc gaming related”. Maybe change your description?

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What can you even talk about here lmao?

Edit:holy shite. Thanks for leaving this up mods. I didn’t mean disrespect and glad I got some conversation stirring.

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Edit: I find "because it was used for shaming the worst on the enemy team" answer lacking, because you can just solve that with not giving out different badges for different honors, like now, it is not stated which category from the possible 3 you have the most

Edit 2: A good counterargnument came up in some posts, that the honor system is supposed to be rewarding attitude, not how well you play, and you have no information on how the enemy player interacts with his team. In theory it is true, I have to agree. Although in practice in many cases I think the most honor in your team is given to the one who carried, mostly disregarding his attitude toward his, or the enemy team.

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For years and years, people have felt so bad for me when I tell them I'm allergic to watermelon. Like I was missing out on the best thing in the world. I was always skeptical... Yeah, it's a fruit. So what? How great can it be?

Then, last night, I had a margarita that (unbeknownst to me at the time) contained fresh watermelon... and nothing happened. So, when I got home, I grabbed a little chunk of it from my parents' fridge.

Y'all... I SEE why people have been feeling bad for me all these years. Their pity was completely justified, and the veil has been lifted from my eyes. Watermelon is exquisite. Juicy, sweet, soft, crisp, fragrant, mild... What more could the human tongue ask for? Watermelon is perfect.

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